LordFall

If you're happy and satisfied, that's what matters.

You decide your destiny my man. Most men basically quit on their own life around 40 and don't grow much past then. I think what you need is a new 24 year old GF to bring some energy back into your routine. Hugh Hefner was still seeing new chicks into his 80s. He married his 3rd wife Crystal Harris at 86 years old when she was 26. That guy was riding the wave for sure. He did a lot of shitty things, but he was truly a man of impact that shaped our culture til today. My castle will be even cooler and of course bigger than the playboy mansion ever was.

I still think you guys are weirdly thinking about casual sex. What makes you think being fully single is the only way to work on yourself? Why can't she see a guy even if it's not gonna be her forever partner? The fact that their FWB lasted for 2 years if anything tells us that there was a lot of alignment there even if they weren't compatible as long term romantic partners. Monogamy is not the only valid relationship format that works for humans. It's a very puritan view of the world.

What do you think of the holding frame concept?

In systems theory the two top type of systems are complicated systems and complex systems. Complicated systems are well complicated and have a lot of rules that you can eventually master. A complex system's rules cannot really be mastered as they are emergent and ever changing. From the human vantage point, reality, love, and relationships are inherently complex systems. You don't beat a complex system with a rigid, one-size-fits-all rulebook. You navigate it through adaptability, high awareness, and feedback loops. Your best bet is practicing surfing and making sure you learn how to get back up on the board as easily as possible or getting on a nice yacht to enjoy the ride. Some people like to stay on the shore and play it safe. That’s never been my style, and knowing you, I doubt it’s yours either.

You embark on a quest of great importance on behalf of science and the universe itself. What is the perfect number of girlfriends? It's so hard to tell, no man truly has that answer. There are a specific number of atoms in the universe but the perfect number of women to have in your life? Physics can't help us here. Only the boldest will choose to go on this quest! Not for the weak.

You can bake that into your relationship and do threesomes with your woman. If you betray your woman though that ruins your chance at true love. It is important to get your needs and desires met though, I will give you that. Self-awareness and knowing what you want and what will make you snap towards unhealthy ways of getting those desires met is important.

Someone did find out. You did. I think if you want true love you should never lie to your women. It's like one soul in multiple bodies, it shouldn't lie to itself. Another way to look at it is people holding a chain that keeps them together. If you let it go, it's over. Doesn't matter how long it takes for the relationship to unravel itself after that. That's why dating apps are so important so you can take charge of your dating life and don't feel like random girls throwing themselves at you is very valuable. Polyamory is based on high trust and high communication. So if you want to fuck someone outside of your relationship you have to voice that and let your partner work through the emotions until they give you permission or veto it. If you YOLO it and fuck people left and right it's never gonna work.

In polyamory there is a concept called poly saturation which is the point where a polyamororous relationship reaches its limit with additional partners in terms of the time or emotional bandwidth to manage new relationships. I think if you engage in ethical non monogamy you will naturally hit that point where sleeping with new women causes no net benefit and starts to hinder your relationship even if you have two girlfriends at home that are genuinely okay with you sleeping with new women. The cool thing is that each person and couple has their own polysaturation quota. For monogamous people it's 1 and for some polyamorous people it's 2 partners and for some it's 6 partners. It's beautiful quest to find that out IMO and I have no fucking clue what mine will be. I quite like the idea of a quad and having 3 girlfriends. I came to that idea before I truly embraced my bisexuality though so perhaps I will add 2 boyfriends to that and predict that my ideal polycule will feature 6 people total. Who knows will it hold up or will it be lower or higher? Find out on the next episode of LordFall's love life! Also people don't like talking about this but your material abundance plays a massive role in this. If you are broke and financially stressed then it'll be much harder to handle multiple partners. If you are rich and stressed and working all the time it'll be equally as hard. If you have a fat stack of cash and don't have to work for the rest of your life then I imagine it'll be much easier to focus on your dating life and just build a thriving household with multiple partners. So each person has to account for their financial and career realities and what that looks like for them over the next 30 years. For me I have been obsessed with building multiple streams of income and financial leverage for about 10 years now mostly for that reason but also for my own peace of mind and independence. It's finally starting to bear fruits so in the next few years I should be set to prioritize dating and have my personal finances taken care of. AI is also a blessing for people in terms of work life balance and mastering it is a key to have a truly high quality dating life. I think that's a stage yellow insight that most will miss especially stage green folks that demonize AI.

I find what you're saying very fascinating because it's power dynamics 101. I think your advice is probably correct for most women. I don't know if this is fully accurate but it's worth exploring deeper. I think what you're describing is close to putting women on a pedestal and submitting to the divine feminine ideal. I think this can work sometimes for men but it can also spectacularly backfire. This is actually quite high level in terms of dating dynamics because I don't think any science that mankind has done so far can conclusively answer this one way or another. The best I can say is that self-awareness and knowing what your wants and needs is very mandatory for a peak dating life. If I was paid to do dating coaching for women I don't think I would deviate from the advice you've given in terms of female POV. In terms of consulting for men though I don't think that being in the chasing dynamic is optimal. You are also correct though that if you are the one being chased it can lead to being indifferent or jaded. So it's a tough nut to crack. It also boils down to what this falling in love means and often times from the male POV it does mean submitting to the woman and being at her mercy so to speak. I will say that I do truly believe this is a weak form of love and there is a more powerful one that can be achieved that benefits both the man and the woman but I will need to test that for myself and report back in a few years instead of speculating. Me and @Inliytened1 were just talking about this in the other thread though. It truly is a fascinating discussion and I think its good to deconstruct love and relationships as much as we can.

That's one version of it. Another version of it is a polycule. So you have 2 girlfriends but nobody else sleeps with others outside of the relationship. Or more than 3 people. The whole idea is to not let society define how you can love someone. That is between you and the people you choose to live with. Once again we're back to sexual shame but there is nothing really that infuriates me further then that. If some man really tried to put boundaries on my love life I would have to kill him. If I lived in a muslim society I would start a revolution almost inevitably.

I was indeed not into polyamory at that time correct. Once again big difference between open and closed polyamorous relationships.

Of course, I was pretty deeply in love with my last girlfriend. I think avoiding deconstructing love helps save us from the painful parts of our past and specifically why our last relationships fell apart. To create much stronger ones in the future though that avoidance must be addressed to not repeat our mistakes continuously.

I really like how this guy handles his devlogs and game production. This guy is a natural at audience market fit, with only 19 videos he's had 3,662,094 views. I don't know if he's archived some of his worst performing ones or if his art style and thumbnails are just this good, either way it's quite impressive. He's now getting funding through Patreon and Adsense to hire freelancers to help him on the project. I joined his Discord a couple of days ago, it's cool to see how he now has an active community around his ideas. That's where I wanna be 1 year from now. Just finished Day 11 of daily reels/Youtube shorts. If we extrapolate that to 30 days that makes for around 9k views a month and 10 subscribers per month. I think I can do better and reach more like 50k views which would start to give me some pretty good momentum. I've noticed that my best performing format so far seems to be combining history with how I'm gonna be implementing it in my world as opposed to just straight sharing worldbuilding ideas, so I'm gonna make more content around that. Getting into long form content should help as well for audience buy in, so far I've only made concept arts in that format but I'm working up to making explainer videos that are 5-10 mins in length. I have a new strategy I'm gonna be working on combining this LotA channel with my main personal youtube one so I'll update you guys in a few days when I post the first video around that.

Plenty of people have. What exactly is the part that still frustrates you about true love? Demystifying concepts requires asking the right questions. You seem hesitant to phrase your exact concerns on the issue. Is it mainly about having relationships stand the test of time? Or keeping the spark alive after initial infatuation? Or a soul mate type of question, like with all the 4 billion women out there which one is really the one meant for me? There's really only two main tracks of questions if we look at love in a romantic relationship. Finding it and keeping it.