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@Tristan12 I get What you mean, and there are some points that I agree (or I would used to agree) with in this your last post. But consider: "What if the endless narrative of 'i need to solve the underlying root issue' is actually a mechanism of the mind to not accept that the "Next step" might actually become confortable with stepping into tension, and overall, vibrating in more masculine type of energies"? (This IS just an example Regarding social anxiety) For example, a guy that has never approached a Hot girl and wants to learn pick Up might think "oh man, I would really want be totally healed as a man or be like that Guy that has approached 3000 Girls, so I can approach her Absolutely calm and Safe like i would Talk to my grandma". Yet What the newbie might be missing is that this phase of Life might require to let go of wanting the "safe-nice-calm-femenine" energy to be the whole of your reality, and actually become confortable (literally re-contextualize It in your karmic body as "good") with tension and resistance. What i am suspecting lately is that social anxiety is a lack of integration (and love) of masculine energies, and over exageration of femenine energy in your karmic body. A lot of growth is Lost because there is this belief that masculine energies are bad .

Watch Sadghuru please. Guys we have to stop this victimhood mentality towards the Monster (or inner Child, which is an eufemism of the Monster to protect itself ?). Sadghuru says It pretty clear imo: "What has happened is that your intelligence has turned against you" "If you had the controls of this machine, wouldnt you create the best possible bliss for yourself?" Imagine Sadghuru crying like a bitch hoping to finally "heal his inner Child" muahahhaha its just ridiculous guys. We are NOT the inner Child. We are not whatever fucked Up bullshit mechanism has taken the controls through the years. Just take the controls and generate / create What you want. YES, its obviously better said than done, But no, lets stop feeding this narrative of "i have to take Care of "my" inner Child"). Sadghuru would laugh of having to heal any inner Child. He just get high AF when he wants because he has the controls. Hes not the Monsters bitch, as many of us are.

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No, you clearly are infering things that you Dont know. I've been diagnosed by my therapist as having social anxiety, so one of the "measures" I use to see if I am doing actual progress or not, is seeing how do I feel in certain social situations. Do i feel contracted or expanded? Do i feel inside my head or in my body? Do i feel this overall shame/akwardness energy, or this light/good feeling energy? Do i constantly thinking when i am in social situations "am i behaving in a correct manner/not weird" or i am just relaxed and doing What i want? And of course, do I have to "push myself" to Talk to people or do I Effortlessly Talk to people out of pure genuine desire/wanting. And What happens is that since 2 months ago I've been going out consistently and for the first time I am finding relief and feeling at last like "normal" around people. Basically What a small of benzo or phenibut would make me feel, But I am in that state now "naturally" with this routine. Guess What, something that years reading books, doing trips, listening to self proclaimed self help gurus, youtubers, introspection, and a lot more of new age theories didnt do. So excuse me if i am skeptic of this approach you are saying is the "neccesary" to do. Meanwhile years pass and there is a high Risk Life Will get more crude if I keep playing this pussy ego Game of always AVOIDING ACTION and wanting Life to be easy and handed to me.

Imo anti anxiety medication is only worth It as an ocasional thing. For long term solution I see It as a terrible mistake.

Right. I forgot about that :facepalm: WoW thanks for the info. Very useful

I Dont like It because i Dont like to behave like a bartard. But the hard Truth is that you Dont got game/are socially anxious drinking Will get you more results than not drinking anything

@Nahm That´s interesting. I was reflecting some weeks ago that, yeah, indeed, the "monster" is already another 'story'. It's ultimately false, YES, but I need it , it's a false pilar to construct the life I want. You don't get it (please don't take it the bad way, you have helped me a lot ): I can meditate everything I can but one day I might be in a situation and experience bad feelings/emotions/energy and that's it. Again the "monster" got me. It's still there. Behind me. Inside me. For example, people that have PTSD could meditate and let of of all the thoughts they want but if (for example) they are driving and hear a small explosion of a firecracker that might get almost a heart attack). That's the 'monster' inside them. They can become very "thought-free' but the PTSD is inside and it will still get triggered. (In this sense, I agree with @Tristan12 . I just don't agree with you buddy in the way that I can "make peace with the monster". I think I just have to declare it war for ever) In the same way of the PTSD, @Nahm in my case I have a different type of monster. And If I ignore it (let of of the "monster story") it won't disappear. Then why doing several psychedelic trips, going to therapy, introspecton, etc...haven´t healed my monster and yet going out and socialize each day (with no thinking, idea of "healing", etc) has been the only way that has provided me relief and hope I will be free of this? (I am actually free each day for some time already). @Tristan12 Seems that when I go out it´s just me creating what I want, elevating my energy to a one of creation/power/freedom. In this energy, 'healing', 'inner child', 'emotions' etc seem like doesn't match with this new energy. It seems these are concepts of egos that are stuck in lower energies. In my view, IT´s a all a story that God is imagining. God is imagining energies, and also concepts and words related to this energies. Such as that a concept of "healing" , "shadow" or "trauma" only matches a story of victimhood and stuckness. Which are concepts that match low vibrations such as unworthiness, impotence, frustration...etc In my theory , to actually "heal", you literally have to let go of the narrative that you need to heal. So basically what I am saying is that in a sense, your perspective of healing it is crucial and useful at some point in the road, but at some other point later it might have to be let go of.

damnnnn . I'm already seeing tickets... what's the best season of the year to go Kiev? ?

Not inherent worth. They have more worth "relatively" in the world of dating and attraction towards men. In the same sense a pro PC gamer has more worth than a 60 year old granny in counter strike. There are some girls that can be total douchebags, of course. But most of 9s and 10s show that behavior as a test to for selection. The fact that you get emotional triggered from her games already tells her that you are needy and not enough grounded for her. Like I said, it's a "preconfigured" attitude they usually have because they get approached so much and are desired by so many. But that's still rating them. See, you do it like everybody else. There are 9s and 10s that are not arrogant , haughty or go into surgery. Last 9 I met was into non-duality, very compassionate/intuitive, was a healthy girl (do daily exercise) and was a nurse. Careful with the stereotypical beliefs. She's going to be very selective in regards to sex, however. It doesn't matter. The Sex game is a selfish and biased game. That doesn't have anything to do with attraction and dating girls. You can have all the compassion and love in the world but that won't get you girls. Although having that in top of having game would make you more interesting high quality man for some girls definitely.

??? @Vrubel Your advice is good But i Think radical honestly can also be abused and be counterproductive. At the end of the day, probably the best attitude to have on a date is not have an attitude. Game, not neediness, being you...etc if something really honest arises, sure why not...But i Dont agree in paying It like a "Card" yes or yes

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Loved the pictures! Answering your questions, no , It doesnt feel like a separate entity. I basically name "The Monster" anything that happens in my Life which has this taste of self defeating/self hate/anxiety/unworthiness etc... Each thought, belief, perspective, emotion, body feeling, etc that has any of these "tastes" its the Monster acting on me and throwing me a punch. And when i act on my true desires and inner good feelings no Matter What the Monster Tells me, thats me throwing a good punch to the Monster ????? I agree. And how do i usually feed It? by accepting non-inspected Beliefs? @Nahm

Because sometimes I have online meetings.

I know remote working is a privilege, first because of saving so much time of commute and second of commodity (i can Fix myself proper meals, or even take a nap if i need It). However i work in a small cubicle of a room with NO NATURAL LIGHT lmao, so basically 8 hours there + 8 hours sleeping. And one of my goals for this year and upcoming is socialize a lot more. Currently i am making sure I am out at least 3 hours i day. In weekends i try to do more of course. It helps But still sometimes when i go back home i have this thought of "here we go again to the prison cubicle until Next day by 5-6pm ?") Any additional advice guys?

I like that phrase. ☄️?? I suspect It might have a bit of Truth to It

Hahaha yes, It was a typo ?

What typo you mean ? ?

Nice ? This is good timing since recently I've started to become interesting on writing my ideas/insights a little bit each day (even though its been just a journal tho'). Going to do some of that exercise now : )

Sorry guys, i appreaciate your answers and Im open minded to discussion But guys, @Tristan12 @ted73104 How isn't all of this new age parroting of the classical "accept yourself", "love your shadows", and of course the typical "you are guilty". Read/listen to high Consciousness individuals such as Shunyamurti, Sadghuru, Tolle, or even Nahm here. They Will never Tell you "you are the Monster" or "you hate yourself". They actually always teach about separating Who you really are from the shadows/identity of the Monster. (The ego, in other words). One of Sadghurus famous explanations of Enlightment is "when you can separate from your intellect, the possibilities are endless". See, I've done a shit ton of work Regarding "healing", "accepting my shadow", and crying like a bitch, in Psychedelics and What not. And you know What I think about It?, That is all the same Game, It never ends. The ego loves to feel special/hurt etc and It Will re-live this BS of shadow/healing/hate etc for ever. All Im saying is, maybe things doesnt work the way It works. You might not agree with me, But actually contemplate if Sadghuru would ever Tell a narrative of victimhood in regards to the Monster (like the one you guys are making, believe It or not), or at the other hand he would preach that What i am is always free and powerful Now. You Dont even have to go Sadghuru, just read Nahm's posts around here, they never have this new age victimhood taste narrative, But one of empowerement. And also, to me What you guys are saying is mumbo Jumbo. I Dont see any practical advices. Hope you take this message with a grain of salt, It goes with love and respect.i do appreaciate your help anyways.

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Their cities might be 'boring' and lack history, but unlike a lot of big cities in europe (and asia even more) that a lot of people live crammed in mouse-trap-like buildings sorrounded by constant cars/traffic, stores, dogs (LoL) (basically all kinds of stress factors, also POLLUTION) ) , when I click in google street view in usa in basically literally any damn street of any city, there´s this abismal space between houses and trees everywhere. This kind of housing, which seems like its normal in USA, it´s considered very, very high end/luxury to afford in European big cities (I imagine asian cities too). Things that usa cities have that are a privilege in most part of the world: 1. Space 2. Clean air 3. Lack of noise stress/ pollution Any other things that usa cities-arquitecture rocks over the rest of the world ? Never been there but seems like an amazing country. Also it seems its always sunny LOL

You can do both, buddy. Set aside 2 hours a day just going out in the street and practicing getting to a social mood.

Since I Dont drink coffee Im experiencing extreme non-interest for porn and sex, especially porn. Today i just forced myself to FAP because i felt i needed. With most Boring and vanilla video i could find. At the end i actually enjoyed It. HOWEVER, its been +2 hours since I did and i feel dead tired, its like my whole body aches a little, ESPECIALLY I have this feeling of constantly wanting to stretch my legs, i fucking always get this uncomfortable feeling after I fap (and It doesnt go away until 3 hours after fapping). Could someone Tell me if this might be an indicator of a nutrient deficiency or something like that?