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I think dancing is very important. As an INTP I initially found it very confusing and it doesn't come naturally to me but the more I grow the more I appreciate it. I'm usually quite attracted to people that dance, it's a nice energy that counterbalances my more logical systems mindset well.

The businessman in me thinks torrenting and free sites are an catastrophe and hurt the commercial spirit of our society. The practical person in me has many personal sites still operational that I use daily woops. https://yarrlist.net/anime-list

I highly respect that guy for having the confidence to say his opinions publicly. That being said he's still a disrespectful clown.

I think it's a great topic to discuss. Boundaries are the very foundation of any relationship otherwise we're all in an 8 billion person relationship, we are but I think you obviously mean interpersonal boundaries. To me I like the idea of separating boundaries into soft and hard boundaries. Soft are ones are for things you're uncomfortable with and can push past and hard boundaries are just red line that you're not willing to move past as they're core to how you choose to live your life. If someone disrespects me first of all I like to address it right away or sometimes I get too volatile and it's better if I reflect on it first. Then I go into I don't appreciate you speaking to me this way or saying X. That's a soft boundary. If they do it again you can say, if you speak to me like this again this will be the last time we speak. That's a hard boundary. I had it with a buddy that kept making black people joke and I gave him the hard boundary and he never did it again. We fell out of touch for different reasons but usually when you give people hard boundaries they respect it or if they don't either way you clear yourself of people you don't wanna be associated with it so you win in both cases.

That makes sense, we each have our way of understanding love. I personally like the Helen Fisher model which separates the romantic love into three parts: lust, attraction and attachment. Looksmaxxing helps mostly in lust and attraction and the money part in attraction and attachment. I find the idea that money doesn't matter to deep love to be deeply misguided. Financial issues rank always in the top 2-5 reasons for divorce with whatever survey is replicated. Money is not superficial it's very deep. It's how you impact the world as a whole, how your skillset impacts other humans, how you're able to get over your mental blocks to serve your fellow humans better. Being financially independent is one of the best gifts you can give your potential partners and a journey I work on daily and I recommend each one of us here prioritize.

I do it most of the time. A lot of my conversations with my close friends are in the form of debates like you see me interact with people on the forum. Some people can't handle it but I mean well and my life is built to offer value so ultimately the right people say in my orbit. I've lost friends because of it but some others come back around and I've made new friends that are more aligned with my vision. Some others have a growth mindset and aren't offended and like my honesty and I like theirs and we grow together and do cool stuff. There is no other way to live in my book, catering to normies is more than draining it hurts the soul. Trust results, not the mind. Approach 10 8s in your city this week and see how it goes. Status helps make the process effortless and scalable but you can do it without it. For me I like women to interact with my mind and ideas, that's what I identify most with. If my ideas do not work they are not attractive they are random trivia facts or the ramblings of a madman. The more my ideas concretize and scale the more baddies and people as a whole enjoy them and I enjoy creating avdentures and scaling together so to me cold approach is not in the same dimension of what social circle and social media game can create for you. I made a reel for my dating brand the other day mentioning the new reality show Canada Shore and one of the girls from it replied to it a couple of times. It's not like she's in my circle yet nor am I dating her but it shows you can access people of all kinds of status if you put yourself out there on social media and produce quality content. https://www.instagram.com/p/DY8LcNnockL/ https://www.instagram.com/ryleighgregory/

If this way of thinking about it helps you then more power to you. You can definitely buy love though, you picked bad examples but these men have had plenty of love in their lives being successful business men is not the reason that they have relationship issues. Money buys you free time to spend more time with the people you love, is that not buying love? Money buys you the ability to free the people you love from forced labor, is that not buying love? I would also personally define love in more broad terms like enjoyment of life and obviously you can do that. One of my best friends for his own 30th birthday booked our whole friend group a mountain hike and accommodations for a weekend and we had a blast. I would not have been able to afford it at that point and neither could some of the other guys. I definitely love him for that it was a great time and I'm glad we got to celebrate his birthday with him in a special way. He could only do that because he has a well paying tech sales job. Absolutely enjoy the love my friend but the demonization of money is where the source of a lot of limiting beliefs and pain comes from.

Limiting beliefs are much more well limiting than trauma IMO. If you convince a bird it can't fly it never will. An introvert has just been more convinced of his limitations than the player. A lot of this stuff is a few random interactions in your youth that solidified bad beliefs that got reinforced as we grow up. A lot of game is just adopting new paradigms that ignore rejections and not let them affect you and savour the positive reactions and compound them.

I think you make good points but I couldn't disagree more with your premise. The whole point of life is to experience duality. I would say life is an experiment to creat the most limitless limited creatures. I don't even know if the point can be to shed the ego that's insanity that's how we started so it would be a dumb goal. The goal is to master the ego and get it to serve your consciousness and indeed the greater consciousness and to get your cake and to eat it too. Your point to me sounds like religious people being scared of biological immortality because it's gonna separate them from God, they don't understand that you can't be separate from God fortunately and that the whole point of this weak flesh has always been to improve it.

Well you said that you tire of social games and fakery can you elaborate on how that manifested itself when you tried it?

Not off the top of my head. Problem with cold approach is people don’t do it usually or that it’s too much effort to do. Some guys do it a lot with little results then I would say it’s a feedback and coaching issue. Mileage varies but is pretty consistent I’d say. I like your post though my philosophy is throw everything at the wall until you like what sticks so why not incorporate fitness and group activities.

I think its part of looksmatching you are attracted to what you think you can get and your subconscious blocks out other options from your mind. I think they are into them but they use that as a rationalization. Idk I'm pretty direct when I talk to guys it tells you a lot. Usually I just ask people "So what is your game like how do you attract hot women?" and then they tell me usually pretty crazy stuff like this in response.

I'm curious what you mean by that, it shouldn't really hamper your efforts but perhaps I have a unique philosophy on it. Your social circle especially in terms of social strategy is not really friends they are like people with similar goals and hobbies than you basically. Sometimes my friends help out with my events but usually they can't be bothered even if it would be beneficial for them to do so. I like the people in my community and try to create win-win situation but that doesn't always work. People will try to use your system for their benefit and sabotage you or just waste your time but that's one of the funnest parts to me, system design and pruning. Nothing I love more than kicking out a dude from one of my group chats. When you're offering your time to build something of value for yourself and others some people will be a net negative to that creation and once you really itemize who benefits it and who drags it down then both sides are beautiful. Equally some people will be such blessings to you that you're thinking you hacked the matrix and perhaps we have!

Yeah a lot of guys I talk to tell me this is their strategy. Find out of shape woman and get her to the gym. I don't think it works and I think it's manipulative and will lead to resentment. The best option is to level up and go after the women you authentically desire.