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@StarStruck Yeah... nightgame is another different beast. I am not saying is easier or more difficult than daygame. But yeah it´s more energy-based than daygame. (And more harsh rejections happen too.)

Phenibut is like x10 times better than alcohol. You are even more joyful, social Problem is it can become addictive for some people and it can give some stomach issues for some people if you eat anything during the duration. But dude I have felt like A Master Pua when phenibut has really kicked in sometimes. I don´t take it anymore because I feel I need to become good at this sober because at the end of the day I want heal myself of anxiety and all of that.

@soos_mite_ah I don´t think I´m an introvert. When I feel "safe" with some particular friends or family, I´m expressive, high-energy, joyful. Overall Deep down I want to talk and express myself like crazy but I have social anxiety in some situations and fear of expressing and asserting myself. So everybody thinks I´m an "introvert". Which makes it even more frustrating because deep inside I want to explode. I just don't allow it myself.

@JonasVE12 You have like read my mind today. This was exactly what I have "sensed" in how the work it´s going to be after yesterday's night. Looks grueling work af but at least I have a clear vision of how the work is going to be from now on.

@Someone here I think you need to do an effort now to actually try to see the root of that anxiety. I mean I also can experience generalized anxiety, but it´s clear now for me THE REASON of it. You really don´t know the "behind" of that palpitations or racing thoughts? Really? Nothing? Because if you are not experiencing any kind of mental images or thoughts, then how do even feel "bad" ? Does your anxiety make you constricted in the body, makes you move/jittery? What exactly?

Jesus... 2 years of this. (or more ) Yeah... now I definetely get why I never got much results/growth the last 5-6 years. Yes, it does feel like that man. And personally it feels that it´s a mountain that have never been crowned and one doesn't know if it´s humanly possible to arrive at the peak. @Leo Gura But I guess I need to have trust that somefuckinghow I will get there if I put a tremendous amount of work.

I am not asking because of monk or ascetism ideloogy. The last 7 days, i have been abstaining from using porn, scrolling Twitter and scrolling Instagram. What i have felt is like 50% of my mental issue of anxiety/feeling weird/no energy, have completely dissappeared doing those 3 simple things. My motivational drive have been through the roof. I have also started meditating. Anyways, yesterday night i was kind of depressed i didnt go out and also horny as fuck, so i thought fuck It Im just going to relapse. I tried It to make It as short as possible, try to binging as little as posible in that dopamine mechanism. Once i masturbated i found out that any kind of sexual stimulation that is fake, in the same way as social media, FUCKS UP YOUR DOPAMINE SYSTEM. In the same way when i cant scroll through Twitter or Instagram, i find myself pushed to go out to feel well, if you Dont make your sexual sistem"learn" that It can get pleasure on a fake way (masturbation porn) It Will 100% be pushed to go out and 1). Approach as Girls as are neccesary 2) become the testosterone men "get the shit done" to be abe to do this. I have find that in this 7 days of increased testosterone, this hormone is so powerful It doesnt Care about my identitiy of nice Guy, It has completely overpowered that identitiy. Which makes me feel quite Happy ?. So anyways after this LONG POST SORRY, i wanted to Ask, when i relapse Next time, IS there any info in.how to bring yourself to release withouth the least possible pleasure and withouth thinking in sexual fantasy stuff? I want It to be as changning the oil. Robotic, mechanic, asthetic. I want to make my Brain learn the love and experiences are out there, not in a fucking screen ?‍♂️?‍♂️?‍♂️? PD; I have also to add that thanks to no fapping, i def felt my testosterone raising to levels that i havent ever seen in my normal life, some examples, i felt much more violent and "get the shit done", i also lifted weights which i never do. In regards to sexual/attraction Desire to the opposite sex, It felt like mini orgasm through my soul each time i Saw a Hot Girl on the street, But this also frustrates you to the point of going crazy, But the idea about this is that you end Up approaching her because of this.

Hahahaha wait when you have spent 1K on findom buddy. That would put things on perspective on how meaningless a damn cup of coffee is. Woah that's a serious master level PUA technique you got there Nahm. Not only you get the coffee free but you have a excuse to go back to her place! @Nahm

I can think about 3-4 girls this has happened me with. I think it happens when the following 3 things happen, particularly when my brain sees them as: attractive potential partners I am way too attached in how they perceive me I just had this 5-min conversation with a girl I share flat with (I know, it's not such a good idea to mix men/women in a flat but she wasn't here when I moved so I find a little bit too exaggerated to just move because she's here Lol) (honestly everything have good, I try to not do much talking in order to not develop sexual tension or weird attachment). So this energy is really fucking fucked up. Because when I have anxiety I more or less can see "the thoughts" that create the anxiety. But this constriction stuff is literally in the body/it´s appearing in the now, even though I really do not fucking think, I just feel really fucking weird ,like I can´t stop moving how I am positioning my hands (I guess because I am auto-analyzing myself how is she perceiving me?¿), or (and this is weird) I do not know if how am I seated is how I want to be, it's like I forget what is my true "free will" and suddenly I find myself thinking if I would be really be seated like this if I would be alone. I can't stop thinking also: "am I seating/positioning my head/hands correctly or am I doing it in a weird way and she is noticing??" And when I start talking to her I also weirdly become super excited in a weird way I become too nervous and words just don't come up as relaxed as with other person I might talk to. I find hard also to talk slow with her. Also, it might be important, the first weeks when I would talk to her this didn't happened in this extreme way, I wasn't that self conscious. So basically my anxiety has gone "worse" with this girl. It's because I developed attachment? But why? I don't have any feelings or anything else towards the girl Lol. I just have deep attachment in how she perceives me I guess?¿ By the way, all of that I have described is not related exclusively to this girl, it has happened always (in more or less degree) with the other 3-4 girls I've met in my life that weirdly they "trigger" this constricted/fucked up energy in me.

Earplugs are for poor people. Use AirPods Pro!

I would have just let the issue go. Also regarding the kiss I think the problem is just a lack of leadership and assertiveness which stems from lack of masculine energy. I think You are doing well. You just have to go full-throttle on to that masculine energy.

I struggle with this... any advice? Plenty plenty of girls nowadays in the comercial areas of my city. Honestly! A ridiculous amount of girls in the 19:00-20:00 time, it even hurts of how many Lol.. But no balls to approach so far

Of course everybody has an unique style and that would be THE BEST STYLE. Trying to "copy" full cliché outfits will just make you appear as a man with zero social calibration of fashion. You just have to connect to your feminine / creative energy in that aspect, there's no way around it. Some guys will fit more Italian, others American, etc. If you can't look good on an ermenelgildo jacket and some indigo replay jeans you are basically fucked.

+1. I don't say it for the OP because I don't know him so I can't judge by his posts (I also haven't read this post completely). But I fall / have fallen into similar "issues" and I particularly have one "bad record" (which fortunately didn't end up in legal charges or problems) with a girl some years ago that it might have ended very, very, very bad (for both parts). Fortunately I had a lot of luck, and fortunately in this years I´ve woken up to the fact it's me (my mind) so I can't anymore be much bitter or judge anybody. But it was not like that in the past. And woah, I really dodge a bullet there. But anyways is that pain and fucked up situations that also wake you up. So I guess everybody has to pass through it. (Just don't kill yourself or kill somebody in the process Lol)

@aurum Thanks man, but tbh, I´ve already done that "indirect approach" "get into state" technique, plenty of times I think. And yeah, it makes you feel better, but at the end I just become comfortable to it and end up not doing proper approaches. I´ve gone out 3-4 times with "wings" but they are as unexperienced as me. And it was nighttime, we opened sets but I don't think its the same "real deal" as daygame. (Girls are so so so closed on nighttime in my opinion. Seems way more difficult for a beginner). And now that winter comes nightgame will be less easy to do also. So far this last couple of days I´ve worked on being on the body and less on the mind. I try to become comfortable moving my body, trying to not being "self conscious". Because today I saw walking by me a couple of times 2 girls that I liked to approach, and it came the time to obviously run a little bit to catch them up, and I couldn't because I felt "self conscious" that people would see a guy running down the street and judge me (I am working on letting go of this self-conscious thoughts and being more in the body/present). What do you think? @aurum Thanks for the rest of tips I will definitely try to be more social overall, and currently Im setting up a meditation habit. I also I am beginning to be "better" at conversations by feeling the body and being in the now that way I am not lost of thoughts of "how am I looking?" "what image am I displaying?" "is he/she judging me?" etc.

I have removed a lot of distractions and I finished some addictions last week. Overall I feel better, more productive and more focused + motivated to go eat life... however, I have also realized, this doesn't give me joy. It just gives me relief that if I "sort out" stuff in life, like, career and personal development the next years, I will stop suffering so much. So my motivation is completely animalistical. Fucking depresses me that I will spend maybe the next 5 years just trying to get by in life , constantly trying to sort out the stuff I lack, in what it seems an overwhelming, long, dull errand which I don't have fun. I think the only moments I do experience some relief (now that I quit my regular addiction which used to provide me with that relief) is when I meditate. Some days I concentrate and in the middle of that boring nothingness, ironically life gets really fun. It's like... duh... can't I have some joy ?? I mean I don't think that I need to be in an amusement park. I just want to feel happy and joyful doing life. Like, I could be working on my career, and not getting stressed about trying to get a job in the sector before its loo late. I could be going out , and instead of trying to be so alfa, perfect and serious, try to laugh my ass off and express with joy and exuberance each interaction with each human being that I like. But no, everything is sooo fucking serious. Everything is at stake. My suffering is at stake. Me trying to sort out my personal shit is a stake. Each is one day less I have before my ego its 100% closed and I will forever be my faulty "me". (Not my succesful me). So everything is at stake. For the ego, each day it's a race. No day has joy. Only few moments, seconds, which are of course appreciated as pure gold. It's so ridiculous

Jesus christ bro you have to once and for fucking all bite the "bitter" bullet that women are not angels or superior beings and they are just survival animals like us (men). Actually inspect why you feel is "bad" that "women reward fuckbois". Look, Sex is fucking low conscious as is eating, or taking a shit. It's selfish. It's not moral, it's not non-duality, it's A GAME. And it's a selfish game. Play it, or not. But stop bitching. (I say this with all my heart, since I lately see you are doing a lot of work on this would you don't still let go of your ego and the beliefs of how the game "should be" ).

In my higuest vision at home when i listen to music Im passionate about, i envision all kind of scenarios i would like to create and film, i would like to make videos on the street, integrating music, real interactions, real stories, and finally if i am Able to include It for the masses, bring the non dual knowledge ending into a perfect singularity of music, soul, and truth of creation. My soul vibrates with love and fullness when i envision this. However when i am at the street i Dont even remember this sensation, this motivation, this vision, i have difficulty to even put my body into doing some basic simple approaches to women i like. I do think pickup, in addition to its function to complete my healing and actualizing my masculine side and healing wound of separation, Will also be an important part in gaining confidence, natural vibe, and calibration to truly be able to accomplish the kind of videos i want to make. But even that is taking so much time that i expected. Basically the issue i am reporting is that at home i feel like everything is Safe, and i can be myself, and when i am out i am inside my head , constricted, ...etc i Dont even feel What i am envision is possible, or if its even worth It to do It , in the streets everything seems so violent and agressive. Maybe i should move of city or country.

When you are with a Group of people, do you regularly check your own thoughts to check if they are all right/Ok with the situation you are in, or do you let yourself lose almost completely and do not CONTROL What you are going to say? How many times you find yourself having an idea of a thought of saying something, But Dont say It because you judge It in some way and remain silent? Do you find yourself feeling you are not saying much while other people seem to have no problem in speaking their mind chilled and relax with no apparent fear of "repercussion"?

Dude, theres no such a thing as an "attractive Style". Your clothing must represent your attitude, vibe and soul. Once you learn that you Will naturally Will dress like you want, which is just congruent with Who you are.

@Federico del pueblo right. That makes sense. I think you hit the nail there pretty good

@Average Investor I am kinda tired of shadow work, introspection and psychs. It just more ego games. IME, Sure, its trauma, but its not a trauma that you just "sort out". I think I've done my fair share of "healing" from my house, but now its time to compliment it with real action and reference experiences. But I appreciate your post, I just think right now it will be more helpful to focus more in action, meditation, letting go, silencing the mind, and less on personal-story attachments of "I need to sort this out" , "I" have trauma...etc. @Nahm

@BreakingthewallYYou hit the nail ? completely agree. I Will follow that plan.

@Space Come to Barcelona, is cheaper than london we can rent a place and teach me Lol

Good advice, but if a begginner does that, she will practically call the police of how creepy the guy is being. Now, done by an experience PUA, the technique might be a whole different ballpark, as you said body energy, confidence, vocality...etc I dont doubt this technique can be powerful. It´s just one of those advanced "vibing" techniques, which requires state, embodyment...etc. It can take some time to get there. How much daygame have you done?