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@integral You’re misrepresenting my points to argue against a position I don’t hold. I never said having a vision for society is forbidden, nor did I say life should only be about chasing millions and models. My point is simple: true leadership and high consciousness don’t sit on the sidelines venting about OnlyFans models under the guise of "societal integrity." That's just jadedness and victim mindset masquerading as spirituality. When a framework teaches you to view the average human being as a "profound waste of time" who "says absolutely nothing," it’s not an evolution of consciousness—it’s an ego defence mechanism designed to protect you from the discomfort of participating in reality. Someone who understands the world doesn't retreat because the world is messy; they build systems to elevate it. I feel like I'm harsher than I really mean to be Integral it's all love bro but I feel like your mindset is quite off on this one. @Schizophonia I love the honesty here, it's good to be able to verbalize your hangups. Women want to have sex with men, that's how 300 000 years evolution got us to where we are. Why its easier or harder depending on different guys is a function of the market ,it's not really a personal thing against you. Meaning that you can use the strategies I've mentionned to be the same guy but paint yourself in a much more attractive light. To the point where a girl will fantasize about blowing you. Multiple of them even. You don't need to be a god for a woman to desire you. You need to work on social skills, lead with good energy, and share a fun, value filled space with them and then giving you pleasure becomes just as fun for them as it is for you. Women are usually even more sexual than men. From me asking AI, Toulouse is a student city with a massive creative scene. Don't worry about your friends not being motivated—join the game global group for Toulouse. It's only got 14 people right now but maybe 2-3 guys will be down to go out. Start small, look into local creative meetups, improv, or sports that you'd like, and start treating your neurotic brain as a video game to level up in. That's the part where treating dating like a video game makes sense. Not the dating itself part but levelling up your life and then it becomes less personal and less anxiety inducing. Baby steps until you're where you wanna be frero. https://www.gameglobal.net/groups/

@Schizophonia You seem open to feedback, that's mostly what it takes to build a great dating and carreer/business life in my experience. It's not a big deal to have only had experiences with sex workers at this point in life. That's how I started myself. I lost my virginity at 18 to a beautiful lady of the night named Sonia, it was an incredible 90 seconds. I got my first girlfriend volunteering at a comic expo in my city. The good thing about cold approach is it loosens you up and makes you more social by default so you don't even have to get a girlfriend from it, it'll make you more attractive to women in general. What city are you in? If you're in a big one there are pickup groups in most of them. Going out with other people is the best way to learn by osmosis from them in my experience. Humans learn collectively through our mirror neurons. If you just watch videos online and read the forum and try to do it by yourself that's nightmare difficulty. I would also build a social circle out of it. That's the number 1 medium to long term hack towards building social capital. It's also something that you can keep doing even when you get into a relationship to build an aligned group towards mutual goal that will ultimately gain you influence in your city and the world at large if you combine it with social media. You also learn much more from orchestrating your own social environment rather than existing in someone else's. It's also more beneficial to you because most systems exist to benefit those at the top rather than the main participant. I knew a club owner in Toronto that used the official instagram page with 30k followers to DM girls to invite them to his free booth and he had free bottles and liquor which cost other dudes paying for it thousands and the average dudes coming into the club to buy drinks and talk to the girls would just fit the bill for the whole venue. You can build yours in a win-win way but you'll still benefit most from being the leader and thus having the highest status and authority in the group. Beautiful thing is it works with any hobby. You could easily get laid from starting a Pokemon Card group if that's your passion or really about anything. The world has integrated in this past decade and that didn't used to be the case. I dropped out of high school playing league of legends competitively and now kids these days have collegiate esports teams, wadafak.

Well first of all that's a false equivalency and comparing the degrees of corruption of Sophie Rain and trump is not intellectually honest. Second regardless it's victim mindset. If you choose to not be in the public arena and not influence people as you have proudly stated and then spend time nitpicking their actions then once that seems like silly behaviour to me. We can also deconstruct where each criticism is coming from, all criticism is not created equal. She's not gonna read this so it's not really even criticism it's more like venting.

I'm not triggered, I just dislike low quality discourse. We have good discussions on this forum and change people's opinions all the time. If you're not a persuasive person that can understand people's perspective and make good points towards changing it when you feel it right to do so then all you're doing is projection.

Have you tried doing cold approach? What about other activities that get you out of your shell like improv and dance? What about your fitness? I don't know anything about insomnia apart from it has to be linked to neuroticism but willpower and relationship problems are my forte. You control your own will, you decide to activate it or not. If you don't then you're gonna underperform in relationships for sure and then a multimillionaire hottie it's gonna trigger the fuck out of you for sure. I don't think she embodies even 1 characteristic from stage red. Stage orange sure. She's also stage green, she donated $1M to the water donation project organized by MrBeast and also donated to families for SNAP when the trumpster caused the government shutdown.

She found a gap in the market and travels the world with her friends, shooting content and having a good time. I think it's what most people aspire to do but can't and that's why they're mad at her.

How so? To me she promotes good vibes and freedom. I feel much better each time I watch one of her clips on Instagram. She has a muse type of frequency to me and similarly I feel invigorated and motivated when I see happy hot women especially when they are dancing and having a good time. If you are closed off to the abundant energy of the feminine that to me points to a scarcity mindset most likely stemming from the sour grapes phenomenon. When is the last time that you came inside or on a beautiful woman? If the answer to that is never or too long for factors outside of your control then of course you're gonna hate beautiful women flaunting their sexuality. It's gonna feel like the universe personally insulting you. I feel like that sometimes. And then I get better and work on myself and work towards said act of love with a beautiful woman and when it happens I feel like life is great and I thank God for being alive.

So all the things that we talk about and discuss here? What goals do you have specifically in those areas? Particularly surrounding relationships and money.

Overtaken by reality in what way like they lose that boyish charm when they get older? True but then if you date them long term then you're attached to the person hopefully not to the youth. It seems common in the gay community that some twinks tend to be super promiscuous in their 20s and then have trouble acclimating to growing older and losing some SMV.

Sure part of what you're saying is correct. It's also a limited perspective. I would argue that a lot of people that a lot of people that rush into monogamous relationships objectify their partners as a stability object and a lot of those relationships turn toxic after the honeymoon phase ends and the reality of the human being that you've entangled yourself with becomes apparent. Personally I'm still exploring my authentic self and casual dating has allowed me to find layers of that. So has my monogamous relationships in the past. You're making a lot of false assumptions with casual dating so allow me to make an assumption on you; do you lack a lot of experience in this field and using assumptions to shield you from the discomfort of it? Why do you assume casual sex comes without caring about the other person's pleasure? It's really fun to give orgasms to people you hookup with and have honest pillow talk with them afterwards. I tend to find it leads to a lot of vulnerability and talking about stuff honestly that I wouldn't be comfortable talking about with people in my day to day life. Perhaps some people are 100% honest and vulnerable with their friends and family but that's not what I observe with people as a whole. There's also the radical vulnerability that comes from the self-improvement part of cold approach. It's an incredibly tough thing to go up to a woman you find attractive on the street and try to seduce her. Not only you have to initially look attractive enough that her initial reaction is not wtf get away from me. Then you have to have pretty good conversation skills to make a cool conversation happen out of nowhere knowing nothing about her. Then you have to be able to read body language and facial expressions to make sure she's enjoying the conversation enough to want to see you again. Then you have to understand logistics and escalation enough to turn that into a date and ultimately sex. I think it's very obvious that most people will dismiss this process outright and call it unspiritual and materialistic instead of admitting that it shatters most of the paradigms they're comfortable with and that they're rather unskilled in most of these areas. Which to me requires true respect for yourself and a refusal to settle for mediocrity. Which apparently looking at stats 60% of men today settle for. To come back to your point once again you aren't wrong about all this can still be done without solving the trauma that would lead one to having an avoidant attachment style. I still think it's a separate issue. Most men cannot attract the women they are truly attracted to and settle for mediocre relationships. That's obviously not everyone but I see it all the time. I had a client that I did a photoshoot with and he hated the dating process and ended up dating this obese girl with bpd and he would send me pictures of her trying to talk about how hot she was and he just likes curvy women. I don't judge if you're in a relationship fuck it go for it champ but then it turned massively volatile as you would expect out of someone with BPD but once again it's a very common pattern. Ultimately your life is your own in this thread I've mostly called out the beliefs that to me seem silly and not based in reality. I've been on this journey since I was 19 years old and for my personally it stems from being mostly an incel in my teens that wasn't able to pursue the girls that in hindsight gave me signs of being attracted to me. Not everyone is gonna have the same baggage. It turned to a quest in exploration into social dynamics and human sexuality that I would consider the complete opposite of shallow. If you're not interested in that journey then I mean great. I think there is almost infinite growth from pursuing deeply the fields that the average person does deem as shallow i.e. dating and money. I think that's particularly why people are so scared of them because they are central to our existence in today's age. @Schizophonia What does being demonic to you entail? Seems to me like you're throwing that word around lightly; feel free to expand on your thoughts around it. I agree the porn industry is much more exploitative than onlyfans. It's such an interesting phenomenon and it's obvious why it's so shocking to the world. It's perhaps mostly exploitative to the men that get hooked on it but also I don't even know if I agree with that sentiment. It's agency as it's purest form. There is plenty of resources out there for men to learn to date and have sex for women if they desire to do so. I know onlyfans women that I paid to subscribe to and I'm quite happy with my purchase. I think the economy is a very complex thing and if some women want to get paid for their sexuality then more power to them. As I've explained above its very predictable that this concept would shock some people as it's basically stage orange clashing with stage blue. Seems like low consciousness to me though. @WonderSeeker If that identity suits you I mean more power to you. I merely deconstructed the causes of it and the "solution" if you seek to experience sexuality a different way. I'm a big believer in being in control of most of the facets of your personality and that most humans are quite repressed and especially in everything related to sexuality. Allow me to psychoanalyze you but it seems from the original post that you're a bit offended by the concept of bodycount so perhaps yours is low and you don't like that fact? Although deconstructing the concept of bodycount in and of itself is completely valid.

Yes the future is exciting @oOo! Especially if AI manages to help human decouple their lives from labor then our potential will increase many times fold. I read a buddhism book once and one the quotes that spoke to me is "if someone can enjoy something, you can too."

If you mean money then my favorite ones so har has been the Alex Hormozi books on business. I've only read the first one so far, looking forward to the other 2!

Always fun to speak on a high horse. What are you working on? Post it publicly and the forum will hold you accountable! Discussion with your peers on various topics that are important to you is not really a waste of time. If you utilize it wisely it should sharpens your mind.

Correcting community members/customers and managers are usually handled differently in a business. If the point is to strip everything of authority and just put it all in the open I guess that's one way of going about it.

My point wasn't to paint all moderators with a single brush. My critique is strictly operational: when internal friction gets weaponized publicly, it drains the engine. But I appreciate your energy on this platform and respect where you're coming from Natasha.

Sure, it does offer a lot of value. It's also a way to obtain power and status in a community. And then quoting all the bad things the owner has said in the community is another way to gain more status. I don't know Carl I haven't put too much thought into his behaviour overall on the forum but this post rubs me personally the wrong way. I hope he messaged Leo and/or hopped on a call with him before he posted this and perhaps Leo has been closed off to criticism I haven't read through the whole thread but if not I stick by it : I would ban his disrespectful and unprofessional ass.

For sure! The ides of march is very sad, Brutus is truly one of the worst traitors in history. I won't spoil more then that but how they explore his character and what happens in season 2 is masterful media. Enjoy the story of our people.

I don't think highlighting all of someone's flaws without taking into account their strengths especially publicly is disrespectful. I wouldn't keep someone like that on my team. Sounds like a liability.

I think Leo is quite patient and egoless for tolerating people questioning him all the time lazily without offering any other credible viewpoint nor really offering value at the same scale. Nobody is perfect, even Jesus is just a dude that preached for a while and then got killed without chancing too much about the world and he's supposedly god himself in human form. Even God lets so much suffering and abuse happen in the world. Personally I woulda banned your ass for the ungratefulness lol @Carl-Richard

Have you tried it in real life yet? I did recently after thinking about it for a few years. Was pretty fun and relieving. I feel more whole now and I can sense men's energies a lot more clearly. It's pretty cool but can be kinda creepy at times, a lot of men are quite intense. I'm not really attracted to masculine men but I'd try it to see what it's like. I wanna try dating a submissive femboy type that sounds really fun.

I agree with you. I think a lot of people demonize bodycount because of a sour grapes situation more than anything factual though. Generally it comes from men not knowing how to sleep with a lot of women/attractive women or men that can but then end up mistrusting and fundamentally not knowing how to vet a quality partner. Let alone the hypocritical influencers that are hypersexual but then demonize women that are also promiscuous. Even if we go away towards the topic of bodycount and sex and more towards love, people are scared to death of that as well! My favourite insight towards this is when Dr Helen Fisher set out to study love and break it down scientifically for her phd, she was highly discouraged from researching it and one peer review literally told her it's unstudiable as it's part of the supernatural lol. Good interview to watch overall.

Part of it is finding people that are open to change. Part of it is also having a wide network and reach so you can find quality women that are already living in a conscious way that just want a greater adventure to join. I didn't say it was my highest value, we're just talking about dating life here. I enjoy creating communities and helping people figuring out systems that they wouldn't have trouble figuring out on their own. I run multiple creative communities and business chats. It's high consciousness because I use system thinking to raise up myself and the people I interact with and have to utilize massive amounts of understanding and empathy to connect to people and understand both their goals and their limitations. Each time someone thanks me for an insight or help that I've helped them with it feels quite fulfilling. Doing it inside of an intimate relationship is even more rewarding. I wasn't necessarily talking about you when talking about being delusional. If you know yourself and are happy with your relationship and impact on the world then you've won your life there isn't much else to say. Personally I am not and have much more to accomplish in many areas. I was talking about people like @Valach and others in the thread and in society as a whole that make blanket statements on systems they don't really understand and try to come at it from a higher than thou perspective while clearly being intermediate in their journey.

I watched an Alex Hormozi podcast and he talks about burnout being about your reward cycle being out of whack. Meaning that you're not feeling rewarded by the actions you're taking anymore, perhaps it's because the rewards are too far off and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore or you're habituated to the reward you were giving yourself and need to switch it up. I can relate to it because I have such big goals and it's taking decades to get there but learning to find the Ws regularly helps me. I'm a big fan of women so I use them as my muse for a lot of my work so having just moved to Montreal there are so many beautiful ones it's inspiring. My money situation is not to the point where I can date comfortably at the moment so it's frustrating but I'm finding ways to find rewards outside of that. It's really hot here so I get a lot of enjoyment out of my daily mcdonalds $1.50 iced coffee. Hopefully that somewhat helps. @Yimpa I agree that there seems to be a lot of suffering baked into life. A lot of problems and suffering seems to be self-inflicted though. Someone posted a good thread in the general section with an an Orion Tariban video on true intelligence being able to solve problems. I've been reflecting on that a lot since I think of myself as smart but I run into very predictable problems often times so perhaps I'm not as clever as I think I am! I get a lot of peace from suffering from knowing a lot of it is in my control and can be avoided if I manage to learn from mistakes and plan better next time.

Yes it gave me a lot of appreciation for games and software that works well. It's why I went with just a 2d platformer for my first one, I don't wanna fuck with 3D at all seems like a nightmare. I think a lot if it comes out good. I don't really think people care how things are made just the quality of them. There's a vocal minority of people that are hating on AI everywhere right now but I think once phenomenal AI products start coming out they'll fade away just like the luddites did. Cool that we live in the same city! There's a lot of meetup events related to game dev in the city. I went to the unity one a couple of weeks ago and it was a bit disappointing just a silent coworking session. I'm going to go to one of these drinking with game devs one next at the esports bar probably in early July, if you're down to join lmk we can coordinate. https://www.meetup.com/montreal-game-development-meetup-group/events/314915342

She's 21 and making millions, I wouldn't blame her for not being the highest integrity person on earth. If you look at her speak in podcasts like the recent one with Graham Stephan she seems like a thoughtful and smart young woman. On the one with Howie Mandel and his wife he seems to be the one behaving weirdly and being resentful and toxic in my view. @integral You don't need to want to sleep with many women, if you're happy in your relationship that's phenomenal. I'm saying that the way you speak about people sounds defeatist and jaded. Also it seems like coping because instead of putting your lack of communication skills and leadership at the forefront you blame people for being underdeveloped. Especially since we're on a forum to raise our consciousness made by a man who raised his consciousness and acted as a leader for people to raise theirs as well. Seems like a sad perspective coming from a moderator. I think you should both give people more credit and yourself as well in terms of being able to influence people positively!