LordFall

Yeah you are right that building status is harder it takes time. The ceiling is much higher and if you combine it with entrepreneurship then you don't really have a ceiling. I'm still working on my setup daily and it's taking time to actualize to my full vision but everyday closer. It was a dining event we put together last year. How come you don't use Instagram? This Youtube edit is from 2022 and the events I was a part of that year. It kind of shows your point better actually because I have been recreating the access and status I had back then from the ground up since I had access by proxy by being friends with club promoters at that time but now I'm creating it as the sole owner of it and it's harder then I thought but is coming together quite well.

Sure but if we're coming at it from what should men spend their time learning, I think charisma and social skills are important but financial abundance and status are equally if not more important to build and they're usually not talked about as much on here. https://www.instagram.com/p/DI75zcsRAEl/ When you have money you can also buy dating bootcamps, match makers and just pay to host top VIP events so your ease to meet women is much increased.

Are you working on a business now? You can start today and be quite successful in a few years. Every man and woman should work on their own business to become financially independent and be able to share that gift with their friends, family and lovers. I share my own journey on this journal thread here : My philosophy won't work for everyone but it's built on avoiding the mistakes and pitfalls I see others fall into. I don't think I'm self-deceived but feel free to point out some blind spots if you believe they are genuine and not stemming from your own spiritual bypassing.

I mean you can think about it in whatever way you want to. For me I like the harem builder game where I work on my business and date multiple women and subs that live under me and I fund their life and lifestyle while they chill and/or work for me and my business. The problem with not funding their lifestyle is your woman will end up working for another man or a system that probably exploits her and she'll come back home drained and not giving you and your children together her best. I think most women would rather be stay at home moms if their man could afford it but it's become too hard due macroeconomics and thus 90% of men in America can't fund that lifestyle for their partner.

I think it's good to try different stuff from like a test perspective but I wouldn't do it long term, it's more of a gimmick than something that will genuinely raise your value and you'll eventually have to explain that you wear a fake wedding ring to approach women it's a bit cringe. Nofap is good for increasing sexual chemistry, usually when I go out I try to be on 1-2 days of it.

No that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying the more value you offer the more you get in life and the less bitter you are because you get what you want on your terms without exerting waste energy. I'm from Canada and I dated some women where they paid for dates but I didn't like that feeling I rather be able to pay for everything and also I do think you get hotter women this way. I think every job is transactional and sex workers get to the crux of the issue but a baker similarly sells their body to the marketplace to be able to live. If you have a lot of value you are able to create relationships with a wider type of partners. Economic value is the most universal form of value but there are broke funny guys with good quality relationships. Their lives would probably be better if they made more money but that's for them to figure out. For myself the higher status and more money I get the better relationships with hotter women I've gotten. A lot of debates are quite useless if they don't end in you having a higher quality life as a result. How is your dating life going?

I think evaluating the quality of your relationship someone can be in part measured by it's yield, yes. Some people are satisfied with coping with other humans against reality but I rather team up to accomplish our goals. Having sex with them is one way of doing that but you can start a social circle and do music or business together, up to whatever goals you have. Just being friends with them can lead to resentment in some men though which leads to the friendzone meme. Also I wanna separate objectification and a value exchange. You need to offer value to others to live unless your parents are gonna support you and you got a trust fund waiting for you. Mastering value arbitrate lets you do so outside of the usual confines of society, social circle game and social media game are forms of that. Objectification is thinking someone is ONLY their value offering or reducing their identity to strict confines. Haha she came up when I googled girl strawberry cosplay but it didn't hit the visual I wanted, Gemini got my back with this strawberry waifu though. Bro so much of it is tied directly to social capital and status. It's why the passport bro strategy works because you take the exact same dude in the west and put him in south america/thailand and now the macroeconomics switch in his favor and now he's getting laid left and right. Pickup and entrepreneurship are the free market tools that we now have to free us to achieve the financial and dating outcomes that were previously only possible in wild dreams.

No I think that pushes past the rules of reality, or at least I've never seen one

No that's an incorrect use of the term, what I said is valid deductive reasoning. Most men are not successful with women and the sour grapes phenomenon is a documented psychological effect so it stands to reason that most men that dislike women are not successful with them. I think that's true but that stems mostly with men not understanding and making the systems of society work in their favor so they have to expand a lot of energy and feel like a dancing monkey to get laid. Which is a valid point and why I stopped cold approaching for the past few years to focus on social circle and social media game which makes the leverage game finally work in my favor.

Maybe but to a point. Charisma is linked with inspiration and influence. I have had some homeless people with whom I've had a pleasant 5 min chat and then I left and did not want to be near them because they are a living proof that their life philosophy and strategy doesn't produce enviable results. People that are ultimately charistmatic make you want to be near them for a long period of them because they figured out life and your life will be better around them than away from them. Which is why often times it's linked with business leaders, politicians and rebellious figures because they tie their social skills with a grand vision that you should follow them in to get to the promised land. Hitler was a charismatic homeless man which makes sense since he had an ideology and a step of actions to share with the lost men stuck with him at the homeless refuge.

Disliking women is a strong sign of not being good with them and a lack of understanding of social systems. Usually when men dislike women it's because they feel like they are better than them or they're just not getting laid. If you start to understand how the status and dominance hierarchy work and position yourself at the top then women go from adversarial and cold to friendly, collaborative and well very down to fuck you. I would highly recommend you put some work towards figuring that out instead of having a passive-aggressive relationship with women, what an unfortunate place to choose to experience life from. Women oftentimes serve as a universal mirror to point your blind spots and show you where you are weak and not contributing enoug value to other people. Women are obviously much more valuable to your life than strawberries ever will and much more delicious as well.

Sure which is why you should create systems in your life that create an overabundance of value so that you have women and paying customers in abundance. Creating value is hard but quite simple, you just solve people's problems and make their lives more fun. It shouldn't be that much energy when you do it right, that's what building leverage is. Which is why strategies like building a brand and posting content are so effective; you eventually build global leverage with it.

I think it's gonna be quite good, Robert compounds on himself and the concepts he introduced in the 90s he has kept refining in the one I'm reading now so I assume the book on the sublime is gonna be beautiful. Curious how his thoughts on the brutal systems of life, intrinsic beauty and aesthetics will end up reconciling.

He said he's handsome and charismatic so that helps but also not necessary. Hosting parties is not that complicated you start with not even really a party but a back to school event and you put up posters and DM people and they'll come. He should partner up with friends but if he had balls he could do it by himself. You don't start with hundreds of people, some events are successful with 5-10 people but since it's back to school he can piggy back off of that and probably get to a 50-100 person event pretty easily. You will run into the problem of escalation in your own social circle which you can solve in many ways but the two best ways is to practice light flirting with a lot of women in it, so you don't actually commit to the full trying to sleep with them or ask them out but you just give everyone compliment and pump them up and they'll give it back to you usually. Then you'll see some girls will be more into you than the others and often times at this point the circle will work in your favor and one girl will tell you omg @Magnanimous Jenny clearly seems into you why don't you ask her out? The other way is to do actual cold approach outsite campus so you can practice more direct game and escalation which will give you calibration for your social circle back on campus. Cold approach was mainly developped as an antidote for not being served by your social circle and not having status so if you just start a social circle in which you have the highest status from the start it's gonna eventually start to solve all your problems. You can steer it in many directions depending on your personality, interest and the connections you build throughout this process. It could be used to network with TAs and campus recruiters so you can get yourself and people you like in your circle a job after 4th year or go towards frats, sororities and sports if you like that better, depends on his interest. You can use social hacks like partner up with a frat/sorority and use psychology like they'll be too lazy to promote their own events a lot of times and so you just take the first 2 weeks of classes and approach all the hot girls on campus and the cool guys. Now you're one of the most well known people on campus and gained status by using their brand instead of doing a direct approach and now during the rest of the school year girls will be coming up to you and warm approaching you since they remember you and you can tone back your social efforts and be a cool guy almost magically. You can also use the hack of the network effect where a college campus has like 10k people and a cool extrovert will know maybe 300 people if they're like in sports but if you throw events you can know 1000-2000 people after 1 year of doing it and get massive status. You don't need to go out all the time and drain your energy if you're an introvert, if anything if you just do 1 event every 1-2 months it'll add to your prestige and you can still stay at home most of the time watching anime but now you're cool and can get laid way easier. Social circle game is mostly strategy and business lite so you can learn it from a forum, youtube or a course pretty reliably. This is the cumulated knowledge of a lot of many generations of men, use it wisely young one and make sure to wear protection unless you aim to repopulate our species!

Also a lot of these debates happen because we define our terms inadequately. What does shallow mean? It can mean anti-intellectual, it can be does not appreciate the multiple fascets of life, it can mean focusing on status markers as opposed to other personality traits, etc. I like to talk mostly about money and sex because I find it grounds life into actionable goals and you can use many deeper fields to explore those two. A lot of intellectuals get losts into endless debates that don't really serve their life like the perfect crowd is the looksmaxxing crowd that doesn't actually learn how to talk to women and create beautiful experiences with them but will be able to tell us about the cephalic index optimization and give tips on optimizing your craniofacial morphology. Or college students that learn a lot about communist theory but have never tried starting a business or a non-profit and actually helping the people in their community. I think nerds is an intellectual that foucses on theory as opposed to being a practicioner, it also has to do with social trends as usually nerdy topics are not mainstream unlike makeup for example. Gaming is starting to become mainstream and so the average joe is a gamer but not nerdy until he gets deeper into like theorycrafting or like dungeons and dragon.