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That's why I like the SMART goal setting framework, when you make your goals timebound and try it a few times you realize that most plans are not feasible and you narrow down your focus based on what you want and how much energy it's gonna require If you wanna make $1,000,000 for example then you need to find a high ticket offer and sell it 200 times at $5000 Or you need a $200k year salary with $100k yearly contribution to a high yield portfolio over like 6 years with a 15% average return. Goals stop being this vague nebulous thing and you find a lane and go for it. That removed a lot of existential dread for me instead of weighing 1000 different options that are not feasible or just don't fit my personality type.

Why do you need to promise exclusivity to a woman if you're not ready to settle? Promising sexual exclusivity is the most comfortable route you can take when starting this journey but it will rarely lead to achieving one's potential as it takes a lot of skill to build a high quality relationship and more than likely one will settle into codependence if one does it too early. You can date women as FWB or keep an open relationship and get your cake and do it too. In my experience it's a bit difficult to do that but I've done it for a few months. You can also keep raising your social capital while in a monogamous relationship so both paths do work. Gotta know yourself and what you desire ultimately.

Yeah crypto is tough, some people win big most people lose out. I don't like mentionning Andrew Tate I think he's a dishonest sociopathic rapist. I like more what Tony Huge is doing just living with and dating multiple women and building a cool life together, like a more intentional version of polyamory. I'm not doing it myself at the moment, building up to it. I did regular game back when I lived in Toronto and it was fun but to me at least I ran out of what I could do without a large amount of cashflow and my own systems built. I would just date women and/or FWBs and hangout and that's fun but I wanted more and I felt like I hit a wall in the quality of the women I could attract. Then I started doing photoshoot container events after learning the model from social circle coaches. It's fun but the programs are designed for high income professionals to reinvest their disposable income into their social life to attract more women than they otherwise could. That's not a bad plan but I like the idea of building a business around it and scaling it globally. That's what I'm working on right now. Also with all the models I get I see a common theme where they are down to go to events, photoshoots and shoot content but they have a hard time managing it all by themselves. A lot of modelling agencies are scams and make their money charging the models for expensive shoots. I'm working on my own agency to help them automate a lot of their brand outreach and standardize content production. I think the way Hugh Hefner did it with his setup being buit on top of a media agency is the way to do it to get global reach. It's also quite fun to work with women and "conquer the world" with them so I'll keep going down that path and seeing how it goes. You still need game to optimize it and be in a genuine relationship with the women and not just manipulate them to get what you want. It just structures the relationship in the right way if you come at it from a provider angle after you already have the lover one secured imo. Financial issues are one of the top causes for divorces and even in marriages that stay together a lot of couples are just stressed and barely surviving in life. I think putting the cart before the horse and setting up your business properly is so key to a high level dating life and relationships.

I fear you're gonna get quited bored of programming if you're not particularly into it, it's a very high competition niche now with AI automating a lot of it. If I were you I would probably keep in mind a travel business if that's really your passion. Start it right where you are in California, make videos of the surrounding areas around you and use AI to figure out the highest value travel packages you can sell, I just did one search quickly and it gave me this Napa Valley Wine Tour A lot of times you can call these places and make a deal with them where you become an affiliate for their services and they give you a 20% promo that becomes your margin and then you resell it on their behalf. Or you charge extra for putting a particularly cool tour together. You can also do the opposite and find for a cool tour at the place you want to visit and then make call those places and get the same deal. Now to sell the tours you learn how to take organic b-roll and turn it into engaging organic content. As well as running ads. If it's local you have the adantage of being able to film stuff yourself instead of having to repurpose content that you find online for your own brand. You can also become a tour guide and start a company around that, do like Hollywood tours if you're LA or ideally something more niche and high ticket. Better be high ticket than mass market but doing a lot at the start to learn the industry is fine as well. Buy Alex Hormozi's books and learn what a high quality offer is and how to do lead generation effective. You make money by saving people time or giving them access to something they didn't have before. It's usually done by having an unfair advantage, secret knowledge or just pure willingless to labor so it's easier to do it in something you enjoy doing and thinking about. You can start the pages and the content strategy pretty much this week though a lot of this stuff you can learn how to do on Youtube and it'll be up to you to find a profitabe niche and offer and keep on throwing stuff at the wall until it works and you have something worth repeating. Good luck, you're thinking along the right path. Just study people that have achieved your lifestyle before you and reverse engineer it.

Yeah you are right that building status is harder it takes time. The ceiling is much higher and if you combine it with entrepreneurship then you don't really have a ceiling. I'm still working on my setup daily and it's taking time to actualize to my full vision but everyday closer. It was a dining event we put together last year. How come you don't use Instagram? This Youtube edit is from 2022 and the events I was a part of that year. It kind of shows your point better actually because I have been recreating the access and status I had back then from the ground up since I had access by proxy by being friends with club promoters at that time but now I'm creating it as the sole owner of it and it's harder then I thought but is coming together quite well.

Sure but if we're coming at it from what should men spend their time learning, I think charisma and social skills are important but financial abundance and status are equally if not more important to build and they're usually not talked about as much on here. https://www.instagram.com/p/DI75zcsRAEl/ When you have money you can also buy dating bootcamps, match makers and just pay to host top VIP events so your ease to meet women is much increased.

Are you working on a business now? You can start today and be quite successful in a few years. Every man and woman should work on their own business to become financially independent and be able to share that gift with their friends, family and lovers. I share my own journey on this journal thread here : My philosophy won't work for everyone but it's built on avoiding the mistakes and pitfalls I see others fall into. I don't think I'm self-deceived but feel free to point out some blind spots if you believe they are genuine and not stemming from your own spiritual bypassing.

I mean you can think about it in whatever way you want to. For me I like the harem builder game where I work on my business and date multiple women and subs that live under me and I fund their life and lifestyle while they chill and/or work for me and my business. The problem with not funding their lifestyle is your woman will end up working for another man or a system that probably exploits her and she'll come back home drained and not giving you and your children together her best. I think most women would rather be stay at home moms if their man could afford it but it's become too hard due macroeconomics and thus 90% of men in America can't fund that lifestyle for their partner.

I think it's good to try different stuff from like a test perspective but I wouldn't do it long term, it's more of a gimmick than something that will genuinely raise your value and you'll eventually have to explain that you wear a fake wedding ring to approach women it's a bit cringe. Nofap is good for increasing sexual chemistry, usually when I go out I try to be on 1-2 days of it.

No that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying the more value you offer the more you get in life and the less bitter you are because you get what you want on your terms without exerting waste energy. I'm from Canada and I dated some women where they paid for dates but I didn't like that feeling I rather be able to pay for everything and also I do think you get hotter women this way. I think every job is transactional and sex workers get to the crux of the issue but a baker similarly sells their body to the marketplace to be able to live. If you have a lot of value you are able to create relationships with a wider type of partners. Economic value is the most universal form of value but there are broke funny guys with good quality relationships. Their lives would probably be better if they made more money but that's for them to figure out. For myself the higher status and more money I get the better relationships with hotter women I've gotten. A lot of debates are quite useless if they don't end in you having a higher quality life as a result. How is your dating life going?

I think evaluating the quality of your relationship someone can be in part measured by it's yield, yes. Some people are satisfied with coping with other humans against reality but I rather team up to accomplish our goals. Having sex with them is one way of doing that but you can start a social circle and do music or business together, up to whatever goals you have. Just being friends with them can lead to resentment in some men though which leads to the friendzone meme. Also I wanna separate objectification and a value exchange. You need to offer value to others to live unless your parents are gonna support you and you got a trust fund waiting for you. Mastering value arbitrate lets you do so outside of the usual confines of society, social circle game and social media game are forms of that. Objectification is thinking someone is ONLY their value offering or reducing their identity to strict confines. Haha she came up when I googled girl strawberry cosplay but it didn't hit the visual I wanted, Gemini got my back with this strawberry waifu though. Bro so much of it is tied directly to social capital and status. It's why the passport bro strategy works because you take the exact same dude in the west and put him in south america/thailand and now the macroeconomics switch in his favor and now he's getting laid left and right. Pickup and entrepreneurship are the free market tools that we now have to free us to achieve the financial and dating outcomes that were previously only possible in wild dreams.

No I think that pushes past the rules of reality, or at least I've never seen one

No that's an incorrect use of the term, what I said is valid deductive reasoning. Most men are not successful with women and the sour grapes phenomenon is a documented psychological effect so it stands to reason that most men that dislike women are not successful with them. I think that's true but that stems mostly with men not understanding and making the systems of society work in their favor so they have to expand a lot of energy and feel like a dancing monkey to get laid. Which is a valid point and why I stopped cold approaching for the past few years to focus on social circle and social media game which makes the leverage game finally work in my favor.

Maybe but to a point. Charisma is linked with inspiration and influence. I have had some homeless people with whom I've had a pleasant 5 min chat and then I left and did not want to be near them because they are a living proof that their life philosophy and strategy doesn't produce enviable results. People that are ultimately charistmatic make you want to be near them for a long period of them because they figured out life and your life will be better around them than away from them. Which is why often times it's linked with business leaders, politicians and rebellious figures because they tie their social skills with a grand vision that you should follow them in to get to the promised land. Hitler was a charismatic homeless man which makes sense since he had an ideology and a step of actions to share with the lost men stuck with him at the homeless refuge.

Disliking women is a strong sign of not being good with them and a lack of understanding of social systems. Usually when men dislike women it's because they feel like they are better than them or they're just not getting laid. If you start to understand how the status and dominance hierarchy work and position yourself at the top then women go from adversarial and cold to friendly, collaborative and well very down to fuck you. I would highly recommend you put some work towards figuring that out instead of having a passive-aggressive relationship with women, what an unfortunate place to choose to experience life from. Women oftentimes serve as a universal mirror to point your blind spots and show you where you are weak and not contributing enoug value to other people. Women are obviously much more valuable to your life than strawberries ever will and much more delicious as well.

Sure which is why you should create systems in your life that create an overabundance of value so that you have women and paying customers in abundance. Creating value is hard but quite simple, you just solve people's problems and make their lives more fun. It shouldn't be that much energy when you do it right, that's what building leverage is. Which is why strategies like building a brand and posting content are so effective; you eventually build global leverage with it.

I think it's gonna be quite good, Robert compounds on himself and the concepts he introduced in the 90s he has kept refining in the one I'm reading now so I assume the book on the sublime is gonna be beautiful. Curious how his thoughts on the brutal systems of life, intrinsic beauty and aesthetics will end up reconciling.

He said he's handsome and charismatic so that helps but also not necessary. Hosting parties is not that complicated you start with not even really a party but a back to school event and you put up posters and DM people and they'll come. He should partner up with friends but if he had balls he could do it by himself. You don't start with hundreds of people, some events are successful with 5-10 people but since it's back to school he can piggy back off of that and probably get to a 50-100 person event pretty easily. You will run into the problem of escalation in your own social circle which you can solve in many ways but the two best ways is to practice light flirting with a lot of women in it, so you don't actually commit to the full trying to sleep with them or ask them out but you just give everyone compliment and pump them up and they'll give it back to you usually. Then you'll see some girls will be more into you than the others and often times at this point the circle will work in your favor and one girl will tell you omg @Magnanimous Jenny clearly seems into you why don't you ask her out? The other way is to do actual cold approach outsite campus so you can practice more direct game and escalation which will give you calibration for your social circle back on campus. Cold approach was mainly developped as an antidote for not being served by your social circle and not having status so if you just start a social circle in which you have the highest status from the start it's gonna eventually start to solve all your problems. You can steer it in many directions depending on your personality, interest and the connections you build throughout this process. It could be used to network with TAs and campus recruiters so you can get yourself and people you like in your circle a job after 4th year or go towards frats, sororities and sports if you like that better, depends on his interest. You can use social hacks like partner up with a frat/sorority and use psychology like they'll be too lazy to promote their own events a lot of times and so you just take the first 2 weeks of classes and approach all the hot girls on campus and the cool guys. Now you're one of the most well known people on campus and gained status by using their brand instead of doing a direct approach and now during the rest of the school year girls will be coming up to you and warm approaching you since they remember you and you can tone back your social efforts and be a cool guy almost magically. You can also use the hack of the network effect where a college campus has like 10k people and a cool extrovert will know maybe 300 people if they're like in sports but if you throw events you can know 1000-2000 people after 1 year of doing it and get massive status. You don't need to go out all the time and drain your energy if you're an introvert, if anything if you just do 1 event every 1-2 months it'll add to your prestige and you can still stay at home most of the time watching anime but now you're cool and can get laid way easier. Social circle game is mostly strategy and business lite so you can learn it from a forum, youtube or a course pretty reliably. This is the cumulated knowledge of a lot of many generations of men, use it wisely young one and make sure to wear protection unless you aim to repopulate our species!

Also a lot of these debates happen because we define our terms inadequately. What does shallow mean? It can mean anti-intellectual, it can be does not appreciate the multiple fascets of life, it can mean focusing on status markers as opposed to other personality traits, etc. I like to talk mostly about money and sex because I find it grounds life into actionable goals and you can use many deeper fields to explore those two. A lot of intellectuals get losts into endless debates that don't really serve their life like the perfect crowd is the looksmaxxing crowd that doesn't actually learn how to talk to women and create beautiful experiences with them but will be able to tell us about the cephalic index optimization and give tips on optimizing your craniofacial morphology. Or college students that learn a lot about communist theory but have never tried starting a business or a non-profit and actually helping the people in their community. I think nerds is an intellectual that foucses on theory as opposed to being a practicioner, it also has to do with social trends as usually nerdy topics are not mainstream unlike makeup for example. Gaming is starting to become mainstream and so the average joe is a gamer but not nerdy until he gets deeper into like theorycrafting or like dungeons and dragon.

I think your charisma is good because it's the opposite of agreeability game, it's certainty game. Then you get people who follow your thoughts instead of being stuck in a people pleasing social circle that the aforementionned pandering based charisma ends up with.

I would host events and parties on your campus. Great way to go from being a beginner to knowing hundreds of girls. Hector Castillo has some good content on the topic, he's one of the leading writers for Girlschase and campus game was his specialty Basically people want to get to know people on campus and cold approach can be done a bit but you can't do too many or you'll ruin your rep but you can do the complete opposite and build your rep and status through social circle game i.e. hosting events on campus. Partner up with a few friends and host a monthly event and then invite every single hot girl you see to it and if she's busy say all good letme get your IG and you can come to our next event and you'll end up with the same status as varsity athletes and be able to know so many girls on campus if you do it properly. You don't need to get to that level you can do it more lowkey but if you're gonna try to get one girl why not takeover the whole campus in the meanwhile, it'll be quite fun and you'll get probably even more than one girl in the process.

In what way? The entertainment busines is full of weird dramas, strange to see how it goes. I'm really hoping AI write helps us out with the creative hole I feel like Hollywood is hitting right now. Hopefully they're gonna blow all expectations out of the water and make it sweet, they should start with a new superhero story though so many fresh interesting ones they could tell. I feel like an average guy/girl struggling to get by with the shitty job market we have today and gaining powers and using it to make money in an interesting way would feel fresh to most people, we don't need everything to be a grand epic tale of good vs evil.

I used to find the movies a bit silly but now that I'm working on my own IP I see it as a unique and genius multimedia adaption of so many storylines that leaves me in awe. What are your guys thought on it? I'm going back and rewatching all the MCU movies and taking extensive notes on it to understand how they tied it together both from a storytelling perspective and from a business product. My next move is watching all the guardian of the galaxy movies as I've never watched them and then rewatching all the avengers to prepare for Doomsday in December. Also now that the world has wars popping up the theme of uniting all our best people against evil seems more topical than ever so it's less ridiculous than watching them 5 years ago. Who is your guy's favorite character? I don't really have one yet I'll get back to that in a few weeks of consuming the content.

I take it as have the means to engage with the conflict that you are dealt with. To me that goes straight to spiritual people having a blindspot for business and power building and they think being at peace with their own mind will save them from the problems of the world. On the other hand I agree with you that we don't solve wars with getting better at war, that was what we learned with the cold war and us being inches away from nuclear winter. We deal with it with realistic empathy. Naive empathy is thinking that your nice words are gonna stop someone's violent goals like europe tried doing with the appeasement of Hitler. Realistic empathy is understand where your enemy is coming from and what his objectives are and being able to either meet those in other ways or being able to exert less force due to greater leverage ala Power vs Force by David Hawkins Robert makes phenomenal books, highly recommend everyone read 48 laws of power and Mastery. I'm reading one of his new ones laws of human nature right now and its one of the deepest books I've read in my entire life.

Well yes charisma is usually about making others feel important and that you like them but also not being too needy and DHVing yourself so that they actually value your opinion. I'm reminded of a passage from a book I can't remember where it talks about Richard Nixon partly losing his 2nd term election due to making people feel like he's really smart where as JFK made the people listening to him feel like they were smart. I think understanding that most group conversations and social circles work on consensus rather than making individual good points is important, I used to be like the odd man out in friend circles for being too logical and not getting the flow of what the extraverts were talking about or refusing to dumb down my points to fit in. I think ultimately that's why social circle game and leadership skills are so important to make your own circle without pandering and entrepreneurship/business to tie it back to genuine value that everyone relates to. I try to walk that line myself of offering value but not pandering, it's hard but feels right to me at the moment. A good tip it to give genuine compliments to people when you mean it or to approve of their point if they're right even if you're arguing with them. I have debates sometimes and I know I make phenomenal points that the other person didn't take into consideration and sometimes they keep doubling down or moving the goalpost and it's very annoying or they actually say good point and it makes it seem like we weren't having an argument but more like a heated friendly chat that in the end bonded us closer. The skills part of social skills should ideally mean that it gives you the knowhow of streering social engagements the way you want to and to achieve desired outcomes instead of being frustrated people don't get you or not being able to hangout with the people you want. It should only feel like being forced to praise people that don't deserve praise if you're stuck in a social construct not of your own making like a job or maybe school otherwise you always have the freedom to create your own social circle and filter it however you want.