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Asking too many questions in a conversation
Asking too many questions in a conversationYes
You can also just go to the mall and walk around while practicing making funny observations to yourself about ordinary things you see in the mall. Train yourself to have a commentary on any random thing you see: a tree, a car, a bird, a dog, a bench, an ad, etc.
DO NOT try to script or memorize this stuff. It won't work. Rather you need to train the ability to improv it on the spot.
It helps a lot to put yourself in a good mood as you try to do this. You gotta be relaxed and playful. Not stiff and business-like.
When talking to girls you gotta be like a kid in a candy store. Passionate, playful, spontaneous.
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Let Me Motivate You! Second Approach Ever = Number
Let Me Motivate You! Second Approach Ever = NumberThat's great.
Here are some tips to improve your game:
1) She will almost always say she's gotta go. In this case, ask if you can walk with her and continue chatting. You need as much chat time as possible. Don't just accept her excuses. She will always have excuses.
2) Never do Facebook. It's bullshit. Get her number and text.
3) Before you even try for a number ALWAYS try for an instant date. After a short chat, don't ask for her number, ask to get a coffee right now. If she says she's too busy, then get the number.
4) Rather than asking her questions, make interesting observations about her. So instead of, "What do you do?", you say, "You seem like the kind of girl who works with kids." Or whatever. Doesn't matter what you say. Sometimes you can make purposefully wrong assumptions about her just to tease her.
5) If she tells you she's a lawyer, you gotta tease her for that shit: "OMG! I walked over here loving you but I hate you now. I can tell you have an evil lawyer heart." And push her away in a playful manner.
Find every excuse to playfully touch her.
6) Get in the habit of asking, "By the way, are you single?"
7) Always seed the next date. Insist that you will text her and that you two will grab a coffee and talk.
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Asking too many questions in a conversation
Asking too many questions in a conversationYeah, that is a classic newbie problem. You gotta train yourself to talk your mouth off about yourself. Be totally self-absorbed. Become a chatterbox. Don't hold any thoughts back. Talk about your opinions, desires, hates, plans, feelings, etc.
Talk about the smallest, dumbest things like how you were flossing your teeth today.
You can practice at home in front of a camera. Record yourself explaining how you ate breakfast today and how you felt about it. Make it sound interesting. You gotta turn ordinary life into stories.
STOP BEING LOGICAL in your conversations with girls! That is crucial. Untrain your logicalness.
A good trick is, rather than asking questions, make observations and statements. So instead of asking, "What do you do for work?" or "Where are you from?", you make random or informed guesses like, "You seem like a California girl" or "You seem like you work in marketing."
It makes no difference if your guess was right or wrong.
You can even make the dumbest observations such as: "Hey, did you know you're sitting next to a palm tree? Did you bother to think about it's feelings? What if it hates when you sit so close next to it? What if you smell like a skunk to the palm tree? Why are you so inconsiderate? "
This kinda stuff is gold, but you gotta train yourself to be this stupid.
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Limitation of Attraction Skills?
Limitation of Attraction Skills?You can get so good you can sleep with a new girl every week.
But that takes a lot of work and training.
Not saying you should do this. Just saying what's possible.
Keep in mind what you probably just want is to get a nice girlfriend. So that's probably your best goal.
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my fear of talking to beautiful women in public NEEDS TO END NOW IM TRAPPED IN MYHEAD
my fear of talking to beautiful women in public NEEDS TO END NOW IM TRAPPED IN MYHEADIt takes 1000s of approaches to get decently comfortable doing it. And even then, you won't want to do the first few of the day/night.
This is why people drink alcohol.
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How is consciousness not brain activity?
How is consciousness not brain activity?Stop and just look around the room for a minute. Everything you're seeing is consciousness.
That is not molecules or atoms. That's consciousness. Consciousness can take on an infinite number of colors, shapes, and qualities.
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If there is no I, then where am I?
If there is no I, then where am I?@SoonHei No, you're still not getting it. There is no you! The you who thinks it is reading this sentence does not exist. You are a fantasy.
Reality is happening without you. The idea of "a you" is being attached to that reality to create the illusion that it is happening to "a you".
For a minute right now, try to totally eliminate any sense that reality is here for you, or is in any way related to your body. Eliminate the sense of yourself entiry. Look at the room you're in an imagine you were never born, but the room still exists exactly as it is.
Eliminate every ounce of you-ness from experience. If you are still saying the words, "me", "I", or "my" you still aren't getting it. Those words refer to nothing.
Or just take a psychedelic and it will be so obvious. Stop wasting time on ineffective methods. Psychedelics answer all questions.
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Scared to start my business!!
Scared to start my business!!Visualization exercises every day is important for building up your confidence in biz. Visualize yourself being successful.
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Is Death Imaginary?
Is Death Imaginary?The problem with your reasoning is that it assumes a distinction between self/other, which is imaginary.
What dies is the thing you imagined was real -- self or other. But that wasn't a real thing, it was an imagined boundary.
For example, if the imaginary boundary between America and Canada stopped being imagined by all human minds, then America and Canada would both "die". But of course in truth nothing has died because it wasn't real to begin with.
Things "die" when they stopped being imagined.
Which means: if you stop imagining yourself, you will die.
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why Alan Watts, sri ramana maharshi,jesus,buddha did not talked about aliens?
why Alan Watts, sri ramana maharshi,jesus,buddha did not talked about aliens?Mystical traditions all around the world have talked about intelligent non-human beings since the dawn of time.
You just don't want to take them seriously because you've confused the limits of your tiny personal experience for the limits of the universe.
Talk about aliens is very distracting because its gets the ego all defensive and dogmatic, driving it deeper into the materialist paradigm.
The surest way to tank your credibility as a teacher is to talk about aliens. You will instantly lose 90% of your audience and be branded a crackpot cult leader. People will laugh at you and call you names. In olden times you would certainly have been burned at the stake for witchcraft and heresy.
That's how closed minds behave.
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Should Actualized.org be focused on helping those lower on the Spiral?
Should Actualized.org be focused on helping those lower on the Spiral?I'm not revealing yet what the new course will be about.
But it will be a course that is useful to 100% of people and my viewers, regardless of where you are on your path. It doesn't matter whether you're into spirituality or not at all, this course will be hella useful to you. It doesn't matter whether you've watched a single Actualized video before, or if you've watched them all. But if you've watched them all, this course will help you to implement it.
It will not be about enlightenment or metaphysical topics.
It will not be redundant to the LP course. Both courses will be useful on their own, and also synergize together.
The new course is not "more up-to-date" because it simply covers different/new material. And the material covered in the LP course is timeless. It will still be useful 50 years from now.
If you're following my free videos, you should also supplement them with more practical, less metaphysical teachings from other sources. Actualized's focus is big picture understanding of life, not so much about making you successful. There are tons of sources available for nitty-gritty success techniques and tips. I offer a bit of that, but it's not our main focus here because that ground has already been well-covered by others and because we seek a deeper level of development than success tips can offer.
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How my birth is imaginary?
How my birth is imaginary?@dimitri It's even trickier than you imagine.
Non-existence isn't real, it is imaginary!
There is only existence. Existence is an Absolute and has no opposite.
A non-existent object is actually an existent object in your imagination. But you are misunderstanding that object's true nature. You take it as really non-existent when it is actually existent as a thought. Your mind confuses thoughts and objects. For example, you confuse thoughts of your mother for your mother.
The kicker is, if you didn't create this confusion you couldn't have a mother. Since a mother is a thought, not an object.
So how are you gonna escape this confusion? Escaping it would mean the collapse of your entire reality. Can you stomach that?
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Why is it that "if you can perceive something, you are not it"?
Why is it that "if you can perceive something, you are not it"?It works like a TV screen.
The TV screen is not Mario and it is Mario.
If Mario dies, the TV screen is untouched.
Your human form is like Mario. Your God-Self is the TV screen.
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Why does everything seem to be so consistent, if all there is is perception?
Why does everything seem to be so consistent, if all there is is perception?It's consistent for the same reason a novelist or screenwriter strives to make his writing consistent -- so that you think it is real.
That's how illusions are made.
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Is Bernie Sanders a populist?
Is Bernie Sanders a populist?Yes, but the difference is that Sanders is genuinely concerned about little people. Trump is not. Trump is obsessed with materialism and wealth and fame. So he's just an oligarch in populist clothing.
It's not enough to speak populism. You have to walk your talk. You can't be a serious populist if live in a $100 million dollar house and play golf every weekend with millionaires.
A real populist would care about the lowest classes of society. Trump is the opposite of that. He only uses populist language when it suits his rise to the top.
This is a classic tactic. It's called demagogery. Nazis, fascists, and Communists were masters at this.
P.S. Funny enough, Bill Gates lives in a $100 million house, yet he still cares about helping poor people. So it's complicated. It is possible to be rich and still care a lot about little people. But it tends to be rare. And Trump certainly isn't that way. What really matters is not your wealth but your level of consciousness and compassion for others. It's no accident that wealthy people often lack compassion because they needed to be ruthless to earn their wealth in the first place. It's very hard to earn a billion dollars without being ruthlessly exploitative.
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What Do You Think About RSD Derek?
What Do You Think About RSD Derek?You're thinking about this from behind a computer screen, logically.
Attraction, when it happens, is not logical, and it is not a conscious choice you make. If enough random guys approached you, you'd fall in love with one of them. It's merely a question of numbers, luck, and how open you are.
Obviously if you're married you ain't open. But if you were single and lonely and horny, you'd be less logical about all this.
Don't forget, everyone you've ever had sex with started out as a stranger to you. Unless you're doing incest, in which case, enjoy
Confucius say: A stranger is just a friend you haven't made
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Free-rider problem
Free-rider problemThe solution to the free-rider problem is to adopt an abundance mindset.
If you are confident in your skills and the value you add to society you don't need to worry about a few poor people enjoying some crumbs that fall off your table.
The free-rider argument is advanced by people with a scarcity mindset who fear that there won't be enough to go around. The truth is that there are enough resources on this planet for every human to be comfortable. If only those resources were shared fairly and not hoarded.
The free-rider problem is also seriously overblown. It's not like the government will supply you with a comfortable living while you sit around and play video games your whole life. People on food stamps and welfare programs are not automatically bums. Many of them are hardworking people.
The true free-rider problem is the free-riding that corporations do when they lobby and corrupt government to get tax-breaks, cushy government contracts, wars, subsidies, and less regulation.
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My most profound experience (DXM & Cannabis)
My most profound experience (DXM & Cannabis)Last night I took 600 mg of DXM and combined it with cannabis. I had an experience that was more profound than the experiences I've had through Shrooms and LSD. Essentially, I became completely conscious that each moment is eternal. This experience utterly shocked the shit out of me. It was so profound yet so alien that I thought I had become completely insane. Perhaps it was all just delusion; however, in that precise moment there was absolutely no distinguishing between real and unreal.
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Dating those lower on the spiral
Dating those lower on the spiralThat's very wise.
Value mis-match is the #1 cause of breakup.
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Outer sensations feel like they are "landing" at an inner emptiness
Outer sensations feel like they are "landing" at an inner emptinessHey everyone, thanks for reading. I am just posting because I was listening to A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and he mentions "feeling into the inner emptiness where you believe the form of your body exists". Then I started to realise the outer sensations from my feet and hands are seemingly being projected into an empty field. The boundary of where I feel my "body" exists doesn't have a point I can locate, and it feels more empty and groundless than it ever had before. This is a bit strange because it almost feels like as I am writing this, I am watching my hands type and I am thinking of what to write but the sense of myself as the do-er is much less prominent.
Here are some things that have helped me to reach this insight and continue to increase my consciousness -
Consistent meditation each day (Do-nothing, Walking meditation), Self Inquiry, Leo's Guided Meditation (specifically the moment where he says to become reality), Leo's Mindfulness with Labelling Video (this allowed me to focus more on inner/outer feelings and catch my thoughts), Leo's How To Get Enlightened Guide, All of Leo's Self Inquiry Videos, Leo's thread with the list of consciousness exercises, Leo's Neti Neti Method Guided Inquiry video, Listening to the audios of Stillness Speaks + A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
I know that I still have a long way to go because even though I can recognise this inner emptiness inside and that I can't pin point "where I am", I still have so many questions left to validate-
- Why is there something at all? Why is there not nothing?
- Why do we seemingly wake up each day from the same perspective of a human?
- Why in this consciousness would our bodies seemingly follow us around like zombies?
- What is the purpose of reality?
- Why does consciousness create?
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I still don’t understand the distinction of gravity as an invention
I still don’t understand the distinction of gravity as an inventionRahter than concept, think of things as being imaginary. The past is imaginary. There never was a Newton so to speak unless you imagine him right now.
So what Newton is, is what you think he is right now.
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Fired as a Programmer. My Concentration is messed up
Fired as a Programmer. My Concentration is messed upModafinil and concentration practice.
Neurofeedback can be done at a local profressional center.
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Best country for spirituality/psychedelics?
Best country for spirituality/psychedelics?Canada's one of the best places right now for research chemicals.
Costa rica is also an interesting option. They do a lot of ayahuasca and ibogaine down there. They probably allow toads too (not sure).
Spain and Portugal have decriminalized all drugs. Which doesn't mean you can just buy them at the local store. But still far better than most countries.
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"Can we live forever?"
"Can we live forever?"If you awaken you'll realize you already are living forever. No fancy scientific gadgets required.
Because you ARE the Truth.
Society is designed to maximize your survival. Which is the opposite of Truth. Without society you couldn't be here contemplating Truth. So literally your Truth seeking is resting on a necessary foundation of social devilry.
The only one who can awaken is a devil. If you didn't start out as a devil there'd be nothing to do.
If everyone was fully awake the game of life would be over. And then who would there be to admire the majesty of God? So it's a catch-22.
It's like this: cops can only exist if criminals exist. If the cops ever succeed in eliminating all the criminals, the cops will starve to death and nothing will be left. This is the case with all dualities. One requires the other otherwise you got nothing.
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Always getting rejected
Always getting rejectedHehehe, of course a girl will never text you first. Why would she?
Your problem here is that you fundamentally misunderstand how girls works and how texting works.
You as the guy are supposed to proactively pursue her until you win her over. She will resist until you win her over.
P.S. You cannot build attraction via text. If you fail to attract her face-to-face, the texts will go nowhere.
Flake rate for phone numbers is about 90%+. If you're getting phone numbers you need to have REALLY solid face-to-face game AND you need lots of numbers. Hundreds of them. A number means very little. Girls give out their number too easily, even if they have zero intention of dating you.
Your volume is too low and the quality of your face-to-face interactions is too low, failing to be memorable or spark attraction.
Try harder. Make yourself memorable when you approach girls. You need to reach a hook point after opening. The hook point is when you can see she's interested in you. It's a very clear shift in the interaction. Hook point usually takes 3 to 10 minutes to hit. You won't hit it with every girl simply because the chemistry isn't meant to be there with every girl.
