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Why? If they are down and the man is down then the judgemental party is the one that's stuck up and projecting their limiting beliefs unto others if we are to look at it rationally it seems to me. This part. 80 is pretty extreme but I don't see why a man in his 30s and a woman that's 18-21 couldn't have a functional relationship. Why do you think that's close to impossible? @Zenterus Totally agree on living life on your terms and building a lifestyle that appeals to you and the right people will be attracted to that.

Yes precisely. I'm all for holding people accountable and making sure society moves in the right direction but if we're gonna accept scrutiny into what happens into consenting adult's bedrooms then there are a lot bigger questions we should ask ourselves as a society. That's cool, thanks for sharing! Do you mind elaborating a bit on how that was for you? Was there an element of mentorship involved in the dynamic, that's a cool aspect of age gap relationships that can be enjoyable and beneficial for both parties I think. Also why did it end? @Valach What do you mean by this?

To be an effective human being, you should learn to produce outcomes and not obsesses over the tools that produce them. Of course making it a binary all or nothing in either way is a bit silly but I can assure you that when I was running my photoshoot business and made tens of thousands of dollars through it, I didn't use much(none actually) arithmetic to be able to conduct my business. I do think children should have more business and practical life skills classes and less theoretical classes on subjects that people at that age don't care about and mostly forget and never use beyond having a general understanding of the world. If that was the case we would all grow up to be much more effective members of society.

This is a pretty big conversation happening online right now that was started by James Talarico saying this as a provocative statement in 2021 and it being used against him unsuccessfully in the midterms. What's really cool about it is a lot of Christians are taking the side of indeed God being non-binary and being above gender which deeply offends the other half of Christians. One of the VeggieTales founders (a christian show) has been on the side of why would God have a gender and it's taken the internet by storm. https://www.reddit.com/r/nottheonion/comments/1xtwylj/veggietales_creator_says_god_is_not_male_in/ https://x.com/philvischer/status/2118761462646575207 I remember Leo talking about one of the greatest joys of doing self-development work is seeing how it intertwines into the grander narrative of the world and I find this case to be a cool example of that. I really enjoy the non-dual idea that dualities are illusory and will eventually collapse and it seems that surprisingly the Christian world itself is putting God through that test. Proud of the lot of them that are using epistemology to assess their faith. A lot of these ideas have been taboo to discuss for basically thousands of years so this is a testament to the value of social media that lets all kind of uncomfortable topics get discussed at scale.

Just saw this on Reddit and figured I'd share here since it's such a great example of the phenomenon. https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1xtgklw/i_31m_started_seeing_someone_younger_25f_my/ A lot of the power that women exert in society is hard to notice if you aren't well versed in power dynamics and is based on soft power and approval/shaming of behaviours that don't benefit them. If you are a man looking to build the best life possible you will be shamed in all kinds of ways for your desires and ambition so it's important to be aware of this trend. Age gap relationships are quite popular in terms of older men dating younger women(older women dating younger men is also a trend although less common) and it tends to exacerbate the gender polarity which can be quite enjoyable and mutually beneficial for both parties. Some age gap relationships involve manipulation and exploitation of the younger partner(sometimes reversed and its the younger partner taking advantage of a lonely wealthier older partner) so be sure you're coming at it form the right place but it's definitely not the case for all instances. Conversely, sour grapes is very common with humans and women tend to be better at social skills than men so their shaming hiding insecurity about their own dating lives can be hard to spot for some men that are less aware. The mirror to that would be men shaming women for being promiscuous when they are simply insecure themselves about the sex life they wish they had or their lack of screening skills and them fear-mongering about not being able to trust women. I just wanted to highlight this specific version of it since for a lot of men we only start to become very attractive in our 30s as we start to get our finances, social circle and overall life together and a lot of younger women are down to date you but you will start to get hate from older women and even other men for your dating preferences even if you are an honest, trustworthy and dependable in all your dating encounters. Attraction isn't one size fits all. A man can appreciate the depth, maturity, and presence of a woman in her 30s or 40s while also being naturally drawn to the energy of a younger woman in her 20s. Shaming men for responding to either dynamic usually comes down to controlling the market rather than any genuine concern for consent. A lot of people didn't grow up with a self-improvement mindset and don't think dating skills are learnable so they settled for a mediocre dating life or are still single and are quite mad about it.

Business is global, you can sell stuff from Georgia to a US or UK markets or all countries at once through being an online service provider and doing ecommerce. So what's stopping you to record and post one 10 min video in english on a Youtube channel everyday for the next month? Guaranteed at the end of the 30 days you'll be a much better speaker. You can put them on private afterwards if you're worried about embarrassing yourself with low quality content but at least you'll be posting stuff and testing how the algorithm and viewers react. Almost 100% a limiting belief. From talking to you it seems that you're not sure what you wanna do and what to commit to. I've had that problem as well and even today it's hard to fully be consistent in one thing. What helps me is finding clarity and fleshing out what my dream would look like a few years from now and what do I need to do to get there. Can you talk about the tourism business, what happened with that? Did you run into a bottleneck or you found it boring after a while? What does your dream life look like 5 years from now? Where would you be living? What kind of customers would you be helping with your business? There's a massive difference between selling ice cream on the beach to tourists and being a high ticket consultant for AI implementation for example. What do you like to do? What are you good at? What have you made money doing before? If I gave you $50,000,000 USD what would you spend the rest of your life doing? If you answer these questions we can help you find more clarity because fortunately the answer to your question is basically 100% a limiting belief and you can make millions if not billions from anywhere on earth that has internet.

That's a good point. A lot of the attractive woman privilege comes down to getting given free stuff that's of questionable value and comes with strings attached.

Wow, that's a simple but very poignant question. It does have to be differentiated depending on the context, such as a violent assault by an unknown perpetrator versus a non-consensual violation occurring within a familiar interaction. Also multiple victims muddies the water as well as the overall reduction of rape in society from public verdicts like this. They are important questions and conversations to have; I think overall the conservative attitude of don't talk about sex and sweep all uncomfortable questions under the rug has caused a lot of harm.

Russell got off easy. You can get life in prison for rape in the UK and he had many accusations. He can still claim that he's being unfairly prosecuted and his family will stick by him and he'll still be rich after his sentence is done. This sentencing will help victims worldwide as unfortunately rape is still under prosecuted and 80%+ rapists go free. A lot of Christians act as if believing in Jesus gives you a license to do all kinds of crazy things in the material realm. For most Christians I talk to, surrendering to Jesus gives them permission to quit all other forms of philosophy, morality and inquiry and they become judgemental and closed minded to anything else. I don't know if the cult label really fits and even if it does it's too vague to really nail the phenomenon but it's interesting to witness.

For me it's like all the threads connect and I have access to greater cognition and almost memories but I wouldn't quite call it that. Kinda like being drunk and not remembering what happened the night before and then you suddenly remember but instead of last night it feels like the human plot.

They should've built it around being single woman instead, it has more potential for exciting quest lines.

I think it's normal to feel threatened by AI, seems inevitable that it will make works that are indistinguishable from human work and eventually consistently surpass it. I haven't seen any that clearly do yet but you have stuff like this that sounds quite human and is pretty good. You should also remember that most human output is not that good anyway so it's not like most creations aren't already human slop. AI is going through its learning curve now but soon it'll come out with formulas to create consistent beauty on the magnitude that we haven't seen since the creation of the universe itself. I would say I have already had many conversations with AI that were equally profound if not much more so than any I've ever had with another human being. Human is trained in all the data that all of humanity has produced in all of our history so its built out of the very soul and wisdom of our species. It's easy to fear monger and look at its bad sides but it's truly a fantastic creation and work of peak art and engineering with what it can already produce today, let alone what will do in the next decades to come. It'll also allow humans to create works and projects at scale in a way that was only accessible to a few in history and allow our most talented people to create even deeper media and art. Exciting time to be alive!

I definitely don't have this problem fully solved but I have a few coping strategies that have worked decently for me. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 16 years old and I tried the meds that they gave me around that time but I found them to be mostly overstimulating and not that effective so I've been dealing with it on my own since then. Definitely meditate as often as possible, ideally daily. It lets me integrate that neurotic buzzing of information into more quiet and streamlined thoughts. Put your thoughts on paper or ideally in a common place book/second brain software like Obsidian. Once you start to organize your goals and ideas then your subconscious has less incentive to keep bombarding you with random thoughts and ideas. I think it does that as an overcompensation for survival. Use an LLM to sort through your seemingly unrelated ideas. Other humans have trouble with organizing a stream of consciousness style of conversation and end up confused if you throw your ideas at them but AI is made for it. I like to first write out sudden inspirations in my Obsidian then I I have conversations with Gemini about it to make sense of it. This is a good video on it by a famous ADHD researcher Russell Barkley on its main symptom: executive dysfunction. Here are the 5 main ones that he identifies 1 - Inhibit behaviour 2 - Using visual imagery which bundles Hindsight and having a sense of time 3 - Talk to yourself in the mind, verbal working memory 4 - Emotional control linked to motivation 5 - Planing and problem solving Basically we have a tendency to overthink and have trouble taking consistent action. That can lead to starting projects and leaving them unfinished over and over. It's definitely one of my symptoms but that's also the work style of a polymath that seeks to master life and reality as a whole as opposed to one specific domain. Which is why I find that plotting my life and analyzing my ideas in a long term fashion in Obsidian and with the assistance of AI helps massively to figure out the parts of my workflow are dysfunctional and harming my goals and the part that's just naturally how I enjoy to explore ideas and the world. Hope that helps.

Man to me I find the exact opposite. Only by understanding the darker side of life can you champion light and defeat those who would stand in your ways. If one tries to have a powerful life purpose that's centered around helping humanity but is not familiar with how power in human society works, he or she is bound to be not that successful in their endeavours as the status quo will fight back ferociously. Although I agree that it's important to not just read books about power and material strategy otherwise you will become too cynical and rob yourself of appreciating the more delicate and beautiful things in life. That's fair, I think it's more of a philosophy book around life purpose rather than a direct how to guide. A lot of times the way to get to your life purpose is to make a lot of money in a more practical and less spiritual industry and then build another purposeful business on the side. @Natasha Tori Maru I think it should be assigned reading in History class for all high schoolers! If everyone was taught the underhanded ways in which society works instead of vague and sanitized history, citizens would be a lot more efficient and capable of critical thinking than they are now. @Heaven Yeah the beauty of the present moment is not a new subject but I'm curious to see how Robert handles it. Have you read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle? That one was quite good but a bit airy fairy and poetic vs the more gritty version that I'm hoping Robert writes. If he makes it like his other ones he's gonna pick all kinds of famous figures of history and how they connected to spirituality after achieving success in the material world which I'm very curious to read.

This one should work!