joeyi99

I recently met a girl off Tinder and we went on two dates. Below is my first date with her after deep reflection: Overall all the date went accordingly to plan logistically. I picked up my business partner Tesla and texted her when I'd be there. She took the bus and arrived 10 minutes before me at a trail near where she lived. As I was driving, I felt slightly rushed and worried I would be late but I got a grip and remained calmer than I my would have been if this occurred a few years prior. The thoughts of what to say as to why I would be 10 minutes later crossed my mind. Nonetheless, in the end that didn't matter and I overthought it. I arrive and see her sitting under the gazebo and park the car. I get a good glimpse of her as I am approaching and the thought flashes across my mind that I may not be that into her physically. As I greet her, the thought vanishes as I realize I overreacted and she looks like her pictures. I don't go for the hug and tell her the situation with the car and I explained I had to get the car via my business partner. She doesn't seem to bat and eye. I can immediately tell she is not one of those overly expressive types of girls and more soft spoken. Not shy per say but just introverted to some sense. We proceed down the quarry trail with a good amount of accompanying trail goers. I match her vibe and soft tone as we walk. She briefly mentioners her lecture she told me before and have a few exchanges. I was kinda stuck off as she didn't ask me any of the typical small talk questions and I ask her briefly on where she's from and we talk about her ethnic background. She is continuing the conversation and not like there is any awkward silences at all. But I can tell she is not fully at ease more in a nervous in meeting a new person kinda way. Not overly noticeable but I pick up on it. At this point I'm not going into 21 question mode as most guys would. I make joking remarks and keeping it light and conversational. In comparison to my last date before her, I was more relaxed and myself. I was getting very conscious if I was matching her tone too much. I ask her early on about her former tinder experiences and she tells me some funny ones that seem like more of a thing to tell 1 hr or 2 into the date vs 10 mins in. We continue to walk around the quarry trails and the scenery was quite nice but chilly of course. I mention to her about my past with jobs, school etc and a little about what I'm doing now. She actually wants to be a teacher and we joke about the grindy 9-5 life. Through out the whole date one of the things that kinda thru me off was that she didn't seem overly energetic. But I came to realize that was just her personality. And energetic is not the correct term, it's hard to explain. I believe it was a little nervousness and timid. But like I said it was natural and fluid thru out so nothing awkward. We then sit down and I start to feel pretty cold at this point. She opens up a bit with explaining how she gets worried - I can't remember what we were talking about to bring that up. She said sorry If I'm oversharing. I ask if she was worried today and she said a bit before coming bc of meeting someone new. The vibe was still light not too heavy at this point. There was a point where we make eye contact and she says sorry and looks away and said I gave her a funny look. At that moment I was taken back and just wanted to make strong eye contact. I don't know if I really did make a look and it kinda fucked with my head a bit. I just said oh no I like to make eye contact and she said I don't half chuckle kinda of way. That passed and we continued conversing but defiantly took me by surprise. I think she thought I was judging her at some points when that was of course not what I was going for. Both of us are very cold at this point and I say lets warm up in the car. She immediately complies in relive lol She puts on her mask in the car and we start to warm up. We continue talking about her career and other short stories she shares. Its going pretty decent but I felt like this bit of pressure in the air of like what are we going to do next like as if are we gonna sexualize things and I don't feel as present in the conversation at this point. I then show her around the Tesla control features and we fool around a bit with it. I can tell at this point she is sitting back and wants me to lead. I felt kinda stuck on what to do as I felt we were in this limbo in the interaction. She then mentions that her roommates may be mad that she is in my car as she texts then back. But she agreed to go to the supercharger to charge the Telsa. Right before we depart we both go thru the options of if I should drive her back or go to the charger. She then blurts out "I'm having a good time, its not like Im trying to leave you no" My reply was kinda off I say Ok idk but I felt off. Like I said I think she thought I was judging her with my strong eye contact and listening vibe. I then start to drive and she says I hope you're a good driver as she was in a car accident with a prior tinder date. I reply confidently "I'm a fantastic driver as i whip the Tesla. As we are driving I ask her what she is looking for and she says idk immediately as if she didn't really didn't know what to say. Then asks me the same - I say the truth in a very no bullshit and non apologetic way: someone I get along with and open to where it goes. I don't want expectations. She agrees with me in a kinda way where someone ones to win your approval. As I then drop her off she bring up we can go charge the car next week as she will have more time I think I cant remember exactly. She immediately gets out of the car as in a hurry and have brief a goodbye. I ask her schedule and I say lets go something next weekend - she agrees. We cant really hug as Im sitting on the other side of course so I did feel off. I thought it would be weird to get out of the car and g around to hug her so I didn't . Idk if that was the right move I then depart and talk to my business partner for 2 mins before heading back to his place. I feel like damn I had a date and more experience and felt proud of myself. That quickly passes and I start feeling pretty melancholic and feel like something else was triggered inside me. I then have thoughts if I blew this date and what common recurring mistakes do I keep making that made me upset. Not so much if I loose this girl but more than just we don't have chemistry more in the sense what is wrong with who I am not that is sabotaging my dating life and from the date going better. I have felt like this in my pickup journey before and didn't allow myself to beat myself up too bad. I then thought back to what if there is something I am doing fundamentally that is killing the spark in these interactions. Ultimately I get a grip of myself and we snapchat each other the next day and set up another date Stay turned for part 2 ....

@Leo Gura Really appreciate the feedback. Lots of experience I still need to gain. Things get pretty interesting after our second date lol, I'll post about it shortly

@Leo Gura How does MEO kill you

@Leo Gura Was it Sonny who you are referring to?

I thought love is all there is with no opposite?

@Leo Gura So letting thoughts pass without labelling them from "me"/ego??

What is a lethal dose of 5-Meo?

We are always discussing Trump here, so I thought I'd open the discussion on your neighbors' leader... He is currently facing this cheap attack from his opponents: https://globalnews.ca/news/5922861/justin-trudeau-brownface-video/

I don't know if this is going to come across as arrogant... But I'm just sharing my goals and probably provide updates every couple months on my progress I've decided that I am dedicating the entirety of 2019 to starting my affiliate marketing business. I have started to take massive action since the beginning of the year (month or so) on what I've researched on how to start and seen some results. I'm targeting the Meditation niche and selling meditation courses via clickbank/ other affiliate programs I find. So my action plan that I've already started working on consists of... 1.Start a Meditation Facebook Group 2.Grow that group over the next couple of months (engaging other related groups and optimizing my facebook profile to promote my group) 3. Monetize the group by providing links in my post to my Funnels (lead down to the affiliate offers) 4.Follow up with group memebers/leads via messenger bots (essentially like email marketing but Facebook messenger style) 5. Scale with paid ads once I start making sales and continue growing My Daily Habits and Progress Tracking for Success... 1. List tasks for each day of the week on a whiteboard and check off at the end of the day 2. Wake up at 9AM and work until 6PM (8 hours every day x 7 Days =56 hours weekly) 3. Continue my Meditation and Kriya Yoga after my work period for the day 4. Check weekly progress and change course if need be 5. Daily Visualization on my goals My Over Arching Goal is too Make $100 a Day ($3000 a Month) by End of the Year Latest... I understand that the greatest obstacle to my success is my own mind. I have been meditating for almost 2 years and studied personal development for 4 year which has allowed me to build up some disciple, awareness, focusing ability, and the common tricks my mind plays on me. I'm extremely motivated and hold the mantra: I will not stop until I reach my Goal! *Very simple but to the point Thought I'd share...and I will update my progress along the way

Does meditation just upgrade your neurotransmitters at a lesser degree compared to psychedelics and yoga or not at all? Just very curious since Leo keeps mentioning it.

@Leo Gura Should we still pursue awakening first followed by emotional mastery?

I have been meditating for almost three years now and I'm starting to see it take an effect on my visual field in an interesting way. For the last week I've been meditating on my bed and noticed that my bedpost in front of me starts to wave and morph (as if it can stretch and move around) making it seem not so "solid" as my "normal state" perceived it to be. My attention then got sucked into this wavy motion of my bedpost and I pretty much was locked in it in fascination. My mind was silenced and this state remained effortless. I remember Leo mentioned in his Mushroom video that he would get sucked into these trances while looking at objects and I imagined my experience was somewhat similar. I now find now it is easy to enter calm states of meditation than when I first started.

@DivineSoda You didn't eat for 5 days??!!

@Leo Gura How does one transcend culture?

@Leo Gura When tripping why does perception/imagination change for the psychedelic user but NOT for the surrounding observers? If there is only the raw perception shouldn't it change for everyone else?

@Leo Gura Well the way you kinda made it sound was he was more focused on building his organization than focusing on the individual

@Leo Gura Is Sadguru a bodhisattva?

I've felt the most happiness in my life from meditation.

Leo mentioned that people will talk about spirituality and then go out to the club and do pickup and justify pickup with spirituality. Can one do spirituality and pickup at the same time while still being a conscious human being or are they incompatible? Does one have to transcend pickup and Exhaust that need before moving into spirituality? Or does Leo just mean if you're going to do pickup don't try and justify it with spiritual teachings?

@Leo Gura Is kriya yoga enough to purify lower chakras?

@Leo Gura How is a mother a thought?

@Leo Gura ....Stick with real life

How do we do pickup without manipulation?

@EntheogenTruthSeeker How did you awake your kundalini?

Has anybody here has any profound mystical experiences with Kriya yet?