You set a rule that if she cheats on you, there are no second chances, she loses you forever.
And then you stop caring. You let her free to do whatever she wants, see whoever she wants, doesn't matter to you cause you know your value and you can replace her with another girl and she knows that too.
This is the proper frame for keeping hot girls.

You can tap her on the shoulder, pull her aside a bit, and go direct.
Or you can enagage the whole group in an indirect social way and sprinkle in firtation with your girl. A good line you can use to do that is, "I can already tell... this one's gonna give me trouble" while pointing at your girl. And make strong eye contact with her. This approach requires more skill.
Or just wait till you catch her alone.

Try to observe what understanding is while you are understanding something in your direct experience.
Don't try to articulate it. Just try to observe it happening in you.
It has an slippery, ineffable, mysterious quality to it.
Understand?
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It would be more accurate to call it overstanding.

If we put thought into the woman's side of things, she would find it needy and never sleep with us.
As I get better with girls I put less and less thought into them. That's what game teaches you. Women punish guys for putting thought into them. It comes off as needy and unattractive. But then once the relationship starts the woman wants the guy to put all this thought into her. But it's too late because the guy who would naturally do that (the nice guy) she never would have slept with in the first place. Hence you end up dating guys who don't care about you.
From a guy's POV, the biggest thing you can do to increase your results with women is to stop thinking about them until after sex. And if you can manage to do that, you will probably not think about them much after sex either.
This is the reality of female attraction. The less you care the more women you get, the hotter women you get. And if you want the absolute hottest women, you have to not care at all about them. It's extremely counter-intuitive. I had to rewire my whole mind for this via brutal trial and error. And what really fucks with a guy's mind is that women will gaslight about this, insisting that, "No! Just be nice and caring. We promise to sleep with you." And they never do.

My best friend from middle school was a serious military nut and joined after high school. He spent 15 years in Afghanistan and Iraq. And he loved it. But he really loved that kind of stuff from a young age. He was very outdoorsy, very into weaponry, very into explosives, very into wrestling, etc. It's like the military was designed for him. He was a very hands-on, kinesthetic person.
Joining the military is a very specific thing. For some guys it gets their rocks off. They love that stage Blue discipline, toughness, machoness, loyalty, sense of clear mission, patriotism, etc. If you're that kind of guy then join. Otherwise stay away.

You need to realize that girls will get attracted to you regardless of what you have materially in your life. Mostly what attracts the girl is how you express your personality. So you work on that and more girls will get attracted.
You can be homeless and jobless and hot girls will still get attracted to you if you express your personality properly. That means mostly all you have to worry about is improving your game. On the other hand, if your game sucks and you are too lazy to improve it, not much will help you.

Wrong. You can be fully conscious of everything. It will be unknowable though, that is correct. Consciousness/Being is prior to symbolic knowing.
Omniscience is possible. You have yet to reach that.
It is not a paradox that symbols and concepts cannot capture reality. That is exactly what you should expect since a subset is always less than its mother set. It would be a paradox if symbols and concepts could capture reality. That would be fucked up.

Become Zedd.
Or get really good at cold approach. I met a 21 year old at the club last month who slept with 700 girls from cold approach. He pulls every day.

It's not technically necessary, but cold approach is not best for the hottest girls because they get approached so often. For them, it helps a lot to offer social value and to stack the logistics in your favor.
For example, I know a guy in Vegas who's slept with over 1000 girls. How did he do it? Not from cold approach. He did by building an elite social circle such that he's able to get free tables at any nightclub in Vegas. He can get a $5000 table for free any night. Then he just pulls girls into the table. Plus he gets invited to all the elite after parties. For example, he is friends with Zedd, so after Zedd performs at the club, Zedd invites 100 of the hottest girls to a private $20,000 hotel suite. He also invites 10 guys. That's where the real game happens. Imagine how easy it is to get laid when you are sitting in a $20,000 suite with a private pool next to Zedd with 100 of the hottest girls and a tray of cocaine.
That's elite level social circle game. That's how you get the hottest girls consistently.
It took this guy 7 years of 4 hours per day building his social circle to reach this elite level.
A lot of getting laid is simply social position and favorable logistics.
But you don't need anything like this to get laid with cute girls. I am just telling you what the pinnacle of game looks like. The pinnacle of game is that your social position is so good all you have to do is say Hi and the girl goes home with you. If you want that, YES, you'll have to work your ass off to build it.
Then again, I pulled an Instagram model thru cold approach dressed as a homeless guy outside the club at 4:30am. It's just not consistent. That Instagram model told me she was at Zedd's afterparty. Fortunately Zedd only has one dick

You should be happy to pull twice a month when you first start learning game.
I told you it's a lot harder than you think.
I am telling you the results of the best guys in the world. They are the Michael Jordans of their sport.

I don't even know if I would call myself intermediate.
There are many variables involved: how often you go out, how long you stay out, how hard you hit it, your health, your logistics situation, time of the year, what city you live in, your skill level, your personality type, the quality of girls you're trying to pull, your ethics, luck, what your goals are, how much momentum you've built up, your emotional state, etc. So there's not going to be any clear number. It will vary a lot from guy to guy.
A bad month is zero.
But also, I don't measure my results based on quantity of girls I sleep with. That's a pretty foolish measure. I would rather sleep with 1 amazing girl than 10 below average ones. But even that is still not the right measure because the skills developed and life experiences gained are more important. I measure my results based on how much it grows me internally. This way if I have a month where I get zero girls, I still see it as part of my overall success and I don't quit. Whereas most guys would just quit.

What's funny is that many normies can be pretty happy with life.
If your ambitions are low it's not hard to be happy. Get a stable job, go to church, have some kids, watch Netflix, play video games, eat junk food, drink beer, watch porn, go to football games, hang out with your dumb likeminded friends, hate-watch your opposing political party. Live unconsciously. Life is pretty good.
Ironically, strong religion and strong family are some of the best predictors of happiness.

The solution here is not some deep metaphysical point. This is a healthy fear which is communicating a valid message to you: "Be extra careful. Don't be foolish or sloppy. Take precautions."
Fear is there to help you avoid needless horrible suffering.

It's all good stuff, but for serious intellectual understanding books are irreplaceable. You will rarely get that same depth in a talk, even my talks.

Emotions are largely unconscious, automatic habits of the body-mind system to help it survive. So long as you are in that body you will have automatic emotions that arise and hijack your consciousness as part of your survival programming. It doesn't matter whether you intellectually understand that all is one.
For the same reason that I get hungry, thirsty, horny, etc.

Love of life is not an luxury. Either you proactively cultivate it or you will become a bitter, jaded zombie.

Tough situation. I've been there. I had to cut contact with my dad entirely for over a decade now. His influence on my life was just too toxic.
You have to make a judgment call as to whether having him in your life is a constant source of toxicity and holds back your evolution. If it is, then you should have a serious talk with him about that, and if he still continues unchanged then you can cut him off. But before you do that, you can consider just limiting your contact with him and see if that helps eliminate most of the toxicity, If so, then just keep a healthy distance with only sporadic contact.
The key question for you should be: Can you live the vast majority of your life and still actualize yourself while in contact with him? If the answer is yes, then try not cutting him off entirely and working through some of it with him. But if the answer no, then have that serious talk and cut him off if he refuse to change.
As a good rule of thumb, let's say 5-10% of your time you can sacrifice to dealing with negative bullshit from friends and family. Consider that charity work. But if it goes over 5-10%, cut that person off.
This is really a matter of learning how to set and enforce boundaries with people. Which is all about getting clear with yourself what you're willing to stand for and what is important to you. Define your boundaries clearly and communicate them explicitly to people. If they keep crossing your reasonable boundaries, that's on them. Don't feel guilty about enforcing your boundaries if they were clearly communicated and then repeatedly crossed.

Because you are imagining all others. There exists nothing but you. Reality begins and ends with your experience. There is no "outside". Your consciousness is Absolute.
There is no world. And there are no beings to populate it.
You are imagining perspectives and POV in order to construct a notion of finite self and other. The very notion of a perspective or POV is an illusion. Without this illusion you would be all alone.
It works just like a dream. And you are the sole dreamer. The only problem is that you do not want to accept this. So you keep on dreaming. The cost of dreaming is endless confusion.

If you become sufficiently conscious you will clearly see that there is nothing outside your consciousness.
It's not a guess or a belief. Your awareness simply penetrates through all of reality -- with no other to be found.
Think of it as turning the lights up so bright that nothing at all is invisible to you and your gaze reaches infinitely far.
It is completely obvious at that point that nothing could ever exist outside yourself.

It's not a good teaching for several reasons:
1) Everything is Mind. You're never escaping mind. There is technically no such thing as no-mind.
2) Even people who have supposedly reached no-mind still think. Which paints a false picture of what no-mind refers to.
3) God-realization and awakening can be had with a fully active mind and thoughts, and in fact it's useful and important for the mind to contemplate and make some sense of God.
4) The mind can technically be used to grasp the Absolute. But this mind has to be fueled properly with psychedelics so it becomes a transhuman mind.
5) Mind is not what prevent awakening. Your state of consciousness prevents awakening. The key is not to shut off the mind but to raise one's state of consciousness. Which can be done by shutting off the mind but not necessarily. If you raise your state without shutting off the mind, it works just as well, and perhaps even better.
6) An empty mind works well in a mediation retreat setting, but doesn't work so well in a complex world of survival which intellectual problems exist.
7) An empty mind can still be ignorant and wrong and full of dogma and bad believes and opinions. You cannot solve intellectual problems by just shutting off the mind. This is like sticking your head in the sand.
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By no-mind what they basically mean is a meditative state free of thoughts. A still mind for a certain period of time, in contrast to monkey-mind.

This.
The whole teaching of "no-self" is problematic in this regard. The mind can get so stuck on the notion of no-self that it becomes blind to the fact that all is the God Self.
The correct teaching is not no-self, it is God Self. Even though, of course, God has no self.
I feel that neo-Advaita and Buddhist style teachings can get people stuck in no-self.

"You're kinda hot/cute. Let's grab a drink. I know a good place. What days are you free this week? How about Tues at 8pm?"
Don't just suggest a vague "sometime". You need to grill her in-person on her schedule and set a concrete day and time that works for her. This will triple your results.
Don't call it a "date".

If you are building a family consciously, have at it. That's a valid path of development.
Most people just fuck and have kids like animals.

"So what are you up to?"
"Talking to a cute girl."
"You hit on all the cute girls here?"
"Only you baby. You're my one, I promise. I'm just a shy virgin "
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Learn frame control!

What am I dishonest about? I said my intention is a relationship if the girl is relationship material.
There is no need to explicitly state this when you start dating. It comes out naturally. If I want to make her my gf I will say so, but not too soon.
You can reframe it verbally to her face.
"Where is your sense of humor, girl? You leave it at home?"
Of course this will prolly blow up the set. But I would say this as the set is blowing up anyway.
Sometimes you say things not to please the girl but just to hold your frame. Your frame should be that you are funny and cool and if she doesn't like it she is the weird one, her loss.