LordFall

Shame that he went the rapist route. 30 seconds to mars was such a good band with a good message.

That was a few years ago, I'm 31 now. I also don't have a cat anymore, it was my roommate's girlfriend cat and she cheated on him so we don't talk about Mango the cat anymore

Got it makes sense. How is your search for that soul make coming along and do you feel you have any bottlenecks stopping you from achieving that goal in the near future or you think if we talk in 6 months it'll be done and you'll be dating her?

Appreciate it. I'm 31 now so my body doesn't seem to heal as fast as before but I'll figure it out eventually even if I have to become a cyborg in the process

It's not about humiliation, it's about intellectual integrity. Your post was condescending and of course since you lack aforementioned integrity you back down from a good faith intellectual exchange in a format where we can actually exchange ideas in real time while meeting eachother instead of keyboard warrior back and forth. No worries if you aren't interested in having the debate. I would be careful with being jumping to conclusions when encountering ideas that surpass your level of knowledge, as it opens you up to all kinds of intellectual blindspots. Posturing is never good for growth.

That's fine. To be monogamous it's actually way more important to be selective than if you want to be polyamorous and date multiple women like I do. You're looking to entangle your entire life to one person and combine yourselves as legal entites and to purchase financial assets together. To not be very sure of what you want and to start to commit to women quickly instead of taking your time to date multiple ones and vet them over long periods of time is insanity and how a lot of men(and women!) get wrecked in marriage. I would go on at least 30+ dates before thinking of committing to just one. I would encourage you to write that journal like I've suggested and post it here or in the journal section. I think it will be a useful exercise both for yourself and other men on here to learn about self-awareness.

Absolutely. It's important to understand that dating in our society is based on paradigms enforced on us by hundreds and really thousands of years of group think. To let go of those shackles is very scary but beautiful. Everyone on this forum is coming at it from a different frame so they will disgaree with you vehemently. You should take the advice I wrote about earlier and write a full page at least if not 3-4 on your dating goals and needs and if anything in the universe was possible, what would your life overall and dating life look like in 5-10 years and not let anybody gaslight you out of achieving it.

Have you tried polyamory before? I think it's worth exploring to unlock deeper dating paradigms and also push your comfort zone especially if you do enjoy spending time with her but want to continue dating other women or expanding your game skills and social capital without trapping yourself in a monogamous relationship prematurely. The concept of not sowing enough seeds and reaping too soon is very common on this forum. Be careful of that trap, I've seen countless men fall into it.

Yes, I think using false dichotomies caps our intellectual potential and leaves us arguing nonsense instead of actually making deep points that add values to our lives. Why is it telling that I feel the need to deconstruct your ideas? Shouldn't you welcome new insights if you have blindspots to your thinking? To me when I see bad points I feel like I'm doing you a favour by adding to your ideas, if you don't appreciate and seek pure validation then that's more accurate honest signal of insecurity. Someone that is selfless can get even more happiness from giving some to others but idk how else to tell you bro but the way you framed it is so bad that it leads to a dichotomy which is defined as two opposing points that miss nuance. You should want happiness for others and not just yourself if you are truly a high consciousness person and I think the way you phrased it shows deep spiritual bypassing which is also common in gurus that focus on their own internal peace without helping the world solve it's problems.

Very interesting, thanks for sharing. Also shows that the spiritual bypassing is deep in his character for some reason. I think he does a lot of good work and spreads spirituality globally and on a lot of mainstream platforms which is great but I always felt a lot of shadow from him. The easiest examples is when he doesn't know something he doesn't admit, he gives word salad answers that confuse people and looks like spiritual narcissism to me.

Sure, you're still rejecting abundance as a valid frame though. Why does it scare you so much? What you just described can be simply summarized as having the self-awareness to understand your wants and needs and knowing where they come from.

Because it sounds beautiful and amazing to me and I can't picture a dating paradigm more aligned for myself at the current moment. I genuinely don't know why you like women a lot you wouldn't find to find the 2-3 women you enjoy most in the universe and fuck them all at the same and date them as well because why just fuck I'm not a one night stand kind of guy I'm a cancer sign very deep and emotional kind of guy. I wanna love deeply combine it with amazing global adventures and a business that eventually has enough impact to change our world and the course of human history as whole if I can achieve that level of power. Since you mentioned yourself having doubts as to why you desire a high quality partner and wonder if it was based off of insecurity, here is the socratic process I used to deconstruct my psyche. I have struggled with my dating life when I was younger so perhaps my need for validation, acceptance is based off of insecurity and not a genuinely pursuit. How does one tell the difference? Let's go through each point. What does a need for validation in a dating context even mean and how would it show up in a needy way and how would it show up in an integrated way? To me I feel like shit tests are a great lower litmus test of this. A lot of times attractive women test you by removing validation and see how you react and whether you break frame or get angry at them and flip out. A man that doesn't need validation doesn't really change his tune when it stops as his opinions, thoughts and desires are based on core wants and true self-awareness and so other humans validating or not validating him doesn't change it. Acceptance is the same thing. Do I have the courage to expose myself to the women and the people I know or do I censor myself in fear of being judged or abandoned? That can come in different ways for example here is an honest one, I have talked about being bisexual on this forum but it's not something I discuss publicly with my friends or on my Instagram to my audience. I have told my brother because he's gay so I figured he would understand but it's a new identity for myself to recognize so I'm not yet comfortable embracing it fully publicly and thus my need for acceptance is still holding me hostage at this current point in my life. Femboys are hot enough that I will eventually transcend this fear though, it's only a matter of time. This thread on this forum is another example of me being quite radically honest and opening myself to ridicule especially since I preach financial abundance and the importance of being a high value man for your dating life. I value documenting my journey more than pretending to be an enlightened perfect being with no weakensses though so I don't really mind showcasing me being broke currently publicly and I hope that it inspires people to also embark on a business journey as I truly believe that it leads to be the best life possible and in terms of dating allows you so much leverage.

I respect you for acknowledging that. It's common for someone that lacks self-awareness to appear a bit bipolar in what they say as the psyche gets compartmentalized. That's why I default to asking them to flesh out their desired dating life in detail so at least they have a concrete vision that they've fleshed out. That vision can change but at least it's concrete and after 6 months they can go back and see if it holds up or if it was based on insecurity and delusion. Bro I would go as far as saying that the concept of abundance is so scary for people that even getting to dictate their own dream dating life is too scary for them and usually people don't take me up on it and keep their dating ideas as nebulous fantasies in their head instead of being able to write even a single page on it. I was in that same boat for a while. Having these discussions on this forum has given me opportunities to flesh out my desires and test them against you guys opinion which is partly how I know that I'm not driven by pathology since my desires have been consistent for the past 10 years and they measure up against the pushback of people that understand psychological pitfalls. Abundance is scary man, it's literally the concept of infinity and non-duality that Leo talks about but applied to dating in this context. What does an infinite dating life even mean? It's worth discussing. It can mean an infinitely beautiful monogamous marriage or dating an infinity of the best women/men you can find in the world.

You’re proving the exact point by pinging other members to validate you instead of addressing the logic. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection You've projected by reusing my own argument against me which is false. I said that your point could be valid but how do we know for sure if someone basing their dating strategy based on fear/insecurity or genuinely wants a dating life based on abundance. You then doubled down on your point and invalidated mine without addressing it. Then when I called you out you felt cornered and projected unto me.

Nope, you're projecting. I've said multiple times that self-awareness is key in dating and one can choose to be monogamous if they truly desire it. You default to calling wanting options and abundance fear based and don't seem interested in deconstructing it even after I've invited you to do so openly.