I am 31 years old and relating to the opposite sex has been a problem for me for as long as I can remember. I had my fair share of relationships but none of them lasted, and it took me until about an year ago to realize that there was only one problem from the beginning. A problem that kept changing its shape each time I would get into a new relationship. It was me.
I wasn't being authentic and never realized how wrong that felt for me or for the girl i was dating. I never had the balls to even call myself out when I was pretending to enjoy doing something, because I thought that would mean I would live the rest of my life alone, that no one else would like me, that I would never be able to find another person.
I relate to what you say in a way, because for the past year I felt like I was not ready to start dating again, that i had to somehow find my authentic self before anything else. I mean it really helped a lot, this one year introspection that I did, and learning all this new stuff from Leo I never imagined existed. But it also made me realize that the only way to discover my authentic self is to act. There is no way you can discover yourself just by thinking about it. And i think being in a relationship and being aware can really help you discover your authentic self.
