Brittany

I honestly think that everyone lives a full life. I feel like this idea of "I didn't live a full life" is a form of self attack. And it's also blind to the beauty of God that is present in every moment. Not in the future. "I need to live a full life" thinks fulfillment comes in a future moment. Fulfillment is here , right now, in the presence of God. You were swimming in the beauty of God since the day you were born - whether you realize it or not. You've been surrounded by grace even when you are in pain, even when you are acting selfish and negative, and even when you are wasting time on things that don't matter. Grace never left your side. Your life has always been full, even if you can't see it.

From a non-dualistic perspective, relationships don't exist. Relationships are an attempt to unite people that are separated. But from the non-dualistic perspective, there is no separation. There is nothing that is separate that needs to be united. You cannot join what is not divided. You cannot connect what has never been broken. So it makes no sense talking about this from a non-duality perspective, in my opinion. ---------------- But from the lens of Duality and the dream world, questions like "Why do most men prefer younger and prettier women over older and uglier? Why do most women prefer taller and richer men over shorter and poorer?" is about human pride. Some people see young, pretty, and rich people as Pride opportunities. For example, "She is young and pretty so I will gain X,Y and Z from her". or "He is rich so I will gain X, Y and Z from him". But..........haha some people even see "ugly" and poor people as a Pride opportunities. For example, "Maybe she/he won't cheat on me because they are so ugly". or "Maybe they won't leave me because they are poor and dependent on me". My definition of Pride = What the ego gains from objects, experiences, thoughts/emotions and people. Also, pride can show up as anything you think is greater than anything else. X is better than Y. You can have pride for yourself. But you can also have pride for other people and you can even have pride for inanimate objects. When you fall in love with a man/woman, you actually have pride FOR them. It's a trippy concept. haha For example, when you are jealous of someone, you have pride FOR them. You think they have MORE of something than you. Or for example, when you think Hawaii is better than Chicago, then you have pride FOR Hawaii. You think Hawaii has something of MORE value than Chicago. An easy formula for pride is: Anything that comes after I AM ____________ and I HAVE/know/experienced ___________and I WILL HAVE __________ (even negative things) is pride. Also, anything that comes after THEY are ________________, They HAVE/know/experienced _____________or They WILL HAVE _____________ are forms of pride that you place upon other people. The mind tries to claim that it has become or it owns something. But from a non-dualistic perspective, the separate self becoming or having something other than Consciousness is impossible. Consciousness does not become or have anything other than itself. Consciousness also doesn't experience anything other than itself. So if the mind thinks another person HAS something valuable that can greatly benefit you and your survival, then you will be attracted to that person. And you will want to add what they HAVE.... into the collection of things that you HAVE. Sometimes this collection of things includes ideas, thoughts, and emotions. Even a person who considers themselves a minimalist of material objects... might want to HAVE a lot of positive emotions and thoughts. For example, I AM a great husband/wife. I AM kind. I AM loyal. I AM compassionate. I AM grateful. I AM loved. are all forms of pride/ego. Even I AM nothing or I AM consciousness or I AM God are Pride for the ego to chew on. These are some of trickiest ways pride manifest. Pride can even be I AM a piece of crap. Or I AM worthless. Pride is not bad. It's the electricity of the world of duality. Duality is fueled by pride. When you understand pride, you understand 50% of the game that the mind plays. All human relationships are a pride game. Without pride, you won't see a separate person to relate to. You will just see God.

You can't become... what you already are. You have never been un-enlightened. That's not a thing. Enlightenment is not an object that you can HAVE.

You have many non-duality disclaimers in this post. haha However; none of this makes sense through the lens of non-duality. Ultimately, because relationships are a dualistic symbol of separation. A relationship implies we are separate. And that we, as separate things, are joining. Relationships are the mind's attempt to connect what has never been broken. How can you join something that has never been divided? But through the lens of duality, where the mind has divided reality into separate parts, what you are saying is 100% on point. And I also love Teal Swan's work on relationships. One of things she said in a recent Workshop is along the lines of "there is no difference between loving yourself and loving another person" because there is no separation. Therefore, if you meet the needs of another person, you are meeting the needs of yourself. There is no difference. So when you are saying "They are so needy!!" ; you are also saying "I am so needy!!!" Because there is no separation.

"Women are more emotional than men" is not a Stage Yellow statement. That is a Stage Blue statement.

Alan Watts says this too. And I have the same question for Alan Watts. haha

There are No Others is a non-duality pointer that scares a lot of people. But really, it is just a more trippy way of saying "Nothing is happening". haha When you hear, there are no others, you might think the movement that you are calling "my mom" or "my friend" or "my brother" disappears. But the movement of what you call "my mom" , "my friend" or "my brother" continues...... but in timelessness. It's not like the body of "your mom" is going to disappear into crystalized pieces like in a sci-fi movie. It's not THAT disturbing. There is only 1 thing. But since it's 1 thing moving....... there is nothing moving at all. haha Some will even say that calling it 1 thing is wrong, and that it is actually 0, but that is a conversation for another day. haha So this stillness is not solid like a rock. This stillness appears to move but it moves in timelessness. This timeless movement can appear as a hug or laughing or smiling or dancing. But this movement is not what the human mind thinks. A hug that happens in timelessness is life hugging itself. A smile that happens in timelessness is life smiling at itself. A dance that happens in timelessness is life dancing with itself. For example, this movement you call "my mom" will still move. But it's not your mom that is moving. LOL It's LIFE that is moving. But YOU (the separate self) cut your mom out of life. That's your creation. The mind creates by cutting things out of life... like clay and molding it and labeling it. So you cut your mom out of wholeness and then label her "my mom". Christmas celebrations with "your mom" might still appear. Hugs with "your mom" may still appear. But you are the creator of the dividing lines which cuts "Christmas" and "Hugs" and "Mom" from the whole. You split out your mom from the whole. You split out hugs from the whole. You split out Christmas from the whole. And the ultimate irony is that this YOU that is splitting things out from the whole and this YOU that is creating things..... is wholeness itself. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with trying to cut your mom out of wholeness and seeing her as a separate person. LOL In order to do this, you first had to cut yourself out of wholeness...... and you see yourself as a separate self. This is fine too. Wholeness (YOU) dividing up wholeness (your mom, your friend, your brother, and even yourself) into separate objects/people = wholeness aka "Nothing is Happening".

Stage Orange is a dream. LOL But even dualistically/relatively speaking , the "no-self" community has transformed a lot recently. People like Emerson from Nothing Media is trying to bring non-duality to the Stage Orange/Yellow audience. They've done a lot to make non-duality appealing to the ego. And many of Anna Brown's videos went viral because she was really skilled at using Instagram, which drew in a ton of Stage Orange people. Before she turned off her comments on the youtube videos, it was a bunch of confused Stage Orange people - I don't know how they stumbled on her videos. haha Jim Newman recently was on the Sam Harris podcast which brought a ton of confused Stage Orange people to his channel. haha Also, have you heard of Andreas Müller? He is like a Rupert Spira for the "no-self" community. His words are like a sharp knife. Very quick witted and original well-thought out responses. Also, non-duality teachers recently are emphasizing a more AJATA-based message. (which I included an image about from Robert Wolf's book "Emptiness". I don't remember such an emphasis on AJATA in the past. This makes the message even clearer to the Western-mind. These are some of my dualistic/relative observations of recent changes in the "no-self" community. haha

I disagree. haha Many stage green, yellow and purple women don't engage in casual sex. (mystics, yogi teachers, Law of Attraction teachers etc.) I follow a lot of these women, and they often post these "why I don't have casual sex" type videos, especially on Instagram. And they often teach about being careful with sharing your body with a man who has a ton of unresolved trauma and shadow - because it will enter into your auric field. haha And many stage blue religious women are worse. They will lead a date already talking about marriage or there will be no 2nd date. There is no mystery or game playing. It's "are you pursuing me for marriage or no 2nd date".

This question is similar to asking "How do I make the snow feel hot?"

"I am good, I am kind, I am selfless. I am virtuous. I am moral." is the Christian viewpoint of God which is different from the non-dual perspective. The non-dual perspective does not split life into organized categories of good and bad or wanted and unwanted.

"How does one _______________" The one in "How does one" is the ego

Your nervous system isn't having it. Implement more self love into whatever you are doing. The nervous system is freaking out because you are moving from a place of lack. Heaven is now. Heaven is not in the future. And anytime, we move from a place of "heaven is in the future", the body releases cortisol.

The appearance of anticipation is also perfect. Waiting for the next sound to come is also perfect.

Because it's even deeper than that. It's not that value is arbitrary. It's that value is inherent. You were born worthy. You were born complete. You were born whole. Nothing you have done, felt, or said ..... has ever modified this, decreased this or changed this. Your value does not increase or decrease. It doesn't move. You are complete and whole.... always was and always will be.

I AM GOD does not mean that "I, the ego, is God". This is a misunderstanding. That's the tricky thing with I AM statements. The ego uses them to clothe itself and create a solid form. And I AM GOD is a huge misunderstanding if the ego grabs unto it for clothing. I AM GOD both includes the ego and is beyond it.

You don't wish for the body to die. You wish for a peaceful mind. The body doesn't have to die for the mind to be still.

All ego minds do this to a certain degree. Just like how we create an image of ourselves in our mind, we also create an image of others in our mind. And we edit the images, add to the images, and rearrange the images constantly. It's essentially an ego image of the external world. Just like how we have a mental ego image of ourselves. We also have mental ego images of other people. This is where a lot of Law of Attraction and trippy Parallel Universe stuff comes in. Where if you can change the ego images that you create of people, then their behavior towards you will often change. Because ultimately, there is no separation. It's quite eery and creepy when you see how it works. haha

I am really interested in the direction that Sam Vaknin is going. He is saying that the cure to narcissism is "nothingness". I don't agree with many of his points but I think it's a good direction to lead the ever-growing narcissism community.

I love him. He has 0% tolerance for the "Ego is my friend" arguments haha

As long as you are seeing, "separate people", then you are experiencing duality and division. It's not the individual "separate people" that have low consciousness. It's the viewpoint of duality that is creating an appearance of clouds. There is no separation. There is actually no conversation happening on the forum. We are all speaking to ourselves

Sometimes it helps when you see the perfection in people, regardless of if they understand non-duality. If you think non-duality will "improve" their life, then it can make you get preachy. But when you realize how perfect they are, regardless of whether or not they get non-duality, you can just chill with them.

There is nothing wrong with this. Only, I am not sure where you are "going back to". You can never arrive at home. And you can never leave home.

This. The love expands to include everything and everyone.

More requires separation.