Galyna

@Emerald Wilkins If I do not sound reasonable about my statements, tell your Ego about Christie Brinkley, she is a good example to follow.

@Philip So get your popcorn ready, sit back and enjoy the show once and for all, god damn ! - that is the hardest thing, because I want to participate in the game.

@Emerald Wilkins Dear Emerald, I really like to read you, because you sound as a very educated young woman, so let me stop by and add to this topic. Preamble: I am 29, also married and have similar fear to yours. What helps me is to think this way: first of all, we worry about something that refers to the future. You are going to change, you are not a constant entity. What worries you right now might not be even actual in 5-10 years. There is no future, and that is why you can not be afraid of what will happen to Emerald when she is 50-60 y.o, because that Emerald will never feel/think the same as one that you know right now. You are not going to be the same person because there is no real centered being to make it happen. Can you grantee even that you will be alive in one year? No. Also, stay present and define the directions of your thoughts. They are just thoughts, thoughts about future that will never happen. Do not trust them and do not let them scary you. Hope it will help you. You are very interesting person, so I am sure by getting older you will be blooming even better Galyna.

Hey Leo, @Leo Gura FYI: What I have noticed today that sometimes forum is down and I have to go on the main page first http://actualized.org/ to open it, because I can not download the page. It happened last week as well. It says page is unavailable. So I thought maybe your IT guys are fixing the bugs. Thank you.

Depends... what field of your life has the priory to improve first? What do you think?

@Sarah_Flagg You can count on me I am in Nashville TN. Shoot me a message when have time, I am open for experiments.

Thank you for your feedback, I was so busy last week that I forgot to reply you back, shame on me I will try to apply your advise, using meditation

I love this one, however, you can not call it "movie" theory of everything from athens https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbh5l0b2-0o

Hello Guys , I would like to hear your opinions. I have this realization that sometimes when I interact with people I lose the sensation of clarity in my awareness. I am sinking in emotions, because I react on external stimuli. I have this feeling that the clarity that I have within me, is like a lake, and when I interact with people, the water becomes muddy, because it is so hard not be involved. However I try to observe my anger/hurt/anxiety. What is the best practice to use to pull myself and not get involved ,when emotions are very strong, just right at that moment? Obviously, we can not do meditation all the time during the day, so? I am not talking about everyday situations, but more about unique moments.

@FindingPeace Our main issue with you here is that somehow we have to organize these “mini I” so they could reach the consent and harmony with each other. Thereby, one ,so called, “I” would not beat another “I” for not being perfect. As we know, we do not have the main Center who is in charge for the stable personality. Dissonance happens when fictional parts of our imaginary entity fight with each other for the main “throne”. Good luck for both of us.

@FindingPeace Thank you for your comment! Funny thing happens here: when I notice my emotion, I start to feel shame and guilt, instead of “giving myself” fully to emotion, I, sometimes, suppress it because of embarrassment. That Alter Ego does not allow me to relax, because it expects certain behavior from me. It considers that after reading and developing myself in this direction, I should not feel the way I do toward people. It does not happen to me all the time, but I just noticed it two days ago when talking to my friend. I felt irritation while our conversation. “The voice” came out accusing me of my ugly reactions. I did not have a chance to work with it, because I concentrated on the guilt part.

@FindingPeace I forgot to add you in my comment

Thank you for your explicit explanation. I absolutely agree with you. But I still deem it necessary to add that there is always room for love and compassion, with regards of matters and opinions. We are all surrounded by children, we still love them no matter what, even we they can not understand and grasp maturity. There is no way I say that we have to be superior to people who is not on the path to self-development. But let’s be honest, real maturity, that is different from adolescence, starts from acceptance of your environment.

@99th_monkey You, guys, rock! @Henri

@Deutsche22 Hello there I think the right approach to avoid suffering and loneliness is to understand human nature. You do not need to turn people down just because they do not share your view points. What you can do instead is to put yourself in their shoos, trying to see the reason that is hidden behind it. Otherwise we will be doomed for solitude. It is possible to live among various people and be happy. World is beautiful because of its variety.

@Leo Gura Hey Leo, Thank you for pointing me in the right direction and I appreciate your feedback . I feel like it is similar to the idea of yours in that video that I love about present moment From all my heart, I wish you would create more videos about time/space reality, especially about present moment. I will be waiting. Thank you

I wonder about it why? It is so scary and I do not want to be thirty in couple of weeks

@Khin Dear Khin, First of all, I have already read similar ideas to yours in another sources of information. Do I have to agree with it? Not necessarily. After pondering and reading about cause&effect theme, I came to a conclusion that it is an element of human psyche. It is a survival mechanism of our consciousness. Would we survive in chaos? No. We have to live in illusion of predetermined order, so deception with, so called, past/present/future could exist in the first place. Past exists because everything that happened are disappearing away. Time never stop, means things never stop changing. (Changing = Reincarnation) = (Death & birth). Karma = Action = Reaction. Past exists only in your current thoughts, as well as future does. Not need to believe here, try to find past on your own? What is it? A place? An object? A point of reference? Thank you.

@Cuzzo Way to go! Thank you for the response. I usually compare it with a cloud. When I am under the affect of emotions, I feel like I am in a big cloud, because loosing the sensation of clarity. For the past years I showed a good trait in recognizing the emotion, give it a label and observing it, but if it's really really strong, I might fail the practice

@FindingPeace Disclaimer: Sometimes when I am in a fury (and by nature I am very emotional) I forget about Erhard Werner and his methodology.

Thank you FindingPeace , “What I do is to allow myself to notice my response…” Are you familiar with EST (Erhard Seminars Training)? Basically what they were claiming there on those trainings is to closely watch your reactions/emotions to the events. By the fact of the observation you can “melt” the emotion itself. You give the emotion your full attention and live through it entirely. Luke Rhinehart described this method in his book “The Book of est”. I love the method, but he was not the first, of course, (I mean Erhard Werner) who gave birth to this methodology. I read the book in one breath. P.S. I am sorry for the delay in my response, trying to catch up.

@werlight Thank you for the video, I will watch it now

@cetus56 There is no after/before thing

@werlight Thank you for your feedback, however, movement can not exist separately from time: in order for movement to happen, it has to have point a and point b, space per se. Albert Einstein called it space-time, they go in bundle and are not separable. My point of view on the whole reincarnation thing is that there are only two states of being. - Well, Unity by default, is a set of everything. When we are pure awareness we can either stay in pure awareness or take form again.- Again, you are assuming that there is time and choice for someone to make. We decide. What do you mean "we"?

Guys, I have a question for you.... How is it possible for reincarnation to happen if time is only illusion. For reincarnation to happen it should be past and future. There is no past, present and future, time is illusion, look at it from this perspective now. what do you see? @AngeArthur @Khin @cetus56 @werlight