Brittany

This question is similar to asking "How do I make the snow feel hot?"

"I am good, I am kind, I am selfless. I am virtuous. I am moral." is the Christian viewpoint of God which is different from the non-dual perspective. The non-dual perspective does not split life into organized categories of good and bad or wanted and unwanted.

"How does one _______________" The one in "How does one" is the ego

Your nervous system isn't having it. Implement more self love into whatever you are doing. The nervous system is freaking out because you are moving from a place of lack. Heaven is now. Heaven is not in the future. And anytime, we move from a place of "heaven is in the future", the body releases cortisol.

The appearance of anticipation is also perfect. Waiting for the next sound to come is also perfect.

Because it's even deeper than that. It's not that value is arbitrary. It's that value is inherent. You were born worthy. You were born complete. You were born whole. Nothing you have done, felt, or said ..... has ever modified this, decreased this or changed this. Your value does not increase or decrease. It doesn't move. You are complete and whole.... always was and always will be.

I AM GOD does not mean that "I, the ego, is God". This is a misunderstanding. That's the tricky thing with I AM statements. The ego uses them to clothe itself and create a solid form. And I AM GOD is a huge misunderstanding if the ego grabs unto it for clothing. I AM GOD both includes the ego and is beyond it.

You don't wish for the body to die. You wish for a peaceful mind. The body doesn't have to die for the mind to be still.

All ego minds do this to a certain degree. Just like how we create an image of ourselves in our mind, we also create an image of others in our mind. And we edit the images, add to the images, and rearrange the images constantly. It's essentially an ego image of the external world. Just like how we have a mental ego image of ourselves. We also have mental ego images of other people. This is where a lot of Law of Attraction and trippy Parallel Universe stuff comes in. Where if you can change the ego images that you create of people, then their behavior towards you will often change. Because ultimately, there is no separation. It's quite eery and creepy when you see how it works. haha

I am really interested in the direction that Sam Vaknin is going. He is saying that the cure to narcissism is "nothingness". I don't agree with many of his points but I think it's a good direction to lead the ever-growing narcissism community.

I love him. He has 0% tolerance for the "Ego is my friend" arguments haha

As long as you are seeing, "separate people", then you are experiencing duality and division. It's not the individual "separate people" that have low consciousness. It's the viewpoint of duality that is creating an appearance of clouds. There is no separation. There is actually no conversation happening on the forum. We are all speaking to ourselves

Sometimes it helps when you see the perfection in people, regardless of if they understand non-duality. If you think non-duality will "improve" their life, then it can make you get preachy. But when you realize how perfect they are, regardless of whether or not they get non-duality, you can just chill with them.

There is nothing wrong with this. Only, I am not sure where you are "going back to". You can never arrive at home. And you can never leave home.

This. The love expands to include everything and everyone.

More requires separation.

Tehya Sky wrote this book called "A Ceremony Called Life". The description of the book is "When your Morning Coffee is as Sacred as Holy Water". I haven't finished reading the book (so I can't give a full recommendation) but I think that book was written as a response to your question. haha

"You screwed up" is shame. And shame releases cortisol. The opposite of shame is pride. And pride releases dopamine. If you believe any "shame based" statement , cortisol will be released in the body. And if you believe any "pride based" statement like a praise/compliment ,dopamine will be released in the body. I honestly don't think it gets much deeper than that. LOL You are not WHAT you think. You FEEL what you think. You are not your thoughts. But you EXPERIENCE your thoughts. It is impossible for you to BECOME a thought, label, adjective, sentence, identity or description. What you ARE does not change. Your true nature is untouchable. Only the ego changes into a shame-based identity like a "screw up".' And here is the super scary part!!! haha Your true nature can't change into a "success" or a "winner" either. Only the ego changes into those pride-based identities. "Screw up" and "Success" are both ego based identities.

The incel movement, MGTOW, feminism movement, trad wives, etc. ----- none of these exist in a vacuum and are all connected. And I blame self love for this. haha There is no turning back. The more we move in the direction of self love collectively, the worse it's going to get. Because self love is the end of codependency and pandering to other people's egos --- which used to be the foundation of many male/female relationships. Self Love raises the bar for what both men and women will tolerate from each other.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;" - Proverbs 3:5 "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." - Philippians 4:7 quieting the monkey chatter haha

No. I don't want more from my friends. LOL This reminds of a Benjamin Smythe video. What are you using your friends for? You are using them for something, if you need anything more from them other than a football game and a beer. You want something from them. You are trying to get something. If you need people to intellectually stimulate you or entertain you, that's something you are trying to get. There is nothing wrong with using friends or hanging around like minded people. Or enjoying a deep conversation. But this all serves the ego. On a deeper metaphysical level, other people don't exist as separate from you. Friendship is dualistic division of life and ultimately an illusion. But this goes deep down the rabbit hole. And is another topic altogether.

Pete Docter , producer of Inside Out and Soul, is awakened to the nature of the mind. And he is what I would call a Christian mystic. "To me art is about expressing something that can’t be said in literal terms. You can say it in words, but it’s always just beyond the reach of actual words,." - Pete Docter

Your entire post is the mind pretending that it wants to die. The mind is saying "I couldn't handle my own absence." Well, of course not. You are a fish that is swimming in the truth. You didn't lose the truth. And you can never gain, get or have the truth. And you will never own, cage, hold or capture the truth.

Violence comes from the WIN/LOSE mentality. "If you lose, I will gain." People who live under that mentality, won't necessary like violence, but it will resonate with the chemicals in their psyche.... if that makes any sense. All perceived gains, give off pleasurable chemicals. "Gaining" feels good to the ego. This is why it is recommended to switch to a WIN/WIN mentality. And then violence won't resonate anymore.

THIS.