LordFall

They appreciate the fruit of your intellect, not the intellect itself. If you manage to use your brain to solve a lot of problems in your life and become a high-status, abundant man that makes a lot of cash, you will have more women in your life than you know what to do with. The problem with intellect and making money is it's only half the battle; the other is emotional resilience. Building a profitable business that frees your life up and makes you a 1% man takes a lot of emotional suffering, easily 5x more than I would've thought 10 years ago. I've networked with multimillionaires and influencers in Toronto; there's no one dumb in those circles even if not all are intellectual powerhouses. If you are truly an intelligent man you are well set up to reap all the benefits that this world offers. You need to cut out the victim mindset and become ruthlessly focused on your goals and raising your status in your country and city. If you truly are high IQ then become a ripped multimillionaire over the next few years and stop fucking complaining on online forums. You can get any type of woman you want, they are not that picky. They just need a man that brings something to the table and being low or medium value with a complainer's mindset on top of it is a recipe for stewing in your own shit in terms of results. Women are offensive to men with a victim mindset because they are an existential mirror. If you are on top of your shit they love you and if you're fucking up they won't spare any time on you and will move on to a guy that's actually offering value. That's not bad, that's a divine blessing. There is very little other experience in life that hold a candle to having hot steamy sex with a woman you find incredibly sexy that you couldn't have attracted a few years ago but she now appreciates and lusts over the man that you are today. Actually on that note there is another experience that I think is equally as good and perhaps much better, finding two of those women at the same time and cashing in your universal progress. The full ownership mindset works like a charm but it is a slow and painful grind. The events that I host are a lot of effort and also complicated to set up but it's already given me access to the hottest women I've ever been with in my entire life. I cannot wait to see how much it'll scale over the next 5 years; it's what makes all of my life's pain and effort worth it.

Also probably this, I've had that same problem before. I think most men run into this at some point in our lives.

It's good, it's a sign that you have some sex appeal. I would keep levelling up so that the women you're more into also start giving you indicators of interest. You should flirt with them to practice your verbal game, it's win-win for both parties. They'll feel good about receiving the attention of a younger man and you can let them down smoothly. It's like a hot girl some of them are gracious about refusing advances and some of them are really bitchy about it, no need to be unpleasant to people that are into you.

I never heard about the trauma correlation before but it would make sense. Having trouble being present on a single task and being hyperaware of the environment sounds like a trauma response to me.

Have you read books like the Rational Male or read through the red pill forum? If you're only watching Fresh & Fit type of content then of course that's the impression you're gonna have from it. It was mostly about the opposite and stopping blaming other people for your mediocrity in life and sharing ways to elevate men's standing in the sexual and financial marketplace. I don't agree with everything in it but most men should probably read through it at least once and also books like the manipulated man by Esther Vilar.

@yetineti Thanks for the kind words man. I would say I'm quite aware of other people's emotions, I'm a very aware person in general who's always analyzing my surroundings. I tend to compartmentalize my own emotions though, I realized this after I had a dream where my emotional range was so vivid and I woke up shocked and wondering if this is how some very emotional people experience life. Felt quite good but also like it would be hard to be an effective person on a day to day basis with this much reactivity so I'm glad my subconscious is built the way it is. I would say I fall into intellectual empathy more than sharing emotions all the time, usually I get way less stressed than other people when stuff goes wrong and I only feel the anxiety after the situation is dealt with. It's partly why I have the dating vision I do. I have found not many experiences much more satisfying in life than embodying the grounded masculine surrounded by an abundance of femininity. Spending my time consuming knowledge and upskilling myself so I can solve problems with people is very satisfying and each time I do it specifically in an intimate context it feels even 10x sweeter. That's why I think being vulnerable and crying as a man is fine but the real gem is in developing hyper-competence so you can bless others with your divine masculine gifts and they gift you back the joy of unencumbered emotional expression while in your presence. I think a lot of women also get hooked on that part once they meet a man who's genuinely worked on himself and they give you a degree of appreciation and love that other men that are not as advanced in their journey often complain about not receiving.

Weird take, it's just an activity like any other where you go with the goal of meeting new people. Some people do the same thing with co-ed sports league or any other type of hobby. There is the added feedback loop of introspecting on your experience and getting advice from others on how to make your socializing more effective. Having a growth mindset and tracking your progress over time are effective ways to get better at any skillset.

Developing genuine social and conversational skills isn't the same thing as putting on an entertaining persona that turns you into a dancing monkey. Have you actually done pickup, or are you looking at it from the outside and concluding that it's solely about putting on an act?

Yeah that's fair, this part is not my forte so I don't think I've solved this. I tend to cope with emotional exhaustion by smoking weed and relaxing on my days off. That and offloading my life's frustration onto forum debates of course. I recently came to the conclusion that even my dating photography business was me looking to stick to my analytical problem-solving skillset to make money from solving other men's dating issues. I run into a slightly different issue since by default I'm dissociated from my emotions to better analyze and figure out solutions so in a group scenario I wouldn't be the one people gravitate towards. With my ex we were much more emotionally attuned so it wouldn't really come up as an issue but the problems we were dealing with at that time were so complicated that I couldn't solve them regardless of what mode I was in.

I think a large portion of day-to-day emotional distress comes from problems that can be solved, but of course there are existential experiences completely beyond our control where the only path forward is to feel, process, and release the emotions. If a woman you know is crying because a loved one died, then the only thing you can do is be there for her and hold space for her sadness. Most of the time, though, it's gonna be solvable things like financial problems, issues with her peer group, feeling overwhelmed with the pressures of life, etc. That's where you can actually make her life better by helping solve the root problem instead of just staying in emotional support mode.

Crying to release pent-up emotions seems helpful, sure. But afterward, you still have to solve the problems; the problem-solving skill set is what's fundamentally important. If you consistently solve your problems, you won't have as much to cry about. A lot of people seem to cry as a subconscious strategy to get others to take pity on them and handle their responsibilities. That's not a reliable long-term life strategy.

Most people are self-absorbed and boring to the bone. God forbid you learn some conversation skills so you can make someone feel good talking to you. Calling that skill sorcery seems a bit silly.

Do you love yourself unconditionally? Start with that and build a beautiful life for yourself as a gift. Other people will enter your life based on conditions but that's not a bad thing. You seem to be looking at it as a mountain of tasks that you need to accomplish to be worthy of love and feeling exhausted by the list. That's not really the most effective way to look at life. Think about it more like a video game and unlike most people that lack a growth mindset, you're able to build all kinds of cool skills to add to the value of your base character. What does your character want to achieve and what kind of adventures will he live? What kind of exciting and helpful companions will he meet on his quest? People that don't go on quests don't really find cool companions, that makes sense. I want to throw creative events globally and help local businesses and creative people reach their financial and career goals through being part of my communities and agency. It'll help me both make the world a better place but also meet thousands more cool women that I might possibly date and business owners that I might start joint ventures with. This is at times a tedious, painful and exhausting quest for me but the upside makes it worth it. If you find a similarly appealing quest, otherwise phrased as life purpose, then the pain of life will become worth it. No matter how you live your life it'll be painful, the main difference is if the pain is building towards something amazing or you're mostly stagnating at the same spot not accomplishing your deepest and wildest dreams. https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18036783041423983/ In this video I talk at the beginning about the fashion show I threw last year. It was one of the coolest experiences of my life and I had about 15 models walk the show under my agency name and the brand of another agency I partnered with. It was very stressful and we had to cancel it once and I ended up $2,200 in debt from it. That's the cost of the game bro! Learned so much and I would've paid even more for the experience. The next ones will be way more successful as my character has gotten way more powerful and experienced since then. What is your characters main goals in life? Flesh that out and build a beautiful and fun quest around it and you'll have no shortage of female companions that want to join you on it. The Red Pill is too negative, take the truths from it and have fun. I would start with the question, if everything worked out and you were building your dream life for the next 3 years, what would it look like on October 13th 2029?

If you find that your conversational style is working for you then there is no need to change it. If you find yourself lacking the ability to convince people of the merit of your ideas due to over-combativeness like I sometimes fell into then I would give reading the books a go! That's a fair critique. For me, I find his writing style refreshing and captivating. I read other books that touch more directly on business and psychology concepts so for me technical knowledge is not what I lack; seeing how these concepts have shaped our civilization is what I find really interesting. He shares a story in Chapter 7 about Lyndon B. Johnson's rise from congressman to senator, and eventually to US President. He gained immense influence by befriending powerful figures using that exact principle: making others feel important rather than flaunting his own importance. It led to him being able to pass the Civil Rights Act of 1964. He ended up being a mixed figure and having a horrible effect on the Vietnam War but learning how he grew up poor and thus had a vested interest in improving the rights of all Americans and used years of persuasion to do so was fascinating. There's also another story on how the Arctic explorer Ernest Shackleton kept his men alive after getting stuck in the ice for over a year in extreme conditions and the psychological principles that made that possible. I personally found it very memorable. A book like this requires taking notes and linking it to concepts you already understand and building a web of knowledge around it. I do it with my commonplace book through Obsidian. If you listen to it as an audiobook at the gym then yeah probably you'll zone out and forget much of what was said and find the book bland. @Natasha Tori Maru That makes sense! It's also helped me in business and serving clients by understanding their motivations and incentives on a deeper level, reflecting on my own blind spots, and finding win-win solutions that work for both parties even when we aim at different goals.

Yep, that's it in one word! Yes that's fair, it depends on what we mean by high consciousness. I find that he summarizes deep truths about human nature through entertaining historical examples. I'm sure there are other books that are more rigorous in their psychological understanding but his work is fun to read and gives you quick history lessons, so I find myself learning a lot each time I read even a few pages. I was just reading a passage about becoming more influential with people by resisting the urge to prove you're right in conversations and instead focusing on how other people make good points. This helped me right away because oftentimes I engage in aggressive intellectual debates and perhaps win the argument, but I don't think it convinces people because I make it adversarial more than collaborative. He names a few times where this tendency has backfired on people and it's led me to introspect on my own style of conversation. If you read the books with an open mind and aim to improve your own behaviour, they are tremendously useful, I've found! I wouldn't let the dark psychology angle stop you from giving him a shot, I think the way he exposes all of our shadow tendencies to gain control is what's led me to increase my consciousness of those traits both in others and in myself. It resulted in more productive and healthy conduct many years ago after reading 48 Laws of Power, and now, reading this more recent book, I'm already getting some pretty deep insights and I'm not even halfway through the book!