LordFall

I think perhaps you're speaking for yourself and trying to apply it to others? Seems like you spiritually bypass a lot from what I've seen across your posts.

Slavery is using someone against their will and abuse is hurting someone contrary to their well-being. You're not using those words properly.

It's not about whether a guy personally wants to engage in BDSM; it's about the contrast between performative resistance and actual leadership. Getting your way when deciding where to eat is not leadership. Leadership is leading the way in uncomfortable and dangerous situations. When your girl loses her job and has to decide to move back with her parents or trust you to take care of her life is leadership. When you have to decide how to allocate your finances to not get ruined in uncertain times, that's leadership. Uncomfortable sexual scenarios tend to mirror that. Women want a man that's actually gonna have their back when shit goes wrong. Not a dude that tells them no to prove to himself that he has a backbone.

Not at all. How so?

I'm not responding to your type of woman, more to the psychology you're displaying with the original post and how you're falling prey to surface-level behaviours vs deep character that shows up as a result of a developed identity built from actually dominating your life.

@Olaf That’s the entire paradox right there. You want to act dominant, but only in low-stakes everyday scenarios with vanilla girls by saying "no" to carrying a bag or picking a restaurant. The second actual female submission and kink show up, you get repelled. It’s not dominance you're looking for, it's just a low-risk way to manage your own anxiety. Real polarity requires being able to handle and match female sexuality without flinching. Women are usually way kinkier than men, they have a deeper pool of emotions to fantasize with.

Feudal polygyny is perhaps what you mean in terms of women having few rights and economic opportunities. Developed nations are against polyamory mainly because of inheritance laws and social structures that threaten the administrative nuclear family unit status quo.

What? These are real women posting real personal ads looking to meet men, I've met people like this. Sounds like you're very ungrounded in your understanding of human sexuality bro. It's very common for men to posture as being dominant and wanting to be in control until a woman is genuinely authentically submissive and needs a grounded and confident man that is authentically dominant. I've met women literally randomly not on a site that were super submissive and wanted to be tied up and all kinds of other fun adventures. When I was working at a cafe in Downtown Toronto a girl working in the building came home with me one day and brought a leash and collar with her. A lot of women are very submissive in ways that would shock you, not all but a significant amount. True dominance requires understanding them and creating a safe space for the two of you to explore that fun side of life together. You're stepping into the cringe side of PUA and red pill that I don't endorse. If you want to be dominant either do it sexually and privately with your woman or build up to it on the actual planet and become a business person that actually dominates the societal structures that we are a part of. This fake ass push pull manipulative shit is exactly what people make fun of.

So what are you into then? Mostly trying to practice your confidence by getting random women to comply to your will? Be careful, that's a slippery slope @Ulax Yes online you can find plenty of women trying to get their man to be more kinky and when they say "spank me daddy" the dude says don't say that that's weird why are you so deviant, you should be ashamed of yourself! Incompatibilities exist in all kinds of ways. Find your people people and live a phenomenal life!

They're not really pornsites but you can find the one I screenshotted at https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/ and fetlife.com will have BDSM themed events in Amsterdam for sure. They range from drinks at the bar to like a seminar in some random person's house to some dude and his wife wanting to organize a gangbang. In business we say you can try a blue ocean market strategy and spend money and energy creating demand or you can service the red ocean of already existing customers that are begging for a quality product or service for their existing need.

Also I think this needs to be said but enthusiastic consent is a pretty key part here. Instead of cosplaying as king of the world you can literally find women that are begging to be dominated https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/ https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/ Literally a whole niche of dating that has weekly events in any major city. Visit FetLife and thank me later.

It's a joke more than a fantasy I like bisexual women, I find lesbians philosophically interesting but not my particular cup of tea. I hear some lesbian couples like to fuck men as like a sex toy type of experience so I mean I could be persuaded if the argument was persuasive enough. Keep in mind though lesbian relationships have the highest rate of divorce ahead of gay men and heterosexual relationships. I think overall statistics shouldn't apply to you if you're a developed individual willing to work on your flaws. The average person is so averse to development that you can beat statistical odds at least 3 times over very easily.

That sounds like a lot of effort; she's gonna need a massage but the really feminine woman is too tired from having the argument still. In my mind this still ends up in a polyamorous threesome, that's truly the optimal scenario

2 lesbians go camping Which one of them put the tent up? No one; they argued about it then drove back home Now make it a polyamorous triad The man put up the tent and then they had a threesome and grilled marshmallows by the fire Polyamory is the most optimal relationship format known to mankind

Girls like to take in experiences and be dialed into life. You just need to give them a task that lets them have fun but also serves you. Baby I know! Go hangout with Jessica and film a top bagel spot in Montreal video! Yay that sounds fun! Then you take the video, post it and now you're monetized for your food page and can scale your harem. Play chess, not checkers

Girls like to take in experiences and be dialed into life. You just need to give them a task that lets them have fun but also serves you. Baby I know! Go hangout with Jessica and film a top bagel spot in Montreal video! Yay that sounds fun! Then you take the video, post it and now you're monetized and can scale your harem. Play chess, not checkers

Really? What if you found a really cool girl into the same things you are? Why not?

I thought you were enlightened bro you can have as many wives as you want. Which jurisdiction you decide to live in or to challenge is the real question. Founding Fathers were a thing and they beat an actual empire. To create a new country today is much more simple you just need to mint your own crypto coin as your national currency.

Polyamory is dating/loving multiple people Polygamy is marrying multiple people Fuck the law, @Inliytened1 let's storm the Capitol round 2 baby! This time we're making a constitutional right to have up to 8 wives. Anything above 8 and you're clearly insane so we'll leave that for the aliens.

It's because you guys are panderers!

@Natasha Tori Maru INTJs are the most literal type there is. For feeling types being factual doesn't really matter and for other intellect types like INTPs we can take a fact and just kinda ponder on it and be like okay I can see how perhaps this... could make sense. For an INTJ 78 is not 78.4 or close to 77 it's 78 or fuck off you're wrong and probably dumb

Yeah I agree sadism is pretty much the antithesis to non-duality. Interesting how that works but all the other traits if not fuelled by sadism are not that bad but once you start to rejoice from the suffering of others then you're on a dark path. Narcissism is a delusional sense of self Psychopathy is being in your own bubble and not connecting with others that well Machiavellianism is being super calculated Most people have these traits to some degree(massive difference between one of the traits and a full-blown diagnosable personality disorder though) but if you enjoy causing pain to others(outside of a sexually mutually enjoyable context) that's gonna lead you to all kinds of strange devil-like behaviours.

Most women in these royalty setups or imperial harems didn't have the option to say no. If you want multiple women to want to fuck you just build a social circle and start posting on social media often or join your local BDSM community, you get the same abundance with no ethics issue.

How so in this context? You guys think he enjoys causing pain to these women he's intertwined with? That would be very strange psychology, I understand wanting to inflict pain on your enemy but somehow making women that you like and bond with the enemy and enjoying causing them pain as you get them pregnant would be a level of psyche fuckery that is rare. I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and just chalk it down to immaturity and cognitive dissonance as if it was more due to sadism in this case it would indicate a very dark form of psychopathy that I don't think Aba is guilty of. I think he just wants to fuck and is famous and his upbringing doesn't make that paradigm possible in terms of how he defines himself so it comes out as him lying about wanting to commit to these girls while he just enjoys fucking fangirls.

How much you get hurt in rejection is also a function of your abundance. A lot of people are not in control of their dating life and feel like quality partners are something that happens to them every few years instead of something they can attract on their own so often times they are a devastated by rejection. For a person with more abundance of dating partners rejection is more like disappointment you'll forget about in an hour rather than something that genuinely hurts you.