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I think it means like you only swipe on girls that are perhaps less attractive or the archetype that you know feels you whereas even if you're one of the top guys in your city a lot of the hottest girls are still gonna left swipe. With the chubby women population maybe I could've done 40% You ever been on photofeeler? Another coach showed it up to me and I used it a lot for my profile and clients. Key is doing a bunch of photoshoots and testing all your pics so your profile is maximized. When I used tinder casually I only had like 14 total matches over a few years and then when I used platinum, a lot of boosts and doing this strategy I got to over 700.

Yeah for real they compared a male super top model with his bald alter ego that's pretty crazy stats. According to Gemini a super attractive male would get 10-35% match rate and an average guy 1-2%. At my peak when I was using it a lot and my algorithm was really good I'd say I had maybe 15%.

Do you guys believe in AI UBI and the tech singularity as a solution to this umbrella of issues? I don't see a way around it, really excited for it. The possibilities are hard to fathom.

What's more meaningful than the relationship you're gonna spend most of your time in? It's the top thing you could do apart from your relationship to yourself and reality as a whole. No I think most people lack a growth based mindset and are not familiar or competent at self-development. I don't think most people have solid self-esteem, do you? Yes value to others. Society as a whole, their social circle and their romantic partners in a dating context. Idk I think that's a commie take, most business is useful otherwise they would go out of business. You can sell to people's vices but most businesses are around societal infrastructure and things that people want to buy. Some are a net negative but I don't think that's the majority. For example musicians or actors are in the entertainment industry. You can say there are flaws to it and some of it is mindless coping but when life sucks and someone listens to a song they relate to and they feel better, many people are in the business to get them to have that song be distributed and building the hardware that it's played on. I'm working on it, daily content is hard but I want to build a content machine for sure. My main goal is getting consistent cashflow with my events right now. I've also had my own limiting beliefs in posting content but I'm getting over that slowly.

It seems more to be politically related. He is from Alberta(most conservative province in Canada) and "The shooter also called for the destruction of liberalism and capitalism by armed revolution." Seems like a unabomber philosophy type of dude.

Pretty tragic situation just happened today in montreal. We have a right winger and apparently incel coming from Alberta to Quebec to shoot up the pornhub headquarters and posting a manifesto about "porn being responsible for the suffering of men and we need to take up arms against the system." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2026_Côte-des-Neiges_shooting Seems to be one cop dead, one citizen dead that was killed by a panicked cop and the shooter himself either having been shot by cops or shot himself. Really tragic to find people with a toxic mindset like this miss-understanding systems thinking and punishing random cops doing their jobs as a result. I really dislike anarchy and I wanna thank you Leo for making that video on Libertarianism many years ago to point out the strength of the system and the even worse results of lawlessness. I think predictive policing and systems like Palantir augmented by AI are basically necessary to solve violence for mankind.

It's not that I cant it's that it's not valuable to me and a waste of time as I've said. I've talked to homeless people and random people outside of an event and it's not a 100% waste of time there is always something interesting to find in anything but there are better uses of time.

Sure but I think it's 90% coping. Most guys have never dated 20 super hotties let alone one. Also attracting hot women presupposes a lot of attractive qualities that they probably have not developed. It's also a sign of weak epistemology because a lot of them fall into a religious shame paradigm that they've never questioned or just never got into pickup and dating advice which seems like a strange thing to omit since dating is one of the core fields in life. A super hottie is an easy example to prove or falsify but also most people have terrible communication skills so they bicker and fight in their relationship constantly. They have never bothered to read a book on conversation as well so it goes back to my point on being lazy. The status thing is a better trait to examine because status is basically an honest signal of value. So if you have no status you're probably low value or low skill in areas of life that matter. Status is a strange one because it's a zero sum game so not everyone can be high status but maybe they can be in the next few decades with the complexifying economy we're entering into. It's not a shame based statement but I think it's pretty close to a fact. I'm not as high status as I could be and I'm working to become better at my craft to become more recognized in my industry and in the world as a whole.

No I don't find much value talking to random people. My social energy is limited so I need to be selective otherwise I find myself getting angry at wasting my time and losing time on my goals.

That's fair, knowing your goals is important. I like what you're doing with your game idea and especially the finance field is usually quite lucrative. I like to correct people on this forum in general because their viewpoint seems to be very limited. I'm glad OP vindicated me on this thread but I could've been wrong. The dudes with the scarcity mindset are provably wrong though and it points to a flaw in their own dating strategy. I hope they fix it for their sake otherwise they will be part of the mediocre average.

Yeah that makes sense. I've started going to corporate events on eventbrite to meet more corporate minded women. They're also more logical than the average women so I like that personally. Crypto events have been good too for gen-z type women that are also into finance and money. What's your favorite type of event to meet women?

Sure but by approaching and being respectful I doubt you'll even hook a woman on the street without being particularly charismatic. I think at like a work function or speed dating event that advice could be sufficient but even then you have to be charismatic and interesting otherwise you'll bore an attractive woman with options and only get the more desperate ones.

Yeah I mostly figured out what I wanted to in terms of attracting women. I'm just correcting what you're saying because it sounds misleading to other people.

Yes that's what I said. In my direct experience what you're saying is not true and idealism.

Do you find yourself attracting particularly beautiful and overall high quality women?

I don't think it worst very well, most men are respectful by default and have mediocre dating lives and can't attract a woman that they don't know to save their life. That's the whole idea of the blue pill vs the red pill. Men offering the bare minimum which is having a job and being nice to women doesn't really work that well because the marketplace has globalized in competition and increased in complexity.

You're speaking in generalizations. I've already said I guess maybe but most men don't make compromises on actual real limits. This is what I'm trying to point out. We're debating multiple points or verticals of optimizations you can say. I want my dating life to be basically as perfect as it can be, you don't have to hold yourself to the same standard if you don't want to. We've talked about : 1) Partner attractiveness 2) Partner compatibility 3) The quality of your social circle 4) Your impact as an individual 5) And now we're talking about polyamory and how feasible it is. I am not in a polyamorous relationship so I can only point to the other people that have done it successfully. Sure but if you're single you can pick already optimal partner or growth based partners. It's hard to attract optimal partners so people usually cope and go full sour grapes mode.

Jealousy is very addressable solution in polyamory, it's an emotional intelligence skill as well as a communication one. You have to know your emotional triggers and soft/hard boundaries and how to communicate them to partners. There are whole books written on this. I read ethical slut, its pretty good I recommend it to people interested in the subject. https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/n4gban/the_brief_poly_guide_to_jealousy/ There is also the concept of compersion which is getting joy from seeing your partner happy so your multiple women should be happy to see you fuck the other ones. Some people also take it to you being happy when your women fuck another man. I don't know how I feel about this but I am bisexual so it shouldn't be the biggest deal. I also believe in hierarchal polyamory so if the men are in my polycule and benefitting to my life that's a whole other issue than my women spending their energy on a random dude.

This is a delusional mindset. Everything that's counter-culture has a bad reputation by definition. Pickup is a wide industry as well. Plenty of pickup coaches talk about relationship game as one of the most important things to master so you don't fuck it up with your actual wife when you get one. They talk about it in this polygyny conversation here at 4m40 seconds :

Wow it's almost like the universe is infinite and you have personal limiting beliefs that you keep projecting into our conversations. Self-awareness is key, if someone has some unchangeable life circumstances then they need to be aware of that and if they hire a coach their coach needs to be aware of it. Otherwise most of life is unlimited you just need energy and discipline. I've falsified my position many times. If you're satisfied 10/10 with your dating life then reading about some other dude online who's doing it in a different way than you are will be irrelevant to you. I don't really know anyone who's 10/10 satisfied with their dating life though and in my experience there are glaringly obvious issues they're having. There are some compromises to be had but most men settle way before they hit anywhere near a hard limit they just have bad frameworks to improve their circumstances or their ego can't handle humbling themselves to the process. There are some hard limits like in polyamory there is something called poly-saturation where at some point the more partners you have you get diminishing returns but if you use hierarchical polyamory and you do the children thing with only 1-3 women you can probably add 10+ either play partners or long term companions to you and your main wives.

So true fame game is exponential game. Especially if you own the platform. I knew a club owner that would DM girls from the official club account and invite them to the owner's booth with free unlimited alcohol. His booth always had more and hotter girls than even the best promoters I knew. There is a lot of truth to the saying women wait at the finish line and fuck the winners.

I don't think that's ever optimal. You should try a hair transplant especially if you like younger women. This came up in our friend group with an acquaintance that's balding that decided to shave it all off.

Fuck it I talked to one of my business partners, we're gonna organize a speed dating in Toronto a month from now to test it out. I'll let you guys know how it goes. Really excited I think I'll learn a lot in the process. I think there is a big potential to help the dating scene, it's a disaster worldwide so each time I get pulled away from the dating industry I feel called back to contribute to it.

I'd be curious for feedback for people that have attended them. I haven't yet, will give it a go for my own dating life but also thinking of running them for my dating business. Was it worth it? How did you like the people there? Would you go again/recommend it to a friend? Best story wins a cookie

No you're strawmaning my point. Most people do not have severe chronic health issues. If they did then of course they should align their results accordingly. Even then fuck it we're looking at great medical improvements in the next decade I think it's looking pretty good for people with health issues. I'm not a medical expert so take that part with deserved skepticism. I'm pointing to having a stage yellow integrated lifestyle. Having an integrate stage orange is part of it. Having an integrated stage green social life would be that your social endeavours benefit the world. Having a stage yellow one would be taking it the point that you understand systems thinking enough to scale your results and impact tremendously higher than an average person could. Also stage yellow quantifies stuff, it doesn't rely on vague generations to understand the world. If you yourself have health issues and thus don't have the energy necessary to maximize your social and dating life that's a whole other issue. You haven't shared much about your life I got pretty personal on this forum you guys know basically everything about my dating life lol. We can't really have a serious discussion in generalities. Not everything has to be a debate, that's just one my preferred ways of communication.