LordFall

Seems like you're starting to know me! I did read it already like 10 years ago and I enjoyed it a lot. I enjoyed reading how his life unfolded and how Apple became the giant it is today. The part on him doing consciousness work, taking psychedelics and going to India to explore spirituality was particularly interesting. Apple has deeper roots than most technology companies. I think he's a good business inspiration for people on the forum. A dude that became a billionaire not by being a greedy capitalist but through being obsessed with building great products for humanity. That's cool, I should read more enlightenment and non-duality books. It's a topic of life that still scares me so I think I subconsciously avoid looking into it too much. It's starting to be an area of research that calls to me more and more though, often when I read technical stuff it feels a bit shallow and like I'm bypassing deeper knowledge.

I respect your openness, and honestly, almost every man who's had a lot of dating experience goes through that numb phase just to survive the circus of dating.. The trap is getting stuck in cynicism and ending up jaded. The more experience I get in my dating business, the more I realize a lot of this is due to not setting strong boundaries early on in your relationships and it leads to women baby stepping their way past them and the man resenting the woman and himself for it. I think there's no shame in taking a break from dating to go back to your centre and as a matter of fact I've done it myself a few times. Once that's done one can go back to the dating market from a position of self-awareness and power as opposed to being needy for approval and companionship.

I've changed my exact services a few times. My main skillset is in online lead acquisition and content production so I've had b2b clients where I managed their social media profiles for a retainer and last year I was more like a personal brand consultant. What I found the most interest in and I've done the longest is be a dating photographer so I think I'm gonna triple down on that. So that's dating profile photoshoots, dating consulting, help throwing events, help shooting content to build a nice looking instagram ,etc. I think if I focus on that vertical and really nail it I can scale it to 7-8 figures over the next few years. My personal branding client paid me $5,000/month so if I'm looking to productize the services I gave him into something like a $1,000/month offer that solves the dating life of single male professionals 28-40 and perhaps even women since the women I consulted on their dating lives seemed to benefit from my advice. Yeah I never touch any of meta's optimizations. I don't know what their aim is with it but they always reduce my performance. I always calibrate every setting myself. > And again, you still seem ambiguous about whether you intend to tell customers they're speaking to an AI. That's important point to establish. No I think that part is mostly irrelevant. When they message my brand they talk to the Royals Dating instagram account. It hasn't made much of a difference when I've had a random guy use my templates when booking appointments for me and even other people doing sales calls is standard. What matters is how happy they are with the results they're getting from purchasing our services. My role as the founder and face of the company is to guarantee a standard of quality across every offer that goes out under my brand.

Totally I agree with you. Part of my issue with the business I was running was cognitive overload. I had to have the skillset to take good dating pictures, package them into a worthwhile offer both for myself and the customers, shoot the ads to sell the service, run the ads, answer incoming DMs to book calls, take the sales calls, book my calendar, do the photoshoots, edit the pictures, handle customer support, etc. I tried to bring on business partners a few times and that worked in some ways but introduced some new issues. One guy was mostly reliable but he wanted 50% of the business to dedicate himself to it and I thought he brought nowhere near the value I did. I was willing to just split the profit 50% with him until we worked successfully together for at least 6 months-1 year before signing anything but that didn't work for him. Building a successful global enterprise has been a goal of mine for years and I'm always learning new skills to make that goal possible but it's obviously not quite there yet. Another massive use case for AI for me is a personal assistant that helps me organize all my ideas and plan my workday depending on my priorities and energy levels. I use Gemini for that a bit but it's not as advanced as I would like it. I don't think it's really all that complicated. You assign it a few lead conversations and see how it does. This stuff is based off of closing percentage so for example myself I would spend about $6 for leads while running meta ads. I would convert around 20% to sales calls so each call could cost me $30. I would close around 20% of calls so customer acquisition cost $150. That number went up closer to $200-250 when I brought on another guy and at that time I sold $500 photoshoots so the margins are really important. An AI appointment setter would allow me to analyze all the conversations and try different formats to see how the % change. These are not in depth conversations. Meta Ads lets you set pre-selected prompts for people to send as the first message, so they ask things like: "How much are the photoshoots?" / "How does the photoshoot work?" / "Can you tell me more about this?" then we do have you ever done a photoshoot before? -> There are a few different packages depending on what you need -> When are you available for a phone call? I think in the next 1-2 years the voice agents will good enough to handle the sales calls themselves. I've had some call me and try to sell me and it's definitely not good enough to build a sales team around but very soon it will be. The amount of business models that this unlocks is insane. @Lyubov This should already be able to handle my personal needs for setting up sales calls en masse. I will play around with it over the next 1-2 months update you guys on how it went.

Synthesizing is not the same thing as copying. If you look at the sunset and then you paint a picture of a sunset then you didn't copy the sunset. You created your own creation taking from inspiration an aspect of reality. AI creates new stuff all the time. It can also copy stuff; it's a very versatile tool.

Sympathy is okay to feel like the tribe supports you but what people really want and need is solutions to their deep problems. If one can solves others' problems then they gain a lot of power in the tribe due to offering a lot of value. Some problems are not worth solving but most are. @Spiral Yeah I wouldn't worry about the behaviour of the average women. I would build systems in your life that attract top tier women so you are surrounded by the women you enjoy most all the time both in your social circle and your dating and sex life.

That's a victim mindset. Put the accountability for yourself to attract high quality women that have high standards for their own behaviour and also develop the ability to set boundaries to cut off the women that don't match that. It's also important to understand female psychology as a lot of guys simply aren't skilled enough to handle women that would otherwise make great partners. That's why a lot of guys in STEM fields do poorly with women even if their finances and life is solid overall because they lack the emotional intelligence necessary to navigate the messy waters of human relationships skillfully. I keep using the word skill because it's a learnable skill. There are many great books on women's psychology and interpersonal dynamics that would solve like 80% of the problems you'll run into just by spending 20 hours going through them but most people can't be bothered to do that.

I think it's possible to do half decently already and in 6 months it'll be quite good. I already use Gemini to analyze my content and make it perform better which will eventually net me more cash. I will look to automate my outreach in the next 3 months and once that's done my cashflow will rise dramatically. I hired appointment setters in the past and it worked okay but I didn't have the business operations skillset to manage and scale it. I put the business on pause for the past few months and I will pretty confident about getting back to it and solving the bottleneck that stopped me last time.

It reduces the barrier to viability of a lot of businesses models so you can make profit in a lot of ways that were not possible previously. For example you can make videos, create a product related to it and build an outreach system and CRM that tracks everything for you whereas before only people very talented in marketing could aim to do something similar or an agency with a lot of manpower. This is a guy who's journey I'm following because he has a cool project that is similar than mine. He is very stubborn and refuses to use AI and is ruining himself hiring human artists to draw his comics. I think he is doing it the wrong way and investing too much upfront whereas that money can be vital for him further down the line once commercial viability is proven and he could put some capital towards blowing up his vision. I think at the moment his comics look mediocre and he could make a better one in 30 mins by using AI. I am curious where he will end up 1-2 years from now and if he will end up going the AI route or stay stubborn and fail or if he will persevere with his route and somehow succeed.

I think it's gonna be easier than ever to have your cake and eat it too in the AI age. The legacy answer would be to have a cashflow business that finances your art and other pursuits but most businesses that do well take so much energy and time that you won't have much left over to work on the passion project. If I were you I would definitely finish that book and read Alex Hormozi's books on business models and offers so you can learn how to make a lot of money efficiently so you can either start your passion project on the side or stack up enough to quit and go full time in the other one like Leo did with Actualized.org

I don't think it's as simple as this. By using AI you reduce your costs and unlock many types of endeavours that wouldn't be possible otherwise and thus you can afford to be much more original and creative. For example in the film industry they cannot afford to be creative because film budgets have ballooned. Soon independent film makers will be able to produce their own short films and after that feature films that are 10x better than any recent Hollywood garbage.

You're right but I would then say it's then on you to not build a relationship with someone who's wants and needs are incompatible with yours. That's why an optimized dating strategy that leads to an abundance of dating options is important. A lot of marriages are built on incompatibility and both partners end up having to overtly and covertly manipulate and coerce each other to get their needs met. There are enough dating resources out there that there is no need to have to settle for a relationship like that.

I hear you and see what you mean but that’s a form of light bypass and an invitation to understand the woman deeper. If a woman resorts to fake crying as manipulation it means she doesn’t have the communication skills to express her wants and needs otherwise. If a man finds himself in that situation it makes sense to initially be annoyed but I would encourage us to look deeper and see and understand the woman to truly understand what she’s crying about to be able to eventually solve her problem. I think you can absolutely solve others problems but you have to understand it better than they do and they have to allow you to help.

I feel sadness and then my analytical mind tries to figure out why she's crying and going into problem fixing mode so it's led to me having a hard time being present and there for them emotionally. I learned from experience that there is a later time to solve the problem but for now closeness and emotional support is whats needed.

That's where most of the fun comes in life! People have a hard time enjoying sexuality. If Joshe loosened up I think his life would be much better for it.

@Schizophonia I agree with some of what you say especially about the paranoia and focus on negativity. I think you're missing the empowerment aspect though. I don't know much about Lacan but I like a lot of Nietzsche's thoughts on the relationship between humans and power. The most toxic part of the Red Pill is the victim mindset and scapegoating of women for a man's lack of value and agency. They also are not very philosophical so are quite dogmatic. I had a conversation with one of the most influential Red Pill thinkers Rollo Tomassi 6 years ago and he was stuck on there being only 2 kinds of man, a blue pill provider male and a red pill alpha male. I tried to tell him that you can obviously combine the good characteristics for both but surprisingly he thought that it was a fantasy and women weren't even looking for that. I don't really have a label for my ideology but the term I like best is being a renaissance man. It originated from the 15th century and talks about being a polymath and having a deep mastery over many important subjects of life that are important to you. I really see that pursuit embodied in Stage Yellow multiperspectivalism and anybody that fails to reach that seems quite limited to me. A lot of men tend to avoid the harsh parts of having to compete in dating market but that's the foundation of our species. Most mammals have quite a hard time mating and it's what leads to us being more adaptable and powerful as a species over time. It's quite simply natural selection. Trying to meditate your way out of that is just as silly as the red pillers blaming entitled women for the strange state of the dating market today. Females are supposed to be entitled; If women were easy we would be all in a field to this day.

Do you think most men experience the competitive nature of our society as being satisfying? I agree with you that under the right mental paradigms you can start to see it as envigorating and satisfying but for most it's more like a heavy burden if not a crushing expectation.

The main virtue of red pill is solidifying that you cannot run away from the burden of performance as a man. Men who try to forget this truth eventually get bitten in the ass, whether they are single or manage to get a relationship but eventually their woman loses respect for them because they think that the rules of nature stop applying to them. Offer value or you will not be valued. It's really a priceless lesson. Conscious women are often times even more ruthless about who they spend their time with because they have healthy boundaries and have done a lot of introspection so they know which type of man would add to their quality of life and which would drag it down. I would argue it's way easier to date a lower consciousness woman. You need to get your shit together to get a high quality conscious woman. If you've never read the Red Pill Subreddit, you have no idea what red pill is. Red pill content on Youtube is random dudes using generic looks money status or women with high body count based talking points to make the most controversial videos possible to get a lot of views and get paid. I would recommend every man here go on the subreddit and sort through top rated posts and read through the ones that strike your attention. Of course it's gonna be some uncouth stuff but take the lessons on social and power dynamics and your life will be enriched a a result. Take a eat the meat spit out the bones approach to consuming content that has a mix of good points and silliness in it. Here is a good post I saved that comes to mind : https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1mhe7dq/women_dont_care_about_your_struggles/ There's also the purple pill debate subreddit which is people from both perspectives discussing dating dynamics. It's okay and there are some good posts but it's mostly pointless cultural commentary and not actionable advice or high quality mindsets to adopt like the posts I linked. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/

Why was it a clusterfuck? Also who cares? The last person who should care about your baggage is you. It's not because you fail at something once that you won't succeed in the future, as a matter of fact that's the only way to succeed. Being neurodivergent is not a reason to not be good at meeting people. I'm neurodivergent. You indeed can't use a normie strategy though. Normal people socialize based on relatability and avoidance. Meaning they look for people that have similar views of the world as them and then go do random activities to pass time with them while their life is probably stagnating. Socializing based on value is a much more effective technique IMO because everyone has problems that they wanna solve but they don't know how. If you hangout with self-development and business minded people, the conversation topics will be around solving problems in your life and in other people's lives. Not random chit chat that means nothing. So as I said, take some time like 1-2 weeks to learn a few interesting things about business that interest you and go network based on that. Literally go to networking events with corporate people and startup people and use this conversation format, Hey I'm X, how are you doing? Have you heard about Y thing(the thing that you studied)? Cool it does blablabla thing and then ask them what they do and and share how what you've learned could help their business or overall life goals. Do that with 10 different events and in 6 months you'll have a network full of valuable people and a skillset that's in demand in the market. Or you can overthink your trauma and why this is so hard and you're too anxious and can't do it and be at the exact same spot. Good thing about a forum is it has timestamps so 6 months from now is gonna be April 10th 2027. Bless your own self with an awesome life or fail yourself, the choice is yours my friend. Everyone has trauma and everyone's life is hard. My life is hard, I promise you. The strategy is to find something that's worth suffering for and making progress towards it each day. I believe in you.

No, your victim attitude and lack of action taking is holding you back. Women being picky is not a good or bad thing, it's bad when you're at the bottom of the value hierarchy and it's good when you're at the top and women give you attention in droves. Some red pill content is very misogynistic and some of it is based on loving women but understanding the harsh truth that you're not special and if you want good things in life you gotta work for it and women will not reward the men that choose to ignore this truth. What skills are you good at how are you using that plus your unique interests to add value to your people and the world as a whole? If you look at it like that it's the same fundamental truth as something like Christianity that is based on serving others. Be one of the men in your community that adds the most value, work out a lot on top of it, practice some game and social skills and your dating life will become unlimited. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 because in high school I was shy, stuck in my head and scared of women. I started doing pickup and reading a ton of the red pill subreddit around 19 years old and got my first girlfriend at 20 and have slept with around 50 women since then. The only thing holding you back is you. Stop doing it. What are you gonna do next week to change your past patterns?

Lack of alignment in your life or feeling of consistent progress towards the reality you want. Pretty simple really.

You can go to meetup events. You've mentioned you're in India before, what city are you in? These all came up for in person business events in Bangalore. Feel free to check your city to see if you are from and if not perhaps you can afford to take transit to attend similar events. I think business events are great because it's like the actionable part of the self-development community, you'll meet motivated people that are taking consistent action towards their goals and also have a wide range of other interests. Don't be intimidated if you don't have business experience, just watch a few videos beforehand and come up with a few questions to ask people about their own business related to what you learned or even just generally about AI and content creation and usually people are glad to talk about their business and help give you ideas for yours. Remember that IT is just a small part of business as a whole so if you learn that first then learning precise technical skills to unlock a specific business model will make a lot more sense than just vaguely learning computer science like literally tens of millions of other people on earth. Once you have a group of friends that hangout with you due to mutual benefit, you'll feel much less lonely since your skillset is under your control and if some people value it then many others will worldwide.

Who and what do you find original and exceptional? Find inspiration from it and create your own original work from it. Leo took inspiration from RSD. Elon Musk took inspiration from NASA. I'm inspired by video games and cryptocurrency. Combine cool ideas with products and services that solve mankind's deeps problems and I think you'll be on the road to exceptional creations soon enough.

Depends on what problems you find worthwhile to fix. I like what Leo did with the life purpose course. A life devoid of meaning and money is a boring and hard life. I parly took inspiration from that idea to create my creative communities. I originally hosted photoshoots to meet cute models to date but through talking to a lot of them I realized that a lot of them get taken advantage of by modelling agencies. There are many talented both models but also other types of creatives like musicians and clothing designers who have many cool ideas to bring to the world but the business frameworks to empower them don't exist. If I can scale my own agency and build my own success in collaboration with those people and help kickstart their careers, that would be very cool for me. I also want to get into other industries down the line like automated food production but that will probably be the 3rd stage of my career after I run my agency for the next 5 years and hopefully accumulate a few million dollars worth of capital to reinvest into an operation capable of higher leverage.

Thanks man. People get too caught up arguing about surface level noise instead of understanding the deep underlying psychology behind it. If you don't grasp how our evolutionary wiring actually functions, human behavior will always look like an irrational mystery. Master the foundation and the rest takes care of itself.