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Every communication is a manipulation. People talk to each other in order to get something, like information, resources, good mood, fun.
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There is a video already. Fellas like how a girl looks, they like her boobs and ass. Gals like humor and confidence. There is no love. People who unconsciously have it take that as "True Love".
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@MonikaBcn My health and hygiene is ok, beleive me. Maybe your woman advices don't cost anything.
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@MonikaBcn Last girl I talked with is a dancer. I am very interested in dancing. Very curious and passionate. After 5th question in a row she put me in a black list. How that is supposed to work? It's not just a case, it's more like a rule. People don't like questions. They like listening, they like stories and entertainment.
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@Olafur Thorsteinsson I was always wondering what so many success guys are doing on forums like that?
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@Ludwig Sorry not helpful at all. I will keep my 10 grands.
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@Blessed81 Dude, you are totally missing the point. I don't have a problem with meeting new people. I could get thousands that like me at first. The problem is communication. How to make them stay with you more than one date. The topic is about Talking About Bullshit but not about common dating problems. I copied text from this book. See? There is no magic girl that we need to find that would like you, the one who you are right now. That's a bullshit. Everybody responds the same to the same stimula. The guys that can talk a lot just go to the top girls and get them.
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@Blessed81 Dude, that's the same shit. Same shitty advice "Make her laugh" How fuck on Earth to do that? That's the point!
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Men, I would pay $10 000 somebody to teach me that. But there are only bullshit advices like "be confident "and "talk from your heart")
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Pushing myself doesn't help. Over the last years I talked to thousands of people. But it's getting worse. I feel literraly strong pain when it comes so say something. Absolute mind paralysis. "Say some nonsense", well that's the problem. That is to creative for me. You are suggesting to show high level of non-care. For a good conversation it is forbidden to say about problems, fears and anxieties, nerdy things, irrelevant topics to the situation and interests of a man you are talking to. Therefore there are some criteria for conversation. It's not a nonsense. There is a special purpose. What is it? @Leo Gura Well this one is funny) But what if he is silent? Or asks What's the point? How to develop this topic? How to come up with these? I suffer with strong mind irritation when it comes to me to generate something like that.
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How actualy it may help?
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I have been suffering with this problem for more than 10 years but has not reached any result. I can not figure out what to talk about in a conversation! That's why I never had any friends or a girlfriend. Whatever help I received, whether it is the psychologist or a book, all that they say - you are introvert, your are shy, you have low self-esteem, you don't need much communication. But the truth is that I really can not realize what to say! How to generate contents. Exact words. I need not just philosophical matters about social communication. But exact mechanism. Abstract advices like "listen", "be more friendly" don't help. LOL. Phychologists or self-help book authors think I am hostile) There is no anything that far more than this bullshit. If I meet a new person, I can ask him what he does for a living, what he likes, where did he studied, where he was born. But this is enough only for a couple of hours of talk. After that I just do not understand what else I can ask, because neither my life or his changes. Even after many months. When I worked at 9/5 job in the office, I had to avoid sitting with my сolleagues, because of awkward silences. I didn't know what to say, besides "How are you?". People just respond "everything is ok, nothing new". Talking about news, politics or soccer is like dead topic to me. So emotionally far . I understand that it is necessary to make people happy, to tell interesting and funny stories as others do, but I do not know where to take them. Or just have fun and talk any nonsense. I can not understand how to do it. I'm desperately want to socialize. Cannot understand what to do. Please help.