LordFall

Pretty girls are usually well socialized and generally have the charisma to make you feel good even when they want you to leave them alone. I don't know if it has anything to do with being a nice/good person but in general they have way better social skills.

If that's what you believe then that's the cause of your being drained after watching porn by yourself. If you authentically don't want to be doing that and you really want to find a girl to cum into but you're too lazy/scared to do it then that is the shame/guilt, nothing to do with the act of masturbating itself. I feel pretty good and inspired after I watch porn because I know that my main goal is to figure out my purpose/cash flow right now and running after girls doesn't do too much for me in the immediate future. If anything I feel inspired because I know that I'm on track to getting my version of the wild sex I'm seeing on screen.

Why? Depends how you mean it but to me the term female is very sacred and an ultimate compliment. As a man the term girl implies a human connection, which is great but I mean that's the same connection we all share so cool but not particularly special. But the male to female connection is very different. As a human male females are basically your other half, best friend, future and potential carriers of your genes. They're elevated in importance beyond what any male could offer you. I mean the incels probably don't mean it like that but to me the term female just means ? You're looking at it the wrong way. It's like sales, if someone tries to sell you something you want you appreciate it and if it's a useless thing you're annoyed. Flirting is basically just the act of letting a girl know you're interested in her. Physical looks help but there's many ways to be valuable as a man that will make her appreciate that flirting attempt. IMO it helps if you make it very down to the basics what value do you offer women in general. Look at it like caveman days(the world is just as brutal today mate) if she sticks with you is she better or worse off? If she's clearly better off than flirting is just the act of letting her know that. If she won't then your flirting is you trying to SCAM and ENDANGER her and she should be creeped out/concerned.

Which precise hobbies do you have? Work -> Use free time to develop skills(this part should be fun and integrate with your hobbies) -> socialize i.e. build a lifestyle with the people you want to. This is the current optimal life plan. Please don't go on a MGTOW forum for solidarity, these people are beyond lost. It's like being broke and socializing with the homeless people under the bridge because they kind of relate to you; it's GAME OVER bro.

100%. Don't obsess over it but do everything reasonable to maximize all that you can, especially all of those. You will be shocked and offended by the effects that looking better achieve for you, it does not solve the issue of game but makes it a lot more of a pleasant experience. Gym is a simple point and will help tremendously, teeth whitening is a HUGE one and simple. You can get a professional whitening done at your dentist for a few hundred dollars or get the whitening strips for around $30, both work great. I've done the strips and people notice immediately. No brainer investment.

No idea about the enlightenment part tbh but keep in mind Sadhguru comes from a different era and culture than most of us here. Also keep in mind that he doesn't have a partner. If you want to prioritize your union to the world itself than I guess go down that path but if you want a high quality sexual/romantic/intimate relationship with another human partner than I have a hard time seeing how you'd do it without first a lot of experience. The guy I know with the healthiest and most grounded mindset when it comes with women has a lay count of 500+, not that it's necessary to get that high but it does follow the principle.

It literally does though. Once you give up on life then your subconscious starts to wish death upon yourself and you will find it soon enough thereafter. It's common for old people to die of natural causes once they have no more purpose on this Earth, it happens to lifelong couples where one partner does of a disease and the other one follows suit mysteriously after. Also of old men that have nothing to live for. There is more to life than the parasympathetic system, it is not the source of life force.

This happens all the time. It's a good sign because when you're an inoffensive nice guy then girls have no reason to react negatively to you. When you try to charm and mate them, then you expose yourself to the true harsh nature of the real world Welcome to the fun cowboy.

Have you put effort into your looks? Think of them as a skill(of course there's a limit that each person has and some can achieve more than others but that's like any skill) rather than something you're born with. Are you working out? Have you researched and actively worked on your fashion? Have you researched guys that look like you that are more attractive and broken down how they look different? Is your hairstyle/facial hair trendy? You know how they say makeup drastically changes women and can bring them up a few points, the exact same thing(if not more) can be done for a man but it perhaps takes more effort. I used to have girls say eww in reference to me and after a few years of working on it, when I dress well at the club I get asked if I'm a model all the time.b Don't get offended, get to work. You will get laid off of looks alone if you put effort into it, it's a part of game for a reason. Just don't get obsessed with it, that's a sad rabbit hole to fall down.

Sounds like a good plan.

I would really be fascinated if a male could actually get addicted to a fleshlight. I had one and one of the Tenga Fliphole that @Leo Gura talked about and he's not lying, it felt literally just like a real pussy if not better. It was almost an offensive experience to me and a lot of effort to clean up your own cum out of a rubber tube after. The physical sensation of sex is nothing IMO, to me really showed that it's all about you and the girl experiencing each other. I don't think I'd ever get one again but it's worth experiencing to really understand the experience of sex. If you're a virgin/incel type reading this and you're stuck in the porn boat and peaking down the fleshlight/VR porn road then please do yourself a favor and seriously try getting laid or just get an escort. Literally infinitely better, not even comparable.

You guys are are overthinking it. You can't make all of life woohoo and spiritual, you're a mammal mate. Do you want to fuck "hot" girls? If yes, go out and do it. You say that doesn't particularly appeal to you, then amazing the only question is really are you able to attract, date and sleep with girls that are attractive to you? Be careful of falling into the trap of subjectivity, there is such a thing as objective beauty. All of life is beautiful but if you want to look at an empty fridge instead of mountain landscape then you're either enlightened beyond anything I've seen or delusional. You can choose to ignore the social hierarchy but don't try to fool yourself into thinking it doesn't exist. Probably you don't have the value/game to attract girls that are on the higher scale of society, whether that's in looks or status. There are advantages that come from playing that game that regular men will never enjoy. You can fool yourself into thinking that you've reached a higher level of connection and are below shallow constructs of the lower consciousness people but that's all it is. My personal goal is to find a few girls I like, make a passive income and travel the world with them. That seems simple in theory but I've met hundreds of guys that live nowhere close to that lifestyle so it's clearly a 0.01% royalty goal. That's what I will do and I will put the effort in to make that crazy goal happen. Whatever your crazy goal is, do yourself the favor of doing the same.

I've had similar experiences with taking psychedelics and getting lost in my own self/ego. It seems like a cool concept, I'm confused why it was removed. Most of the topics here are too deep for the average joe, why is this one any different? Perhaps have it on the blog/somewhere else where only people that are truly engaged have access to it, I'm sure I would've found value in it.

How is exploring the experience of being a primal animal not a highly spiritual experience? Sex is one of the deepest trance states I've been into(if you're present during it, very strange experience.) Don't be so dogmatic my friend, having a vagina in your face is one of the deepest experiences you'll have with reality, no pun intended .

True man, human beings are traumatized beyond belief. If you start to look for the signs of it you can recognize it in basically every person that you have a conversation with. That's how I relate with people, sometimes people do shitty things but if I'm being conscious in analyzing their character then I've often realized there's so much pain behind their actions that it's hard to be really mad at them.

This is a crazy statement. Only a man with low abundance would take a cheater back. Monogamous relationships put a lot of weight on sexual exclusivity and it's a clear contract(for most couples.) You can't accidentally cheat, it is always a sign of massive disrespect. I don't see how tolerating disrespect would make a woman that doesn't respect you respect you more so fundamentally you can't make that work. Women need to respect a man to love him, otherwise, it's just an empty relationship that is just there for one or both of the parties convenience. The part about females and males being friends is always iffy to me. People in general that say it's great don't generally understand social and gender dynamics. In my experience men and women are only friends in artificially created social hierarchy scenarios(work, school, double dates, etc.) In the real world, attractive men and women are not friends! They play an elaborate social game to fuck each other because that's what our species does! Or they cope together, through smoking weed/drinking/mindless entertainment. The only people I see just randomly hanging out with people of the other sex are gay, coping, or lying to each other and one or both of them are trying to fuck the other. @Tangerinedream Those girls probably want to fuck your man and will do so if he chooses to go for it. Do you trust your man and are you okay with this situation regardless? He probably likes that girls like him and I mean that's fine but you're free to go after whatever type of relationship you want in this life. Also, analyze if his socially confident and perhaps flirty character IS what YOU like about him in the first place? Plenty of girls put restrictions on their man and then it backfires on them because that aspect of their man was something they actually did respect and enjoy in their man they just got insecure or whatever else the issue might've been.

Indeed. You have to be honest in what you want in this whole game journey. Is it based on validation/self-esteem? I actually don't think this is shallow, self-esteem cannot be faked. If you objectively figure out that you do not have the ability to attract women that you deem attractive, I'd say that's a big issue worth fixing. It can get fixed after a few good experiences followed by self-esteem work though, there is indeed massive diminishing returns in sleeping with a lot of girls. I think there is a huge component of hedonism in-game though. It is fun to go out and seduce random women. Intimacy/love is not what is sought in this context, the aim is lust and adventure. Which are not bad things as long as you know that's what you're doing. Personally, I need to experience a few things before I even allow myself to open up to a single woman. I'm hugely attracted to the harem lifestyle and the BDSM lifestyle. I had a girlfriend without fully exploring that and even in the times that we were happy, I felt like I couldn't fully even allow myself to consider just being with her without knowing what those fields have to offer. There is a lot to be said about tantra and/or psychedelics when it comes to monogamous sex. I believe that there is a huge depth in sexual exploration that can be done with a single partner that most people are afraid to explore. How many "hot" women do you interact with on a daily basis? If you talk to a really hot girl only once per week then of course your literal physiology is gonna tell you to not fuck it up cowboy because we're gonna have to wait a whole other week to talk to a hot girl again. Leo is right that the only fix to this is game or exposure. Clubbing is the most suggested way to learn game because it has a high volume of hot girls in an environment where you're allowed to practice game while being anonymous and having your reputation preserved if you come up as creepy because you said some weird shit. Find some other place that attractive women frequent where you can interact with them continuously while not risking a blow to your social status.

This is the move. Sounds like you did nothing wrong but perhaps missed some signals of discomfort. Do not get traumatized from escalating on women but learn to be very fucking aware when doing it, especially in a social circle like this. I think the new move in this day and age is to literally ask for consent. You can do it dominantly and frame it as a command "I want you to grind on me.", but I would indeed be careful with being uncalibrated and in general it's a way better mindset to game the girl into escalating on you. After now having been doing game for around 7 years I've met multiple men that were involved/accused of sexual assault. I've even had the privilege of seeing guys escalate in person in front of me and try to defuse/push past the girls' resistance, so I know what it looks like from both sides. Look, it's useless to blame yourself and I'm sure your intentions were good. People have different pasts and perspectives though, and you have to be very careful with that. You're actually blessed to be on this forum and you're now able to learn both the masculine game side and the more feminine intuition/being in tune with yours and others' feelings. Combine these things and you will be a part of the new age of lovers. Keep in mind that human sexuality is LITERALLY still taboo to this day and we're just starting to talk about and figure out these days. Strange hookup situations have been a thing forever. Especially if any alcohol and/or social pressures are involved, those are literally dynamites that are hard enough for grown and mature adults to handle, let alone teenagers. You'll be fine, don't get jaded, don't blame yourself and her and just keep this in mind as a valuable experience. Look into enthusiastic consent stuff and you'll be fine.

@Danioover9000 Amazing, thank you for sharing brother. I'll reflect on that and watch out for what you've said next time I watch his content.

Can you give a solid paragraph review of Hasan? I've started watching him this month and I find him really good but I haven't really taken the time to dissect him. I'm currently also a big fan of Destiny, he can behave some strange takes but his overall thought processes are delightful to listen to. Great man. We live in a great time for intellectual discourse. This is the equivalent of our modern-day Greek philosophers. Give all these men a break btw, they are still young. Imagine how wise and integrated they will become if they keep this discourse going for the next 30 years! Also worth noting that Leo gives us almost too many tools to break down and find shadows in people. Being a fully integrated human being is really hard. The fact that the debate community is so popular shows that there is a huge interest for debating and getting to the bottom of nuanced issues, we're on a good timeline

You're welcome my guy, yeah mixed groups are way better than you with a few girls. And funny is great, just avoid making it an inside joke. The best mantra I've heard relating to IG branding is to not make it so someone that has never met you still gains value looking at your stuff, it's not meant for your friends/family, those people already like you. It's meant for new people to be introduced to you and be kept in your funnel. Feel free to send some stuff, I'll let you know my thoughts!

Good question, the man is active on here just as recently as 50 mins ago though so I'm sure he's addressed it or will if you ask him. His blog is also regularly updated. A few months ago he shared a video on his health issues that cause energy problems so with the high standards he puts on himself for his officially released content he's probably struggling to keep up. Give him time and the content will come. Interact with him on here and send him words of encouragements, he is but a man after all Take your time @Leo Gura my guy and that Hakkasan video looked bomb. I gotta check it out when I come to the US, you guys have way cooler venues than we have in Canada

@Leo Gura Would rationally dismantling Jordan Peterson's more problematic ideas not be a massive way to introduce higher consciousness topics to the general masses? As being one of the only current celebrity intellectuals, contending with him would be one of the best ways to gain traction in the public field, I feel like that would just be good marketing. @Preety_India Do you believe there ever has been a true intellectual then? I doubt that there have been many that have been able to rise to be able to see their blindspots. On your doctor's point, does a good doctor need to have the most knowledge or be the most efficient? I believe many efficient doctors have forgotten what they learned at school and their knowledge of biochemistry is probably questionable but they've learned to do their job and effectively treat the patients in front of them.

I think you have the closest idea that will possibly work. I believe that world peace will be achieved by a stage turquoise dictator that achieves a monopoly of armed forces in the world. Of course, it is possible, depends on your definition of peace though. You could say that the concept of nations was a huge step towards world peace, remember guys that before each and every city and village was at war with another, now cities within the same country are at "peace" with one another. "Peace" in quotations because humans still compete within their own countries but at least it's under the understood concept of a single nation. Conflict is natural in life and even purely loving and enlightened beings still want to mess and "attack" each other but such a thing is completely different in unity vs considering each other as different beings. Think like teasing/play fighting/BDSM within a healthy and loving relationship. I think this will happen within our lifetime, that's my bet. It will require the concept of nations to fade and them to be recognized as mere provinces within the human empire. If you've been watching the news you see that there is global conflict on the rise, perhaps this is good. The average human does not need to be at stage green and above to exist within a stage green and above society. I do believe that a society is only as strong as its strongest link and our most powerful individuals at the moment are corrupt but there is no reason a peaceful entity could not rise to be the most powerful human in the world.

I'm so confused, did I miss something? Weren't the UK's cases out of control and they were having massive issues? As of today, they still have 70k+ daily cases, why are they lessening restrictions? I think covid was a huge blessing in disguise. It showed that our seemingly solid society is actually a huge fucking mess and a situation that required for us to come together showed us how far we are from being able to do that. It showed us how little we can trust our own politicians, our fellow people, our laws, our media, etc. Our very notion that the world was solidly put together got sledgehammered. I'm very hopeful that locally it lets people see how corrupt their individual government officials are. My province's government handled the situation absolutely abysmally and I'm very excited to see accountability drop on those people in the next few years. I'm investigating them as we speak and we can be sure that the people that failed us shall not be forgotten, I'll make sure of that myself (: