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Perhaps your current burnout with dating stems from the lack of integration into your overall life goals and social circle. It's all connected my friend. Cold approach has an early ceiling, I'm not surprised you're reaching some diminishing returns in it. The unhealthy pattern in my experience comes from when you invest too much time in your dating life at the expense of other areas in your life. I dated hot girls when I was not doing high level social circle events but the quality and how well they fit into my life has only gone up since I started doing it.

This is a good reel on the topic https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZC77xDgA1Z/ That's partly why women's tastes change as they get into their late 20s, they experience the different types of men in their early 20s and see that a lot of them are only good for short term hookups and are not high value partners long term. Black men are one archetype and drug dealers and club promoters are another. I think it's good to understand what draws women to these type of men and learn some alpha traits as much as you can but if you got your life well setup financially in your 30s and 40s you're gonna clean up compared to this type of dude that peaks early.

Cold approach has limited upside in terms of the social life you can build. If you're able to get decent recents with cold approach that's cool but social circle allows you to take those women that you approach and invite them to events to build a whole network and community for whatever you want. I host photoshoots and business events for example, you might have different interests. Cold approach also is just 1 on 1 so really either you end up dating one of the women you like and that's the end of it or you just hook up with a bunch of people. Social circle lets you hangout with many women at once, make cool male friends too, increase your status, throw events, make money, help and give back to the people in your community, etc. This forum is a social circle, it's just online. Humans are communal we like groups of people. The same skills you learned in pickup can be used on your social life as a whole. Usually you end up with way hotter women too, what I see in cold approach only guys is they aren't able to attract or keep the highest tier of women because usually their social life is empty and boring.

I don't agree basically any hobby has gained some type of mainstream appeal due to mostly the cross-pollination that social media allows us. Video games, trading card games and anime, for example, were seen as super loser hobby that only men liked 10 years ago and now there are e-girls everywhere and you could get laid building out your own Yugioh card group 100%. It's also up to you to also have a top of the funnel side of it where you find a way to get attractive women into your circles or be able to join groups that they are a part of. A high quality dating and social life are not a given, you have to put in a lot of effort to cultivate it. If you do it right there are not many more rewarding things in life though.

Very cool. I'm super excited for what generative AI has to bring to the movies and overall entertainment space. Big budgets and gloat have killed originality in Hollywood, it's time to bring it back!

Sure but the point is not to figure out how great they are at it, that's for themselves to introspect on when looking at the quality of their relationships. The point is that most relationships still start out from social circles today, even with how prevalent online dating is. The most surefire way to date hot women is to be in social circles with many of them and display value over time. The guys that are narcissistic, weak willed, inconsistent, etc will weed themselves out and usually if you're a solid man with even a respectable amount of game the single women of the group will gravitate towards you. It's also the most fun way to date because your social circle should ideally be a reflection of your interests and goals if you cater it well over time.

Israel and the IDF have been caught executing violent war crimes and sadistically punishing even innocent palestinians many times. Their ideology goes beyond protecting themselves and their people. It's think that they are the chosen ones and look down on other races and religions. Let alone the conspiracy that they are going full expansionism and want to make that happen by violently expanding their borders. This is not all Israelis but seems to be the view of the current regime under Netanyahu.

I would say women usually take longer to really get attracted specifically because they are screening for long term characteristics. Which is why building a social circle with women works so well for dating because they get to experience you over time and the guys that fake the high status characteristics for a quick lay are weeded out. If you look good and are charismatic a lot of women are gonna like you right away but that's shallow attraction compared to really getting to know your over months and seeing that you are the man in different types of circumstances.

I can't really afford to divert time/energy away from my other work and businesses. As long as I keep continuously working towards it then it'll concretize over time. I've built out the vision in terms of compartments that I wanna try. So for example I've been working to illustrate a manga from the lore I've written. There are some problems with AI character consistency but I'm getting it to where I want it over time. Perhaps in 3 months if I'm motivated I can come out with the first volume of 200 pages. I'll release each chapter on open manga websites to build an audience and see if I can sell the physical versions as real manga books.

I was talking with Leo today about using AI to make video games and he didn't believe AI would be that helpful so here is my devlog to prove otherwise! I have been ideating this world building project for around 4 months now and mainly using AI for generative images and lore building but I fundamentally wanna make a game out of it as I think that medium is more powerful than something like just a manga or an anime which I do also plan on making eventually. I don't have experience in game development, my main related skills would be in marketing and content creation. I tried my hands at unity a couple months ago and it was I mean not too bad but really frustrating and I got as making this square on the blue background that you see below but it was a very empowering feeling. I really like this video that I watched here That basically warns you about trying to take on an overly ambitious game project and making your dream game right away and instead trying to ship modular projects that work and are profitable and build upon that over years to eventually build your dream game. I like this idea especially as my dream game is a VR web 3 MMORPG, and mmos are notoriously hard to build but I want particularly one with a well developped economy that ties into the real world so I think that will encounter even more novel issues. My current idea is to make a simple 2D roguelite game as a MVP test project and build upon my ideas from this foundation. I think it's possible to bootstrap by myself with just mostly my time and a few hundred dollars of budget in tools to kick things off. I'm gonna use the Unity engine as it's free for startups and seems like a powerful engine both to make the 2D version of the game and eventually transfer the game assets to VR. I think there is a very powerful feedback look that's able to be utilized these days where you take on a project and document yourself building the game(in this context but can be anything) and that serves as your initial userbase and community to launch the game when it's ready. I've followed a few people that did it this way and it seems to be a very powerful way to bootstrap your own game studio basically. I used to play a lot of League of Legends and did got paid for it for a while. Made it to challenger which is top 0.01% of playerbase and that was really fun and I feel like Riot did a great job building a community in their game that was the biggest in the world at that time and I met many friends in real life that also played the game so it was a great social experience as well. I feel that they built a lot of cool stuff around their IP like the show arcane, esports world championship tournaments and local leagues but it fell short of what I think a gaming ecosystem could be. I'm a big believer in web 3 and eco investing in a gaming ecosystem with your playerbase instead of just squeezing them for cosmetics in exchange of a fun consumer experience. For example as a league player I invested something like 20 000 hours into my account, got a lot of rare cosmetics and high rank badges and emblems, spend like $2500 of my own money in the game and if I tried to sell my account it would be worth like $500 at best where as in other game ecosystems like Eve online and games like Counterstrike your time investment is translated to actual assets that are worth tens of thousands of dollars in some cases. Multiple people in different ways talk about the downfall or collapse of the gaming industry, I think it's dramatized as the profits are still there even though a lot of layoffs and downsizing are unfortunately happening in the industry but I do agree that gaming as a whole has stagnated big time. I think web 3, AI agents and VR/AR offer unique opportunities to supercharge the industry and bring it into a new era of glory. Riot Games actually ruined my favorite champion in League of Legends through a rework and thus it actually ruined a big part of my enjoyment of the game so that's also part of my motivation in wanting to develop my own game. There is a massive MMO project that just collapsed last month and I find that very sad as it was a very ambitious project that had a lot of hype in the community but it was ultimately mishandled through overambition, lack of transparency and corruption. I aim to take some of their good ideas and learn from their mistakes. There is also another game that I enjoyed playing that did operate for a while Spellbreak which was a really fun mage PvP game that ultimately fell short of its potential. I really like this mage PvP system so that's a big part of the inspiration for Legend of the Abyss that I wanna carry out. Their mistake was also making it too competitive and not casual friendly which was something that League of Legends managed to do very well. Feel free to subscribe to the Youtube channel for the project here. So far I've only posted basic character concept arts and game concepts but I want to start doing devlogs especially if I managed to build community interest around it. I think AI tools immensely empower small teams and creators to accomplish massive thing and I hope to prove it with legend of the abyss. If you have interest in helping out the project and joining the team I would totally be open to having co-founders on it!

I mean it's a well documented phenomenon that women tend to seek out men that outearn them. It's true in even the most egalitarian societies on earth like Norway. It's not an absolute fact but the even new modern studies point towards being high earning man facilitates the formation of relationships as well as financial issues are one of the top factors predicting a divorce.

Okay for who? Nobody else really cares what you do in life. Should you in your own mind be okay dying a virgin? Fuck no. How many cold approaches have you done in your life? Do you assume you suck at it or are you too scared to try? Your excuses are silly. Humor is learned/practiced. Probably easier to get laid with low IQ than high. You can totally learn to get laid consistently.

Just be careful of this self-development is relative mindset. If the goal of life would be to just remain ourselves perhaps we'd still be a non physical spirit and not individual beings. All of reality is built on evolution. From the time you were born you didn't know how to speak and write, you had to self-develop to learn english. Know your own goals and don't let other people impose theirs on you but it is foolish to think you can live your greatest life potential without self-development. Your main wife should ideally be bisexual and enjoy seeing new women alongside you.

This is a good video on the upsides of doing geo-arbitrage i.e. international living and dating The quality of life that you can get yourself is much higher than in the west.

How do you know have you been to France? I’ve been and I know multiple French women as well as I’m in Montreal and encounter both French speaking québécois women and also French women from France on a regular basis.

I don’t mean it’s necessary unstable just that it’s not for everyone and I recommend people experiment with alternative relationship types if they feel drawn towards it.

I don't think so I think some women have high standards and don't like the men in their immediate circle. I would almost consider it a green flag. Vetting and screening are very important though but that's with any relationship. Well divorce only started being legal recently. They have to strictly enforce monogamy or it falls apart.

That's fair. I don't really have the time to watch it. What are some of your favourite points from it?

Money is vital for lifestyle quality. I don't want my women to need to work for example. I agree fame is great for attracting many attractive women overall. If you're famous and have location independent cashflow that's playing the dating game on easy mode.

Are you talking about your own personal feelings or the basis of it being a valid critique? That's more so the latter I was talking about. Your feelings are your own.

Sure I think it's a totally valid dating strategy. Treat people well wherever you date them but foreign women are beautiful and fun as well. Especially when things get long term I don't think there's any ground to judge people based solely on having a global dating strategy. Colombia is a common country for this as well as Argentina. Going to a place with weaker currency is one strategy but making a lot of money and doing the reverse strategy is equally valid. I feel like Dubai would have very cool women for example. I'm a bit unique in that I don't mind transactional women, I had a multimillionaire sugar daddy as a business partner for a bit and he was telling me that the women you meet through sugar dating are much higher quality than what people stereotype them for. Getting rich and dating the best women across the world is for sure the best dating strategy there is. Anything else is a stranger idea. You can do it in your own country but the world is so big might as well explore what it has to offer.

I think it's totally fine to have your own boundaries wherever you want but linking the concept to red pill negativity is just not true. Academics use it all the time. There's a few good books on it that help deconstruct the concept. The Red Queen by Matt Ridley on Leo's book list talks about hypergamy extensively for example. There's assortative mating that's basically looksmatching and dual-mating strategy as well. A lot of these terms are used in the red pill but they are just observed phenomenons by researchers over time.

Easier to support multiple women over there. I think it'll work for your brain that the women in your harem are new when you fuck them on a rotation especially because you wouldn't be seeing most of them daily. Let alone if you travel with women and fuck new women together. I think if you make decent money it'd be pretty easy to pull this off. My game is pretty good now so I think it'd be pretty easy for me to make this happen. The financial component is most of what I'm working on at the moment. My business is just starting to look like it's gonna start to pump out online cashflow consistently. Having sex 2-3 times a day for multiple decades seems feasible to me. I have a way higher sex drive than most men though. Usually when I sleep with a girl and I'm really attracted to her I can go 3-4 times each time we see each other easily.

They appreciate the effort though and then you can switch to english. They also are more tight night in terms of friend groups. Clavicular is used to Miami where offering women to the club works really well, I think that's more common in North America. It's common in Toronto as well. He should've hosted his own events and invited women and their friends and he would've gotten laid easily especially if he did multiple across days and reinvited women since hookup culture is less extreme in Paris than in Miami.

Yeah you can, it's documented extensively across both humans and different species https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect