LordFall

You can bake that into your relationship and do threesomes with your woman. If you betray your woman though that ruins your chance at true love. It is important to get your needs and desires met though, I will give you that. Self-awareness and knowing what you want and what will make you snap towards unhealthy ways of getting those desires met is important.

Someone did find out. You did. I think if you want true love you should never lie to your women. It's like one soul in multiple bodies, it shouldn't lie to itself. Another way to look at it is people holding a chain that keeps them together. If you let it go, it's over. Doesn't matter how long it takes for the relationship to unravel itself after that. That's why dating apps are so important so you can take charge of your dating life and don't feel like random girls throwing themselves at you is very valuable. Polyamory is based on high trust and high communication. So if you want to fuck someone outside of your relationship you have to voice that and let your partner work through the emotions until they give you permission or veto it. If you YOLO it and fuck people left and right it's never gonna work.

In polyamory there is a concept called poly saturation which is the point where a polyamororous relationship reaches its limit with additional partners in terms of the time or emotional bandwidth to manage new relationships. I think if you engage in ethical non monogamy you will naturally hit that point where sleeping with new women causes no net benefit and starts to hinder your relationship even if you have two girlfriends at home that are genuinely okay with you sleeping with new women. The cool thing is that each person and couple has their own polysaturation quota. For monogamous people it's 1 and for some polyamorous people it's 2 partners and for some it's 6 partners. It's beautiful quest to find that out IMO and I have no fucking clue what mine will be. I quite like the idea of a quad and having 3 girlfriends. I came to that idea before I truly embraced my bisexuality though so perhaps I will add 2 boyfriends to that and predict that my ideal polycule will feature 6 people total. Who knows will it hold up or will it be lower or higher? Find out on the next episode of LordFall's love life! Also people don't like talking about this but your material abundance plays a massive role in this. If you are broke and financially stressed then it'll be much harder to handle multiple partners. If you are rich and stressed and working all the time it'll be equally as hard. If you have a fat stack of cash and don't have to work for the rest of your life then I imagine it'll be much easier to focus on your dating life and just build a thriving household with multiple partners. So each person has to account for their financial and career realities and what that looks like for them over the next 30 years. For me I have been obsessed with building multiple streams of income and financial leverage for about 10 years now mostly for that reason but also for my own peace of mind and independence. It's finally starting to bear fruits so in the next few years I should be set to prioritize dating and have my personal finances taken care of. AI is also a blessing for people in terms of work life balance and mastering it is a key to have a truly high quality dating life. I think that's a stage yellow insight that most will miss especially stage green folks that demonize AI.

I find what you're saying very fascinating because it's power dynamics 101. I think your advice is probably correct for most women. I don't know if this is fully accurate but it's worth exploring deeper. I think what you're describing is close to putting women on a pedestal and submitting to the divine feminine ideal. I think this can work sometimes for men but it can also spectacularly backfire. This is actually quite high level in terms of dating dynamics because I don't think any science that mankind has done so far can conclusively answer this one way or another. The best I can say is that self-awareness and knowing what your wants and needs is very mandatory for a peak dating life. If I was paid to do dating coaching for women I don't think I would deviate from the advice you've given in terms of female POV. In terms of consulting for men though I don't think that being in the chasing dynamic is optimal. You are also correct though that if you are the one being chased it can lead to being indifferent or jaded. So it's a tough nut to crack. It also boils down to what this falling in love means and often times from the male POV it does mean submitting to the woman and being at her mercy so to speak. I will say that I do truly believe this is a weak form of love and there is a more powerful one that can be achieved that benefits both the man and the woman but I will need to test that for myself and report back in a few years instead of speculating. Me and @Inliytened1 were just talking about this in the other thread though. It truly is a fascinating discussion and I think its good to deconstruct love and relationships as much as we can.

That's one version of it. Another version of it is a polycule. So you have 2 girlfriends but nobody else sleeps with others outside of the relationship. Or more than 3 people. The whole idea is to not let society define how you can love someone. That is between you and the people you choose to live with. Once again we're back to sexual shame but there is nothing really that infuriates me further then that. If some man really tried to put boundaries on my love life I would have to kill him. If I lived in a muslim society I would start a revolution almost inevitably.

I was indeed not into polyamory at that time correct. Once again big difference between open and closed polyamorous relationships.

Of course, I was pretty deeply in love with my last girlfriend. I think avoiding deconstructing love helps save us from the painful parts of our past and specifically why our last relationships fell apart. To create much stronger ones in the future though that avoidance must be addressed to not repeat our mistakes continuously.

I really like how this guy handles his devlogs and game production. This guy is a natural at audience market fit, with only 19 videos he's had 3,662,094 views. I don't know if he's archived some of his worst performing ones or if his art style and thumbnails are just this good, either way it's quite impressive. He's now getting funding through Patreon and Adsense to hire freelancers to help him on the project. I joined his Discord a couple of days ago, it's cool to see how he now has an active community around his ideas. That's where I wanna be 1 year from now. Just finished Day 11 of daily reels/Youtube shorts. If we extrapolate that to 30 days that makes for around 9k views a month and 10 subscribers per month. I think I can do better and reach more like 50k views which would start to give me some pretty good momentum. I've noticed that my best performing format so far seems to be combining history with how I'm gonna be implementing it in my world as opposed to just straight sharing worldbuilding ideas, so I'm gonna make more content around that. Getting into long form content should help as well for audience buy in, so far I've only made concept arts in that format but I'm working up to making explainer videos that are 5-10 mins in length. I have a new strategy I'm gonna be working on combining this LotA channel with my main personal youtube one so I'll update you guys in a few days when I post the first video around that.

Plenty of people have. What exactly is the part that still frustrates you about true love? Demystifying concepts requires asking the right questions. You seem hesitant to phrase your exact concerns on the issue. Is it mainly about having relationships stand the test of time? Or keeping the spark alive after initial infatuation? Or a soul mate type of question, like with all the 4 billion women out there which one is really the one meant for me? There's really only two main tracks of questions if we look at love in a romantic relationship. Finding it and keeping it.

I don't think this is an optimal strategy. It's hard to say truly, I'm not sure tbh. Recommending women not try to put effort into the men they are dating is pretty interesting take though and is basically Red Pill from the female perspective. I remember reading similar takes on the female dating strategy subreddit. I think it comes down to self-awareness, dating around and seeing what you personally enjoy in your life. I think some women enjoy chasing a man as long as their energy is matched. The definition of simping in my book is putting in more effort than what you're getting out so being a simp is not a good strategy for either gender.

I'm not a big fan of mystifying things. Relationships are great and clearly filled with love. It's the concept of true love that you seem stuck on. What does it mean to you? I was somewhat joking but I think part of the magic to life is the drive to keep giving your all even when life is hard. Relationships/female companions with nice butts are part of that for sure. It's the magic of duality baby, definitely not nothing and certainly a very nicely shaped Everything.

True love is everywhere. We have to define our terms here. If you mean an everlasting relationship with no conflict that's a bit harder achieve. True love is like seeing the perfect ass when you were depressed and realizing that life is worth living after all. I think this is my favorite love song ever I sometimes wish that I could fly Hold me tight in your arms tonight Sick of livin' inside a lie Alright I can't count the times I've tried Stand alone just to lift you high You're my answer to the question why

I don't see why not.

One of the deepest awakenings I've ever had was on shrooms and the biggest feeling I got from it was basically like "this is too good to be true." I think that's what a lot of stage green people on the forum feel especially in regards to sex. Like I can have as much sex as I want and still have an awesome life? It's too good to be true. I think it has to be done responsibly but I like pushing back on people's limiting beliefs. I indeed agree that unrestrained reality is peak.

Annihilates in what way? I didn't realize the literal definition of materialism is the philosophical belief that physical matter is the fundamental substance of reality, so I give you a point there. The point I meant to attack is that enlightenment comes bundled with eliminating desire. I think it reshapes our relationship to it but definitely not eliminate it. Desires are a feature, not a bug. Compulsive cravings are another subject entirely.

Appreciate it bro. It is on topic though, I very much dislike how a lot of spiritual people try to wish away materialism. I don't think it's wise, I think it's spiritual bypassing. Words have meaning though otherwise we can't have accurate conversations. You cannot be nothing otherwise you wouldn't experience phenomena. Being everything makes sense under the non-dual paradigm. Being nothing makes no sense and I think is pseudo-intellectual. Likewise bro, I appreciate you.

Growth and evolution. Being able to attract females in most species has driven natural selection forward for hundreds of thousands of years. If there was no pussy to reward my efforts I would be much lazier in life. I would call them a muse more than a drug. Drug has a negative connotation. If you have a negative relationship with women, that's on you. @How to be wise I quite like René Girard's theory on desire but I don't think it's the full picture here, maybe only like 30-40%. There is clearly something both biological as well as ethereal and spiritual to the relationship between the feminine and the masculine.

I wouldn't call it nothing, I never liked that phrasing of it. It's inaccurate, and I would say reality revolves around the exact opposite concept. It's more like you are everything. I think the nothing phrasing also leads to nihilism, I see it in users on this forum. Thinking of yourself as everything makes way more sense to me, then you're simply experiencing yourself infinitely in all kinds of ways. Most spiritual people tend to be very limited people that don't have much impact on the world and I think it's because they get lost in a nihilistic solipsistic bubble and awakening somehow makes them weaker instead of more powerful.

I'm confused, you think you disappear once you have an awakening? I did it a few times and it felt like I was having sex with myself with two bodies at once, it was pretty cool. The eye contact is intense. Hard to think about who exactly you're looking at in the moment but it feels otherworldly for sure.

Have you tried having sex on psychedelics or tantric sex? Having sex while in a non-dual state is something else my guy let me promise you that.

Be careful what you wish for because you might get it all! Looks like true love to me.

Lmao of course you can know if you're enlightened. Be careful of gurus selling you a trick that's unknowable you just have to keep listening to them or buy their books or their meditation seminars! I'm glad you agree. If someone can't find oneness in a vagina then there is something wrong with their psyche for sure.

You need to get the premium version, it unlocks world conquest mode for most AI girlfriend models.

How do you know this? Neglecting your body and having monks force-feed you is not exactly being enlightened enough to stop eating in my books lol. Sounds more like hyperfocus to me and perhaps irresponsibility since you're forcing others to be responsible for your daily needs and being a hindrance to them. I think learning to not be desperate for sex is important but let's not call sexual desire low consciousness, I think that's simply spiritual bypassing.

That's not the definition of an ultimatum. Telling someone "hey I don't wanna date you but if you want to keep fucking casually we can do that" is not an ultimatum, it's being honest and transparent. Sometimes people get hung up on you and it is indeed better to break it off and sometimes people can take the truth and keep sleeping with each other casually. A lot of women prefer this branch swinging method of dating where they aren't single for that long and are serially monogamous instead. I think it can sometimes be the case, but it's just as likely that sexual hangups are the issue here. I went to a Catholic high school and they would separate couples making out and tell them "leave room for Jesus!" I don't think that helped anyone understand healthy boundaries and sexual relations and probably caused more harm than good. I don't know what happened with your buddy but my guess is they kept fucking for a few months, it ran its natural course, she moved on to a boyfriend, and nobody was victimized.