Jason Yoon

@Jacob Morres Couldn't agree more. Ironically, people who accuse others for being selfish are usually the most selfish people I know. I'm so glad I've separated myself from these people.

Another drill I habitually run is extrapolating 2nd order consequences. So when I'm about to choose between doing the selfish thing vs selfless thing, I run this drill. Here is an example: Let's say I'm about to start a 6 hour timeblock to work on my online business. And I have to make a decision between turning off my phone (to concentrate better), or leaving my phone on (just incase someone calls me). By default, I might want to leave my phone on to be more "selfless." But I know that I'm going to be distracted by doing so. So at this point, I would run this exercise. 1st option: Turn my phone off -> work on my business productively for 6h with no distractions (but get mad remarks from friends & family for being "selfish") -> set myself up to make much more money -> become wealthy faster -> help my parents retire faster (and be known as a selfless person) 2nd option: Leave my phone on -> get distracted by friends and family (no one is angry but I barely moved my business forward) -> I become rich very slowly (or never at all) -> stay stuck in the rat race -> can't help anyone in my life financially (and keep them stuck in the rat race as well) I run 2nd order consequences in my head to strengthen ANY virtue I want. It's not just limited to exercising your Selfishness. You can also do this with being healthy too. When you're trying to decide between eating a Big Mac vs salad: 1st option: eat a salad (and suffer temporarily) -> feel better & cleaner -> lose weight & think sharper -> make better choices 2nd option: eat a Big Mac -> feel shittier -> gain weight & have a big mental fog -> make poorer decisions And so on! Edit: I learned 2nd order consequences from a very bright entrepreneur named Sam Ovens. Here is the video explaining this concept (simple but very powerful):

I think the best way to be Selfish is to recognize that this virtue ultimately allow you to help others much more than if you were to be Selfless. In order to solidify this into your mind, I would write a list of all the examples that proves this point. I'll give you a few to start with: - Rich people who are seemingly "more selfish" with money help poor people, way more than poor people help other poor people - In an airplane, when they explain the smoke emergency drills, they ALWAYS tell you to put the mask on before putting on your child's mask - (My favorite): The heart takes all of the best oxygenated blood for itself BEFORE it gives it to all of the other organs. If it weren't Selfish enough, it wouldn't have this powerful ability, and ultimately, all of the organs in the body would fail Feel free to share some more examples if you come up with any. Counter-examples are always welcome too

How do you do proper shadow work WHILE not identifying with your shadows? For example: Let's say that when I was 16 years old, I had a traumatic sexual experience that has caused me to have erectile dysfunction every time I try to have sex with women. How can I go about tackling my erectile dysfunction issue WITHOUT identifying myself as someone with erectile dysfunction? Or a simpler one: How can I work through my binge eating habits WITHOUT identifying myself as someone who needs to eat to cope with stress? So ultimately, I want to avoid both extremes: 1) If I get too caught up in working through my shadows, I may end up developing a false identity with these shadows, which can make these shadows more persistent. 2) But, if I pretend that I have nothing to do with these shadows, I may end up stuffing them deeper into my shadows, which can ALSO make these shadows more persistent. Have you ever dealt with this dilemma yourself? If so, how have you dealt with this dilemma? Thank you Leo, Jason

Leo-no-human-beings.mp4 I watch this every day to remind myself. Thanks Leo. (I know you don't exist, but thanks anyway!)