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Smoking is inhaling carcinogens for stress relief because you don't have any other healthy coping mechanisms put in place. People want to feel an end to their suffering and there is usually a quick way to do that or a more consciousness and more durable way. You conflating the two is a lack of spiritual understanding i.e. spiritual bypassing.

Did you tell him that and did he say he would work on it or dismiss it? It's not crazy to want to be with people with positive health habits if you want to spend a long time with them. As I said my mom passed away from complications related to smoking as well as I have a family friend who did quit smoking a few years ago because his doctor told him you have to quit or you will die soon. It ruins lives. I'm confused how is this related? Use protection and only have sex with people who are tested if you're scared of STDs. Smoking in the US alone kills half a million people per year it's not really a close argument.

Gaslighting is rewriting truth to fit your agenda. Smoking leads to massive increases in cancer and lowering of life quality as you get age. My mom died partly due to health complications due to smoking. It's a toxic habit with real consequences. If you're here to argue that human suffering is inconsequential and it doesn't matter if people are in pain and hurting their life quality then I will go right back to calling your argument insane my friend on top of you are clearly spiritually bypassing.

You said questioning bad behaviour goes against the will of God and that you are fundamentally powerless to change your bad habits. Which is victim thinking combined with insanity imo. @Asia P That "real pain" and sadness you felt wasn't you being crazy or destroying your relationship, it was your intuition screaming at you that you were in an unstable environment. Heavy binging and cocaine use inherently create volatility, unpredictable mood shifts, and danger, no matter how much someone "treats you like a princess" when they're sober. You had the self-respect to choose a stable, healthy future over a toxic present. You dodged a bullet. Don't second guess yourself on this one IMO.

Yes you do you have many parts of your brain like the neocortex and the prefrontal cortex which allows you to make conscious decisions and not react to stimuli solely based on impulse. You are gaslighting because you are switching the villain and the victim. Now someone that advocates for their partner to stop doing damaging substance is just "going against god" and doesn't understand free will. That's not how the concept of free will works so you're not the one that's being talked about in this thread but I assume you do this in real life as well to avoid responsibility for unproductive behaviour. That's fine if you're satisfied with using that justification to cope with the problems in your life I can't change your life. I can change mine and tell others that what you're saying is toxic and gaslighting and victim mindset fundamentally.

Stop drinking the kool-aid and touch some grass buddy, you're describing insanity. Worse then that you're using it to justify toxic behaviour and trying to paint some beautiful picture about how it's all god's doing. Which is gaslighting. What you're describing is about the existence of squirrel. Give yourself some credit in that you have more agency than a squirrel.

What a weird coping mindset. You have the power to change your habits if you so desire. If you don't want to then that's a whole different story and you can fall into gaslighting like you just did there to justify it.

Why did you feel unsafe and paranoid? That seems more concerning than substance use although that can be problematic as well. Also how did he address it when you brought that up to him? If your partner respects you then you should be able to have difficult conversations without toxicity emerging. If he started to get angry at you or to gaslight you around these subjects then that's undoubtedly toxic behaviour. Comparing that to hearing you out and then working on the issues and perhaps having an occasional slip up here and there are two very different situations.

Anti aging is starting to boom quite well so you might never get wrinkles and end up biologically immortal sooner than you think. Yes you should. It takes about 30 mins to an hour to get something decent put together. Buying a domain name is like 10 euros. Stop overthinking and do it, you deserve independence. Create an instagram if you don't have one and start posting on it. A website is nice but it won't get you leads. I would buy the first 2 books of Alex Hormozi, he breaks down business better than anyone else I've seen. Do that and come back with more questions, asking more questions without taking action is a bit redundant. No matter your personality you should still be able to make 5-15k euros online within a few years of applying yourself. The personalities with massive industriousness are more meant to do multiple millions and billions but no reason you can't build a sustainable life doing something you love even if you aren't super money motivated. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mst4hreQYl0

That's how the social contract works. For some of us to live in harmony the ones that refuse to bend to the rules must be put somewhere else. Look at what happened last night when Spurs fan walked out of the stadium after the Knicks lost in New York, people got beat up in the street. I wouldn't be surprised if there's a stabbing or shooting reported before the series is over. The human is a dangerous animal. https://www.instagram.com/p/DZXZ-JmEYcw/ Soon enough you will be able to have an AI psychologist assigned to everyone to coach them towards greater civility and consciousness but even then some people will refuse it.

Dope yeah just replied in it. I still don't use it as much as I should tbh it still kind of freaks me out no matter how much I like the idea behind it. My next plateau will be making AI agents that work on my behalf 24/7. Right now I'm still using it for step by step guides to do stuff and for art generation for my game.

I would say my biggest use case for it is to enhance my cognition. I tend to have deep and nuanced ideas and it's hard to convey them to people and get feedback on them. Helps me fix my blind spots especially as I tend to fall into intellectual narcissism and not see the flaws in how I interact with people at times. The use case I'm most excited about it more business oriented. I'm working on a dating brand and just built a forum for it and I just ask gemini what to do for each step and then do it and it gives me updates. I've also started to use it for a bit of code and game development and since I'm low frustration tolerance it's been a godsend in both helping me manage my emotions but also just tell me what to do step by step. It's pretty wild even a world class coach isn't gonna be there with you all day everyday, just 1-2 consulting calls with you per week at the very most. Like honestly it's to the point where you can ask it "I want to make $1,000,000 in the next 3 years in game development, can you come up with a timeline for these 3 years and break down my week this week on what tasks I need to do" and you're well on your way to making your million. I think overall it's gonna solve the global economy in a few years I don't see why not, it benefits everyone. Like you could basically ask it "What are the current legislative and supply chain bottlenecks to be able to give everyone on earth $2000 USD in real income? Consider that most of that needs to be spend on housing and food so you can consolidate those verticals and find ways to reduce costs using marginal cost saving strategies. Give an ETA to when that will be possible." As I matter of fact I did ask it that and apparently we're looking at 2045-2050 for post scarcity. Looking forward to it, thanks Gemini!

Dope followed you. Yes IG is pretty good with recommending similar followers. I would say at the start don't overthink it too much. Try to make one post each day until you have 18 posts(3 post per line and grid is about 9 posts so 2 full grids). Ideally a few reels if you can work yourself up to it but if they're just pictures, stories and carrousels for now that's fine. You can always archive posts that you don't like or that don't perform according to your goals later down the line. Now get into the habit of adding everyone you meet or know on Instagram. It's more powerful than getting their phone numbers and they will become the start of your own online community. Some girls I talked to 5 years ago still watch my Instagram stories sometime. If you don't know that many people go to meetup events in your city related to activities you care about then add them on Instagram and ask if they're part of any cool group chats, bonus points if they're local chats. That's basically Instagram 101 102 would be figuring out a vertical that you wanna make content in and making reels a few times a week so you get new people to follow you that you haven't met in real life. Then creating your own group chats. Instagram is about creation, connecting and consuming. Use the consumption aspect to find what you would like to do/create. People get stuck on mindless consumption but if you make it mindful then its quite powerful. Open an obsidian and save any reel that appeals to you. If they're hot girls that you wanna date add it to your girl bucketlist page. If it's a group of guys going on vacation in Monaco on a super yatcht add it to your travel bucketlist. If it's someone doing something funny that you could recreate, save it to your video ideas folder. The key lesson is what one person can do, another one can as well. Baring very specific niches like getting into a tight industry like the NBA basically anything else you can achieve within a few years. I used the monaco example because I wanna sail accross the mediterean myself on a big superyacht with a bunch of girls on it. I've done it in Toronto but not on a superyacht yet and I wanna rent it for a few weeks and stay/work on it. It's been on my bucketlist for 3 years now I think, getting close should be able to do it by 2028 hopefully.

Appreciate it bro, feel free to follow me I'll follow you back. Instagram is a great way to build community, gain status and you can eventually use it as a dating app. Highly recommend everyone use social media as an extension of their dating strategy. Yes a lot of men are put off by high agency women, it's easier if a woman is docile and lacks real world experience. They also worry about women that use sex to avoid emotions so if they get into a fight the guys fear that they'll go fuck an ex or some random dude(it does happen for sure) but I mean it can equally be true that a woman that has had a decent amount of partners will appreciate your unique qualities more. I've also heard that virgins can take you for granted since you've all they've experience of the male species so I think it's a pretty silly ideology. Yes attachment theory is important to understand otherwise you just replicate unhelpful dynamics over and over again. You can be secure in your attachment and still enjoy seduction and romance, perhaps it'll lead you more down the polyamory side though or full monogamy for those that enjoy that.

I think that if you approach your pickup journey in a traditional cold approach way instead of making female friends and an overall social circle that aligns with your goals and values then it's easy for me to see how that would lead to a lack of fulfillment. It's normal to take a break from dating and sex to focus on other goals, I've done that myself. I think you're perhaps spiritually bypassing. It's easy to find think that sex is a low consciousness activity but it doesn't have to be so. Dating and sex can lead to greater intimacy and empathy which can then lead you to connect with human beings overall and thus be a powerful leader that then leads back towards community and business. Tier 2 has to do with holism and systems thinking. If you're gonna challenge me on that point feel free to elaborate on your understanding of Stage yellow and beyond and how it conflicts with what I've said. Bounding with your fellow human beings and maximizing reality is an extremely high value thing to do. Most people engage in low value coping based relationships that don't serve their deeper goals though so the are a similar activity conducted in a lower consciousness way. It's easy to conflict the two but they are very different. An easy litmus test is there are people you can hangout with that the more you hangout with them the more chaotic and dysfunctional your life will be. People that chase hedonism and have an alcohol addiction are an easy example. If you hangout with them 100 days in a row your life will literally collapse to the point of losing your job, going homeless, going to jail, etc. There are others that if you hangout with them for 100 days in a row you will be very fulfilled and happy. Intentional communities, entrepreneurship minded people, people that value health and fitness, etc. You can separate this from dating and sex but they can be very connected if you build your life intentionally around pursuits that you value and people that embody that. Which is the difference between stage orange vs stage yellow pickup.

I think all the current violent conflicts on earth will end and we will have world peace in the next 15 years through some form of global council AI police state. Perhaps through the UN or a new similar organization. The fundamental reason is because war is as a whole unprofitable for the human race. It is very profitable for a few invested deeply in the military industrial complexes of their regions but for other power centers in their countries don't benefit from it. Fundamentally if we look at it in terms of incentives we find ourselves with : - Moneymaxxing - Making a lot of money in a sustainable way. Requires certainty, markets dislike uncertainty. A few players benefit from it through the previously mentionned military industrial complex and insider trading but as a whole there is just less capita produced when wars are happening. - Statusmaxxing - World leaders gaining power and prestige through wars. That era seems to be done mostly I believe through social media and the ease to dissiminate information and specifically the horrors and brutality of war. Hard for Netanyahu and Putin to look like glorious leaders of the human race when there is countless clips of their soldiers and missiles killing innocent people. Before social media is was much easier to keep information siloed and thus mostly the mainstream leaders had the status in society. Now we have a variety of other influencers and leaders that are able to obtain notoriety through peaceful means. The recent shooting attempts on Trump have also highlighted how vulnerable world leaders with a public presence are so I think being a cutthroat authoritarian is gonna fall out of style quite soon. There is going to be a massive AI and surveillance war coming in the next decade but in my opinion it is already won by the people. What you might not know is the tech community is fundamentally anti-authoritarian and open source. It's just a game theory exercise, most scenarios eventually fall into a nash equilibrium however unbalanced they are in the short term. The cold war and non-proliferation treaty are a good example of that with nuclear weapons. Concerning that there are talks of them being used again but I think ultimately the laws of mutual benefit and equilibrium will prevail.

I started vaping in 2017 and have been trying to quit for around a year. I've managed to do it for three weeks but keep relapsing when I hang out with other people that vape or drink. I've directly noticed that it lowers my energy, increases my anxiety, and lowers my motivation so that in and of itself is enough of a reason to quit besides any other medium or long term health effects that I'm consciously trying to ignore. My roommate vapes and so trying to quit will be a nightmare. About as easy as quitting junk food while owning a convenience store. But this needs to be done since I feel like it's hindering my growth potential. Do you guys have any advice/relatable stories for me?

Having sex with escorts is alright, your own girlfriend is way better though. Then you can cuddle also which in some ways is better than sex. I will try it with two girlfriends and report back. It's also fun to fuck in different place its a different feeling each time. The woods feel very primal even if it's not comfortable.

Which one of his points do you think I misunderstood? If someone is not comfortable with sexuality and doesn't wish to get over that discomfort and thus raise their bodycount then that's their life I don't really care. For me sexuality is thrilling, fulfilling and an exciting adventure so I have pursued plenty of partners in the past and plan to pursue many other sexual connections. Increasing bodycount is just a consequence of that, it's not really the concept that's worth getting stuck over. I'm not really into one night stands so for me building a polycule is the next logical step in my life. I aim to date a few bisexual women and travel the world with them and sleep with women all around the world. I'm also bisexual myself so perhaps that's another key to this discussion, I'm more comfortable in sexuality than most people. I'm just starting to explore that side of life so far it's been a good time!

Absolutely. Where do you live? If you live in a mid sized or big city you should try that newbie challenge I linked and go out almost everyday to talk to new women and in a few months you won't recognize the social skills you now possess.

Because I'm injecting consciousness and development in the discussion which is obviously lacking. Leo mostly did pickup from that solely cold approach stand point and he seems to have hit a wall in the type of women that he managed to integrate into his life. He should also come at it from a more stage yellow integral perspective and I believe he will have much more success. I agree that deep relationships are key which is why I find that the social circle model much way better in achieving fulfillment in your relationships, romantic and otherwise. I'm getting my long term friends to follow this and come to my events as well. There was a lot of resistance at the start but they seem to be enjoying it now and helping me scale them in an interdependent way which is great. A friend of mine helped me on a podcast I did in Calgary and another hosted an investment event with me and before I moved cities we started going out again regularly which was a lot of fun and pushed my own boundaries in the process. I actually am not really a cold approach guy and there's still a lot of development I find doing it. Part of it is self-esteem and proving to myself that I am worthy of talking to the hottest women I find and they seem to be more and more into me the further in my journey I get so it's quite healing and gratifying to pursue.

Your position is obviously quite shallow. Feel free to input your own thread into an LLM and I'm sure it'll point out the shortcomings in your viewpoint. I'm not a psychologist but usually when someone projects that everyone else must have shallow and toxic relationships that's more a reflection of their own life than a truthful view of reality. Obviously there's some truth in what you said but half-truths are some of the most dangerous generalizations you can make.

Yes there is something wrong in the way you do pickup and that's why you're not fulfilled with it. That's my claim and I've explained my reasoning behind it. You seem have a dense ego with how you refuse to admit your shortcomings and stick to your position even when presented with evidence that invalidates it so I don't think you're very coachable which is another reason why you're stuck in your journey. Yes I've followed Leo since he posted that rant against PUA videos 10 years ago which is why my game was built with depth to avoid the pitfalls he pointed out in it. I'm thankful to him for that, it was a great video. If you find meaning and fulfillment in your life outside of relationships then more power to you. Feel free to share what's worked for you since you gave them up.

Not at all. He admitted himself that his form of pickup was spam approaching women on the street. This is is a low form of pickup and seduction. I'm not surprised it lead him to not find fulfilment or satisfaction in it. He literally projected on me that everyone does stage orange pickup since he did it. I've already explained last page what is a better way to go about it. What I described is like stage yellow game as it is based on holism and not quick sex. The best way to think of it is viewing your dating life and social circle as an extension of another and looking at it more in terms of farming than hunting. Meaning that you're basically creating a fertile oasis for everyone to benefit and then finding the women that are particularly into you from there and dating one or many of them depending on what you're into. For example I'm in the creative industry and host photoshoots with models, photographers, content creators, influencers, etc. A lot of attractive women in that industry obviously. I've hosted events now in Toronto, Calgary and Kelowna around it. I'll be doing it over the summer in Montreal. I own accounts and group chats in each city around it now with hundreds of people in them. I help the women(and the men as well) with their creative goals and give them content help and give them tips on finding sponsors and monetizing their brand. https://www.instagram.com/creatives_toronto - This is one of my accounts for example You see how this is much more holistic than just cold approaching women on the street? I'm a logical guy so I spend my time thinking about business, marketing, finance, etc. So might as well share that knowledge with other people that usually don't find reading books about those topics interesting. I have spent the last 4 years hosting events around it. They're quite fun and it's fulfilling for me to learn how to make cooler and bigger events and travel to different cities to do so. I hosted a fashion show in Calgary last year for example. If you go with this strategy you must utilise the sowing vs reaping principle meaning that you provide people in your community/social circle genuine value and good times and don't just use it as a cheap ploy to get laid. I used to hangout with club promoters and dating coaches a lot in Toronto and this is my own version of this funnel. I've gotten laid many times from social circle game, it's a much funner way to date than just cold approach or online dating as you're also friends with the women you date and over time you get access to way more attractive women than you would just being a random guy on the street like it seems Valach was saying he burnt out doing. Every man has different interests and skillsets and thus their setup will look different but for me the creative industry makes a lot of sense and is quite fun to be around. I talk about it more in this thread if you guys are curious

You can do pickup from any stage from purple to turquoise. If you do it from stage orange that's on you. Do not project your lack of success unto others, it's the furthest thing from the truth my friend.