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Definitely. I've taken his advice and taken a lot of psychedelics but I found stuff I wasn't ready for. I'm glad I peeked behind the curtain but I need to stay in materialism for now. Perhaps we'll reexplore it in a few years.

It's the most simple but cleverest and destructive one. How can you reach your goals if you forget about them?

Do you think passion is necessarily a bad thing? I think issues arise when people let passion blind them to the truth of a situation. You could have a person that's not right for you and you clearly have no future with but passion blinds you to it and you stay with them much longer than you should. With a bit of experience though, I think passion and love can go hand in hand.

Basically this. The true danger of Red Pill is that it's the truth but only half the truth. It has good advice but it's surrounded with a lot of hate, bitterness and mistrust, basically the characterization of a hurt ego. If you're interested in gender dynamics and specific tips on attracting women and female nature, I would recommend this instead : (Spam link removed by moderator) I've been reading Red Pill for literally 6 years and I outgrew it. This is the closest thing I've found in regards to detailed breakdown of inter-gender relations but with an actual appreciation of female nature and all the lovely feminine gifts that come with it.

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If anyone here is from Toronto or the GTA in Canada, hit me up!

Don't marry someone who you're not crazily into and who's not crazily into you. Most marriage fail because the people that get in them are mostly afraid of being alone or conform to social norms and settle for those relationships. In this day and age, you can learn seduction and connection and find a partner that will blow you away and the doubts you have now will not even enter your mind. It's already obvious that you're asking this question out of scarcity. Are you confident in your ability to attract a multitude of high quality women in your life that would jump at the chance of a relationship with you if you did break up with this one? I'd be shocked if you were. Work on yourself and your views on relationships and women because just the fact that you're asking this question shows that you don't know enough. You want both and you NEED both. Why would you choose between two terrible options?

I'm assuming you're either from a middle eastern, African or Indian culture as that train of thought seems particularly prevalent here. Watch Leo's video on Masculinity and Feminity. Your attitude is precisely what's making you not masculine, not the hidden desire to take it up the butt. He suggests that being a true man is not being afraid of being yourself or looking "feminine" and he uses the example of openly crying in front of someone. Think about it. You're literally scared of yourself and your emotions. How can you be a strong, fearless masculine force when the first thing that scares you in the morning are your inner thoughts? I'm not judging you, just giving you something to think about. Fear of "gayness" is one of the most hilarious male ideas. I saw a guy on Reddit that took it to the extent that he didn't wash his dick because touching a Penis, even if it's your own, is gay. Just own yourself. You'd be surprised how common this is. I've had bisexual thoughts before and somewhat acted on them and found out I really like women but I have repressed parts of my sexuality. Why do you think it's so common for conservative politicians to publicly demonize homosexuals only to turn out to be Gay or Bi themselves? Watch Leo's video on self-love again, you're literally shaming and hating yourself. Accept yourself fully and your life will be bliss.

You're definitely missing the point then. His newer videos are the exact opposite of what you're saying, he's reached full circle and now combines enlightenment, nonduality and spirituality with exactly culture, religion and science. His latest video is literally about how to replicate yourself as an organism through culture on both an intellectual and emotional level. He mixes biology with cultural zeitgeist. Not to sound condescending but your opinion is entirely valid but proves you have not integrated the content. He's teaching you to see and connect various disciplines that have nothing to do with eachother. It's much more profound and advanced than anything he put out in previous years. All that being said, I agree with the brosky that said more girl cumming videos ?. I think Leo is not particularly interested in relationships and sex but it's my domain of fascination. I'd be very curious on videos on advanced relationships/sex, specifically on achieving nondual states while fucking and what a yellow level relationship based on raw sexual polarity would look like.

You don't build connections/attraction online, you theoretically can but it's a very poor means of doing so. You build just enough attraction that they're invested enough to meet you in person and then the magic happens. They are showing you love and kindness ?. They're not settling for your half ass attempt at a connection and forcing you to connect in a better way. Earn their connection, don't be entitled and expect them to welcome your pixels on a screen as a valuable part of their life.

The judgement is definitely too harsh and doesn't help. We are all victims at some point or another in our lives and we all need empathy and compassion. I think the aversion to victim mentality is because it's a mentality that fundamentally disempowers you and modern society despises weakness. When you're complaining about being a victim you're saying that the world is against you and you're powerless to change your situation. Capitalism is based on the belief that all is fair and you can pull yourself by the bootstrap and if you're not doing well its your fault and you're a fuck up. Why do you think people hate addicts and poor people and ridicule things like mental illness? It fundamentally goes against our whole culture.

View people as the same as yourself and offer value. The more differences you build up in your mind and other people, the harder it will be to connect with them. "These are the cool kids, I don't belong." beliefs like that will kill your charisma. Use nondual beliefs and treat everyone like an old friend and they will start to feel familiar to you and you'll feel familiar to them and you'll be able to make friends and social connections at a speed that bows your mind.

Human interactions are based off value exchange. Ask yourself what value you're offering them when they see your message in your inbox. If they don't know you before, not much. If you're the cool guy from class that everyone respects and you message random people in your class that you've never talked to, guaranteed they'll reply. If you're the awkward kid that people try to distance themselves from, guaranteed they don't. Human politeness is very dependent on how people perceive your status compared to theirs. Dress well and ask for directions on a random street and most people will happily take time out of their day to help you out and might even take you there. Dress like you're homeless and they will ignore you and frown like the very act of you talking to them offends them. Just don't take it personally and access yourself and your approach as objectively as you can. How would you react if someone messaged you the exact same way you message them?

Okay, that gives more context. If you want concrete advice: lower your expectation of what you consider amazing. We're sold by society that we need big materialistic things to be happy( new car, promotion, new watch, shoes, girlfriend, sex, etc) but we're also sold the equivalent in a way that sounds more natural/spiritual(a sunset, travelling, true love, walk in the forest, etc.) Thruth is you can enjoy the amazingness of a beautiful sunset just as much as you can enjoy sitting on your couch in your cluttered living room. It sounds like absolute bullshit if you're not used to it but it really works. That's what all of spirituality is based on, enjoying a state of being without having to do anything. I really started to feel it when mediated consistently for the first time. I started being able to enjoy the little things a lot more. Just a warm breeze or seeing a cat walking down the street would pull me out of the negative patterns in my head. I would have a saying "if I can even find one good thing about the present moment, then it's good." and you can usually find a lot more than one if you lower your threshold for what you consider good and don't take things for granted. Anything from not having to work right now, having shoes on, being able to go indoors for warmth in the winter, having a computer to look at YouTube and procrastinate if I want to, being able to take a shower, having chips in the fridge, having data left on my phone, etc. Next step to that is starting to appreciate the bad as well. You can enjoy being broke because it teaches you a different life perspective. Enjoy being sick because you can become aware of how pleasant your body is to inhabit when you're healthy. Enjoy awkward social moments because of the absurdity of human interactions. Enjoy rejection because you're finally able to ask/go after what you want and be okay even when you're ridiculed for it. Enjoy loss and heartbreak because you're grateful someone was in your life that meant so much to you. Thats what helped me face existential dread which seems to be what you're describing. There are still shit moments where I feel anxious, depressed and despaired but I can now sit in them, take a deep breath and know that I'll be okay no matter what which sends a calm wave of relief through me no matter what darkness tried to swallow me.

What exactly about life causes you pain? There must be some expectation or heavy emotion/experience you're holding on to that's making you suffer. Otherwise life itself is pretty blissful if you just take it in as is. Expand and perhaps I can give a better answer.

The other two are not wrong. Just don't become her BFF buddy. When it comes down to it, you wanna stick your dick in her right? So make it happen. If you're close with her, invite her over to watch a movie. If a bit less close, ask her out for a drink.

Be honest with yourself. Literally meditate on this for 20 mins and get down to the real thruth and probably you will realize that you're full of shit and you know for sure this girl and you will not work out. I had a situation similar to yours. Mine had Borderline Personality Disorder and yours definitely also has signs of some mental health issues. My girl cheated on me and betrayed me so many times yet has shown me more love, acceptance and authenticity than anyone I've ever met. Same as you I got to know her so well, her goods and bad sides. You rarely get to see the entirety of a human being and I got very close to that with her. But our relationship was very dysfunctional and I didn't see it getting any better anytime soon. She taught me so much and I grew infinitely with her but at the cost of my well being in a variety of different ways. I lied to myself about it for months about how we were meant to overcome shit, she was my twin flame, adversity makes us stronger, etc. In the end, we all do whatever we want. I know damn well you could read 200 comments to breakup with her and decide to propose to her next week. My only advice is don't make permanent decisions and be honest with yourself. You might also be addicted to emotional stimulation and the roller coaster this girl takes you on and so you actually crave the dysfunction. Regardless, figure out if this girl is really good or bad for you and decide what to do from there. You don't even have to breakup with her if you figure out she's bad but at least don't lie to yourself and be aware of it. In the end, awareness cures all ? Also date her for who she is and not who she could be. Is she acceptable to you and can you fully accept her for who she is now or are you dating and putting your hopes on some hypothetical version of her that would keep her good sides but work on and solve the bad? I learned that lesson myself but that's a road to disaster and is actually selfish. People may change or they might not but you can't date someone for who they could be. Would you take your relationship right now as it is for the rest of your life or are you just holding on to it in the hopes that it gets better and fulfills this love story fantasy that you've always had?

Do you think there's inherently something wrong with looking to acquire vast amounts of knowledge or does the mistake lie in being too relient on this knowledge and living through it as opposed to directly experiencing life? @Matt23 Super interesting thought huh, how do you know the knowledge you're reading anywhere is accurate? If they had scientific journals in the olden days, they would've came up with peer reviewed studies on how the earth is flat. It's always good to research the authors and where they're coming from, what bias they have and how they got the information. Also reading books recommended by someone who's judgement you trust to at least a degree is a good idea. It's also good to develop critical thinking and a wealth of knowledge so you can tell for yourself what is bullshit. Then, of course, become careful of your own bias but trusting your authority over an arbitrary one is a good skill to develop.

Isn't it a case of economics? That universal health care will be cheaper to implement than medicare for all? I don't see why else he'd back down from it.

Haha, it was a half-serious comment. I'd say I choose my own authority figures based on them having relating ideas to mine but in a more experienced/advanced manifestations of them. I pick them based on their ability to give me more insight than I can provide myself based on them having done so in the past. Of course, no such figure is absolute and I'd trust my judgment over theirs at the end of the day because I have to ultimately live with myself but I still do feel they offer helpful guidance which is why I was curious on Leo's opinion.

How so? Isn't everything in life gambling to some extent?

Game was basically invented by introverted nerds who didn't drink much. Don't use your introversion as an excuse to not be able to navigate and enjoy hectic social situations. Clubs are a great way for an introvert to push his social skills. It's your arch-nemesis, loud environments that mostly rely on physicality and vibe as opposed to conversations. Took me 75+ times going to clubs to actually start to learn how to enjoy myself. Grabbing girls felt awkward. Dancing felt awkward. Screaming to be heard felt awkward. All great shit to get over. And once you do, your introverted self actually thrives in that environment and you got an edge on all the extraverted bros. Take a look at really basic game stuff and you'll find it gives you a lot of value in this context. Combine it with the self-development stuff Leo does and you can make the most out of this dating stuff. I got no worries for you, my dude.

@Leo Gura Can you comment on this? This challenges my paradigms very heavily and I need an authority figure to explain to me what I should think

@Leo Gura This is a good topic. I'd be curious what your thoughts on video game addiction is, having been a gaming addict in the past it seems. To me, once I started meditating and basically considering life in itself a game/an adventure, video games lost most of their appeal. It was like playing one of those games that is literally in a video game, boring as fuck. I can level up my character in real life and go on quests, it's amazing. And there are girls, I'm sorry I'm still stuck in the paradigm that girls are the most amazing thing ever.

This is the best policy. If you lend money to people, only do it under the assumption that you will never see the money again. Then it's a win-win, if you get it back, you're pleasantly surprised and gain trust in the other person. If you don't, you were okay with it from the start and now found out who's word you cannot trust.