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Who's your favorite character from those movies? You didn't end up enjoying the prequel movies?

Yes, that's fair I was never addicted that badly. How come you don't get into pickup? If you know you can meet women to fuck semi-consistently then porn becomes less of an attractive product. If you're a virgin or have a low body count and you don't know how to hookup with women then of course you're gonna pedestalize sex and watching other people have it is gonna become one of the highlights of your life. I used to have this routine when I was depressed where I would wake up, go out walk by the lake and get a coffee, then smoke some weed, watch youtube videos for intellectual stimulation then watch porn when I got bored and take a nap. I would repeat this 2-3 times a day until tomorrow came and would burn days without doing anything but still having more or less a good time. I got out of it well because literally I was gonna get evicted and stopped having enough money to pay rent and my roommate had to cover for me a couple of times and the shame got too much so I stopped coping and got on top of my shit. Are your parents funding your lifestyle? That's an extremely tricky situation that I see a few men fall into and without survival pressure there is really no big pressing need to stop the loop of coping and self-destruction.

I mean yes it literally is? You have to be competent in many areas of life to make such things happen. You need a comfortable space for people to feel good about letting their sexuality out. You need to be able to find and attract multiple people that are down to have group sex. You need to understand their psychologies and insecurities to be able to do it repeatedly without the polycule collapsing. You need to have a pretty high level of career and business development to hold the whole thing together financially. Most people don't understand that their dating life relies upon many other systems in their life that seem unrelated at first. For example stress tolerance and the ability to deal with problems under pressure will reduce your likelihood of divorce. It's not immediately obvious why mastering emotional intelligence and understanding the wheel of emotions would lead to a better sex life but it's clearly related. It's a long distance relationship? How come you haven't met women locally in your city?

I see you went for the stage beige level reply

Just finished watching this, it was a really high quality deep breakdown of Deedra Meero from Andor and why she is obsessed with control like she is. He also breaks down the psychology of Thrawn and the toxic workplace culture of the Empire. Worth a watch!

Feel free to lay out your argument if you believe it has merit. I've already debunked it thoroughly, or so I thought. If polyamory is not for you then that's fine but some of the claims you made around it are demonstrably false.

How exactly is this causing you to suffer? I got a girlfriend and slept with dozens of women while still watching porn daily at times. I think in general not accomplishing your goals will make you miserable, blaming porn as a scapegoat for all your life's failures is inaccurate in my experience and a weird fixation of the NoFap crowd. I've tried going off of it for 75 days was my longest streak and I was happy I could prove to myself I could quit but I didn't notice any significant difference in my day-to-day life. I was promised boundless energy and laser-sharp discipline by the NoFap crowd but I think it was about neutral for my work ethic since it made me jittery and anxious without an easy way to release that stress.

You ended up getting a girlfriend? That's sick tell us about that. I put that business on pause for the moment to recenter myself and recreate my life purpose from scratch but I do still believe in it. There are good photographers in every city. Every single person should try hiring one a few times. Your online image and presentation is the difference being between a random irrelevant dude and being known by thousands of women and being able to go on dates like a conveyor belt. It's the equivalent to us being on actualized.org a global platform instead of hanging out with our local meditation hippie group. Each person that has ambition should become a global institution. Last time I went to Europe I was 13 years old and obsessed with playing Pokemon Black on the 3DS. Next time I go I will similarly be having a lot of fun but it will be a co-op game played in a hot tub this time.

With a powerful muse, a man can create masterworks of art. Women have inspired men throughout history to create greatness. With 5 powerful muses, a man can create an empire.

I'm clearly more mature than you in terms of my approach to understanding dating and creating a high-quality dating and relationship life. You admitted that your approach is trying to fuck everything that moves and being sad that it didn't lead to long-term mutually beneficial arrangements. Put the ego aside and look into the resources that I've laid out for you. Before I pivoted away from that business model I taught men dating as a job and helped a few get into relationships and some lose their virginity.

My mind is not juvenile, I think perhaps yours is closed off and you're falling for the trap of pushing limiting beliefs onto others. First of all why do you default to pornstars are desperate people getting paid for sex? What a lazy bias, plenty of porn actors love their job and have more money than you and I combined many times over. Second of all, deconstructing scenarios and recreating them into your own life is not juvenile. It's systems thinking. It's based on understanding the situations and factors that make a scenario possible and what resources and lifestyle you would need to recreate it in your own life.

It's not too late, I would read one over the next few months. If your career is on point then might as well get obsessed with your dating life and fixing your blindspots so you can make your wildest dreams come true. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Manipulated_Man This one is really good quite a short read. It's written by a woman who wrote it from the perspective of being ruthlessly honest about all the ways women take advantage of men. It'll help you understand the underlying principles behind arguments in relationships and how to not let your boundaries get crossed. This one is also pretty classic and also great to analyze our own psychology as men and why we are drawn to dysfunctional relationships.

This is such a textbook example it would be a shame not to use it to spread awareness. As someone who's dated a cluster B(bpd) woman before, it catches you by surprise and fails to follow the rules of rationality so watch out if you're a highly rational man. So Aba from AnaNPreach just had a big drama unfold in the past few months with a woman he got pregnant accidentally and then tried to break up with as she decided she didn't want to date him. What follows is a beautiful case of all 4 dark tetrad traits displayed beautifully. https://www.reddit.com/r/Destiny/comments/1t6kunw/woman_making_claims_against_aba_from_aba_and/ Thankfully for him he has recordings, text receipts and in the situation he didn't get volatile himself otherwise it could've gone much worse for him. She proceeds to completely lie about a situation where she split him(going from full in love to someone to discarding them emotionally due to perceived abandonment or slight) and then after he decides he doesn't want to deal with this and tells her to leave and books her a uber and hotel to get out of the house, she proceeds to gaslight him by saying she's not safe outside and she has no service and has to walk outside for hours in the Montreal cold. Turns out after months she rephrases that she walked to 30 mins and booked herself a hotel. She then goes on interviews with Youtubers and tells people he screamed at her and verbally abused her when he has a recording of him talking very calmy and just being fed up with her and trying to get her to leave. People high in machiavellianism are master manipulators and know how to make themselves seem like the victim in all situations. You can't usually catch them red handed so it's common for it to lead to gaslighting and mental health issues for the person being targeted since you start to believe them. She also clearly shows sadistic traits in trying to ruin his life as much as possible and going out of her way to threaten to expose him to his competing content creators and records videos with any other girl she can get to say something negative about him. Also seems like clear psychopathy in feeling no guilt in turning on him like this(for example my BPD ex didn't really do things like this she was mostly just BPD) and also a lack of long term thinking and massive pride at being slighted since publicizing this makes her look unhinged and undateable to future prospects with healthy boundaries. She has some traits of BPD like frantic irrational efforts to avoid abandonment as she booked and cancelled abortion appointments multiple times(I read somewhere up to 10) even though she didn't seem to want to date him. It's very lucky for Aba that he's quite a grounded and rational person otherwise he could easily be in jail from an incident like this. It's a good reminder that emotional regulation is one of the top skills in life and most times with severely mentally ill people you just have to leave as soon as your boundaries are crossed and do not react to the attacks that follow. Dark tetrad is very real and present in both men and women so watch a few videos on it to understand how it manifests and especially some on healthy boundary setting as that's one of the best ways to cut those types of people off early as there are always signs. It's likely that Aba has a few narcissistic traits to be attracted to someone like this, narcissistic men and BPD women are a classic combination. How it works in a nutshell is you're a bit numb emotionally so a volatile and hot woman(they usually also tend to be hotter than the women you usually get so you let your boundaries slip and/or love bomb you) and play up the damsel in distress traits and it triggers a savior complex as well as you view yourself as a smarter and more grounded man than most you think you can handle her and change her. Big mistake the BPD traits are basically a hard counter for this and it always unravels. Traits are not the same thing as a personality disorder and I believe a lot of the self-development work that's done here if done sincerely will heal those traits as they surface from a wounded and thus powerful and sneaky ego. I did for sure and I've been working since my own last relationship to work on them and heal the wounded parts of my psyche so it doesn't happen again as it's quite a traumatic experience. Also quite common for PUAs to end up with mentally ill and particularly BPD women as we have an unstable sense of self and so do they and one of the core laws of dating is you do not attract what you want, you attract what you are. Dark Tetrad people aren't usually born evil, there is a clear genetic component but it's trauma based and it turns the ego into survival machine that's willing to do whatever it takes to get its egoic needs met(which aren't always rational. As I said before, psychopaths lack long-term thinking skills and impulse control; because they don't feel fear or the weight of consequences like a regular person, they're actually terrible in business.) Machiavellians are really the ruthless CEO archetype. Feel free to share if you've also had experiences with dark tetrad individuals as it's quite common and not talked about enough I believe.

To me if some random porn actor can fuck 4 gorgeous women at the same time, there is no way I will not experience that in my life and multiple times and with women I'm really into. I don't understand how men don't think about it like this. It's like becoming a millionaire, if it's possible then why not go for it?

Have you read books on female psychology before? There are some on the book list. I've read Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus, The Red Queen and The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine. Being only action oriented is not enough in life, you need a strong theoretical foundation to really be able to master life and being able to pull off life setups like dating 5 women in a way that would be beautiful whereas for the average guy it would end up in a nightmare. Women are complicated but they make sense. They have really high neuroticism compared to men, it's the main measurable personality difference between both genders. This makes them really prone to feeling a lot of anxiety and starting fights or nagging is one of the ways that manifests. If you sit down and analyze what she's feeling then it's pretty easy to solve. I used to get mad at my ex and try to logically counter her points in arguments but they weren't logical points and that was not her real issue so it didn't solve the problem. Once I figured that out and literally read books on it then I would have conversations with her just cuddled up on the couch and comfort her while asking her thoughts on life and to just stream of consciousness it for me and I was then able to figure out what the upcoming problems and nip them in the bud.

I think perhaps for a lot of people sitting down and breaking down their problems is too boring. I would work on that attitude if you really want a phenomenal dating life man, otherwise you're gonna end up with a mediocre one like the rest of the population. Look around you and the relationships and lives of the average person. That's what happens when you wing it and claim that strategically building your life is robotic lol.

Asset or liabilities are exactly the effect people will have on your life though. Life is rarely neutral as stability is not a common state in nature. People will bring you up or down. It's not about objectifying people it's about accurately introspecting and reflecting on the effect different people have had on your life and realizing that if you want to achieve a phenomenal life you have to let go of people that haven't fixed their shit and aren't willing to improve themselves. Otherwise instead of building a high quality life for yourself and others your time and energy will get bogged down into useless and petty drama. This directly loops back to social circle game but it shows the same principle in another context : throwing a party. I've noticed since I know a lot of guys if I throw a yacht party or a nice penthouse party then all the guys want to come. When it's time to film content on the street, plan a content strategy or work on our businesses then all of a sudden only about 10% of them are interested. They don't think I notice and then I never invite them to an event again and end up with the 4-5 guys I can actually rely on and 20-30 women at my photoshoots. It's like a law of social structures, most people will end up being a drain on the environment if you aren't extremely careful about who you let into your personal life and events. Most humans are not looking to actually create value in their life, they take the easy way out of consuming all the value they can get their hands on and then complain and play victim when they've run out. This goes for both men and women. How so? I don't think that's true but feel free to elaborate.

What was she bringing to your life that she was worth keeping around? I think some women offer a lot of value and make your life easier and some women are stuck in a resentment/victim mindset that makes them draining to be around and not valuable as partners. You gotta vet heavily which type of people you invest a lot of time and energy into otherwise you're gonna end up miserable. @PsychedelicEagle There are many people that create intentional relationship structures outside the norm. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I think it's worth trying out before one settles for conformity though and some people do end up making it work for decades.

Pornography is great. It helps channel the libido into elevated forms of action. It's not worth getting lost in but it's a useful tool to regulate sexuality.

Why are they nagging? It's usually because their wants and needs are not met. If you want a stable polyamorous arrangement over time then it's gonna require a lot of problem solving. Doesn't have to be a bad thing, everything in life is hard. It's up to each individual to figure out what type of hardships they are willing to endure for their dream life. To me having multiple high quality and supportive women in my life would be a blessing I would(and have done) a lot to achieve. Fucking 5 women at the same time is like the cherry on top but in general I think I would quite enjoy living my life with multiple close partners.

I was analyzing some of my forum posts with Gemini and I came to interesting conclusions regarding my blind spots and biases that are holding me back in life. It actually first started when I deconstructed my addictions to weed and porn and I realized that I tend to use easy dopamine as a way to cope with the hardships of life. Classic enough but it gets deeper. I got into cryptocurrency a few years ago and studied hundreds of hours of it as well as finane and macroeconomics. It taught me a lot but I'm still broke and not that successful in society. Why is that since I've been interested in business and working on mine for over a decade at this point? Gemini also helped me figure that out, I actually switched to a strategy of not buying weed or drinks when I was anxious and under-stimulated and buying Crypto instead to feel like I was investing in my future instead of just coping with substances. Gemini highlighted that it's a common trap for intellectuals try to smart their way to success as we're usually weaker at industriousness which requires emotional labor instead. After analyzing my life over the past year I was quited stumped at my bottleneck as I actually am not a lazy person and work a lot so why am I getting stuck? Reading Leo's blog post today gave me the insight that it was due to a simple stage blue shadow. I have a deep disrespect for the classic institutions of society like religion, school and even building a career instead of starting a business. I now realize that this disrespect has lead me to ego and arrogance and reduced my efficiency in my business and life as a whole. Thought I would share as I feel like it's probably a common thing on this forum as well since my consuming Leo's content we get a superior frame of reference to what society teaches as a whole and this can lead to intellectual arrogance. I notice a lot of stage green shadow on this forum but the stage blue shadow was invisible to me until today. Hopefully as I integrate this stage more over the next months and years I will finally solve my bottlenecks and be able to crush all my goals and finally be able to actualize my grandest visions and overall life purpose. I like the blog bro keep it up, sharing short form insights is actually really powerful. I haven't had the energy to watch the recent long form videos but I read the blog daily. https://www.actualized.org/insights/michael-oakeshotts-conservatism

I think it's a misunderstanding to categorize violent games as a glorification of stage red. That would imply that they lead to a reinforcement of the stage. I think on the contrary it's more of a channeling of our impulses and shadow side into a cathartic performance art. I'm quite sure violent video games actually are proven to reduce crimes so there is some empirical backing on that theory as well.

@Mellowmarsh No worries if you're not trying to make a point and just looking to vent then feel free. Has nothing to do with gender though, plenty of men also say random vague platitudes and plenty of women articulate themselves skillfully.

@Mellowmarsh Not too sure if you're drunk or high or just confused about what you're trying to say tbh. What is your main point in this thread? @eos_nyxia Sexuality is a spectrum and humans enjoy polarity.

I think perhaps you're speaking for yourself and trying to apply it to others? Seems like you spiritually bypass a lot from what I've seen across your posts.