LordFall

Lol I love this channel, our current world is a pretty wild anime for sure. All three of these comments are quite aligned. There is no use in hating migrants, they are just young men like us looking for a better life. They will not find it in Ceuta and probably not spain or the EU though. I'm not familiar with the Moroccan economy but to feed your population you need social programs and to encourage upward mobility and for these young men to have hope in their own country you need reputable universities and entrepreneurship programs. What are they hoping to find in Spain that they can't find back home? This is the same issue as Indian immigrants flooding Canada to be stuck working minimum wage(or lower) 6 days a week and ending up finding out that home wasn't so bad after all. Literally this scenario told to me by a prospect on a sales call with a potential client from running an ad that was like bro you gotta help me this country and life is shit what do I do lol. I told him idk bro try to start a business and make more money independently of your job; what other solution is there?

What do you mean by this? Can you elaborate I didn't quite get it.

I think it's an interesting topic but I'm not sure what angle to come at it from. Tell me if I'm off but personally when I hear wanting to connect based on truth, vulnerability and honesty to me that just means wanting to lead with your pain and wanting a woman that tolerates that and have a you two against the world type of dynamic. I had that with my ex and she accepted me and helped through my life troubles and it was a very healing and comfortable experience and even though the relationship devolved into a toxic mess it encompasses most of my most cherished life experiences thus far. Having said that most of the reason that relationship fell apart is I was not the man I want to be and was not able to guide both of our lives to a mutually beneficial destination. To me leadership and offering value are much more core to a relationship experience than honesty and vulnerability. If you are non-judmental and ask deep questions about a girl you will get most of her thoughts and anxieties, and traumas and hopes and dreams pretty quickly; I think that's great for bonding and is core to a high quality relationship. When she tells you all her insecurities and fears and hopes you still need to be the man to help her conquer that and build a great life for herself. A lot of people share the same anxieties about the world and the economy and the weird political situation. I guess you could bond over that and be authentically anxious on a date but that doesn't seem like the point of dating. Life is hard and has been for millennials, we have to overcome that and set ourselves up to be in a good position to support ourselves and a family in adulthood and then find a compatible partner once that's done. I don't know what you're personally vulnerable and open about but for most men their insecurities and hangups are gonna be around not being as successful as they want to be and I'm not sure how being transparent about that early on can help your dating life. I would work on fixing the fundamentals of your life first and then start dating from a position of strength afterwards even if you have to spend a few months or years intentionally single as a result. To me that's what I'm personally working on and what's caused a pause in my dating life since I'm not really in a position to be able to be a true asset for the lives of the high quality women I want to date. I'm building my business and still socializing building a social circle but it's not really with the aim to hitch a girl at this current time, it's more for the women me in 1-2 years will be able to invite into my lifestyle.

There are different levels of comfort. When you are doing a cold approach you are at a stranger danger level of comfort before you hook the set. Then you attract her enough that she wants to give you her IG and see you again. You don't start out by approaching a stranger and asking about their deepest life struggles and saying that they can call you anytime if they need help lol He is also talking about inside a container event or a social circle. You would go for building rapport instead of doing a pickup routine. It's hard to generalize every case but you need both comfort and attraction triggers to be successful with women en masse. People don't understand this advice and opt for nice guy game and being an emotional tampon for a girl because building attraction is harder and then complain when they don't have results. Using comfort to get into a girls pants is also indirect and a bit predatory so it's not really that comfortable and safe after all if you secretly want her to fuck you but you haven't had the courage in the weeks/months/years that you've known her to hit on her. Also 99% of men struggle with attraction not comfort. That would be like having many girls that you fuck regularly but you have trauma and commitment issues so you chase away the ones that want to actually be there for you by acting distant and aloof. Some men are in that phase of their game journey but not many here lol. Or picture a business man or executive who lacks the communication and emotional control skills to explain to his partner that he is stressed due to work and instead snaps at her and is an unpleasant man to be around due to his fear of vulnerability instead of being able to skillfully recruit his women's femininity to soothe his worries and make them feel better in the process. Notice both of these cases make logical sense because the man offers upfront value and thus has women in his lie and then the comfort becomes an issue. If homeboy is randomly at school and there are girls in his friend group and he has a crush on one and he is butt hurt that she is not enthusiastically dating him that is not a comfort issue. That is a he doesn't know enough hot girls and/or isn't doing enough cool things in life that they are continuously asking to come to his events and/or hangout with him problem. The average guy does not have a comfort problem. They have a getting beat down by society to the point where they are irrelevant and powerless problem. Here is a clip for example. It features Triple H from the D-Generation X in the 90s when WWE as really popular and a fangirl flashes her tits at him. Let's break down how that works. Life is hard and boring. This guy has a personal brand and performs publicly for people and is one of the best in the world at it. Girl is bored and goes to his event. He gives her attention, she gives him compliance and flashes her tits. The attraction created the comfort. He created attraction by taking action and working on his brand and career and giving his fans value. He does not complain about the market being too tough and women being shallow and the bad economy in the 90s, etc. This is value giving, it's like the sun it provides warmth for people that have a hard life. That's why creating content that women watch and events that women go to is so important. You go from being an irrelevant male that's mad he doesn't get laid to an active part of their life and their thoughts. https://www.instagram.com/reels/Dagay1qIVL6/

Sure I can entertain the idea you've presented. Can you also entertain the idea that you're perhaps delusional and spreading dangerous medical misinformation? I understand the appeal of trying to figure out remedies outside the system but that can lead to ignoring solutions that have a more documented track record of working. Sometimes there are none and I can understand the appeal of wanting to try alternative medicine in the hopes that it will succeed where traditional medicine hasn't.

I used to believe in aliens due to like the sheer vastness of space and the complexity of the universe perhaps there are other beings. I don't really now though it doesn't make sense when you consider how evolution has been going. If there were species more advanced than us they would have an ethical obligation to intervene in earth's conflict. I think it's much more likely that we are the first aliens and when we reach world peace our global technology culminates into being able to reach speeds faster than light and colonize other galaxies throughout the universe. It just makes too much sense, we are finally reaching stage green as a species where we sort of aim for sustainability and the good of our species. Stage yellow and tier 2 will make us a multi planetary species by increasing our technology with AI to the point where space travel and tourism are actualized. Also why would Aliens fundamentally shake up our economic system? The time I believed most in aliens I was pretty broke and wanting a way out of my boring existence so I entertained those thoughts, be careful of that same cognitive bias.

I love this guys's reels, everyone needs a good call to adventure. It's more of an example of frame than state. State is a flow state where you feel good and not anxious about talking to others. Frame is controlling an interaction around your worldview and emotions and not letting it get overpowered by another person. So random person's frame walking down the street is probably like being stressed and slightly angry, wanting to get home or to x store to get groceries and not wanting to talk to be bothered on the way there. By using novelty and storytelling this guy uses frame control on them and theres one where he goes Karaoing with a random dude, it's actually a good example of the idea that strangers are not really strangers and you can just invite them out to listen to music or to the bar or to fuck you if you just ask and have good social skills. This one with Bingles the elf cracks me up lmao reproducing his species, seems like it worked! Classic opener. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVgyEBNDxwZ/

What about in your own experience? Why are you using some random other dude who's life you don't know the details of to make your case on seduction? Comfort and empathy come after she's already attracted to you. Being safe and comfortable but not attractive is a quick route to most likely not having many friends at all or if you're really charismatic being a beta orbiter. It does not lead to attractive women wanting to fuck you and date you in general.

I think having goals in common with people helps in forming solid friendships. I've had a few friendships fade away in the last 10 years because we are in different stages of life and have different value and goals. If you are into pickup it's easy to make guy friends into pickup. Making friends into business seems to be a bit more difficult because it seems to be a more individualistic endeavour so I haven't had as much luck with it but I do have a solid network of acquaintances from it. I would say pick 5 things that you have interest in and go to 5 events in those niches and at each one try to add a few people on Instagram and plan to meetup another time outside of where you met them if you get along with them. If it's a mutual sports league then ask one of the guys to come workout with you. If it's a business club ask one to do a mutual co-working session with you. I'm quite sure that those 25 outings you will have created a solid circle based on people who have compatible values and goals as you; or your money back.

I think it's important to recognize when WE are the problem as opposed to when the world is the problem. If the world, or women in this context, are the problem then we're kind of fucked(not literally unfortunately) as it's hard enough to change ourselves let alone change the world. You're very lucky in that you are clearly the problem so you don't need to worry about the world and women being cursed. Your second line that you've repeated twice in this thread is "I'm not doing anything wrong." You obviously know that not the case otherwise many attractive women would be wanting to date you, this is an objective fact. Here are the obvious pitfalls I can spot myself from this post along your other ones in this thread: 1) You have a needy entitled mindset. Who gives a fuck if you like a girl, dating is a market. That's like saying man I've been really eyeing up this AI engineer job, it pays $20K a month can you believe it! "How much AI engineering experience do you have, or relevant experience at another AI company or at least are you top graduate at a top school in the field?" "No but I really like the job and why should I have to try so hard, can't I just be myself and that's enough?" No fuck off some other guy wants that girl or she wants to spend her time with herself, that's what you call a market as in different players who are bidding on a product or an in demand dating partner. 2) How much action are you taking? Flirting with one woman is a fool's errand. If you are in a college campus there are 1000 girls just as pretty as her on campus. If you are in a big city you probably have 10 000 attractive women walking around whenever it's sunny. If you cold approach 50 girls per week for 6 months you'll forget about this one girl not wanting to go out with you and you'll stop making cringy venting posts like this and just be busy with your 4 new friends with benefits. 3) You didn't talk about the things you have to offer. You know like what you bring to the table. You said you like her and you tried flirting with her. Women care about your value not your intent. Your intent means that you're interested in fucking them. Good fucking job. Once more to use a financial analogy that's like you going to a bank or business and saying you're interested in them giving you money for free. Like are you serious? Fuck off. Are you hosting some cool events regularly that this girl has attended? Are you particularly social and have a cool group of friends? Are you particularly jacked? Do you have a big following/are posting content often? Have you done a professional photoshoot or at least are shooting pictures with your friends often so your social media and dating apps pictures are top notch? Are you particularly wealthy? Notice these are quantifiable metrics. Mainstream media loves to keep things pure feels before reels and not quantify anything like just be funny and be yourself! Everyone makes jokes that's part of human communication. If you want to have that as your dating selector trait good fucking luck, better have a solid thing that you're better at than most other guys. Some guys get into relationships just not really trying and it does happen. I would say good for them but that's not really actionable advice regardless and also a lot of these relationships tend to be either mediocre and/or toxic since they're not really intentional. Just like some people get jobs through friends of friends even though they're not really qualified. It's still better to be a top operator in the market and not rely on luck and fate to make money and so it is with your dating and love life which are equally important as your career/business. See how we went from fuck women are against me and it's not fair to you seem to be an average to possibly under average male who has a weak mindset and doesn't use proven dating strategy. You are actively doing many things wrong and it would be hard to succeed in achieving a high quality dating life for anyone using the strategy of not doing much, crush on a random girl and complain when she's not heads over heels into you. Work on your game, social circle and social media and in a few months you'll have many girls showing you signs of interest and being open to going on dates with you. Then go on dates with many girls and pick the one you like from the ones that are open to dating you or be polyamorous and date many of them. You got this cowboy.

Red lasers are a good analogy for social dynamics and power games I might steal it. Usually most men don't really play the social games of society they mostly just labor so they don't have to learn social dynamics quite as much as most women do.

Emotional intelligence is a wide set of skills. Emotional self-regulation is just one of those. Understanding your impulses i.e. wanting to go jump and date random women and where that stems from and how to do it in a productive way is a component of it. Understanding your ability to be alone with yourself and understanding if you want a partner for a constructive reason or just cuz you're bored, anxious and low self-esteem would lead one to have more intentional relationships and not a string of breakups. Also goes full circle in why emotional intelligence is an attractive trait in both men and women. Someone who doesn't understand their own emotions let alone yours will be a nightmare to deal with. They will constantly invalidate you and not be there for you when you're stressed/anxious and good chance they will throw it back to you and make it worse. Plenty of women have low emotional intelligence as well and would make a bad wife as a result.

Perhaps but to make this a useful exercise in understand human psychology we have to ask ourselves why does someone choose the wrong women to partner up with continuously. To me that screams lack of self-awareness and a stripe of impulsivity which are the cornerstones of lack of emotionally intelligence which is where my assumptions came from.

Great job on the anti-intellectualism. What's your theory; he was so good at communication and being a romantic partner that women just broke up with him out of low self-esteem?

It's a good case to talk about. Clearly with his relationship track record I'm sure he struggles with emotional intelligence and communication skills. It's not because you a lot of women want to sleep with you that you're a great partner. A lot of these high status guys make the lives of the women they're dating more difficult and stressful, not more pleasant. I get why they experience a lot of breakups after the novelty wears off.