Yes, it's a hamster wheel, but at least in this case you're investing in your life and creating something personally meaningful. Of course this is not some ultimate solution to life, but it's way better than what most people are doing -- which is pissing their life away.
The ultimate solution is found within spirituality by discovering BEING and learning to bask in it via something like Satisfaction Meditation (see video).
BEING is the end of the road.

Your inner game is lacking. Developing a rock solid inner game is the key. Psychedelics, meditation, awakening is very helpful for this. Your happiness and mood has to be decoupled from external events and people. That means when you're out you're happy doing whatever you're doing just because you appreciate the beauty of consciousness.
Your happiness cannot be coupled to any kind of external result or needing to get something from someone, and certainly not to any reaction from girls. It shouldn't matter to you what girls do or say. Learn to love the present moment more than any girl.

This is something that happend to me yesterday that I will never be able to forget. This was one of the most transformational experiences of my life and keep in mind that I have done LSD, Mushrooms, DMT and 5 MeO in high doses. I have had profound spiritual experiences with psychedelics and especially with 5 MeO. For me these experiences are deeply existensial and life changing. I read a few reports about people dying and going to the other side using high doses of ketamine that literally shut off the brain completely. Found this interesting article today on reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/hecmsp/researchers_think_a_khole_might_actually_be_the/. Anyways let's get to the report.
Keep in mind that my experience isn't really what most people will experience on ketamine and I think that is due to the intensive spiritual work that I have done in the past. I have been experimenting with mind altering substances for years with good integration for the purpose of understanding reality as it is. Also been doing plenty of spiritual work and verifying Leos spiritual content.
I started by dividing 600 mg of ketamine into four lines for insufflation. Then I snorted one line every 30 secondes or so for better absorption. After completeing all lines I started to feel my consciosuness expanding in a very intersting way. I could compare this feeling to the comeup of an LSD trip where everything starts to breathe and colors gets more vibrant. After a few minutes I started to lose attachment to my surroundings and things started to feel part of me. It felt like I was my imagining my phone and everything around me. Slowly I got to a level where I couldn't understand who I was anymore and my vision just exploded into infinite geometrical patterns. My ego then started to panic and looking around for any leads to get grounded in the experiences but it was too late. I was long gone! I lost all awareness of my body, I did not know who I was and where I was, and I was this melting intelligent energy. I was pure being in a world of constantly changing patterns and stripes of geometrical patterns. I had no sense of time, whether of past present or future, so I could say I was in a roller-coaster ride in a multidimensional giant fractal for infinity and beyond.

This went on and on and on and on and on... This was the scariest place I have ever visited in my life, even worse than than the one I experienced on a high dose of Salvia. I was being killed in an infinite ways and there was no way to understand what was going on. I did not even know what earth was or that I was even a human. All I knew was infinity and pure beingness. This kept on for a good while before I gave up totally and that was the moment where I was transported into the mind of God. I realized that I am the creator of the entire Universe and that everything and everyone is just really me. My memories then started to come back to me and I became conscious that I was creating all of the things/people I thought were seperate from me like my friends and house. I was this powerful pure energy circulating for infinity and a sense of oneness pervaded me. There is no secret to hide or anything to fear because really all is one. How could I be so stupid? I grew up in a religious family where I was told that God is this seperate entity that judges the bad and rewarding the good but in that moment I was literally it. That was a very unbelievable feeling! Everytime I wanted to deny this power, God took me on an infnite journey to show me who I really am until I gave up completely. This was one of the most powerful moments of my entire life. Then I decided to divide myself into different energies (souls) to experience life from different perspective and slowly I started to imagine my hands. It felt like I was watching a hand for the very first time of my life and its was so beautiful. Look at these fingers, what an elegant creation! I then became this entity in a physical body but I was still conscious of what I have just experienced. Life is really crazy and beautiful. Take care of this amazing gift that you gifted yourself. Simply enjoy the ride! You are me and I am you. Seperation is an illusion. Hope you enjoyed this quick report. ?

A man's self-esteem does depend on how well women respond to him.
If you suck with girls that can't but tank your self-esteem. Just like if he cannot hold onto a job, that will tank a man's self-esteem.
And if a girl is never approached by men, that will also tank her self-esteem. People want to feel sexually desirable.

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I don't sleep with wasted girls.
Most girls have one or two drinks before having sex. This is normal social convention. I would rather girls were totally sober if it was up to me. If I'm pulling a girl I actually discourage her from drinking more because I don't like her drunk.
When you got game, having girls drunk is not an advantage. It often creates needless problems.
But most people are not good at building their own state while sober. They drink to let loose and get playful. This is how most people have sex. They use alcohol because they haven't taken the time to master inner game.

Because a woman's sexual value peaks early and is displayed externally. Women are also extremely social. This strategy allows women to play the buyer role while guys play the seller role.
Women have to be much choosier because they are only looking for one guy. Guys are looking to sleep with dozens of women.
It's fundamentally asymmetrical. A guy's survival is enhanced from sleeping around, a woman's survival is threatened. The one who needs sex less has the higher leverage. Women need it less. Unless the guy is sleeping with multiple women. So the hottest women implicitly want men who sleep with lots of women. The more women a guy sleeps with, the more attracted she gets to him. The hottest women are attracted to guys with crazy sexual abundance because hot women have crazy sexual abundance.

To me career and LP is more important. Dating is like the dessert for getting your life together. But don't wait too long. You can still socialize a bit on the weekends just so that you're not stuck at zero on that front for years.

My inner game has improved a lot after 6 years of spiritual work. But I still get approach anxiety at times. All mental thoughts do not disappear, especially when it comes time to approach a smoking hot girl with a bunch of her friends cockblocking.

I have a pretty crazy story about a girl I met at work. Well at least I think it is and I would really like some advice. One day, this girl comes into my workplace with her friend and orders a coffee. I was very attracted to her but I didn't say anything. I just got on with my job. Later on, however she comes up and asks for a job. I just get the manager and leave the scene.
 
I then fall sick with covid for two weeks and I am out of work. When I come back to work, the manager tells me there is a new employee and that I need to train her (I have no idea who it is). I work Thursday through Saturday and she works Monday through Wednesday. Anyways the boss asks me to work full-time for two weeks and so I did.
 
I come into work next week and she is there. Again I don't do or say anything. Just act professional. At the end of the day, she comes up to me and gives me her number which was quite odd. I text her and we hang out on the Sunday. Just a coffee. Nothing crazy. I don't show her any sign of attraction I think (I'm just poor at this). No kiss, nothing. The next week at work there is some flirting, again nothing crazy. She hints at me coming over to hers but I was just very busy.
 
A week later however, I text her to hang out. She comes out, we go to a park and this where shit gets weird. She starts talking about consciousness, love, God, Towism, Hinduism etc...  And I fall hard. I think I got attached very rapidly otherwise I wasn't too bothered. We go back to mine ordered some food and then decide to watch a movie (which was her idea). 
 
I also smoked a bit of weed. I asked her if she was ok with it and she said it's fine. We start watching the movie but instantly I lean in and start making out with her. She reciprocates very strongly and says that she didn't think I liked her like this. We continue making out and then things get a bit more intimate. All of sudden, she says that she's not sure if she wants to do this. Of course I stopped. I'm not an idiot. I said that's ok and we continued watching the movie. After the movie, I try to kiss her but she just says she wants to go home and I just said that's ok. I was never pushy at any point. Always respectful but I don't understand because it seems like she wanted me so bad the whole time. 
 
Anyways, I walk her outside and give her a hug. I say I'm sorry if I pushed to far and she said it's all good. She enjoyed her time with me. She said she's not looking for a relationship right now (maybe she saw that I became attached or needy because I did). I told her that's ok and I also said that I'm interested in dating right now. I told her that there is no obligation to text or speak again on her part (respectfully) but she says that she enjoys my company and that we can "hang out". She then leaves and that's it.
Now again, I rapidly fell for this girl and became attached considering the topics she talked about. The next morning I woke up and I felt a slight heartache which is bloody ridiculous considering we had two dates. It's ok though, I went to the gym and it was all good after haha. I have some questions for you guys.
 
How the hell can I stop neediness and not get caught up on a girl?
Can anyone give me an insight into this particular situation and is shit like this to be expected when dating?
 
 

When I brought her home she told me she assumed I was homeless based on how I dressed and looked.
#HomelessGame

The last girl I slept with

BTW, she thought I was homeless when she came home with me.
But don't let me stop you guys... keep bullshitting.

If I showed you a pic of the last girl I slept with, your jaw would drop. Hotter than a Playboy model. She was into spiritiality and read David Hawkins too
You don't know what a 10 is until you come to Vegas.

"Attractive" is a holisitic quality which involves a lot more than just looks. A girl will think a guy is good looking when she is actually attracted by his status, confidence, masculine vibe, charisma, eye contact, humor, etc.
Solid game makes a guy appear attractive.
But of course some lucky guys simply get laid off their looks. It's not a solid strategy though. Guys who get laid the most are working for it. It doesn't land in their lap.

Completely collapsing the "other" duality requires a ridiculously high state of consciousness.
Even someone like Rupert Spira, who meditated for decades, has not acheived it.
Hence, paychedelics.
It's not that others aren't real. It's that others are You. All "other" will eventually collapse into you.
The only thing you will find as you raise your consciousness are deeper layers of Self.

Owen actually coined that term. It's a guy who basically has zero social skills and zero experience talking to girls and very introverted. The opposite of a natural.
Game comes easily to some guys because it aligned with their natural personality. Game comes really hard for others. Game for me is like 180 degress against my strengths and personality. By all rights I should be living in a cave, not pulling models from the craziest nightclubs in the world.
It's like you're asking if Albert Einstien had great game.
I had to push myself super hard to do precisely what I was worst at in the world and what I hated doing most. Learning game was one of the hardest things I've done in my life.

John is not a clown. He has solid game. The issue is integrity.

Most PUAs drink. And sometimes a lot.
I really admire those who go 100% sober, which is one reason I admire Owen.
Sure, you can. His advice on leading and handling logistics is solid.
I am not disputing John's game. It is solid and practical. I was talking about him shitting on all the other coaches. This is in poor taste and discounts the pioneering work of someone like Owen. Regardless of Owen's lay count he has done pioneering work in this field, as has all of RSD. To dismiss all their work so flippantly as John does is not intellectually integrous.
Firstly, he saw me maybe do a couple of approaches at most, from afar. Which says little about my game. I can also say that I have seen him get blown out by girls by pulling them too early and aggressively.
Secondly, when he saw me back in 2013, I was a hard case newbie who had 1 year of experience in game. Of course a newbie will be uncalibrated.
Even the best coaches in the world will get blown out hard each week by a few girls.
I practiced a lot of physical game in Vegas back in 2013, and yeah, very direct physical game produces lots of instant blow outs. But it can also hook like crazy. Some of my most amazing sets came from very direct physical game. People are amazed when they see it hook instantly. It's so on it's shocking. It's an important skill to develop for very loud and crowded clubs.

There is never a guaranteed path to exceptional success. That's part of the challenge! You have to do it despite everything in the environment telling you you'll fail.
Escaping wage slavery is not for people who need guaranteed paths and others to cheer-lead them. Escaping wage slavery is for people who are willing to do the work even everyone around them says it's impossible and that you shouldn't even try. You need massive vision and an irrational belief in yourself. You need to be so confident and adamant that even when you're failing you think you're succeeding.
In other words, your inner game is not appropriate for escaping wage slavery. You're hoping for some kind of promises and hand-holding -- but that's too weak of an attitude for creating serious success.
I should be here telling you that you'll fail no matter what you do. And you should be here telling me, "No, fuck you Leo! I will succeed no matter what you say. I will make so much money I will use $100 bills to light my cigars."

By definition everyone cannot escape wage slavery. It is not possible at a collective level. But it is possible for you at an individual level.
Not everyone can be a millionaire, but you can if you want it bad enough.

Lol. John knows nothing about me or my game.
He talks shit about everyone as part of his marketing strategy. It's toxic. His approach to marketing himself is the same as his approach to gaming girls. Like I said before, a low integrity PUA is going to not just treat girls badly, he will treat everyone in a manipulative way, especially his clients and customers. He's gaming you with the same integrity he games girls.
I was not known in the community at all because I was a nobody, there was nothing noteworthy about my game, and I never made any claims about my skills or results. This whole dick measuring contest about who has the best game is childish. All that matters is that you are improving your game. You can learn valuable lessons from all the instructors. You can also acquire many toxic ideas and habits if you're not careful.
There is nothing more creepy than having your wingmen imprisoned for rape and yourself having rape accusations brought to court. Next to that I am a saint.
Remember, I am not a pickup coach and I never was. So don't compare me to those type of guys. I was critical of the pickup community from the day I learned about pickup. Obviously much of it is low consciousness and toxic stuff sourced from deep trauma and lack of spiritual development.
Be careful who you learn from. Their integrity, or lack thereof, will rub off on you.
Have I done some flashy game? Sure. Have I turned girls off? Of course. That's all part of learning game. Flashy game is not solid game. I explained this in my How To Get Laid videos. But exploring flash is valuable nonetheless. Knowing how to do a bit of flash at the right time is very effective. People also have different styles of game. And much of what is considered flash is also just part of self-amusement and warming up. Sometimes I will say something silly or outrageous just to blow up a set and put myself into a playful mood.
Keep in mind that all my game was done sober. Most of John's game was done drunk while he was gaming in Vegas. He says he quit drinking now -- which is great if true -- but that's after 10 years of drunk game. The majority of his supposed lay count is drunk game. I had to build my state from zero each night. So did Owen.

This is not a matter of trusting Owen. Carefully consider his perspective, running it through your own critical thinking, wisdom, and Tier 2 understanding. Sort the signal from the noise.
There is always a lot of signal in Owen's talks.

You should be working on raising your value every day for the rest of your life. Pretty soon you will be in the top 1% of guys and you will be so unique and valuable, no one will be able to compete with you.
This is not for girls, this is for you. The girl just gets to feel the glow of your inherent awesomeness.
This is not about girls! This is about self-actualization!
Ground your confidence in self-actualization and self-realization. Put your nose to the grindstone. Other guys are irrelevant. Actualize yourself.

You have a bias against death.
That's the core falsehood.
The truth is that nothing matters. Yet if you align with that you will die. Therefore to be alive you gotta be in falsehood.

Take a psychedelic and you'll see how obvious it is. You will laugh.