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https://www.quora.com/Whats-so-great-about-Confucius I've read the Analects. Now I'm reading Confucius' book on history. He commented on the Spring and Autumn period of China, where there were patricides, sexual infidelity, incest among royals, betrayal, and constant wars. No wonder Confucius emphasized filial piety, harmony to such a level. Yet, I couldn't get over the fact of how much Lao Tzu and Chuang Tzu loved making fun of Confucius. Why? They weren't hostile to him, though. Chuang Tzu liked to write about how Confucius was reformed in his later years after meeting several Daoists philosophers, showing him realizing how stuck up he was about cultivation, rituals, and knowledge. So I've read a post on Quora post why Confucius was regarded as a saint. After reading.... I could see why he was respected. It's true. The early Confucians and the Later Confucians, much like Christianity, were very different in how they applied their principles. (Sorry if I am to be too abstract here. It's because I don't have much detailed understanding of the subject, but generally I'm referencing a respected historian in korea, who majored in studying the latter part of Chosun dynasty.) For example, in Early Korean Chosun Dynasty, Confucian teachings were much practical and were based on sound government and education. Later, when the country was thrown into shackles having to go against China and Japan, losing brutally in two wars from the North (Qing Dynasty) and the East (Japan), Chosun created a doctrines based on Confucius ideals in a much more menial, structured, ritualistic, unrefined way. It was based out of fear, a downward spiral created by the trauma elites had experienced from the war, losing their material goods, money, and respect, they had to find a way to regain that respect through foolish means, through religion and philosophy. Confucian ideals were ideal for that re-ignition of respect. The rules and regulations elites created had no liquidity, and rules were solidified to create division between elites and the common people. Kings must be kings, heaven be heaven, man be man, so don't cross the line! These rules became the "manuals", "mannerisms". Maybe, Confucius was ideal in teaching people about success, habits (rituals/manners), politeness, and politics. If you read the quora post above, maybe, you'll get a new perspective on him.

Start being "that guy" and tell others to beat it

Always felt like I was consulting with Sherlock Holmes when watching Leo. I'm not very rational or good with my head

It was said Michael Faraday learnt a lot from reading a self help book written by a Christian priest Isaac Watts. Michael Faraday was a master scientist and was a personal hero for Thomas Edison. For example, Sun Tzu is a trustable war advisor for us in modern times, because so many Chinese heroes, emperors, great strategists were obsessed with the book "Art of War". I initially thought Napoleon Hill was a fraud. But coming upon Dan Kennedy's marketing products, he regularly recommends Napoleon Hill when learning about wealth, so I started to read his books. Western kings, businessmen have utilized Machiavelli's teachings in his book, "The Prince" that I could not ignore the importance of that book to learn about power dynamics and social intelligence. Recently, I've been struggling to effectively study calculus and chemistry. My brain was about to explode because I couldn't see any results in my understanding of these subjects, even though I put at least an hour everyday. I'm curious who were the teachers Einstein or Leonardo Da Vinci had? I'm talking about Ti thinkers. Who were their masters?

the Strategist - Cynthia Montgomery (Understanding the difference between vision vs goals) Art of War - Sun Tzu (it's about strategy, not tactics) Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson - (his goal oriented mind is absurd, you can learn from him) Think and Grow Rich - (it's all about goals)

I've always thought of specializing was the way to success. I wouldn't say Bill Gates and Anna Wintour wasn't specialized, yet they say having a broad range of skills is important. Here Kobe Bryant (A guy who knows something about specialty) talks about range. (Kobe was an all around skilled basketball player. Good at shooting, offense, defense, off ball, driving). But he did spend 36 years of his life only specializing on basketball. Bill Gates on programming and business. Wintour on Fashion, editing and business. So I guess my question is where is the line to specialization? And where should we allow ourselves to have broad range of skills, and where should we have ourselves focused?

@Kshantivadin yes, very much

I've been looking into this subject for a while. Currently, I'm reading a lot about politics, mainly how the Chinese in the ancient world thought of politics from Confucius, Taosim, Legalism. Finished Machiavelli's The Prince. Still reading 48 laws of power by Robert Greene. Influence by Robert Cialdini, I'm still reading. I just finished a course from Jordan Belfort about straight line persuasion. Jordan Belfort mentioned N.L.P a lot, so I looked into this more with Eben Pagan and Wyatt Woodsmall's NLP course, which I am currently now starting. A lot about persuasion and influence seem not only about gaining social status, but about directing hearts and minds of others. I've been looking into pick up, and i wonder if the mystery method .... and etc, are like pseudo sciences for changing other's minds. Maybe learning game can help us be better persuaders and influencers more than anything because it directs emotions rather than anything else. Any resources you guys know about influencing other's minds? What was your top resources teachings that taught you most about political savvy? I wonder if Casanova was a better influencer than John f. Kennedy. Maybe reading a book from Casanova is better than reading a book from Machiavelli or Confucius when learning persuasion.

Let's say you'll live throughout the 1940s to now and had the power to kill anybody you wanted. You could end all wars by simply a stroke of a thought, would you do it? You would be a murderer. It would be intentional. And if anyone would see you, he or she would be able to detect that you have that power and send you to the police. But of course, you will have to hide your identity to continue murdering evil criminals. By killling Warlords in Africa, killing Kim Il Seung in North Korea, Stalin, and simply hiding your identity, you would undoubtedly drop criminal rates by a significant amount. How to end all wars once and for all? Simply display power by killing any dictator starting a war against another country, and announce on the press anonymous that it was all your doing. There is no doubt you will end all wars. Maybe some small criminal or there may elude you, but at least the big evil cannot do the same. Would you like to take on that responsibility? Or do you feel this is just the same despicable act all other revolutionaries had tried to do? I'm curious how you guys see this question, because at least for me, it would be hard for me to love or hate a person like this, written above. Even if I had evidence against him, I don't think I would send him in so easily. I'm asking this question inspired by some series on Tv. I would guarantee, though such a world where evil is punished immediately, will be a good world for kind good people, without a doubt

@aetheroar I would like to disagree. So many instances of good virtuous people being punished by evil people

@monad_dyad yes

@Rilles in that case. You kill that new one. Soon enough, people will get the gist. Nobody would dare take that status because they know they'll be murdered by you. Anybody who would dare commit criminal acts on public will be in danger of you killing him or her, since you are the arbiter of justice Which in this case, if you want to be a dictator, you can be. Just that you won't show anybody your true identity. But your dictatorship will end all wars. And only those like Hitler, Stalin would be sentenced to death. You will not punish good and kind people.

@WokeBloke whether it is conscious or unconscious, from where are they are happening? Ofcourse, all clenching, tenseness of the body, when it is made conscious, will stop clenching and causing pain or tenseness. Afterall though, whether it is unconscious or conscious, it all propagates from the same thing.

when you unconsciously tense a part of the body. It's not the body that is tensing. When one is attached to an idea or is stressed in the mind, he or she clenches and that makes the body clench. And that can even lead to stomach problems (many people clench their stomach when stressed), neck problems, headaches (the brain clenches too). Do you see where I'm getting at? Also, when one is relaxed in the mind. When one finds something funny. Or when one is so happy. Without conscious effort, the body finds itself smiling, or the body becomes stronger and with much energy. What moves the body? What propagates the body to smile? What propagates the body to clench unconsciously? What propagates hormones to become imbalanced suddenly (depression leads the immune system to weaken significantly)?

I don't know why. I'm trying to learn entrepreneurship, but why do I feel as if I'm doing something wrong for trying to research and learn about it? I say to myself "You don't take action. You always think and think. You study hard but never take action on doing it." I say this, when I haven't even studied entrepreneurship 40% as well as I would like to. Why do I have this guilt about learning? As if I'm like an MBA student who knows all the concepts and theory, but doesn't know how to implement any of it in action. I guilt myself as if I'm a pedantic hypocrite for even just trying to read a book by Peter Drucker "The Effective Executive", or watch courses from Eben Pagan, or read a book from Joseph Juran. I do know for a while recently I've judged people harshly for being stuck in "thinking and learning" but not "taking action". Is this back firing on me?

what's about you and God. We're talking about picking up women, not God. Also, if i might add. It takes more than just being polite to cock blocks. Cock blocks will be cock blocks whether you are polite to them or not, be loving to them or not. I feel one of the key to success is to know how to destroy them from your sight.

Maybe a club, im okay with not buying, but i feel weird when i dont buy a drink in a bar or hold it on my hand. Im short on money, so not only do i not want to buy alcohol, i dont want to buy coke or orange juice either. I aint paying 5 dollars for cranberry juice. Nobody says anything against me, i just feel awkward without it

@torgeir embrace insensibility. Insensibility is the fun in the nightclub I guess thats what you mean lol

@Rasheed Listening to him is the best for me. Reading is cool. I've always found his interpretation of Taoism the best. Find audible discourses of him interpretation of Taoism. It's always his best for me.

I'll just be honest with you guys. Yes, for unfortunate events in your life, social anxiety exists. Everyone in the world has it to some extent. For example, a chad good looking, high status, rich guy suddenly gets a chronic illness where he may have to stay on a wheel chair for the time, he'll get social anxiety in an instant. My ex told me a story where one of her cousin's husband (really good good looking guy) had his leg chopped off because of a car accident. He was so identified with being "that guy" that she said he hung himself. Then my girlfriend said, "it's just a leg! Why did he have to do that?" Then I told her, "I understand the guy. Imagine if a person chopped off your nose. What would you do?" Then she said, "No... No..... I'll kill myself in an instant." She unconsciously misunderstood where the good looking guy was coming from, as if she wouldn't do the same if it would've happened to her. This goes the same with me. But even in those harsh situations, you'll have to understand that chad was identified with his cool image that when the universe started to break it, his social anxiety came up. It's wrong to say that he did not have social anxiety lying beneath all that façade. Unless, there are few people who don't have such an image, and even they have to live in a wheelchair all their life, they don't feel any social anxiety. We see a few people on Ted Talks who seem confident and engaging who may have that "unfortunate" thing that happened to them. So, basically, it's the image that we try to live upto that causes the social anxiety. If we accept ourselves as we are, and not be obsessed with holding an image of ourselves, social anxiety wouldn't exist. This in other words can be translated to people being too selfish. Trying to maintain an image is a self serving behavior. Selfless people do not associate with an image of themselves. This is my take on things about social anxiety. I've dealt with it too. But I knew this was the case with me with the illness that I was able to barrel through self image issues and still be engaging and confident despite not appealing to my ideal self image. Now, I have zero ounces of social anxiety. I'm probably like -100 in social anxiety. If you guys need any help, I can reply.

I've recently posted in this forum how people emote and have any therapy. Most people said I would need to make great friends. Many also told me to write journals, write songs, poems... etc. The latter seems very effective. I do know the former is most effective. However, I doubt if this is a good thing for my friends. And I see some of my friends tolerating this to some extent, but if I do this much more, they do not like this. Or maybe I have shit friends. haha I mean, to be honest, most of the friends I have were quite supportive. But I fear going all out emoting. I haven't tried emoted to my friends full out. Don't you guys think this is a bit unhealthy? Won't it be like a parasite sent to my friends? I had a few mentors who would do this, and only one in particular (I didn't even pay money) actually told me she enjoyed it, and was always delighted when she would have a conversation with me about many things, my life, my outlook on the world... etc. We parted ways since I moved to a bigger city, but since then, it's been quite a while that I had such a person to converse my ideas and inner feelings. What do you guys think about this problem?

Ive consciously tried to practice politeness in game these days. Lol. I thought the girl's friends would be nicer to me, but its the same. I would think my conscious effort to be mannerly would get people to be nice, but no. Lol. This exercise was suggested by rsd tyler to learn game. He said one has to focus on subcommunicating through politeness non neediness. I think i did pretty well. I could physically escalate with a few women, politely,Lol. But even when i POLITELY kiss, touch etc. The friends bitch about my POLITE escalation. Some dumb friends of the girls will be dumb friends even if you are polite. We are told not to be polite learning game. And we encounter cockblock friends. Annoyances. I think even being polite, those cockblock friends, annoyances, wont cease to stop being their dumb selves. Or, maybe i need to learn politeness a little more. Still have 50 more approaches to practice this. Explaining to her friends my polite flirting to the girl didnt help.

Your lack of action. Approach about 130 day game women. You wont feel scared after it. Ive done 3 approaches a day for a month challenge. It was a huge challenge where i skipped days. So i would cram them in the last 5 days, doing 70 approaches in 5 days because i only did 30 approaches last 25. After i got over this hump, approaching becomes unconscious and you just do it without understanding why youve approached her. You didnt think it, but your body automatically goes there. If she doesnt react the way i want, i laugh. Look at it as a joke. And 40% of the time, the girl also laughs. A implicit communication that this all isnt serious. You flirting with her isnt serious. Men teasing physically, sexually escalating to the end with her isnt serious. Explicitly show that this flirting is playful, not serious even if it is daygame and sexual communication has to be much more implicit. One big huge thing is being unserious and playful and fun. Life is supposed to be played, not serious. When you frame the interaction as being non serious and playful, when the girl becomes serious, she looks like the weird valueless person and the sad thing is, it is true. Well, if the girl is serious, you can play up to her to get laid, but i doubt getting laid by such a girl is fun at all. Lol. Lol my advice is AA is caused by ones seriousness and lack of playfulness. You approach it as a game, not a play. Look at the difference between michael jordan and kobe bryant. Mj approaches the game of basketball more playfully. Kobe approaches basketball not as a play, but a game to be won. Mj plays with his teammates, drinks gambles and smokes with his teammates much more than kobe byrant. Kobe is a bit too serious, too isolated, doesnt smoke, doesnt hang out. They are both dedicated but the approach is that of seriousness vs playfulness. Therefore in the most crucial moments, mj was able to prevail because he was more relaxed, had more trusting teammates, and more open while kobe was clenched, isolated, and tense. Mj even hung out with his biggest rivals. Ofcourse it was a ploy to make enemies his friends... but you get the point that mj viewed it as fun. Kobe would never make friends with rivals.... he was too uptight for that. Trainer tim grover said kobe was a more hard worker, but his obsession was what limited his greatness. Obsession is seriousness.... its approach anxiety, its not clutch. Tenseness, AA is caused by being like kobe. Be fun, be not serious. If the girl doesnt like u being fun. Lol. Then there will be fun girls who do. And who would you rather be with. Fun hot girls, or dumb boring pretty girls. Maybe your goal is to just get hot girls regardless of her stupidity or fun. But i advise you to take care of your mental health by being biased towards fun and playfulness, therefore attracting playful hot women. I dont advise you to be tense and serious about gaming girls and therefore attracting tense and serious hot girls, and then having your life be influenced by tenseness and seriousness. It will hurt your mental health and destroy your relationship to God and your authentic self. Being playful and non serious will reduce your AA. Being playful wont attract serious hot girls, but it will attract hot fun girls and they will not give you any mental illness. Serious dumb girls will though so be careful. Being playful and non serious will deepen your relationship to God and your authentic self. Being serious and dull will further your distance from god and the world, you will be a detriment to humanity and you will not be happy because you are dull and serious. I hope this helped with logically convincing you to get out of AA. . So this is my last question to you about being afraid of approaching a little cute "girl" "Why so serious?"

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x100 times your experience with women. x1000 times more than you think you need experience. Open your mind and see all the opportunities you can take action with women. Remember, a truly good person isn't inactive. He is all about action. You might have a good mind, but a truly good mind can only be complete when there is action. On that basis, if you are a conscious being, your action must be 1000 percent. Go 1000 percent on action, in order to accomplish what you have as your ideal of being conscious with women. One Chinese philosopher, 2500 years ago writing an excerpt of how to govern principalities for Princes, said this about manners and behavior, "Mannerly behavior must come out of one's loving consciousness. Otherwise, if it is simply ritualistic, it is hypocritical and never according to the situation. It will look good and mannerly in the surface, but it wouldn't be truly mannerly. Without mannerly behavior, one's loving consciousness wouldn't be expressed to the world. We wouldn't want this to happen." (Han-Fei-Tzu 233 B.C.) This philosopher was counter arguing against scholars who thought a surface action was the only thing that was important. What he is saying though, is that the greatest actions are ones that are expressing one's inner love. The crucial thing he says is this: "without mannerly behavior, one's loving consciousness would not be expressed to the world. We wouldn't want this to happen." So start taking action, and start expressing what's unique and special about you. Do not be miserly with your expression.