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Shrek is a true lesson in masculinity. He saves the princess when the prince is too afraid to do it. True alpha male.

Yes and dating and sex involve other people. It's kind of the point, you make yourself more attractive to more mates to improve your reproduction and sexual access odds. There is a difference between strategic self-optimization to meet your own goals vs neurotic people pleasing. I think people pleasing involves changing yourself to fit someone else's goal as opposed to meeting an authentic desire that you have. You should probably want to be an attractive male that women wanna fuck. Sometimes the results can seem subtle but it makes a big difference. Just shows that you're self-awareness and understand society and the world around you. This is a good series to watch to see examples. If you do a lot of cold approach you see right away the difference in how people treat you based on how you look.

Sure it is, I see plenty of dudes with unkept facial hair walking down the street. I also have better style hair in that 2nd picture The glasses are particularly not great since they are bulky and reduce my facial symmetry. The grey contacts seem to do me well but mileage may vary based on individuals. I got the tip from when I was living with a male stripper in Toronto. The jewelry draws attention to me more than having a more bland style. The shirt is more form fitting. You don't have to get surgeries to looksmax already by dressing better and optimizing accessories, hairstyle and facial hair will raise most guys by like 2 points. Then the fitness as I mentioned is a big part of it. Surgeries you can go off the wall and do stuff that some will say makes you look worse like Clavicular and his recent nose job.

In what way?

Sure, which is why looksmaxxing is mostly a phenomenon in male centric communities. I think women are better at supporting each other with their goals than men, it can be a bit too much into the delusional point and lack of accountability but generally it seems pretty on point. I'm sure it's partly why women are starting to outdo men in the west. Although western women tend to be quite overweight, most men when they travel to Eastern Europe are surprised that almost every woman there is hot. They seem to have a healthier relationship with food over there and more strict cultural standards.

It's true but that sounds like an overreaction. Why would you rather die than get a woman that you're not a fan of pregnant? I agree though that ideally you should only have sex with women that you'd see yourself at least tolerating for 18 years lol. If your money is setup right you could co-parent with multiple women at the same time in a worse case situation. If you're broke though it can be a nightmare.

That's true if you get good at daygame you can attract really beautiful women. Still looksmaxxing is important bradicus dresses well when he goes out. I'm not too deep into the community but I believe more in softmaxxing which is like style fashion grooming haircut accessories fitness. I think hardmaxxing is when they get surgeries that's pretty wild. It's true that evolution has gatekept pussy quite well if you're not offering value you'll have a hard time. Value comes in many forms. Having a fun lifestyle and a charismatic playful personality goes a long way and probably more than looks. Being able to be smooth and charismatic on a cold approach is an honest signal of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence so women give you a lot of points for that.

Why is looksmaxxing not spiritual? People are way too sensitive when it comes to beauty. Aesthetics are one of the most beautiful aspect of reality. Mountains ranges and the french riviera are nicer to look at than plains or swamps. Both can be appreciated but there are unique aesthetic value to some landscapes that others don't have. Overobsessing on it or not accepting yourself because of it are different concepts entirely. I always liked the idea that you should think of yourself as always awesome but always on your way to becoming more awesome. @Natasha Tori Maru Most people can do a lot better than they give themselves credit for. Especially in terms of fashion and jewelry and of course fitness. It seems appearance is so sensitive that people aren't comfortable thinking about how they can do better, which is wild because it's gonna have a drastic impact on how you're perceived by others so you're like drowning yourself slowly for no reason basically. For example this is how I look when I'm in a working phase and don't really care about my appearance vs when I go out. I've tried many times to test it and the results I get when I groom properly and wear those colored contacts are vastly different. People also vastly underestimate what proper photography and online content does for you. These pictures are taken like 20 seconds apart its just a difference of angle and lighting Also fitness is so important. I'm 6'4 and 150 lbs right now(that pic was prolly like 145 lbs). I feel both the difference in how women treat dudes that are actually fit also it physiologically lowers my confidence. I notice I shrink a bit physically when walking by or talking to a dude that has more muscle mass. It's something I've procrastinated but I'm gonna fix in the next couple years because it caps my results big time. Gemini told me it affects my energy levels due to lack of glycogen so I've also unconsciously been sabotaging my business. Especially men tend to be unaware of their appearance and when I do tinder reviews for clients I'm shocked at what I see and how men sabotage how they portray themselves. One makeover can make a huge difference. I used to think I was ugly and now when I try I get cute girls with boyfriends looking at me or the milf types licking their lips lol. The difference in my self esteem alone is huge let alone actually being able to sleep with attractive women.

That's a lot of progress in two days, you're a beast. I get frustrated easily with game design it's tedious but I like the instant feedback you get on progress. Did you know a lot of coding/game design already or you're using AI a lot to help you?

100% agreed. I wear colored contacts sometimes that make look way better and it's insane the difference in reactions I get. I would focus on solving all the immediate stuff for dudes like bad haircuts and beard grooming then spend some time finding a way to bring sex appeal into it.

This one of the truest thing I've seen you post on this forum my guy. Building the lifestyle you want will attract compatible partners, that's wisdom.

We finally agree on something, cheers my man. Which part of this is most important to you? For me I played a lot of multiplayers games in the past where you end up spending hundreds and really thousands of hours on the game and don't get much out of it apart from some socialization if you're playing with friends but even then it's barebones. It's even more disgusting that these guys like for League of legends, Call of duty, World of Warcraft, Fortnite, etc hire psychologists and economists to addict and rinse their playerbase as much as possible. That's why the idea of web 3 fundamentally makes sense to me, it hasn't really been proven to be that great yet but if you're not acquiring assets from investing thousands of hours of your time on an endeavour then you must be accruing a liability there's no other explanation. Games are so cool you shouldn't have to trade your life to enjoy them.

The one part where Actualized is a bit of a cult is it skews too far away from real world results. One definition of a cult I saw from real cult survivor is it reinforces a hierarchy that doesn't translate to the real world so when you leave the cult you're playing catch up. It's not necessarily Leo's fault as he's more interested in spirituality than material success but perhaps that's also a trap he's falling into as he admitted to running somewhat low on funds and having to create more products to sustain himself. Which is fine and real; 80% of the forum members(myself included) seem to be dealing more with material issues than spiritual ones and especially seem to have an unintegrated stage orange. This creates predictable archetypes like the stage green hippie/well meaning person that has no ability to have an impact on the world besides getting really upset and blaming capitalism for all their personal and collective problems.

That's really cool. I use Gemini right now to analyze even forum debates I have but it's too biased and it usually mostly reinforces the blindspots I have although it can be useful in deconstructing the perspective of other people. Claude I've tried as well and it's more objective but it still lacks a lot of nuance. Stuff like this will be really helpful for politics. I'm surprised they don't have a fact checker for political debates a lot of times people just say stuff that is easily provably false but you can't really debate it against it in real time. It gives me great hope for global peace that we have such technology now available. Gaslighting and straight up lying are unfortunately surprisingly effective moves.

Anytime. To me the worst part about a relationship is not understanding what went wrong since breakups are quite traumatic. I would hate repeating the same mistakes over and over and it happens with people all the time if we don't introspect. It's both relieving to me and I suffer in empathy when I see people carry those issues into marriages. That's why I linked the resources, so you and others can see what a lot of other relationships look like. We often idealize "people that make it work" but it's not all rainbows and sunshine that's for sure.

That's sweet, subscribed to your channel! It's like city builder game? How long have you been working on it? Keep it up, I watched this video recently that gave me some good ideas to put into my own devlogs. My main feedback with yours would be to add some commentary so we know what's going on.

So you don't say I copied it from you when I release mine, I also had a similar idea. Mine is a 2d roguelite that will hopefully turn into a web 3 mmorpg but the point is to bake in useful elements in it so it's not just entertainment. There is the web 3 component so its tied to real economy but also some actualization principles like you meditate to recharge mana and there are multiple magic academies in the universe that more or less teach actually useful stuff based on their fundamental incentives whether it's genuine research or just indoctrination of the people. I also based it on our real world but in 1350 there was divergence that introduced magic so that when people study the worldbuilding they study actual history and then it's interesting to explore structurally how our real world would differ it magical elements were introduced. Such as what becomes of labor and standards of living when you can use earth magic to build stuff instead of a bunch of slaves. The main character is basically gonna use spiral dynamics principle to unite the world with his blood magic instead of using power to crush people and perpetuating eternal competition.

Anti aging is looking really good. I would follow Bryan Johnson and his experiments, it's not quite there yet but in 20 years I'm sure a 50 year old will look 25. How is your fitness level? As we age our metabolism slows down and it's easy to get overweight and that's where a lot of unnacttractiveness comes from. Yeah I'm starting to get way more injuries from working out consistently but not even that hard. My new addiction is asking Gemini about every pain I experience, it's fun to get actual answers. Just be careful to not let it turn you into a hypochondriac

Awesome this is a cool field report. Yeah fun is a phenomenal word; girls just wanna have fun. If you give them a safe and judgement free zone to do so they get pretty freaky. I've had a few gangbangs this way lol Are you gonna date her long distance and really make her your girlfriend? Sounds like you're used to monogamy where you only you fuck a girl in a monogamous framework and she was just DTF lol

I think you're spot on. The core of male sexuality is based on female fertility and the core of female sexuality is based on male provisioning and security which are relative to the environment that they're in. Which is why in today's environment which is quite safe but heavily status based, 80% of men are deemed unattractive if a woman is swiping on Tinder and going to the club. Knowing this as a man your best strategy is to use your unique strengths to overcome your weaknesses and be basically more competitive than the men in your local environment.

We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. So if you have flaws with codependency you'll attract someone who is similarly flawed. Some people call it karmic entanglements. I would read this book on attachment theory. Sounds like you're an anxious type and your ex was an avoidant type.

This is the training wheels version of Mythos that got Anthropic to urgently gather up 40 top institutions to warn them about it's capabilities and lead to Project Glasswing. The models at this point have the power to break our current understanding of cybersecurity and they also warn about biology for fear of bioweapons being created. On the flip side that means major medical breakthroughs are coming as well so if you're suffering from a previously incurable illness like autoimmune disorders or cancer and what not then it's looking better than ever. Buckle up boys and girls, the next 5 years are gonna be a ride! It's only accelerating.

Usually I like to share my ideas so people can point our the blind spots. It's really hard to steal someone's idea if you don't have the vision or skill to execute it. Here's a good article on startup ideas by the founder of Y Combinator https://www.paulgraham.com/startupideas.html On the flip side it's also good to understand the concept of a moat and building stuff that can't be done by someone else or by AI.

You're marketing a game? I feel like video games audience live mostly on Youtube and Twitch. You can try those platforms. Also shooting organic content to build an audience is gonna be a high ROI if you have the energy for it, just more a medium to long term thing.

I agree but you're seeing it with rose tainted glasses. A lot of it is using a strict moral code as currency to judge others, establish a social hierarchy, and feel superior without actually having to produce real-world value. Basically an ideology in the box so people don't have to think for themselves about serious topics. There is a lot of great wisdom in religion that I'm often awed by and I can see how throughout history it served a great purpose towards the advancement of our people but the flaws and critiques still stand. I also think self-help is too hard for most people and they just need an easy ideology to cope through life. Individualism in general to be fair is also sort of cope, it only goes so far. I've spend my 20s being a serial entrepreneurial and learning all things self-help and praising personal ownership and I'm currently broke staying at my dads house since my last cashflow venture dried up so I'm appreciating more today the benefits of community and family than in recent years.