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There is no way I'm getting into a human piloted helicopter. That shit is a death machine. Apparently they're a bit safer than a private plane but seems like there are less ways to land them safely if something goes wrong.

I saw an immigrant almost beheaded a dude in Belfast the other day, pretty wild. It's not a popular answer but I think AI policing and police robots will solve a lot of this. Illegal immigration is hard to stop and especially wars and climate refugees will make it worse. You need bigger community support and basically mediators to assimilate these people and just better policing. You can't take people used to using stage red to resolve conflict and think it's not gonna be an issue. From what I understand most of these incidents are pretty streamlined and somewhat easy to predict. Immigrant incels raping people, people escalating conflict like street fights way out of proportion and unemployed youths causing havoc. It's quite unpopular but that's precisely what technology like Palantir and predictive policing is meant to protect against. I'm glad we got 1984 to warn against the negative effects of a surveillance state so that we now can focus on the positive ones.

Cool, haven't heard of them before I'll check em out. Which one do you recommend most? It was not bad I watched a few episodes, I didn't get too into it though I started watching Industry instead since I was interested in finance, private equity and investment banking. If you guys like the historical drama vibe shows, Black Sails and Boardwalk empire are gems as well. Especially Black Sails; a pirate's life sounds fun. I don't think there's a show around the caliphates but I watched a couple episodes of Magnificent Century. It's about the Ottoman empire under Suleiman the Magnificent and his harem.

It's all good I can get defensive as well. I apologize for not understanding what you were trying to communicate. The line between confidence and arrogance is thin, it's hard to always fall on the right side of it for me at least.

Seems like you're stuck in escapism. Try to elaborate on what exactly is keeping you stuck and what your fear is based on and we can give you some outside perspective. You can also vent it out to an AI that helps me break things down when I can't make sense of a situation in my life.

That makes sense. We are on a self-development forum though and thus I will keep offering advice to those that want it. I've worked a lot on this area of my life and it seems to be taking me where I want to whereas a lot of people still spin their wheels in the mud. I like to argue so people that claim things with certainty over things that are quite nuanced trigger me. I hope I gave you an interesting perspective to ponder.

It's all good we're only human learning to be superhuman! Have a good day friend

I mean before I say this I wanna emphasize I do not see this as frame control and I am going through this in good faith but clearly you lack some emotional intelligence bro. Don't you see how this is going full circle to how you feel about people as a whole? This was a perfect showcase. You're not empathizing with Schizophonia you're like hitting him with statements. That's not how any type of growth based conversation or coaching is done.

I just mean that I seem to have more sexual energy and desire to explore with different people more than the average person. Dating people in a polycule would be stressful and chaotic for most people but to me that sounds exciting and fulfilling. @Natasha Tori Maru is right that I tend to portray my way as the best one, I should be better in how I communicate. I mean to say that the problems I've seen talked about in this thread I have also encountered and I aim to share the solutions I have found to break through them for those that so desire. Good you got this. Here is a good video on the types of pictures you should be going for to have a well rounded profile

Brother I think you're projecting. I've admitted to being wrong and still learning in my journey many times in this thread. You're refused to admit that your perspective might be wrong and tripled down on it. I'm definitely an INTP, just more ambitious than most I would say. This is my passion and what I've spend over a decade building. I have not much ego tied in it, I have a lot of thoughts on it because this is what I spend my days working on and thinking about and I've met hundreds of people in the field and thus have a lot of reference experience to pull from.

I can relate to a lot of this, especially before I started my journey. The first thing that jumps to me is well yeah if you watch porn especially hardcore porn daily then that's gonna take a sledgehammer to your dopamine reward system and make sexuality feel flat. If you're into particularly unorthodox paraphilias it's perhaps helpful to deconstruct that as it'll point you towards different parts of your psyche that you're unaware of. This is a good Teal Swan video where she talks on it. You don't have to open your whole closet of skeletons in public but perhaps AI can help you deconstruct it. @Sugarcoat Fair enough. I did miss your comment about letting the sexual energy build up instead of needing to transmute it into action. I'll ponder on that, I had an interesting experience yesterday going out with basically my nervous system lighting on fire and experiencing full body bliss while I was meditating at an outdoor event. It was quite wonderful, never experienced something like that before. Even expanding on my inner thoughts in this thread has been liberating for me as it's things I've thought about but not really expressed in this much depth before. The conclusion I came to is I have perhaps more libido than the average person and need to build a bigger container than most to express it.

@Sugarcoat Feel free to elaborate if you feel like I didn't get to the root of your question or observation. @Schizophonia All good bro the rest happens in your real life. What are you gonna do this week and this month to take action on what we've talked about? If you find it worth it to develop these connections organically then I 100% know you can do it. The rest is on you frero. Also to touch on the asexual comment once more hopefully you're not watching too much porn. It's very easy to suppress your libido through that especially adding neuroticism unto it.

How come?

Partly correct, I'm not talking solely about an internal state. That's great but that can be transient and doesn't really do much with your relationship to the outside world. What I'm pointing to is becoming a powerful person in your local community and the world as a whole. Dating is the intimacy based part of it and social circle/social media is the communal, business and global impact side of it. To me what's what a stage yellow developed life looks like.

What? It's a good thread and we're each sharing our perspective. What is unproductive about this conversation? Seems like perhaps you're not a fan of chaos in general and run from it. Confronting all our shadows is how we grow as people. Poking at each other's weaknesses is good. We should welcome it. I mean it's common for people that lack experience to have a similar perspective. I've clearly stated throughout the thread that if you're happy with your current circumstances then there is no need to change it. I have said that I'm not yet where I want to be in life and working each day towards it and enjoying the journey. To me an identity is constantly evolving. @Natasha Tori Maru I use weed more than I want to and it's for sure stopping me from reaching the peak effectiveness that I seek. I don't really fall into escapism though just underperformance the way I see it. It's made my business less effective than I want it to be and reduced my cashflow stability to be more precise. What appeals to you about asexuality? Is it truly what you desire or it's just easier and safer than confronting your shortcomings? I think it's possible to go quite deep with one person but a lot of people use it as a mask for avoiding development. For example if you scroll through Reddit a lot of relationship issues that you see come up both in a communication, emotional and sexual term stems clearly from a lack of self exploration and overall underdevelopment. That's the common societal narrative, I'm a lone self in this world oh I found someone who accepts me let's settle down and see what happens. Not saying that's ALL monogamous couples just a lot and the majority. I identify with all people and humanity as a whole so settling down with the first woman I like doesn't really appeal to me. As you can see my perspective is one of exploration and discovery with many people. I wouldn't say I don't aim to go deep as opposed to narrow, I think you should do both to explore all that life has to offer in that regard. Once I get settled into polyamory I will have children with the partners I have found the most joy and stability with and build something like a homestead where I grow my own food, raise animals and do international business with my communities across the world.

This is such a textbook example it would be a shame not to use it to spread awareness. As someone who's dated a cluster B(bpd) woman before, it catches you by surprise and fails to follow the rules of rationality so watch out if you're a highly rational man. So Aba from AnaNPreach just had a big drama unfold in the past few months with a woman he got pregnant accidentally and then tried to break up with as she decided she didn't want to date him. What follows is a beautiful case of all 4 dark tetrad traits displayed beautifully. https://www.reddit.com/r/Destiny/comments/1t6kunw/woman_making_claims_against_aba_from_aba_and/ Thankfully for him he has recordings, text receipts and in the situation he didn't get volatile himself otherwise it could've gone much worse for him. She proceeds to completely lie about a situation where she split him(going from full in love to someone to discarding them emotionally due to perceived abandonment or slight) and then after he decides he doesn't want to deal with this and tells her to leave and books her a uber and hotel to get out of the house, she proceeds to gaslight him by saying she's not safe outside and she has no service and has to walk outside for hours in the Montreal cold. Turns out after months she rephrases that she walked to 30 mins and booked herself a hotel. She then goes on interviews with Youtubers and tells people he screamed at her and verbally abused her when he has a recording of him talking very calmy and just being fed up with her and trying to get her to leave. People high in machiavellianism are master manipulators and know how to make themselves seem like the victim in all situations. You can't usually catch them red handed so it's common for it to lead to gaslighting and mental health issues for the person being targeted since you start to believe them. She also clearly shows sadistic traits in trying to ruin his life as much as possible and going out of her way to threaten to expose him to his competing content creators and records videos with any other girl she can get to say something negative about him. Also seems like clear psychopathy in feeling no guilt in turning on him like this(for example my BPD ex didn't really do things like this she was mostly just BPD) and also a lack of long term thinking and massive pride at being slighted since publicizing this makes her look unhinged and undateable to future prospects with healthy boundaries. She has some traits of BPD like frantic irrational efforts to avoid abandonment as she booked and cancelled abortion appointments multiple times(I read somewhere up to 10) even though she didn't seem to want to date him. It's very lucky for Aba that he's quite a grounded and rational person otherwise he could easily be in jail from an incident like this. It's a good reminder that emotional regulation is one of the top skills in life and most times with severely mentally ill people you just have to leave as soon as your boundaries are crossed and do not react to the attacks that follow. Dark tetrad is very real and present in both men and women so watch a few videos on it to understand how it manifests and especially some on healthy boundary setting as that's one of the best ways to cut those types of people off early as there are always signs. It's likely that Aba has a few narcissistic traits to be attracted to someone like this, narcissistic men and BPD women are a classic combination. How it works in a nutshell is you're a bit numb emotionally so a volatile and hot woman(they usually also tend to be hotter than the women you usually get so you let your boundaries slip and/or love bomb you) and play up the damsel in distress traits and it triggers a savior complex as well as you view yourself as a smarter and more grounded man than most you think you can handle her and change her. Big mistake the BPD traits are basically a hard counter for this and it always unravels. Traits are not the same thing as a personality disorder and I believe a lot of the self-development work that's done here if done sincerely will heal those traits as they surface from a wounded and thus powerful and sneaky ego. I did for sure and I've been working since my own last relationship to work on them and heal the wounded parts of my psyche so it doesn't happen again as it's quite a traumatic experience. Also quite common for PUAs to end up with mentally ill and particularly BPD women as we have an unstable sense of self and so do they and one of the core laws of dating is you do not attract what you want, you attract what you are. Dark Tetrad people aren't usually born evil, there is a clear genetic component but it's trauma based and it turns the ego into survival machine that's willing to do whatever it takes to get its egoic needs met(which aren't always rational. As I said before, psychopaths lack long-term thinking skills and impulse control; because they don't feel fear or the weight of consequences like a regular person, they're actually terrible in business.) Machiavellians are really the ruthless CEO archetype. Feel free to share if you've also had experiences with dark tetrad individuals as it's quite common and not talked about enough I believe.

@Natasha Tori Maru When someone says humans are profound waste of time that say nothing, that does not sound like someone rational to me. Does it to you? That sounds to me like someone who's jaded and gave up. I think my way is the correct way to engage with the world because it doesn't get me nor the people I see adopting it to that result. @integral I'm not talking about idealism. Feeling the way you feel is common, as I said it's covered in the video I linked above. If you wanna look at paradigms that lead to getting out of it as idealism then that seems like a closed off perspective more than reality. @WonderSeeker Which of my assumptions were wrong? I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and explain some things that you've said from what I know about psychology and sexuality. I could totally be wrong.

I don’t know I haven’t talked to him about it. Perhaps he enjoys the life he has now. You don’t need to have a massive impact if you don’t want to. The way you were talking about it sounded more like you were resigning yourself to that lifestyle versus something that you find deep peace and fulfillment in. Also once more if you have all these qualms about society why not have an impact on it instead of being the grumpy guy on the forum about it? Thats where my victim mindset comment was coming from. It reminds me of my brother who just finished uni in Montreal and he has a communist streak to him and complains about the economy. I asked him why don’t we start a business together then and make a lot of money and then you’ll either not worry about the economy or be in a better position to change it; we’ll see how that goes. I fundamentally believe in being at the cause not to the effect of our reality. There is a lot of change even one person can make on the world.

There is a great Owen cook whole hour and a half video on this, I highly recommend you watch it. You're not the only one that feels this way, most men give up around 40. If you're saying that you're experiencing connection with others as pain and burden then that's a diagnostic sign towards lack of alignment. If done right helping others should feel like basically hedonism like you're using your skills that you've built to solve someone else's problem and then they're grateful that you helped them solve it and say X person is such a cool person they've helped me; a virtuous cycle. Easier than done for sure but it can be done, I'm just starting to tap into it with my creative communities feels good. Also I'm 31, for sure I get to be in the wise elder category now

If you use sexuality as escapism to neglect the other areas of your life then that's a recipe for disaster. If your love of sexuality is not trauma based and is based on a love of sensual experiences and sharing that with others then don't demonize it. Use it as your muse. Build a business/career that gives you time flexibility and indulge in all the sexuality you want. It's funny you write this out now we just had a huge debate in the other thread over it; here is my whole perspective if you care to read it: Use AI to serve as a coach to identify the key parts of life where you're underperforming, solve them, make a lot of cash and enjoy what the world has to offer. I wouldn't call it twisted I would call it a gift. Don't let it turn into a curse and you'll have your cake and eat it too. What else is the point of cake?

That's fair I respect that. I'll just leave you with don't give up on people they are worth it.

Yes introverts need alone time to recharge. Doesn't mean you should forego socialization and then claim superior development from that. It's coping as I've said already. Why it's victim mindset is you're saying that the world lacks integrity and instead of being part of the change you're claiming that retreating in solitude is somehow the superior strategy here. You can't claim weakness and present it as a strength that's insanity. I'm very familiar with Leo's point of view on this and just read the post again. Leo himself claims that this is just his POV and I'll claim myself that it's a reaction to being put in a complicated system that your brain doesn't understand how to navigate and thus is exhausting. I've already explained how you can curate your own environments that are both more fun and meaningful to navigate than a nightclub and also bring up people to your level. That's the definition of leadership. You're literally said that people are a profound waste of time. What you should do is introspect on how you came to that conclusion and if it's grounded in reality or just your limited perspective of it. People have limitless potential. High consciousness isn't a lab experiment that shatters the moment you step outside your comfort zone. It's about having the capacity to enter the chaotic world and transform it with your presence or at least learn to enjoy it. That's what any mystic that's changed the world has done such as our boy Jesus. You don't HAVE to do that but if you're gonna claim that your perspective is the superior one then I will deconstruct it. I'm also an INTP hard introvert. I've spent 12 years working on myself and learning from different environments to get to the point where I'm at now.I still spend most of the day in solitude and introspection. Introverts can excel in social situations, they just have to find their own unique way of doing it. I know some hard introverts that do very well at cold approach but can't really socialize in a party or nightlife environment because the communication there is more emotional and vibe based than intellectual. I don't particularly excel at cold approach but I also mostly like intellectual environments. Which is why I did a podcast and host creative events. The arts are a mix of intuition and creativity as well as entrepreneurship and marketing so I enjoy the mix of left and right brain thinking. If you're satisfied with where you are at in life that's fine but I'm saying your limitations are self imposed my friend.

I think willpower is more important than genetics. Unless you mean like a tall basketball player but if you want to have a superhuman impact on the world that's all you my boy

@integral You’re misrepresenting my points to argue against a position I don’t hold. I never said having a vision for society is forbidden, nor did I say life should only be about chasing millions and models. My point is simple: true leadership and high consciousness don’t sit on the sidelines venting about OnlyFans models under the guise of "societal integrity." That's just jadedness and victim mindset masquerading as spirituality. When a framework teaches you to view the average human being as a "profound waste of time" who "says absolutely nothing," it’s not an evolution of consciousness—it’s an ego defence mechanism designed to protect you from the discomfort of participating in reality. Someone who understands the world doesn't retreat because the world is messy; they build systems to elevate it. I feel like I'm harsher than I really mean to be Integral it's all love bro but I feel like your mindset is quite off on this one. @Schizophonia I love the honesty here, it's good to be able to verbalize your hangups. Women want to have sex with men, that's how 300 000 years evolution got us to where we are. Why its easier or harder depending on different guys is a function of the market ,it's not really a personal thing against you. Meaning that you can use the strategies I've mentionned to be the same guy but paint yourself in a much more attractive light. To the point where a girl will fantasize about blowing you. Multiple of them even. You don't need to be a god for a woman to desire you. You need to work on social skills, lead with good energy, and share a fun, value filled space with them and then giving you pleasure becomes just as fun for them as it is for you. Women are usually even more sexual than men. From me asking AI, Toulouse is a student city with a massive creative scene. Don't worry about your friends not being motivated—join the game global group for Toulouse. It's only got 14 people right now but maybe 2-3 guys will be down to go out. Start small, look into local creative meetups, improv, or sports that you'd like, and start treating your neurotic brain as a video game to level up in. That's the part where treating dating like a video game makes sense. Not the dating itself part but levelling up your life and then it becomes less personal and less anxiety inducing. Baby steps until you're where you wanna be frero. https://www.gameglobal.net/groups/

@Schizophonia You seem open to feedback, that's mostly what it takes to build a great dating and carreer/business life in my experience. It's not a big deal to have only had experiences with sex workers at this point in life. That's how I started myself. I lost my virginity at 18 to a beautiful lady of the night named Sonia, it was an incredible 90 seconds. I got my first girlfriend volunteering at a comic expo in my city. The good thing about cold approach is it loosens you up and makes you more social by default so you don't even have to get a girlfriend from it, it'll make you more attractive to women in general. What city are you in? If you're in a big one there are pickup groups in most of them. Going out with other people is the best way to learn by osmosis from them in my experience. Humans learn collectively through our mirror neurons. If you just watch videos online and read the forum and try to do it by yourself that's nightmare difficulty. I would also build a social circle out of it. That's the number 1 medium to long term hack towards building social capital. It's also something that you can keep doing even when you get into a relationship to build an aligned group towards mutual goal that will ultimately gain you influence in your city and the world at large if you combine it with social media. You also learn much more from orchestrating your own social environment rather than existing in someone else's. It's also more beneficial to you because most systems exist to benefit those at the top rather than the main participant. I knew a club owner in Toronto that used the official instagram page with 30k followers to DM girls to invite them to his free booth and he had free bottles and liquor which cost other dudes paying for it thousands and the average dudes coming into the club to buy drinks and talk to the girls would just fit the bill for the whole venue. You can build yours in a win-win way but you'll still benefit most from being the leader and thus having the highest status and authority in the group. Beautiful thing is it works with any hobby. You could easily get laid from starting a Pokemon Card group if that's your passion or really about anything. The world has integrated in this past decade and that didn't used to be the case. I dropped out of high school playing league of legends competitively and now kids these days have collegiate esports teams, wadafak.