I talk about a lot more than the Absolute. Mostly I talk about relative stuff.
But also I point to the Absolute in various ways.
Wilber's 4 quadrants is fundamentally dualistic because it requires cutting the world up with distinctions. Wilber's model is relative and cannot be applied to the Absolute itself. The Absolute is not divided into subjective/objective or I/we.
Subjective experience is the ground for everything else. So in this way Wilber's model is misleading. Wilber's model is itself only exists within your subjective experience, as does Wilber, for that matter.
There is nothing but your subjective experience. Period.

It's not a function of time, it's a function of grabbing her attention and making an emotional connection.
You could do this within 5 minutes or fail to do it after 60 minutes.
The conversation needs to be emotionally engaging, it needs to broadcast your personality, and it must have sexual tension without ever talking about sex.
You must also work on all your sub-communication so it's tight: eye contact, body posture, vocal tone, smile, facial expressions, your mood, etc.
Asking too many questions is problematic. Instead of asking questions, make statements and observations, and lead the conservation by talking about yourself a lot. In the beginning you need to carry 90% of the conversation rather than asking her to carry it for you.
The best way to carry a conversation is by learning to talk about yourself a lot. This is something extroverts do naturally but introverts almost never do.

Even if you are the hottest hunk on the planet, not every girl will like you and you will not be able to attract every girl.
You should aim for maybe 1/3rd of girls liking you. The rest you ignore.
Of course girls have different types. If you're not her type then you won't be able to attract her.
The way you solve this problem is by talking to 5,000 women.

God cannot be Love unless it allows you to be selfish.
If God hated or judged selfishness, that would make God evil/selfish.
So by asking God to eliminate selfishness, you are asking God to be a devil.
Only selfish people have a problem with selfishness. Get it?

Toxic Masculinity: Guys who look up to and admire Trump as their ideal of a man
Toxic Masculinity: Guys who use the phrase "soyboy"
Toxic Masculinity: Guys who consider themselves alpha and fear being beta.
Toxic Masculinity: Guys who fear that masculinity is under attack and threatened with extinction.
Toxic Masculinity: Guys who love to complain about and blame feminists but never read a single feminist book and are proud of it.

Who gives a fuck?
Be a man and go get the girls you want! You are the hunter. Stop sitting around waiting for them to hunt you. You should be the one who's screening girls to find which ones are worthy of your love.
If a girl can't see how awesome you are, that's her stupidity and it is beneath you to try to second-guess yourself by assuming she is somehow right. Own your awesomeness rather than waiting for girls to validate it for you. Adopt the frame of a man who understands his own worth regardless of what the outside world is telling you.
When the outside world tells you that you're not awesome, you need to tell yourself, "They're crazy! I'm even more awesome than I previously realized. How can they be so blind?"

So clearly there's something amiss in your inner game. It's a mind thing. You need to become more conscious of what your mind is doing at the moment when you penetrate and go soft. What is your mind thinking? What is the fear? What are you visualizing? What are you feeling?
Get very clear and honest about that.
Sound like you might have fear of premature ejaculation or that you're putting so much pressure on yourself to perform in bed in a certain way. Good sex requires getting out of your head and into the feelings in your body. Try literally moving your awareness out of your head and out into your body.

Russell Brand isn't a skill. It's his natural disposition. He's off-the-charts extroverted and charismatic. An introverted guy is never going to be able match that.
Brand's a natural. You can imitate him, but you ain't ever gonna be as slick as him unless you got his unique type of personality.

@iceprincess
Most guys are really turned on my femininity. So anything you can do to amp up your expression of femininity will drive them nuts. Just by acting up your femininity in bed this will make the sex 10x hotter. Acting up femininity is stuff like sweet talk, gentleness, moaning, squirming, going into heat, being submissive, etc.
Nonsense!
You just need to find the right guy and get turned on in the right ways.
You can have a deep vaginal orgasm without even any physical touch.
Hell, I can almost have a vaginal orgasm and I'm a dude.
Sex is not about the physical. Sex is all about how you use your mind.

Yes, for sure.
Brand is a great example to study and emulate for introverts.
You will never be like him. But you can maybe go 10%, 20%, 30% towards his direction. Which will significantly improve your social life.
I've definitely done that and I highly recommend it.

That's what good game looks like. It doesn't just charm women, it charms all humans.
It feels totally effortless and natural. There is nothing creepy or scripted about it. It's like improvisational art.

Being charming does not mean you will charm 100% of people. It means 1/3 of people will hate you, 1/3 will REALLY love you.

If you got decent game, about 1/3 of girls should hate you, 1/3 should love you, and 1/3 should be indifferent to you.
Train yourself to only care about the right 1/3.

@Don Wei Bro, that's the entire point of learning game. It allows you to hold your poise and cool with the hottest women.
Attracting the hottest women requires being like ice. And they will shit-test you to test your iceyness and detachment. If you fail the shit-tests -- if she can break your poise -- she will immediately lose interest.
The bottom line is this: you will only be able to keep a girl who you can be icey with. If she can de-center you, you won't be able to keep her. If she is the prize and not you, you won't be able to keep her. You must be the prize.
You can increase your cool by lots of experience dealing with shit-tests and rejection. It's also important to raise your entitlement to have the hottest girl. You must feel like you're fully entitled to it. MASSIVE ENTITLEMENT. Like you are a king. This means slaying all your insecurities.
Hot girls are attracted to massive confidence and huge balls. You need to be the most confident guy in the room. Not through fakery. But actually.
The hottest girls are basically attracted to sociopaths, narcissists, bosses, and ruthless scumbags.

It's very important to distinguish between attraction vs relationship.
A relationship of course requires emotional availability. But that's NOT what women are attracted to.

I look forward to deep intimate relationships with females.

45 mins of shamanic breathing is very trippy and powerful, but it is nowhere near as powerful as a DMT breakthrough. Not even in the same ballpark.
A DMT breakthrough is beyond anything the human mind can imagine is possible. It is literally the impossible made possible.

@legendary I have a tip for you. Next time instead of looking outward at some object, look inward as your self. Recognize the God looking out your eyes at all objects.

I think college is mostly a waste of money and time. There are much better uses of time. College is good if you want to be an academic, scholar, doctor, laywer, or STEM field. Otherwise, it's not very useful.

Do nothing/concentration on nothing.
And DMT.

@innerchild Your issues are not spiritual but basic material. You just need to work on finding a job and moving out from your parents.
You're still like a bird in the nest. Leave the nest and fly.
Once you move out you will feel a lot of freedom and a sense of autonomy.
How you move out is up to you. I would look for a job that can pay you some money and gain you some of the experience you'll need in the future. Or a job that gives you free time to work on your own stuff. Some jobs are less demanding than others. You'll have to get creative and see what opportunities are around.
Once you have a job to pay basic bills you can work at night on developing new skills and upgrading your career.
Work 40 hrs at your job and then another 20 hours at night on your skills.

When I was in full God-mode one time, I looked at a candle on my countertop and said, "Okay, let's make this thing levitate." And I tried to do the whole Jedi force levitate thing on it. Then I instantly realized, "Wait! Why am I being such an idiot?" and I just picked it up with my hand and smiled as I realize that this is how God levitates a candle. And I just laughed at how obvious it was.
People are always looking for God in some miraculous event while overlooking the fact that EVERYTHING is a fucking miracle already.
The way God magically eliminates hunger is by grilling a burger and then eating it. THAT is the miracle!

Sitting with the suffering, feeling it mindfully, rather than trying to escape it, avoid it, hide it, distract from it, or numb it out.
And contemplating the root of your suffering.

I took the 16personalities one and long time ago I had a professional evaluation done. Both results came out the same. It's very accurate for me.
But you're not me.
Sometimes it takes a while for your personality to mature and for you to really start to understand yourself before this test becomes meaningful. Especially if you're young.
You can try other tests too. There's hundreds of them.
You can also try to do the process backwards. Rather than taking a test, just read descriptions of all 16 personality types until you find which one resonates with you the most. I find this more accurate than answering silly ambiguous questions.

@GroovyGuru You just need to burn through some karma.
You're young. Go enjoy life. Come back when you're exhausted chasing material rewards.
Spirituality requires high maturity and ripeness.