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I think it's a misunderstanding to categorize violent games as a glorification of stage red. That would imply that they lead to a reinforcement of the stage. I think on the contrary it's more of a channeling of our impulses and shadow side into a cathartic performance art. I'm quite sure violent video games actually are proven to reduce crimes so there is some empirical backing on that theory as well.

@Mellowmarsh No worries if you're not trying to make a point and just looking to vent then feel free. Has nothing to do with gender though, plenty of men also say random vague platitudes and plenty of women articulate themselves skillfully.

@Mellowmarsh Not too sure if you're drunk or high or just confused about what you're trying to say tbh. What is your main point in this thread? @eos_nyxia Sexuality is a spectrum and humans enjoy polarity.

I think perhaps you're speaking for yourself and trying to apply it to others? Seems like you spiritually bypass a lot from what I've seen across your posts.

Slavery is using someone against their will and abuse is hurting someone contrary to their well-being. You're not using those words properly.

It's not about whether a guy personally wants to engage in BDSM; it's about the contrast between performative resistance and actual leadership. Getting your way when deciding where to eat is not leadership. Leadership is leading the way in uncomfortable and dangerous situations. When your girl loses her job and has to decide to move back with her parents or trust you to take care of her life is leadership. When you have to decide how to allocate your finances to not get ruined in uncertain times, that's leadership. Uncomfortable sexual scenarios tend to mirror that. Women want a man that's actually gonna have their back when shit goes wrong. Not a dude that tells them no to prove to himself that he has a backbone.

Not at all. How so?

I'm not responding to your type of woman, more to the psychology you're displaying with the original post and how you're falling prey to surface-level behaviours vs deep character that shows up as a result of a developed identity built from actually dominating your life.

@Olaf That’s the entire paradox right there. You want to act dominant, but only in low-stakes everyday scenarios with vanilla girls by saying "no" to carrying a bag or picking a restaurant. The second actual female submission and kink show up, you get repelled. It’s not dominance you're looking for, it's just a low-risk way to manage your own anxiety. Real polarity requires being able to handle and match female sexuality without flinching. Women are usually way kinkier than men, they have a deeper pool of emotions to fantasize with.

Feudal polygyny is perhaps what you mean in terms of women having few rights and economic opportunities. Developed nations are against polyamory mainly because of inheritance laws and social structures that threaten the administrative nuclear family unit status quo.

What? These are real women posting real personal ads looking to meet men, I've met people like this. Sounds like you're very ungrounded in your understanding of human sexuality bro. It's very common for men to posture as being dominant and wanting to be in control until a woman is genuinely authentically submissive and needs a grounded and confident man that is authentically dominant. I've met women literally randomly not on a site that were super submissive and wanted to be tied up and all kinds of other fun adventures. When I was working at a cafe in Downtown Toronto a girl working in the building came home with me one day and brought a leash and collar with her. A lot of women are very submissive in ways that would shock you, not all but a significant amount. True dominance requires understanding them and creating a safe space for the two of you to explore that fun side of life together. You're stepping into the cringe side of PUA and red pill that I don't endorse. If you want to be dominant either do it sexually and privately with your woman or build up to it on the actual planet and become a business person that actually dominates the societal structures that we are a part of. This fake ass push pull manipulative shit is exactly what people make fun of.

So what are you into then? Mostly trying to practice your confidence by getting random women to comply to your will? Be careful, that's a slippery slope @Ulax Yes online you can find plenty of women trying to get their man to be more kinky and when they say "spank me daddy" the dude says don't say that that's weird why are you so deviant, you should be ashamed of yourself! Incompatibilities exist in all kinds of ways. Find your people people and live a phenomenal life!

They're not really pornsites but you can find the one I screenshotted at https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/ and fetlife.com will have BDSM themed events in Amsterdam for sure. They range from drinks at the bar to like a seminar in some random person's house to some dude and his wife wanting to organize a gangbang. In business we say you can try a blue ocean market strategy and spend money and energy creating demand or you can service the red ocean of already existing customers that are begging for a quality product or service for their existing need.

Also I think this needs to be said but enthusiastic consent is a pretty key part here. Instead of cosplaying as king of the world you can literally find women that are begging to be dominated https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/ https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/ Literally a whole niche of dating that has weekly events in any major city. Visit FetLife and thank me later.

It's a joke more than a fantasy I like bisexual women, I find lesbians philosophically interesting but not my particular cup of tea. I hear some lesbian couples like to fuck men as like a sex toy type of experience so I mean I could be persuaded if the argument was persuasive enough. Keep in mind though lesbian relationships have the highest rate of divorce ahead of gay men and heterosexual relationships. I think overall statistics shouldn't apply to you if you're a developed individual willing to work on your flaws. The average person is so averse to development that you can beat statistical odds at least 3 times over very easily.