Galyna

Depression always happens to "someone" who has a personal history that is stretched in a linier time. (Talking from my personal experience. ) None of this is true, and you can see it on your own. You are not a human being with a personal history and a time line. Little exercise: if "you" do not have a past nor a future, would you be depressed?

If I convey to a person a simple idea that everything he does will be guaranteed to be destroyed, and no one needs what he does and what he lives for, then he will develop apathy and motivation will disappear. Why? Because a person lives in his head. Meanings determine his actions. If I tell my child the same thing about his sandcastle, he will say, “Well, I’ll build a new one.” And when I invite the child to go for a walk, he will forget about his castle and say, “Yes, let’s go for a walk.” It means that old meanings were destroyed, but new ones were not created. But a man continues to determine his actions by concepts... But the old ones are gone. Here we sit and don’t understand where to go. People don’t get out of depression because they constantly spin their lives in their heads, they don’t want to get out of there. Real life is in sensations, feelings, spontaneous actions that often determine momentary desires. Meanings are also important, but they complement this life, and do not determine it. To put it simply, use less brain power. If bad thoughts come into your head, then take a vacuum cleaner and vacuum. Do the cleaning. Go out to the park. Register on a dating site. Buy a balloon and give it to the first child you come across. Have a fight with child’s mom. I do not you, know name it.... While you are sitting tightly in your head, you have not yet begun to practice. Attention should be in feelings.

Protect from what?

Ignorance....

Please use comas, I haven’t understood anything you wrote.

The majority of the time, women need emotional bond and connection. Please for God’s sake don’t trust when women say that they don’t need anything but sex. We all want to be loved by the men. All the girls want a fairy tale but when we grow older we want to seem independent and strong enough so men don’t take advantage of our weaknesses. All the women dream of love, some of them repress it so badly so that they lie to themselves. Guys, I have so many friends who bought two townhomes, have money, travel around the world and still unhappy because guess what? Because they all want a nice fairy tale. And a lot of time they buy pets to just have a purpose to live. Women can have sex for sex, but they won’t be satisfied with occasional dick who just f… them for one night! Period! I don’t care what Leo says to you, or what your girls say to you. Women always want to feel safe and have security. Period!

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Nicely said…🙏

@Yousif You too! 😊

Yes, I understand what you are saying. I agree.

Oh me, it gets personal, ahahaha, like we know each other for a long time 😂, so funny. I like it. Drama! 😂 I don’t know his opinion about women, I don’t even know this guy! I don’t have any opinion about men, people are different. why do you think I lump you in with that person?! It seems like you got offended.

@Squeekytoy why? 😂

Leave sex alone. It has its purpose and needs. I was talking about seeing the other as you. I was talking about my article and that response was given to a lady who commented on it.

Good job! however, the next realization, right around the corner is to see that there is no”you”. No you as God, no you as others, no you as space! Reality doesn’t need to have an owner. It happens to no one!

If you exhibit unethical activity or a type of behavior, and then calling other people “fools”, it only suggests that you don’t have enough maturity nor intelligence to build authentic connection with others. And because you don’t know how, you are using the primitive techniques to involve others in your agenda. Simple as that.

@Princess Arabia Only a few people will ever experience this type of bond in their life. Unfortunately, the majority of people seeing sex as a fun game. It requires a certain type of awareness to see its magical properties. ❤️🙏

I’d suggest you study what manipulation is as it is not so straightforward and direct. It is based on lies and deceptions, misrepresentation of self image and so on and so forth.

It is a hard core manipulation wrapped in a nice cover. You do not need to get anything from anyone.

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@Princess Arabia @Yousif @Squeekytoy A year ago I made this post where I have describe my vision of sexual intimacy. This is how I think it should be:

@Squeekytoy after decent amount of years in marriage, they are 38 now. 😂

I didn’t say a word about marriage, we were talking about one night stand, barely knowing the person. Some people here think it is normal to have sex with strangers. I disagree. I don’t see anything normal in it. I guess as you age, your priorities start to change in life. When you are young and silly, you might do strange things. As you grew old, you start to appreciate high quality connections with people based on your inner feeling of joy and wholeness.

This thread has triggered me. I will be honest. Because one man gives another man an advice based on their masculine vision of sex. It is like my girlfriend told me, her husband pulled his erected dick in front of her in hope she will be excited by it. Really? Men think and judge us according to them.

89% of my girlfriends are like this, I was like this myself, I feel very very sad for anyone who has sex without romantic bond connection, without love. It feels very empty and mechanical. I am talking here from all my heart. I've been in both boats. Talking from my own life experience.

I was talking about one night stand, like seeing a guy for the first time in her life, a guy who approaches you on the street or in a club. Sorry, I was not talking about mundane daily life. Not even all the men would want that, majority of men will want, but not all.