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@Leo Gura How can one possibly swallow this without getting cynical?

I must admit I purposely kept my titles lower case as I noticed a correlation between that and the amount of views a post received. I much prefer proper clean and neat titles.

@Samuel Garcia who is the coach?

I just turned 27 and facing massive despair. I’ve tried everything from pick up to even getting a hair transplant with nothing to show for it. I did land a few dates but those were few and far between and led nowhere. Here is my example: This was a hard birthday for me potentially coming to terms with my fate of dying alone and “unworthiness”. I certainly cannot take many more years of this and I don’t know what else to do. I’m not looking for attention or pity here. I have nowhere else to turn and at the very least need to share this with someone. Am I perhaps just genetically inferior or predetermined to fail with women? I cannot live without knowing. I’m not a fool to fall into the limiting beliefs of blackpill ideology but maybe I don’t fit the “bill” of what women are looking for. I’ve been told by 6 people over the last year that I’m cute/“good looking”. If that’s the case then why hasn’t anyone taken a chance on me even after I’ve put myself out socially? It’s become maddening that I cannot figure this out. Any and all input is appreciated.

@Raze What does good game look like then?

@Ulax Yes I agree, psychotherapy is must. I mediated everyday for 3 years straight before I had a “Kundalini awakening” then stopped. What are you referring to with bodywork?

I’m glad to hear my efforts (video) had a positive effect on someone at least. I’m a very positive person with a large vision for life. The only explantation I have is falling victim to creating an identity of unworthiness that tainted subsequent interactions. It’s utterly humiliating to admit but I greatly appreciate your encouragement.

What city are you in?

@TheGod So your only goal is to just overcome the fear of approaching?

Leo mentioned that during his break he had an epiphany he is evil and him being good was just a fantasy. I understand that we are limited beings trying to survive and thereby commit evil actions to preserve ourselves. But aren’t we falling into the trap of morality by judging ourselves as evil? Leo has spoken about absolute Goodness. Is that what we should be striving for? It gets confusing when we realize morality is a construct but then use good vs evil terminology in this work — tough to reconcile.

I think he was referring to the relative domain. Leo’s attitude seemed almost as if we are all completely delusional about being good. Came across discouraging.

It was forgotten to mention it’s a trap think Leo Gura is perfect.

@Leo Gura With all this said, how do us mere mortals find solace in your genetic absolutism?

Vadim from Honest Signalz I would say is an exception for pickup coach despite being taller than average. He is the embodiment of attractive masculine behaviours.

@Leo Gura I thought sense organs were imaginary

How much do they matter though?

You think thats bad...I recently approached 350 girls this summer and got only 1 date.

My Review On Cold Approach & Dating Life I recently completed a 4 month pickup mentorship with a coach I hired in Toronto and wanted to share my personal infield and insights. I hope this motivates you to take your journey seriously and give a realistic perspective on Cold Approach. Here are my results from the mentorship: 370 Approaches 16 Numbers 1 Date MY INFIELD - lead to date above: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ro92wpagqQZLL0rnb3qamgHdup6Ziuh6/view?usp=sharing *Don't mind my Hollywood editing skill Preface: It has been one helluva a journey over the last 7+ years with pickup and personal development. It's difficult to recall who I used to be before I made the decision to embark on the hero's journey and answer the call so to speak. My self image has consecutively died and been reborn many times as I searched for answers from within and without. Eventually resulting in a sense of clarity as to who I am and what I want out of all this. What Do I Want Out Of Dating: 1. You are the only one who can determine what you really want: I have admittedly committed the mistake of believing I wanted the results others marketed to me in the pickup community. Examples such as sleeping with hundreds of women and building a "rotation" are a few of the common ideas I deceived myself into desiring. I can starkly see how shallow and immature the above pursuits are and how I never actually choose them. 2. What am I really after: Speaking big picture, I want to live a Good Fulfilling Life "the good life". A life rooted in core self actualized principles and values. Specifically with women, I believe that finding a true life partner will be the most fulfilling. My definition of a life partner extends far beyond almost all the relationships/marriages we see around us. I know that pursing a relationship based on aligned values and purpose is the wisest. This will have a much greater meaning to me (and to most) than sleeping with an endless amount of women or any other lustful fantasy you can imagine. Cold Approach Pro's & Con's: Con's: 1. You have no clue who you are meeting By definition you are entering interactions cold. Besides the women's appearance, you have no idea who you are approaching or any indication of their personality for the most part. I used to overlook this as part of the process without taking any of the above into consideration. Until I experienced enough approach's and thought to myself: If I truly desire a life partner with aligned values and purpose, spending the majority of my efforts approaching random women starts to look absurd viewed from that lens. While cold approach is effective at building your skill set overall, approaching a women solely based on her looks starts to loose its appeal after awhile. Any wise man who's had his "fair share" will tell you that her looks only goes so far. I believe this is one of the largest oversights of the pickup community. People are more than just how they look. But with cold approach, that’s the only factor in our initial decision. I also noticed that pickup does not pay much attention to screening for women you actually like. Instead there’s this obsession with “closing” every girl and pushing each interaction which becomes compulsive and unhealthy. 2. The numbers game is not appealing or in your favour This is very apparent during daytime approach's where in my experience 50%-60% of women have boyfriends. Couple that with the fact most people are in a rush on the street, finding an available girl to stop and chat becomes dismal. To be fair, your stats will improve as your skill level increases but only to a point. Here's a breakdown of the numbers I've found: PUA's I've surveyed: 3-5 numbers per 10 approach's 1 date per 10 numbers My Mentor: 4-5 numbers per10 approaches 2 dates 1 lay 3. Pickup has a massive learning curve Success with women is a gargantuan endeavour even for those well socialized. You are forced to put your ego on the line and question your worldview at times. It will require an enormous amount of time/effort to see consistent results. It is not for the faint of heart and you will have to be motivated by something more than just sex. Pro's: 1. Pickup teaches you to step up and take risk Personally, I never would have had the courage to start my business with out first pursing cold approach pick up. It gave me the confidence to put myself on the line and face rejection which relates directly to my business success. If used consciously, pickup teaches you to develop rock solid inner game which translates to each area of your, life. I am very grateful for all the painful lessons I learned throughout my journey that grew me into the man I am today. This pursuit was one of the hardest things I've ever undertaken but also the most rewarding internally. 2. Your potential dating pool is unlimited I think this is the most appealing aspect of cold approach. The entire world of women opens up to you instead of defaulting to school, work, or social circle to meet them. It's a very empowering insight to know that you can take control of your dating life and have choice. Pro/Con Recap: I've found cold approach to be a powerful tool for personal growth and becoming socially adept. I do still believe it's a great way to meet people romantically but I'm no longer naïve to it's limits. I personally see it as a supplement one should use in dating to contribute to living an already good life. Analogous to how a dietary supplement is intended to compliment an already established healthy diet. Without this insight, I don't believe cold approach is healthy long term and can lead to living a dysfunctional life. My Next Steps: I feel as though now is the time to take a step back and change my approach (pun). I am confident in the abilities I've build up over the last several years and ready to change it up. I know I can approach when the opportunity presents itself and not shy away. I do still feel a bit dishearten at my lack of tangible results with women after all my efforts. But I am clear as to what I want and trust that a natural organic way of meeting women will help me reach my goals. I see myself exploring my interests and meeting women who share the same. I want to build a lifestyle I’m proud of first and foremost. I realized I don't need to be searching for the next girl constantly. I'm after a solid connection and don't mind taking a slower more natural way to get there. I won't be setting any time to strictly cold approach. I'm tired of running around the streets for all the reasons mentioned above. Instead I will only approach if I see a girl that inspires me as I move through my day. I will be doing activities that give me joy first and meeting others is a bonus. Exploring new hobbies and interests will also spark a new zest for life inside me that I so desperately desire.

@assx95 I recently move to a big city and have done 293 approaches resulting in 1 date so far.

Does anyone know the story about this gent: https://instagram.com/ryanmccormick198507?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== He has some pretty crazy insta stories with girls. @Leo Gura is he your wingman?

Thank you!

Does anyone know where I can find Leo’s video where he finds out he has Sibo? My mom is having health issues and I believe it could be Sibo. Thanks!

I know! It was from the self deception video part 1

I wanted to make this post as an inspiration for short guys who think their height is a limitation in dating. I used to feel insecure about my height at only 5'6 and think it will be a deal breaker for most girls. For the last few months, I've been developing an empowered mindset with women and taking action via online apps due to the pandemic until the world opens up and I can approach in person. And I've made a lot of progress with landing a few dates and learning a lot. Feel free to check out my earlier post at the bottom. Anyway, I had a sexual experience with a tall girl the other night that shattered my height insecurity forever. I ended up having a one night stand with a girl from Tinder. Funny enough, she booty called me over to her place out of the blue a week or 2 since our initial conversation. Before, we met I had a few thoughts that it will be weird that she is taller than me and that I actually like shorter girls. I quickly notice the tricky of my mind and cut it out and said fuck it ill do it anyway. I arrive at her place and she opens the door and lone behold she is pretty tall as her photos appeared. To cut to the chase, we end up hooking up and getting dominate with each other. She was into choking and I made her cum 3-4 times. I felt like the man and acted like the strong man that I am. To hammer the point home, height even came up in the conversation somehow and she couldn't believe I was 5'6 when I told her. She said she didn't notice it when we met at the door. She kept complimenting me on how cool and hot I was in bed. In goes to show, that I was hindering myself before with thinking my height was holding me back with women. Mindset is super key with success with women and I know I'm the shit and have core confidence now. I want this to be an inspiration for all "short" guys who are insecure. It's complete bullshit. And even if the odd girl cares, you don't even wanna date those types of girls anyway. So it works out perfectly, they weed themselves out and you are left with the other half of girl who don't give a shit. Yes, most girls won't care when you have your shit together as a man and developed charisma and the plethora of core qualities you as an attractive man should have. I can't wait to go out and crush it in person game when everything opens up. I also wanted to thank Leo for his many posts about this topic and dating advice. I'm really looking forward to the how to get laid video too To sum it up: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” ― Henry Ford I'll see you in the field gentlemen!