LordFall

Yeah it’s hard to wrap your mind around, even western societies are more comfortable showing violence than sex on TV. The religions are specifically caught trying to demonize world and convince us that if we don’t follow their principles our souls will be tainted but in the process they seem to kill a lot of unity and love part of spirituality and replace it with judgement, shame, intolerance and overall a lot of stuff that overall sounds like devilry to me. I told my coworker yesterday too that I was bisexual to give the thought that she can choose her life and not just go along with what her family chose for her but she just said “You know in our religion that’s the biggest sin right?” I didn’t really wanna start a religious debate at work but I wanted to ask what about murder and rape and actual crime? What is it about sexual autonomy that’s so fear inducing to ideology? I guess it cuts to the core of authoritarian control mechanisms, if you can control a beings reproduction then you got it by the balls literally.

His feelings are actually a microcosm of what's happening around the world as old institutions are collapsing and individualism is taking more of a hold. The reason why I think Majed is worth engaging with is because he's genuinely trying to figure this out and sharing his honest thoughts and his situation is quite difficult. He is stuck in between Stage Blue dating and Stage Orange dating and trying to reconcile it. Dating is not a activity based on freedom and love in the Middle East and a lot of other places in the world. It's built around authoritarianism and extreme pressures. Not to say that Islam is evil, it was perhaps necessary to unite humanity in the harsh region that it evolved in but it now seems to mostly comprise of dysfunctional defence and oppression mechanisms. This forum is likely the most progressive and perhaps healthy support system he's exposed to so I hope you guys can see how the wish to reduce harm by silencing someone venting his angry thoughts could lead him straight down the route of further radicalization. He is trying to pull himself out of a repressive extremist organization that controls his life and I think we should assist him in that; he is not a just being hostile and trolling. This is the story of his life. Just yesterday I was talking to a female coworker from Bangladesh who's been working here in Montreal and her family recently arranged a marriage for her and she's not excited for it as she says she knows what her life will look like after doing it and a lot of her freedoms will be gone. If she refuses it then her direct and extended family will disown her and she will lose all her support systems and community. This is the culture Majed grew up in and the one half of my family also is part of and thus why I have particular compassion for those indoctrinated and oppressed by it. My dad won't talk to my brother because he's gay and I haven't told him I'm bisexual and he'd probably kick me out and stop talking to me as well for a time or perhaps ever. If I went back home to my home country and this leaked out without protective measures in place, I could myself face kidnapping and violence at my own family's hands. Ideology is a very powerful force and trying to pull yourself out is much harder than it seems from an outside perspective. Notice a lot of parents of Muslim children discourage them from getting jobs when they reach 16 and a lot of them live at home until they're 30 if not longer. This is also why building independent value and leverage is both the way to attract women but to fundamentally free yourself from other human imposing their version of reality on us. There is a relationship between freedom and love that I can't quite verbalize yet but seems key to this conundrum. Let's of course encourage people to focus on love and authentic intimate connections with others but let's not underestimate the forces that are working against that. To beat our enemy we have to deeply understand it. The enemy here being the lack of consciousness and the resulting dysfunction that afflict much of humanity. The reason I linked it to war is that this is the end of result of us not being able to understand each other. You see it today in all kinds of ways both in gender wars but in the literal wars that are starting to happen more frequently.

I mean I would introspect on your viewpoint, it seems low consciousness to me. Refusing to engage with people with different viewpoints and yes even violent thoughts and tendencies are how we escalate to the wars we see today. Be careful living in a Stage Green bubble of safety where you reject anything unsavoury. Majed is clearly frustrated and fed up with life and he's sharing his thoughts before resorting to expressing them on the universe. How do you think God would respond to him if he talked to him directly? Certainly not with your comment. Violence is part of the world and we have to understand it if we are ever to solve it for good. I believe we are going to do in the next 20 years, the future is looking bright! I'm reminded of Daryl Davis, a black man who attended KKK rallies and befriended leaders of the Klan and is responsible for getting over 200 members to renounce their ideology and leave it. This is how we heal the world, not by demonizing those who are lashing out.

The most interesting thing about rape as a crime is that it's unjustifiable even to the people committing it so the vast majority of rapists refuse to believe they're rapists. Criminological and psychological studies estimate that approximately 50% to 60% of convicted sex offenders (including rapists) minimize, justify, or deny core elements of their offense, with 15% to 25% remaining in full categorical denial (claiming they did not commit the act or that it never occurred). Research indicates that only 5% to 15% of convicted rapists fully acknowledge both their actions and explicit intent without using cognitive rationalizations or self-justifications. Brings me back to Leo's point that if most people that commit evil acts really had the full consciousness of what they're doing a lot of them would commit suicide in shame and guilt. It brings a lot of of credibility to the point of feminists saying to teach men not to rape. Enthusiastic consent is an important concept to understand if you're gonna have casual sex with strangers. Some of the advice that I see from men online and even on this forum seems to land them in a murky grey area and you should definitely air on the side of caution when it comes to these things.

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I mean I see this line of argumentation used all the time on this forum. People claiming that life is not real and things don't exist. I have to then bring it back to direct experience and ask them to stop using a laptop to reply to me and use instead the power of universal consciousness to communicate instead of Internet and silicon chips. Phenomenology is a hard topic and the difference between a profound point and something that's easily proven to be very stupid is quite thin lol.

You might enjoy this song and this artist as a whole. He's a very well thought rapper that touches on other people using lower consciousness needs met and rightfully critiques that approach He's also a man who had a lot of pain and learned to transmute it into higher forms of creation and accrue a lot of value for himself in the process. He's a good inspiration for your path specifically brother.

Yes, you deserve it. Being an angry butthurt dude and using violence to achieve your goals is a somewhat productive strategy that yields some form of results for sure. That is why some men that haven't thought it through use that strategy. Becoming a thief or a bandit instead of getting a job works a little bit for some amount of time and some people have become very wealthy through it. Compared to win-win solutions that enhances all party's lives; it's a trash strategy that deserves to be shutdown in every way imaginable. Also transmutation is a thing. Raw energy is useless it burns everything it touches. Try standing on the sun. Well channeled, it becomes one of the most useful, appreciated and powerful forces in the universe. Same with raw masculinity.

Well what value are you offering these women on the street? I told you to host music events and start working with local musicians in Beirut, have you done that? Even in most socially open societies cold approach is still low ROI, let alone in the more conservative part of the world that you're in. Don't blame women for having high standards, I also dislike random uncalibrated men coming up to me with an unclear offer. Humble yourself and think that people don't owe you shit for existing nor for trying to talk to them and instead see it from their perspective of also being a stressed human with limited time and wonder what would make their life better? Why aren't you dialed in to some of the coolest events happening in your city and country? You can volunteer your time to promote someone else's events or build up your own and then invite women there and once you're a guy that has an awesome social life and knows a lot of women, your social life will start to take care of itself. Be careful of using your ego in pickup, it's a terrible handicap. I have more trouble than extroverts socializing and by default most people find my ideas too complicated and hard to relate to. Do you think I got bitter and blamed the world for my lack of results? Yes of course. Then I got over it and found a better strategy. This was the summer I got laid the most in my life. Do you wanna guess how much cold approach I did? Barely any. Do you know what I did? I got a high value skill(photography), offered cool guys in the new city I was moving to(Toronto) free photoshoots as a networking strategy and ended up making friends with one who I moved in with. Becoming roommates with that guy lead me to meeting another club promoter roommate who had access to a free booth and bootles 3 times a week,(booths in Toronto and a bottle is around $2000) and I did a free photoshoot for him and shot content for him for free multiple times. All the environments that you see in the video are worth thousands of dollars if you pay for them and I paid $0 for it because I offered value to men who already had access to them. Then you offer women free access to them and THEN AND ONLY THEN do you try to game and pull. Do you see how that's nowhere close to being a random dude on the street spamming cold approaches? That method is like spamming cold approaches but asking people for jobs and getting frustrated you're still unemployed. Just because it works for a few people does not make it a good strategy. Take the advice I've given you, use the next 1-2 years to build massive value and you will be in abundance of cool women that wanna sleep with you. Also my guy realize that you are ideologically conflicted. You are probably brainwashed by Islam telling you that you are superior for existing as a man but that leads to your parents setting up an arranged marriage for you and you've watched western videos of random dudes sleeping with a lot of chicks and you added both thoughts together without really breaking down how the dynamics work. It's kinda like a Stage Green socialist college student being frustrated that other people have more money than him but he doesn't have a business and has a part time job. You can be frustrated at the world or you can become obsessed with acquiring value and exchanging it to others to get what you want. Some people get paid $10,000 USD to have a 1 hour lunch with them because their skillset and knowledge is so well crafted. How much would the average person pay to have lunch with said socialist college student? Now same thing why would random women on the street be desperate to get to know you if you haven't crafted much value in your life? Good on you for taking a lot of action and doing a couple of thousands of approaches but hitting your head against the wall without improving your strategy is of course gonna lead to a lot of frustration if not boiling anger at the world. Understandable, now swallow your pride and become one of the coolest guys in your country and all your dreams will come true. It sounds like a wild statement but I'm basically the coolest guys in most environments that I step in. Not from an egotistical frame battle angle but most other men I meet even the successful professionals are shy and stifled and I come in making friends with everyone and strategizing on what awesome things we can do and build together. Being cool basically means adding value, you can do it by being in a good mood and saying jokes but overall taking that same energy and using it to better the lives of the people in your circle over years will make you an irreplaceable men in most of the people's lives you meet as opposed to once again being A RANDOM DUDE ON THE STREET WITH NOT MUCH TO OFFER.

Would you say The Book of Not-Knowing is your favorite spirituality book? I do feel that way like the strategy and knowledge based books are cool and useful but the one of the next things I'm looking to read is a more mystical type of book to wrap the knowledge into higher consciousness. @Vynce Did you read the paper book or listen to the audiobook of Atomic Habits? Surprised you didn't get any takeaways from it.

You should ideally meditate 20 mins each time you game. Gaming without meditation is a road straight to neuroticism my friend.

In what way? My main agenda is live and let live. He asked if he's the only man who feels like more of a woman and that perhaps the masculine identity doesn't fit who he wants to be. I simply pointed out that not only is quite a common experience but being a femboy is also attractive to a lot of people. If he's used to hanging out in judgemental conservative circles then of course he will mostly have encountered small minded and judgemental people that will never accept him for who he feels like he wants to be.

Maybe you're a femboy or a full on trans woman or just more feminine man than average. I think that's great, Femboys are very attractive to a lot of people, myself included. Fun fact if you go on Reddit and look at all the porn subreddits, the Femboys one is one of the ones with the highest weekly viewers. It's a pretty popular identity that mainstream society shames. If I were you I'd go on Reddit and explore the communities along those terms that are text based and explore these questions and you will probably be able to find stories that let you make peace with your identity. There are millions of other men that feel like you do, you probably won't find a lot of them talking openly about it in more restrictive countries or even in most circles in the progressive ones. If you know where to look online and there a lot of them talking about it though! https://www.reddit.com/r/feminineboys/ For me, no I cannot relate. I would be curious to live as a woman for like 1 day to see what it's like but then I'd want back to my male identity. I love and thrive under brutal competition with other males and the quest to building power and leverage with the goal of building my dream life and bringing more feminine individuals into my life feels very natural to me. I'm very much so a provider male. I've recently come to terms with my bisexual identity and it's been a lot of fun exploring it! Society is very behind in terms of our awareness of identities that aren't mainstream but we've made a lot of progress over the past 20 years. In another 20 years I think all kinds of alternative identities will become mainstream and accepted by most people. There's also the Peter Pan Syndrome to keep in mind where perhaps part of what you're feeling comes from the jarring reality of having to become an adult and provide for yourself whether you're a man or woman. Perhaps part of your goal in striving for femininity is avoidance of responsibility which to a point we all feel and I can definitely relate to. I would say they are separate but potentially overlapping issues though but don't fundamentally have to do with your gender identity.

That tells me that your main bottleneck is overthinking. How consistently do you meditate if at all? I don't have a similar issue, when I get tired I stop socializing entirely and just answering a question feels like a drag so I resort to one word answers and recharge my energy through my inner world and mostly want others to leave me alone.

@Rafael Thundercat Yes agreed, I think that by adding the percentage to the model it makes it better, more useful and more practical to assess individuals and our own progress in life. I think your pushback makes sense but I will say that the characterizing factor of Stage Green is empathy and fighting back against injustice. Therefore the organizations they build are based on that as opposed to being more systematic and actually causing change.