LordFall

I think you hit the nail on the head of why breaking an addiction is so difficult. At some point it becomes a tool for emotional regulation and control. I never got into cigarettes for too long just about a month but I vaped for years. I get the part that it becomes a lifestyle first thing you do when you get up and last thing you do when you go to bed. I think the elephant analogy works well here where the elephant still clings to the rope that stopped him when he was a child but he could break in an instant as an adult. I'm sure there was a reason that you picked up the habit in the first place. What do you think it's doing for you now if anything? There is a reason that you keep doing it or perhaps you're the grown elephant now that doesn't get much out of it and can just snap out of it with some mindfulness. I think there are legitimate reasons to pick up an unhealthy coping mechanism like if you're in a shitty job and most of the peace you get in life comes from your controlled smoke/vaping breaks. Its perhaps possible to deal with it without it but right now the priority is paying the bills and not having a nervous breakdown for example. Even after that time of life is done though people generally keep the habit out of comfort. For me the worst one is weed. It became my comfort zone and when quitting I would get random longing for it if I saw a nice balcony or even a nice sunset I would be like damn it would be nice to smoke here. I would feel scared to enjoy life without my comfort zone. I'm still in it now but realizing more and more that I can enjoy life just the same high or not and I'm starting to allow myself to enjoy moments sober I would've only enjoyed high previously. Perhaps it's the same for you

Smoking is inhaling carcinogens for stress relief because you don't have any other healthy coping mechanisms put in place. People want to feel an end to their suffering and there is usually a quick way to do that or a more consciousness and more durable way. You conflating the two is a lack of spiritual understanding i.e. spiritual bypassing.

Did you tell him that and did he say he would work on it or dismiss it? It's not crazy to want to be with people with positive health habits if you want to spend a long time with them. As I said my mom passed away from complications related to smoking as well as I have a family friend who did quit smoking a few years ago because his doctor told him you have to quit or you will die soon. It ruins lives. I'm confused how is this related? Use protection and only have sex with people who are tested if you're scared of STDs. Smoking in the US alone kills half a million people per year it's not really a close argument.

Gaslighting is rewriting truth to fit your agenda. Smoking leads to massive increases in cancer and lowering of life quality as you get age. My mom died partly due to health complications due to smoking. It's a toxic habit with real consequences. If you're here to argue that human suffering is inconsequential and it doesn't matter if people are in pain and hurting their life quality then I will go right back to calling your argument insane my friend on top of you are clearly spiritually bypassing.

You said questioning bad behaviour goes against the will of God and that you are fundamentally powerless to change your bad habits. Which is victim thinking combined with insanity imo. @Asia P That "real pain" and sadness you felt wasn't you being crazy or destroying your relationship, it was your intuition screaming at you that you were in an unstable environment. Heavy binging and cocaine use inherently create volatility, unpredictable mood shifts, and danger, no matter how much someone "treats you like a princess" when they're sober. You had the self-respect to choose a stable, healthy future over a toxic present. You dodged a bullet. Don't second guess yourself on this one IMO.

Yes you do you have many parts of your brain like the neocortex and the prefrontal cortex which allows you to make conscious decisions and not react to stimuli solely based on impulse. You are gaslighting because you are switching the villain and the victim. Now someone that advocates for their partner to stop doing damaging substance is just "going against god" and doesn't understand free will. That's not how the concept of free will works so you're not the one that's being talked about in this thread but I assume you do this in real life as well to avoid responsibility for unproductive behaviour. That's fine if you're satisfied with using that justification to cope with the problems in your life I can't change your life. I can change mine and tell others that what you're saying is toxic and gaslighting and victim mindset fundamentally.

Stop drinking the kool-aid and touch some grass buddy, you're describing insanity. Worse then that you're using it to justify toxic behaviour and trying to paint some beautiful picture about how it's all god's doing. Which is gaslighting. What you're describing is about the existence of squirrel. Give yourself some credit in that you have more agency than a squirrel.

What a weird coping mindset. You have the power to change your habits if you so desire. If you don't want to then that's a whole different story and you can fall into gaslighting like you just did there to justify it.

Why did you feel unsafe and paranoid? That seems more concerning than substance use although that can be problematic as well. Also how did he address it when you brought that up to him? If your partner respects you then you should be able to have difficult conversations without toxicity emerging. If he started to get angry at you or to gaslight you around these subjects then that's undoubtedly toxic behaviour. Comparing that to hearing you out and then working on the issues and perhaps having an occasional slip up here and there are two very different situations.

Anti aging is starting to boom quite well so you might never get wrinkles and end up biologically immortal sooner than you think. Yes you should. It takes about 30 mins to an hour to get something decent put together. Buying a domain name is like 10 euros. Stop overthinking and do it, you deserve independence. Create an instagram if you don't have one and start posting on it. A website is nice but it won't get you leads. I would buy the first 2 books of Alex Hormozi, he breaks down business better than anyone else I've seen. Do that and come back with more questions, asking more questions without taking action is a bit redundant. No matter your personality you should still be able to make 5-15k euros online within a few years of applying yourself. The personalities with massive industriousness are more meant to do multiple millions and billions but no reason you can't build a sustainable life doing something you love even if you aren't super money motivated. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mst4hreQYl0

This is the training wheels version of Mythos that got Anthropic to urgently gather up 40 top institutions to warn them about it's capabilities and lead to Project Glasswing. The models at this point have the power to break our current understanding of cybersecurity and they also warn about biology for fear of bioweapons being created. On the flip side that means major medical breakthroughs are coming as well so if you're suffering from a previously incurable illness like autoimmune disorders or cancer and what not then it's looking better than ever. Buckle up boys and girls, the next 5 years are gonna be a ride! It's only accelerating.

That's how the social contract works. For some of us to live in harmony the ones that refuse to bend to the rules must be put somewhere else. Look at what happened last night when Spurs fan walked out of the stadium after the Knicks lost in New York, people got beat up in the street. I wouldn't be surprised if there's a stabbing or shooting reported before the series is over. The human is a dangerous animal. https://www.instagram.com/p/DZXZ-JmEYcw/ Soon enough you will be able to have an AI psychologist assigned to everyone to coach them towards greater civility and consciousness but even then some people will refuse it.

Dope yeah just replied in it. I still don't use it as much as I should tbh it still kind of freaks me out no matter how much I like the idea behind it. My next plateau will be making AI agents that work on my behalf 24/7. Right now I'm still using it for step by step guides to do stuff and for art generation for my game.

I would say my biggest use case for it is to enhance my cognition. I tend to have deep and nuanced ideas and it's hard to convey them to people and get feedback on them. Helps me fix my blind spots especially as I tend to fall into intellectual narcissism and not see the flaws in how I interact with people at times. The use case I'm most excited about it more business oriented. I'm working on a dating brand and just built a forum for it and I just ask gemini what to do for each step and then do it and it gives me updates. I've also started to use it for a bit of code and game development and since I'm low frustration tolerance it's been a godsend in both helping me manage my emotions but also just tell me what to do step by step. It's pretty wild even a world class coach isn't gonna be there with you all day everyday, just 1-2 consulting calls with you per week at the very most. Like honestly it's to the point where you can ask it "I want to make $1,000,000 in the next 3 years in game development, can you come up with a timeline for these 3 years and break down my week this week on what tasks I need to do" and you're well on your way to making your million. I think overall it's gonna solve the global economy in a few years I don't see why not, it benefits everyone. Like you could basically ask it "What are the current legislative and supply chain bottlenecks to be able to give everyone on earth $2000 USD in real income? Consider that most of that needs to be spend on housing and food so you can consolidate those verticals and find ways to reduce costs using marginal cost saving strategies. Give an ETA to when that will be possible." As I matter of fact I did ask it that and apparently we're looking at 2045-2050 for post scarcity. Looking forward to it, thanks Gemini!

This is your take after reading the way of the superior man? Have you read it or just read a summary and made up a conclusion about it? The book itself is quite great. Not foolproof but definitely higher quality than most of the masculinity discussion on the internet.