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It's interesting how different audiences enjoy different things. I was not that hyped about it but you describing it like this made me way more likely to play it. I enjoy storytelling and a cool Bonnie and Clyde type of romantic story over an arcade sandbox type of experience.

Why does this prove that she cheats specifically with the subconscious goal of getting better genes? Wouldn't that point more simply to novelty leading to more dopamine, excitement and thus orgasms in novel sexual encounters similar to the Coolidge effect observed for males? I also suspect that multiple women dating the same male would be more likely to orgasm than women in a monogamous relationships due to the enhanced arousal that comes from the intrasexual female competition.

I agree I think intellectual and competent women are very hot. I dislike the clueless princess archetype, I want competent queens to rule my empire with me type of energy. Why are you so confident in being wrong? What makes you say this? I have met many confident women that operate in their logical mind all day that a lot would consider masculine and controlling in their day to day life and a lot of them just became super girly and submissive behind closed doors. One girl I knew was a stage technician like with work boots screaming at people to disassemble the behind the scenes of theater productions and would get coffees at the cafe I worked at. I asked her out one time and she ended up back at my place and she had these pink pyjamas that she brought and was literally the most sweet cuddly girl. Completely different from the girl I saw from her at work or even when she came to the cafe. In Toronto they have the Cyattie archetype which are women that talk like hood mans and act pretty aggressive and curse all the time. I think that's mostly a sociological adaptation to fit in with the street culture we have here and I haven't slept with one yet but the girl like that I worked with was super nice and sweet once you got to know her but kind of aloof and standoffish otherwise. That's only two examples but it's so common, even a lot of dominant men are known to enjoy letting go of control behind closed doors and a lot are attracted to dominant women and literal femdoms due to this peculiar psychology.

Makes sense, if you're satisfied now then more power to you. Just be careful with trying pure repression, usually that seems to backfire on people.

So the guy was given a high position in the Trump Administration overseeing millions of children or did we go back to a rational timeline yet? Edit: Even better looks like this guy was funding a 97 year old spiritual guru who's now an international fugitive Swami Prakashanand Saraswati https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prakashanand_Saraswati

Did you watch Revenge of the Sith? That's the best one that ties up the whole story. It's so sad I was genuinely shook and had to take a walk afterwards to clear my mind. Such a tragic love story. The gladiator scene from Attack of the clones is so good I think the prequels set up the intensity of the emotions for the original movies. Without them you don't really understand who Darth Vader is as a person and how the Jedi's foolishness failed him. He literally went to Master Yoda in Revenge of the Sith and told him he was scared and getting visions of a loved one dying and Yoda told him that he was good and he should be happy that they are dying, they will be one with the force now! Doesn't seem that he was very happy when thousands of Jedi died and were made one with the force after Order 66 what a hypocritical arrogant little prick that caused the whole conflict of the show. The Jedi remind me of the concept of spiritual bypassing, they try to act holier than thou and above the world but it hurts a lot of people and ultimately causes their downfall. It relates to what we were talking about yesterday on the sadism topic. Vader was in such pain that he wanted the whole universe to feel his pain. In the canon his suit was made to continuously torture him so his rage never faded. It's truly a deep romantic tragedy, I've thought about burning the whole world down before if the woman I loved died. I'll have to rewatch the originals again as well but from what I remember they were a bit bland and don't they repeat the plot of blowing up the death star twice? Check out Ahsoka, it's really good and season 2 is dropping early 2027! I watched episode 1 so far it was quite good. I enjoyed seeing the character of Obi-Wan completely losing his confidence as a jedi and abandoning the other Jedi who then gets hanged. It'll be cool to see how he comes back to full strength and duels Vader as I already saw clips of that on Youtube. Gonna checkout the Acolyte next before finishing Kenobi, it's a prequel and explores the dark side more which I find fascinating.

@Emerald Curious what your thoughts on private marriages are in this case. If a man wanted to marry you and do the whole ring ritual and ceremony with family and friends thing but not have it officially registered through the government; would that be a dealbreaker for you or fine?

What would you say the problem is then?

I had this insight one day when I went to get coffee and my roommate walked the other way to go and buy weed. I guess that's how life works and how human history unfolds? People taking different paths and then reconvening to tell ourselves how it turned out. Coffee walk is nice, there are usually cute girls walking around the lake it's a good heavenly area by Toronto Harbourfront. If you go the other way to get weed you have to walk by the highwalk and it's noisy but it's also cool to see cars go past you in high speed. A lot of homeless people by that dispensary, it's a bit sad to see but also gives you insight into the unfortunate economic situation our society is currently under. I'm sad I had to move away from there. I was too much of a brokie and I had to take another job elsewhere. I will level up my business to the point where I can live anywhere I want to in the next few years. I swear it.

Who's your favorite character from those movies? You didn't end up enjoying the prequel movies?

Yes, that's fair I was never addicted that badly. How come you don't get into pickup? If you know you can meet women to fuck semi-consistently then porn becomes less of an attractive product. If you're a virgin or have a low body count and you don't know how to hookup with women then of course you're gonna pedestalize sex and watching other people have it is gonna become one of the highlights of your life. I used to have this routine when I was depressed where I would wake up, go out walk by the lake and get a coffee, then smoke some weed, watch youtube videos for intellectual stimulation then watch porn when I got bored and take a nap. I would repeat this 2-3 times a day until tomorrow came and would burn days without doing anything but still having more or less a good time. I got out of it well because literally I was gonna get evicted and stopped having enough money to pay rent and my roommate had to cover for me a couple of times and the shame got too much so I stopped coping and got on top of my shit. Are your parents funding your lifestyle? That's an extremely tricky situation that I see a few men fall into and without survival pressure there is really no big pressing need to stop the loop of coping and self-destruction.

I mean yes it literally is? You have to be competent in many areas of life to make such things happen. You need a comfortable space for people to feel good about letting their sexuality out. You need to be able to find and attract multiple people that are down to have group sex. You need to understand their psychologies and insecurities to be able to do it repeatedly without the polycule collapsing. You need to have a pretty high level of career and business development to hold the whole thing together financially. Most people don't understand that their dating life relies upon many other systems in their life that seem unrelated at first. For example stress tolerance and the ability to deal with problems under pressure will reduce your likelihood of divorce. It's not immediately obvious why mastering emotional intelligence and understanding the wheel of emotions would lead to a better sex life but it's clearly related. It's a long distance relationship? How come you haven't met women locally in your city?

I see you went for the stage beige level reply

Just finished watching this, it was a really high quality deep breakdown of Deedra Meero from Andor and why she is obsessed with control like she is. He also breaks down the psychology of Thrawn and the toxic workplace culture of the Empire. Worth a watch!

Feel free to lay out your argument if you believe it has merit. I've already debunked it thoroughly, or so I thought. If polyamory is not for you then that's fine but some of the claims you made around it are demonstrably false.

How exactly is this causing you to suffer? I got a girlfriend and slept with dozens of women while still watching porn daily at times. I think in general not accomplishing your goals will make you miserable, blaming porn as a scapegoat for all your life's failures is inaccurate in my experience and a weird fixation of the NoFap crowd. I've tried going off of it for 75 days was my longest streak and I was happy I could prove to myself I could quit but I didn't notice any significant difference in my day-to-day life. I was promised boundless energy and laser-sharp discipline by the NoFap crowd but I think it was about neutral for my work ethic since it made me jittery and anxious without an easy way to release that stress.

You ended up getting a girlfriend? That's sick tell us about that. I put that business on pause for the moment to recenter myself and recreate my life purpose from scratch but I do still believe in it. There are good photographers in every city. Every single person should try hiring one a few times. Your online image and presentation is the difference being between a random irrelevant dude and being known by thousands of women and being able to go on dates like a conveyor belt. It's the equivalent to us being on actualized.org a global platform instead of hanging out with our local meditation hippie group. Each person that has ambition should become a global institution. Last time I went to Europe I was 13 years old and obsessed with playing Pokemon Black on the 3DS. Next time I go I will similarly be having a lot of fun but it will be a co-op game played in a hot tub this time.

With a powerful muse, a man can create masterworks of art. Women have inspired men throughout history to create greatness. With 5 powerful muses, a man can create an empire.

I'm clearly more mature than you in terms of my approach to understanding dating and creating a high-quality dating and relationship life. You admitted that your approach is trying to fuck everything that moves and being sad that it didn't lead to long-term mutually beneficial arrangements. Put the ego aside and look into the resources that I've laid out for you. Before I pivoted away from that business model I taught men dating as a job and helped a few get into relationships and some lose their virginity.

My mind is not juvenile, I think perhaps yours is closed off and you're falling for the trap of pushing limiting beliefs onto others. First of all why do you default to pornstars are desperate people getting paid for sex? What a lazy bias, plenty of porn actors love their job and have more money than you and I combined many times over. Second of all, deconstructing scenarios and recreating them into your own life is not juvenile. It's systems thinking. It's based on understanding the situations and factors that make a scenario possible and what resources and lifestyle you would need to recreate it in your own life.

It's not too late, I would read one over the next few months. If your career is on point then might as well get obsessed with your dating life and fixing your blindspots so you can make your wildest dreams come true. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Manipulated_Man This one is really good quite a short read. It's written by a woman who wrote it from the perspective of being ruthlessly honest about all the ways women take advantage of men. It'll help you understand the underlying principles behind arguments in relationships and how to not let your boundaries get crossed. This one is also pretty classic and also great to analyze our own psychology as men and why we are drawn to dysfunctional relationships.

This is such a textbook example it would be a shame not to use it to spread awareness. As someone who's dated a cluster B(bpd) woman before, it catches you by surprise and fails to follow the rules of rationality so watch out if you're a highly rational man. So Aba from AnaNPreach just had a big drama unfold in the past few months with a woman he got pregnant accidentally and then tried to break up with as she decided she didn't want to date him. What follows is a beautiful case of all 4 dark tetrad traits displayed beautifully. https://www.reddit.com/r/Destiny/comments/1t6kunw/woman_making_claims_against_aba_from_aba_and/ Thankfully for him he has recordings, text receipts and in the situation he didn't get volatile himself otherwise it could've gone much worse for him. She proceeds to completely lie about a situation where she split him(going from full in love to someone to discarding them emotionally due to perceived abandonment or slight) and then after he decides he doesn't want to deal with this and tells her to leave and books her a uber and hotel to get out of the house, she proceeds to gaslight him by saying she's not safe outside and she has no service and has to walk outside for hours in the Montreal cold. Turns out after months she rephrases that she walked to 30 mins and booked herself a hotel. She then goes on interviews with Youtubers and tells people he screamed at her and verbally abused her when he has a recording of him talking very calmy and just being fed up with her and trying to get her to leave. People high in machiavellianism are master manipulators and know how to make themselves seem like the victim in all situations. You can't usually catch them red handed so it's common for it to lead to gaslighting and mental health issues for the person being targeted since you start to believe them. She also clearly shows sadistic traits in trying to ruin his life as much as possible and going out of her way to threaten to expose him to his competing content creators and records videos with any other girl she can get to say something negative about him. Also seems like clear psychopathy in feeling no guilt in turning on him like this(for example my BPD ex didn't really do things like this she was mostly just BPD) and also a lack of long term thinking and massive pride at being slighted since publicizing this makes her look unhinged and undateable to future prospects with healthy boundaries. She has some traits of BPD like frantic irrational efforts to avoid abandonment as she booked and cancelled abortion appointments multiple times(I read somewhere up to 10) even though she didn't seem to want to date him. It's very lucky for Aba that he's quite a grounded and rational person otherwise he could easily be in jail from an incident like this. It's a good reminder that emotional regulation is one of the top skills in life and most times with severely mentally ill people you just have to leave as soon as your boundaries are crossed and do not react to the attacks that follow. Dark tetrad is very real and present in both men and women so watch a few videos on it to understand how it manifests and especially some on healthy boundary setting as that's one of the best ways to cut those types of people off early as there are always signs. It's likely that Aba has a few narcissistic traits to be attracted to someone like this, narcissistic men and BPD women are a classic combination. How it works in a nutshell is you're a bit numb emotionally so a volatile and hot woman(they usually also tend to be hotter than the women you usually get so you let your boundaries slip and/or love bomb you) and play up the damsel in distress traits and it triggers a savior complex as well as you view yourself as a smarter and more grounded man than most you think you can handle her and change her. Big mistake the BPD traits are basically a hard counter for this and it always unravels. Traits are not the same thing as a personality disorder and I believe a lot of the self-development work that's done here if done sincerely will heal those traits as they surface from a wounded and thus powerful and sneaky ego. I did for sure and I've been working since my own last relationship to work on them and heal the wounded parts of my psyche so it doesn't happen again as it's quite a traumatic experience. Also quite common for PUAs to end up with mentally ill and particularly BPD women as we have an unstable sense of self and so do they and one of the core laws of dating is you do not attract what you want, you attract what you are. Dark Tetrad people aren't usually born evil, there is a clear genetic component but it's trauma based and it turns the ego into survival machine that's willing to do whatever it takes to get its egoic needs met(which aren't always rational. As I said before, psychopaths lack long-term thinking skills and impulse control; because they don't feel fear or the weight of consequences like a regular person, they're actually terrible in business.) Machiavellians are really the ruthless CEO archetype. Feel free to share if you've also had experiences with dark tetrad individuals as it's quite common and not talked about enough I believe.

To me if some random porn actor can fuck 4 gorgeous women at the same time, there is no way I will not experience that in my life and multiple times and with women I'm really into. I don't understand how men don't think about it like this. It's like becoming a millionaire, if it's possible then why not go for it?

Have you read books on female psychology before? There are some on the book list. I've read Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus, The Red Queen and The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine. Being only action oriented is not enough in life, you need a strong theoretical foundation to really be able to master life and being able to pull off life setups like dating 5 women in a way that would be beautiful whereas for the average guy it would end up in a nightmare. Women are complicated but they make sense. They have really high neuroticism compared to men, it's the main measurable personality difference between both genders. This makes them really prone to feeling a lot of anxiety and starting fights or nagging is one of the ways that manifests. If you sit down and analyze what she's feeling then it's pretty easy to solve. I used to get mad at my ex and try to logically counter her points in arguments but they weren't logical points and that was not her real issue so it didn't solve the problem. Once I figured that out and literally read books on it then I would have conversations with her just cuddled up on the couch and comfort her while asking her thoughts on life and to just stream of consciousness it for me and I was then able to figure out what the upcoming problems and nip them in the bud.

I think perhaps for a lot of people sitting down and breaking down their problems is too boring. I would work on that attitude if you really want a phenomenal dating life man, otherwise you're gonna end up with a mediocre one like the rest of the population. Look around you and the relationships and lives of the average person. That's what happens when you wing it and claim that strategically building your life is robotic lol.