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Some are, that's definitely a thing. But they haven't matured properly because if you think about it, it makes no sense. Every man has insecurities, some are just better at hiding it than others. If she resonates with men who outwardly assume "alpha"/confident characteristics but are inwardly insecure, it shows that she operates on a surface level as well. Plenty of people do that, if not the majority. As @flume said, women also have to do inner work whether consciously or unconsciously. True intimacy is being able to share your true self with another and having them be able to do the same. Don't settle for a hollow version of that. It feels just as good as sex and should be a core part of any solid relationship. Don't be afraid of gambling with being open, if you lose you lost nothing of value anyway.

I mean, that sounds normal. You probably think of yourself as a standup guy and this girl that you liked is going back to her "fuckup" of an ex that got out of prison. Most men would feel shitty about that, even after doing detachment work. Just work on yourself and your game and you'll be fine. Embody the characteristic that makes a badboy attractive without having to be one.

Can you make a video on conscious relationships? I'm sure everyone would benefit from new thoughts.

The two most important parameters when learning game are anonymity and volume. You want a space with lots of women that will not know you and that you won't run into again. That's because at the start you will be awkward and not well calibrated and you'll need lots of practice to get to a decent level. Once you get good then game won't really look like game and you'll be able to do it anywhere. You'll just seem like a cool, social guy even if you do pick up at work, school or at a church. To get there takes practice though, keep hitting up those streets.

I (surprisingly) agree mostly with @Shin's advice. Ask yourself deep down what you really want and expect from a relationship and why you're not currently getting it from her. I worry when you keep repeating that you're afraid to hurt her, are you really willing to deprive yourself and her of a fully loving and passionate relationship because you're afraid of hurting her in this moment? Relationships are hard, especially after years invested in them. You gotta dig deep down and realize if the fulfillment you're looking for is really in another girl(and it could be. You could be incompatible and the last 4 years will be training towards the relationship you're meant for) or if the issue is a lack of growth on your part. Regardless, best of luck.

I think you're mostly right on the red pill stuff. What Leo describes is a lot of what Red Pill preaches too. Of course, it's a large community and there's a huge mix of bitterness, misogyny and victim attitude but that's not really what I get out of it. At the core of it, it preaches taking control back, stop blaming outside circumstances and improve yourself if you want success. I don't think your view of feminists is accurate though. Like any group, there are vocal minorities. There's for sure some that want to see all men burn in a fire but the majority are just normal women that want women to be respected and appreciated. What I find unfortunate about feminism is that it preaches feminine self-empowerment even to the detriment of women. I had a girlfriend that was so opposed to depending on other people and being her independent person even when it caused her unnecessary suffering. Independence is great but not when it pushes you away from interdependence.

Honestly, definitely. Sounds weird to say but doesn't it make it much better than women are not these alien creatures that you seduce with but feminine parts of yourself that you lost and reconnect with romantically and sexually? The more conscious I get the more I enjoy sex. Leo brother, please make some sort of updated video on anything related to sex, romance, relationships, women, etc. I'd love to hear new thoughts. Do you have any links to that? That sounds hilarious.

Do you have a link of someone from RSD mentioning him? I'd be curious. Don't be depressed about it. Nothing changed, now you just have more information. Don't necessarily believe it, just use it to filter your experiences and learn more efficiently. Women are just people trying to live their best life, are you any different? Yes they can be ruthless and shallow but aren't you as well? It's just a game friend, games are usually more fun when you know the rules so you're only better off than before.

That's really all there is to it. You've cultivated your social side enough to the point that you can engage with and keep girls in your life in a platonic way. Now you gotta connect with your man side(or call it your deep biological desires) and sexually engage with these girls in a way that will polarize them to either fuck you or repel them away from you and be able to deal with both alternatives.

I doubt it but I'd be interested to see. In my opinion, you should just research regular pickup stuff and filter it through your spiritual beliefs and you'll be able to combine raw efficiency and the high consciousness ideals you're after.

@FredFred How are you doing now my man? I'm about to go through a breakup myself and I feel like utter shit already, hopefully, it got better for you.

I think the most important thing to take away from orange is ruthless efficiency. When embodied properly, orange is ruthlessly efficient at achieving materialistic goals. Contrast that with a green person without orange embodied and you can picture activist for various causes and are not well-planned and organized in their approach. If you embody both fully, you should ideally be able to work towards whatever noble cause you have in mind while carrying that orange efficiency to be able to make concrete progress/money towards your goals.

You should properly consider that.

Please also consider doing this in Canada, specifically Calgary, Alberta. I can guarantee at least +10 would show up, only just the people I know personally.

That seems to me like you're making dogma out of what Leo says which is the opposite of what he teaches. There's a reason he repeatedly says to not take his word for gospel and research for yourself. Jordan Peterson has interesting ideas and perhaps are flawed in some aspect(like anyone) and if you enjoy his content or the content produced by Charisma on Command after critically thinking about it, that's fine. And for a personal opinion, I think they have good content. They dissect stuff in a way that's not often done and there's definitely value to that.

I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. It's my first serious relationship as before I was kind of a FA/Incel type before I got into self-development and pickup so a lot of this is new to me. We've had our ups and downs but generally up and it's been a huge growing experience. The biggest issue seems to revolve around sex and it's frequency. After watching Leo's videos I take a lot of pleasure with sex and improving my skills in it and it's always a good experience. Until she's not in the mood repeatedly and we don't have it for a while and it brings out a lot of frustration and anger in me. I try to meditate on it and think about it rationally but I still get vivid emotional responses that scare me at times. It's like I've been without sex for so long before this that I have trouble going without it now. Especially when we have a good day together and it seems like sex is for granted and then she says she's tired and it seems like it's out of my hands totally. As a man, I like having things to improve on so if she said she would like a message to get in the mood or to up my physical escalation game I would have no issues but she doesn't give me much to go on. I've asked this question on Reddit before but I'm very interested in what this forum will think. Any perspective would be helpful.

@universe Thank you, that sounds very accurate. Every time she does I feel like I'm not enough and I'm not attracting her and I need to go to the gym, be more of a man, etc. A lot of Leo's videos touch on this but do you have one in particular or stuff I can look up to reflect on this further?

@Average Investor I try to do that already by being more physical instead of verbal i.e. making out, caressing her, grabbing her legs and slowly moving up, etc and it works sometimes and sometimes not. Any other thoughts?

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