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I'm assuming a lot(if not most) of people here either have a reading habit or are trying to build one. My biggest issue with it is I'm so ADHD with knowledge that I'll hear about a book, go buy it, read 50 pages of it, think it's the best book ever and never touch it again and repeat the cycle all over. I find the feeling of finishing a whole book and being able to keep track of how many you've read so satisfying but I so rarely get through a whole one before getting bored/ distracted. How do you guys deal with this?

We have a tendency to make things binary (someone is either good or bad, worth listening to for everything or nothing at all) to make things simpler to understand as complex and nuanced thinking is hard. My personal version of this is I used to be a raving fanboy of Owen Cook and RSD. As I became more conscious and especially after Leo put the pickup scene down a notch, I went full circle and concluded he wasn't worth listening to at all. Everyone is nuanced. If you were perfect, you'd be God, and isn't the whole point of the non-duality teachings that God itself isn't even perfect/has it all figured out? If infinity hasn't figured itself out fully by now, let's give Mr. Wilber a break

This all took place yesterday on Sunday. I had been feeling more depressed/unmotivated than usual and was sitting in my living room listening to music with a good friend and having a few beers. My roommate ended up organizing a party with some girls and other friends that we know and invited us. We debated on going because we both felt down but decided to go open ourselves to the experience and party with our friends. We get there and everyone is drinking and having a good time. I know most people there with only a couple of girls that I've never seen before. The host randomly pulls out a bag of shrooms and starts offering some to everyone. I have done plenty of psychedelics in the past(shrooms, acid, DMT) but I had been taking a break for the last few months and didn't think doing them at a party after having drank a few beers was a particularly great idea. A girl sitting next to me told me she'd never done them before but she's down to try and asks me to take some with her. I let the thought sit in my head and for some reason, my intuition tells me it's actually a good idea so I end up agreeing. We end up taking only half a gram each although I get the heads and she gets the stem part. The trip ended up being really intense and ridiculously deep for only having taken half a gram. I've taken around 3-4g before and it felt relatively close in intensity, not sure if it was because of the alcohol or just my state of mind but it hit strong. The first little while was relatively mild, just tripping and vibing to the music. Then the shrooms really started talking to me. I started to notice the social nuances at play in the room, like a guy hitting on some girls and them not being into it and their body language was really easy for me to read while tripping. This is where I start to mentally talk to the shrooms or my ego, hard to tell which. I feel like the world is melting together and individual human beings are merged into just visual and audio output basically. The music starts speaking to me and everything starts getting very synchronized. I start thinking about my bad habits(drinking and vaping) and then the song Toxic by Britney Spears comes on. Then I go back and forth between feeling like the shrooms are judging me for my toxic behaviors and being really happy and feeling like I'm making progress in life and the universe is with me. It feels like the people around me are responding to the thoughts I'm having. As I start to wonder if I look normal, people make eye contact with me and ask me how I'm doing. As I'm thinking about a girl and how nice she looks, she walks over and stands right in front of me. As I'm hesitating to talk to her it feels like the shrooms are pushing me to do it but I'm overwhelmed and decided mentally not to and she immediately walks away and starts talking to another guy. A bit later in the night, a girl starts to look a bit distraught, she's part of the ones that took shrooms. The voice in my head tells me to go over and take care of her. Immediately as I walk up to her she asks me if I can help her get an uber home and find her friend. That seems like a lot of responsibility at the time(still high as balls) but the voice in my head tells me to reassure and tell her that her friend's fine. I start overthinking and wondering how I could possibly know where and if her friend was fine and what to do about this situation. Literally, two seconds after her friend comes back walking through the front door but a random guy started talking to the original girl but I could tell that she really just wanted to find her friend and go home so I tap her on the shoulder, say "hey I found your friend!", bring her away from the guy and to her friend and just as I do she starts kinda freaking out and being overwhelmed so it was the perfect timing. I'm really curious if you guys have also experienced something similar while on psychedelics or if I'm tripping out. It literally feels like my thoughts and the world become one and the world can read my thoughts and responds to them. Both really comforting and really creepy. I have to stop myself from fully believing it and kinda fact-checking it because it's very overwhelming and feels like a psychotic break almost; like everything is a pattern that speaks to me. The messages are usually really profound but perhaps sometimes corrupted by my ego and that's where it leads to strange conclusions. What do you guys make of this and have you guys had similar experiences? Also am I the only one that feels like shrooms are both really good but aggressive, almost like they tease you? Anyway, weird but really amazing experience. Glad I ended up taking them, just was really confused and overwhelmed afterward and still processing it but nothing to complain about and I definitely had blasts of bliss that felt shockingly beautiful but also confusing and overwhelming haha

I used to actually love strip clubs but recently they really creep me out. Just an unfortunate showing of humans fulfilling their needs in the most transactional and soulless way ever. I've met a lot of strippers and they generally have really sad circumstances.

@Leo Gura Did you ever end up getting it?

How was it?

North American cities are indeed becoming increasingly hard for the average guy to even meet an average girl. The odds are stacked against you as basically, every guy has access to every girl now. I have friends that are very high status that sleep with the same girls that nerdy guys with social anxiety, self-esteem issues, and poor social skills would go for. It doesn't mean you can't succeed but you need to work for it. I seriously think that dating/sex/relationships/marriage will be unrecognizable in the next 10 years. Most likely the movie "her" will become a reality. Moving/travelling to another country to experience dating there is a fantastic idea and I'd highly recommend it. Latin America and SEA are very common for online entrepreneurs and Ukraine, Romania, Russia and the Czech Republic are as well for those that prefer the Slavic look.

I 100% agree that online dating shouldn't be the only strategy used by men but as a supplement(especially in a pandemic) I'd highly suggest it. Most men absolutely suck at it and get 0 results, I know because I do photography and get paid to help people make their profile better. You don't need to be a model but you need to play the game right. Here are a few tips for any guy that wants to get better results: Pay for it. Put the pride aside, Tinder is a business and they rightly reward their customers. Even the guys I know that are really good-looking, 6'2, jacked, etc pay for it. It's $50-75 a month to invest in your dating life, if you can't afford it then work on finances first. Platinum is mandatory, gold and plus are useless. It puts you at the front of the queue, hands you free matches periodically, and lets you artificially bump your Tinder rating by being able to see everyone that swipes on you. Buy the 20 boost pack for 50$. Tinder works on an ELO rating system. If you right-swipe everyone, it'll assume you're a bot or desperate. You'll only match with other extremely low-value accounts. If you left-swipe on people that right swipe you/are high rated users, your rating will go up. This is where Platinum comes in. Pictures are 90% of it. Good lighting, smiling, inviting, high value, etc. Multiple guides on Youtube for that. In general, no selfies, no blurry/dark/stained pics, no pics where you're smoking/holding guns/doing something outside of social norms. Cast the widest net and narrow down from there. I'd highly recommend going out with friends with a camera/iPhones and HIRING a photographer to take pictures for Tinder/social media. It will literally change your life. The bio should be short and sweet. No listing your interests or what you're looking for. It's called qualifying yourself and should be avoided at all costs. If you're tall, put your height at the top. Put a joke in there or an interesting thing that gives girls an excuse to start a conversation with you. Instagram helps a lot with Tinder. Most of the guys I know all have a cool, inviting-looking IG and transfer girls from Tinder to there ASAP. More personal, safe and you can project who you are faster. Texting should be minimized at all costs. Most girls have a lot of options on Tinder, they literally are having 12 conversations at the same time. Don't be a pen pal, build up value and comfort and ask them out ASAP. The ideal is a walk/coffee/drinks walking distance from your place or your place itself if you have the chance. Big cities are obviously better. If you live in a 10 000 people town, you will run through everyone in a day. As with in-person game, invest in your dating life and move to a good location. I recently moved from Calgary(1M population) to Toronto(3M population) and the results here are about 5x as good. Not only are there more people but more young single people looking to date/have fun in bigger cities. Tinder is the best app overall. Bumble solid 2nd and Hinge if you're 28-40. 95% of good-looking girls will be on these 3, if you lower your standards I hear you can do well on POF/Okcupid and such but I have no experience with those myself. This is what I've learned from reviewing maybe 40 guys' profiles, doing shoots with 15 of them, and being roommates with a guy that invites girls over from Tinder 4-5 times a week, every week. I don't have those same results mostly because I don't care too much for it but I sincerely believe that it's realistic for any regular-looking guy and above to go on 3+ dates a week solely from online. You're in luck because the average guy will never put this amount of effort into online dating and if you do, you're guaranteed results. Having said that, I'd also highly recommend not relying on it and learning to be social, make friends, and network outside of it but that's a topic for another post. Hope that helps.

@Phyllis Wagner If you want, send me a copy of your profile and I'll let you know honestly what you should do. I'm a photographer and I've made money helping people better their profile. My friend has one of the best profiles in Canada with like 3500 matches. Leo is right, it always pays off to do the work and meet people in person. But if you want pure sex(I can't say I'm sure it's good for you) online is a great way to do that.

I feel like SD is one of the most widely discussed concept on this forum. I watched the whole series of video and use the concept a lot but I've never read the actual book. I ordered it a few days ago and it just came in! Super hyped! I'm curious who else has read it.

I attended his three day online business mentoring back in April(I think.) It was okay but it was an affiliate for another company that hardcore pitched their own coaching services. Was kinda strange but as a beginner you'd learn something. I don't know about his current mentoring though.

As long as the souls don't touch

You might have some part of your sexual expression suppressed or not be fully straitht. I find vaginas incredibly arousing and frequently masturbate to pictures of just pussies. In fact if I meditate before sex with a girl I really like, I could cry because her pussy is so beautiful.

How much have you read so far? I got about 3-4 pages in and it's good but a bit dense to be honest. Can't read it while tired or not totally focused.

The trend of the last few years and especially the last few weeks has been this whole #canceled movement and general censorship of stuff that goes against the mainstream. Whether that be things like big pickup companies, men's rights activists, and now the far right-wingers. They seem to be worried and calling it an abuse of free speech or some sort of conspiracy theory by the establishment to solidify their grip on society. Is this generally good for the world though? Is this just what happens when society moves up the spiral? We have to censor things that are damaging to the collective consciousness? Or do they have a point and this is a bad thing?

This is a phenomenon common across basically every culture I've heard of. Most people I meet or know need to intoxicate themselves to be comfortable admitting they're a hairless monkey that likes to hump or get humped by other humans. Is there a deeper meaning to this? Why is this so common?

I'd do it. It's gonna shortcut a lot of the social growth that you would otherwise struggle to get. You don't have to be a degenerate all the time and you can meet a lot of other cool guys and really bond with them. Some of the coolest guys I know today were in frats while I was playing LoL all day and had to game for hours on end to catch up on social skills.

If you mean that literally then yeah, vegan girls are very attractive to me. Something about being more compassionate or being more health-conscious or even them wanting to make a positive difference in the world. I hear they taste better also, that's always a plus

Wouldn't it make sense as a high-value male to have many wives that share you? That seems like the best of both worlds for both parties.

Do you have any resources you recommend on that? I saw the book on your booklist and I'll definitely get it eventually, anything else?

Definitely curious about this, what is that about?

I mean you can read books like "no more Mr. Nice guy" or stuff on codependence which you definitely suffer from it you attract and are attracted to depressed girls. Many layers here: have you not worked on your value enough that you can attract girls with high self-esteem? If you think of an attractive, ambitious, well put together woman; what would she think about you? What would you think about her? I used to have this problem and these questions helped me. My ex was literally BPD with hardcore addiction issues and I had this fantasy of being the perfect boyfriend that rescued her and we'd love happily ever after. Life ripped that away from me quite brutally but I would now thank god for it ?

Perhaps this would be true at a red stage? Who knows but as you examine yourself, do you really find this to be true? Freud has a lot of fascinating theories but over time seems most of them are just that: theories.

If you had to put it in spiritual terms, why do you think that is? You made a blog post about how heroin addicts shoot up because that's an instant way to feel that pure love/bliss. Would you say that sex with a hot woman is a shortcut to feel love for themselves? Fascinating to me because it's 100% right. No matter how spiritual I get, its hard to get away from wanting women. I just try to find healthier(hopefully) ways to do it. How does this fit with spiral dynamics? Is it entirely separate and each stage just has a different way to go about it? Red uses violence for sex, blue uses control, orange uses financial incentives, green uses sexual freedom, etc. What's the highest level this goes?

China seems to be rising up as a major superpower and major antagonist of the 21st-century timeline. Are they as dangerous and as conscious as their Nazi counterpart of the 20th century?