LordFall

Most dating frustration on this forum boils down to one fundamental bottleneck: a near-total breakdown in basic problem-solving. When an obstacle hits, solving it takes actual intellectual and emotional effort. Blaming an entire gender is free and low effort. In our society: Men blame women for being "entitled" or "hypergamous" instead of examining their own lack of competence, social leverage, or attractive qualities. Women blame men for being "emotionally unavailable" when the breakdown often stems from poor communication and uncommunicated expectations. Problem solving is a deep skillset that will help both single people but also people already in relationships to deepen their appreciation of their partner as they learn how to remove problems in their relationships. It's quite hard because it requires both left and right brain capabilities in terms of a deep understanding of emotions and how they manifest when a problem occurs as well as the analytical process to figure out potential solutions to throw at the issue until it's fixed. Some examples of how a lack of problem solving skill manifests in someone's life: habitual victimization, blaming the other gender for your personal dating problems, over emphasis on narrow issues without understanding the greater picture, addiction to negativity, escapism and many more. You could even go as far as to define someone's value by their ability to solve problems in their own life and, more importantly, for others. Conversely, a person of low value is someone who can't solve problems. Even worse, they usually end up creating new ones for themselves and everyone around them!

I don't think that the male burden of competence has anything to do with women, it's mostly natural selection and tribe dynamics. If you don't offer value to the tribe and help it solve our collective problems then you will not benefit much from our collective blessings. I also felt some resentment towards the whole when I hadn't found a good way to develop my skillset and ability to build a powerful income on my terms. I don't have it fully figured out but life is starting to feel more and more like a pleasant adventure rather than a series of challenges imposed on me which is how I felt about it beforehand. I recommend you introspect on your strengths and how they can give you leverage into the market as a whole and it'll find its way toward giving you more abundance in the dating market as well.

You already explained it yourself a few posts up: you admitted you like to "weaponize curiosity" and that throwing out a radioactive label like that was just a "gamble" to see if you could bait a reaction. That’s textbook weaponized empathy. Pretending you’re offering someone "harsh care" and an "open door," only to drop extreme accusations out of sheer boredom because your armchair psychoanalysis didn't land the first time, is what looks slimy. There's no insight there, just 2 bored dudes saying weird shit in different ways.

The goal should be to add value to people's lives that you encounter. @Monster Energy seems to have a lack of belief in his own value so he constantly tests it against the world both with the polarizing threads that he posts here and likely in his own real life as well. Once a man gets past this stage and builds authentic self-esteem, he can actually become a healing embodiment of the divine masculine. I think overall the idea makes sense: if some women harbor resentment toward men, they can introspect and use therapy to deconstruct it, but positive experiences with quality men are what truly heal that cynicism. And the exact same applies in reverse to men who carry bitterness toward women.

Right so for you this is about building social capital and overcoming your limiting beliefs. I think that makes a lot of sense, we are both trapped in life by our social standing as well as our beliefs about our lack of power to change it and pickup is one of the quickest ways to prove to yourself that you can create your own social reality and the rewards from being skilled at it can be intoxicating. Looking forward to see more about how you develop my man! I've said it on the other thread but you should film some content to document the journey and also build yourself a brand. If you're already putting in the sweat equity to make 100 interactions happen, you might as well get maximum ROI and build an audience out of it. Your recent challenge of approaching 100 women in a day would make a killer vlog title.

If we fast forward 1 year from now to the day so October 3rd 2027, what are a few goals you would like to have accomplished in game by then and what do you think could stop you from achieving those goals? Also, are you happy with your current progress so far?

I thought it was a really good video, thanks for sharing. He correctly highlights her needy tendencies and pathology of projecting her own insecurity and feeling of weakness unto her husband. Good on her for having the courage to open up publicly on stream, that's way more hardcore than therapy!

You have to reframe it. Rejection is good, it means you're going for what you want. Society would tell you a man that gets rejected 99% of the time is a failure; if he does 500 approaches his chances are looking good though. You'll probably start out at less than 1% success rate but as you get better at it it'll go above it so learning seduction is a really fun and encouraging journey once you start getting some momentum.

Women are very loving people in general but whether they value your existence and want to associate with you is a whole different topic. That's why self-improvement is deeply tied to dating. In ancient societies a boy would be put through a challenging rite of passage to graduate into manhood and being worthy of a woman. Our society has mostly let go of these traditional rites of passages but the principle still applies.

Well, can you define what you mean by telepathy, then we can have a more accurate conversation about it? Personally, I've had many mystical experiences where people around me complete my thoughts out loud. Like, I’ll be thinking, "Wouldn't it be crazy if VR..." and right then, a group of people next to me will say, "finally got good!" in the context of a completely different conversation. It tripped me out and led to anxiety and paranoia at first but I'm used to it now. I think reality is a giant mind and sometimes if you pay enough attention to the patterns the streams of consciousness cross. If you mean more like being able to know what someone is thinking I think that is also a fascinating rabbit hole to go down. I think humans are constantly broadcasting what they are thinking so the lines between what is telepathy and just good communication skills can blur. Getting better at reading body language has led me to understanding people many times before they use their words to convey their meanings. For example I just got a job at an English speaking Italian deli here in Montreal and about 60% of customers speak english and 40% speak french. I can usually tell just by saying Hello if someone speaks mostly French by the sort of deer in the headlights face they make. I think that can be described as mild mind reading. If you mean the opposite being able to implant your own thoughts into someone's mind then that's just overall communication like speech, writing, rhetoric, charisma, marketing, etc. Then you have technological mind reading, they are working on it as we speak. I think there are a lot of really cool applications to this technology, breakthroughs in criminology come to mind.

How would you say you personally differentiate between escape attempts and genuinely embracing of life without letting society's judgment weigh you down?

I can definitely relate, that's the good part about believing in a higher power, that it can help us when we can't help ourselves. Most of my moments of surrender in life have come from my moments of weakness. I think it's also important to be connected to God when you're on the upside and things are going well. That's when you can find the funny and mischievous parts of God and not just connect to its caretaking properties. This Madonna-whore complex with spirituality is how people end up with a duality of assigning all the bad and evil sides of life or even the hedonistic and sex filled parts with Demons and the Devil and all the savior and caretaking and sanitized part to God and Angels. God is both and everything!

Haha we'll get along one day I'm sure! We just seem to have different communication style and I tend to give people tough love because I think we all need it at times and it's lacking on this forum compared to the emotional support the community often seems to default to.

To unite mankind of course! Yeah a lot of hardcore feminists still crave men and will be down to get down with the right ones.

I mean yeah that's actually not a bad idea. You gotta keep it professional but mixing your game with your passions is both more fun and more scalable than just doing it at random clubs or daygame. I organize fashion and content meetups and some people are really into nightlife and they do that and some people are music promoters and network and meet friends and romantic partners that way.