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Yeah I think purely casual is also boring and draining, I like in middle and have had a few friends with benefits. That was a good time and more enjoyable than one night stands. Relationships are great but can be too restrictive and it's also hard to find the exact type that you wanna be in unless you explore casually beforehand. It's also important to have a vetting system that sorts the people you get involved with so that they're compatible with you, not unhinged and attractive enough for your taste. Important as a man but VERY important for women.

I feel like calling a spade a spade is very efficient in terms of basing a conversation on truth as opposed to feelings. I'm telling you, if you keep looking for it on this forum and in society Stage Green talking points become very obvious. The biggest litmus test is they don't have a solution baked into their viewpoint. They share what is often a very valid viewpoint in terms of what concerns them but they don't make the leap towards understanding the system that governs the situation and thus lack problem solving in their perspective. @Natasha Tori Maru @Ulax Yes, epistemology is a great field of study to really go deep on spiritual ideas. I've had a lot of conversations with religious folks about religion and usually their answers are very shallow and turn condescending very quickly and it shows they haven't done an honest inquiry. I had a 30 min talk about a friend of my dad about Islam and what he said sounded profound and worth investigating. Then when I asked AI about it, it said that the 3 main points that he brought up are common myths shared on Islam Tiktok/Facebook. I'm open minded and give it a shot but I wonder if he himself has ever bothered to cross check his beliefs or just watches videos that confirm his bias and moves on with his days feeling superior to non believers. @cetus Thank you for sharing your backstory. My aim in calling out your harsh response was not to diminish the wildness of what Majed said. It's just to point out that we can transmute the anger and hate into understanding and provoke hopefully lasting and powerful change in the user. If we just push out people with problematic mindsets out of polite society then that leads to a fragmented world where an escalation of these negative feelings is bound to happen. Anger is good! If met with understanding and channeling then it can embolden a powerful purpose instead of festering into frustration and fantasies of violence that mask feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness. I feel powerless all the times. I've tried meditating over it and it works somewhat. The best antidote I've found though is power building and building the reality I want on my terms. This is why my original replies to Majed were about killing the victim mindset and offering him pure strategy that I think will produce actual results in his life. I think perhaps dating should be pushed to the side of his agenda to focus on autonomy and personal finance though; in hindsight with seeing how the thread developed.

Have you tried it and you felt that was the result or someone indoctrinated you against hookups and you believed them? I've had maybe 30 hookups with chicks I barely knew and it was mostly fun. One of the biggest contributing factors on if I felt good or bad about it over the next few days honestly was if I was really attracted to them or if I let my standards slide just to get laid. Humans are fun and getting to meet new ones and being intimate with them is generally a good time for me.

Yes but a lot of billionaires turn many of their employees into millionaires. Thousands of Meta employees became millionaires by working under Mark for example. There is such a thing as a business structured as a shared ownership cooperative and people do start them but they don't tend to work very well. Yeah but that's mostly due to fiscal policy of the Government and macroeconomics. Not really individual business owners. Which is why I'm excited about socialist figures being empowered in US politics currently.

Very good news to wake up to! Happy about the Texas flip, that's a huge message to send. Do you think billionaires in and of themselves are the problem? For me it's the fact that a lot manage to skirt around the rule of law and it's the corruption and the tax avoidance that hurts the people not really their wealth accumulation. Great business people that build successful enterprises should be rewarded but not stand above the law.

We can only hope! Texas going to a democrat would be a huge move in the right direction especially with it recently absorbing the exodus of all the rich people leaving California.

Well I'm no fan of Religion but if I had to play Devil's advocate I would say it's the main value system that gets people to think about true long term thinking in terms of the afterlife and taking that into account instead of just ruthlessly acquiring power while alive on this earth. The Greek philosophers do a good job of also reflecting on our duty and the weight of our actions but without the after life consequence insinuation, I don't think it manages to grasp human behaviour as much as religions do. Religions give you an easy answer as to where you come from, what you should do in your life and what you'll experience after you die as a result of your life's actions. If it was just about that then it would be a lot more valuable than it is now but of course it got its way deep into politics and culture so that it's not simply a spiritual practice but turns into an ideology and cult in a lot of cases. In a lot of ways the Catholic Church is the successor of the Roman Empire and it perfected it's control mechanisms. Once a spiritual framework turns into an empire or an ideological cult that punishes those that don't fully embrace its tenants, it loses its soul and becomes mostly pure control.

Yeah it’s hard to wrap your mind around, even western societies are more comfortable showing violence than sex on TV. The religions are specifically caught trying to demonize world and convince us that if we don’t follow their principles our souls will be tainted but in the process they seem to kill a lot of unity and love part of spirituality and replace it with judgement, shame, intolerance and overall a lot of stuff that overall sounds like devilry to me. I told my coworker yesterday too that I was bisexual to give the thought that she can choose her life and not just go along with what her family chose for her but she just said “You know in our religion that’s the biggest sin right?” I didn’t really wanna start a religious debate at work but I wanted to ask what about murder and rape and actual crime? What is it about sexual autonomy that’s so fear inducing to ideology? I guess it cuts to the core of authoritarian control mechanisms, if you can control a beings reproduction then you got it by the balls literally.

His feelings are actually a microcosm of what's happening around the world as old institutions are collapsing and individualism is taking more of a hold. The reason why I think Majed is worth engaging with is because he's genuinely trying to figure this out and sharing his honest thoughts and his situation is quite difficult. He is stuck in between Stage Blue dating and Stage Orange dating and trying to reconcile it. Dating is not a activity based on freedom and love in the Middle East and a lot of other places in the world. It's built around authoritarianism and extreme pressures. Not to say that Islam is evil, it was perhaps necessary to unite humanity in the harsh region that it evolved in but it now seems to mostly comprise of dysfunctional defence and oppression mechanisms. This forum is likely the most progressive and perhaps healthy support system he's exposed to so I hope you guys can see how the wish to reduce harm by silencing someone venting his angry thoughts could lead him straight down the route of further radicalization. He is trying to pull himself out of a repressive extremist organization that controls his life and I think we should assist him in that; he is not a just being hostile and trolling. This is the story of his life. Just yesterday I was talking to a female coworker from Bangladesh who's been working here in Montreal and her family recently arranged a marriage for her and she's not excited for it as she says she knows what her life will look like after doing it and a lot of her freedoms will be gone. If she refuses it then her direct and extended family will disown her and she will lose all her support systems and community. This is the culture Majed grew up in and the one half of my family also is part of and thus why I have particular compassion for those indoctrinated and oppressed by it. My dad won't talk to my brother because he's gay and I haven't told him I'm bisexual and he'd probably kick me out and stop talking to me as well for a time or perhaps ever. If I went back home to my home country and this leaked out without protective measures in place, I could myself face kidnapping and violence at my own family's hands. Ideology is a very powerful force and trying to pull yourself out is much harder than it seems from an outside perspective. Notice a lot of parents of Muslim children discourage them from getting jobs when they reach 16 and a lot of them live at home until they're 30 if not longer. This is also why building independent value and leverage is both the way to attract women but to fundamentally free yourself from other human imposing their version of reality on us. There is a relationship between freedom and love that I can't quite verbalize yet but seems key to this conundrum. Let's of course encourage people to focus on love and authentic intimate connections with others but let's not underestimate the forces that are working against that. To beat our enemy we have to deeply understand it. The enemy here being the lack of consciousness and the resulting dysfunction that afflict much of humanity. The reason I linked it to war is that this is the end of result of us not being able to understand each other. You see it today in all kinds of ways both in gender wars but in the literal wars that are starting to happen more frequently.

I mean I would introspect on your viewpoint, it seems low consciousness to me. Refusing to engage with people with different viewpoints and yes even violent thoughts and tendencies are how we escalate to the wars we see today. Be careful living in a Stage Green bubble of safety where you reject anything unsavoury. Majed is clearly frustrated and fed up with life and he's sharing his thoughts before resorting to expressing them on the universe. How do you think God would respond to him if he talked to him directly? Certainly not with your comment. Violence is part of the world and we have to understand it if we are ever to solve it for good. I believe we are going to do in the next 20 years, the future is looking bright! I'm reminded of Daryl Davis, a black man who attended KKK rallies and befriended leaders of the Klan and is responsible for getting over 200 members to renounce their ideology and leave it. This is how we heal the world, not by demonizing those who are lashing out.

The most interesting thing about rape as a crime is that it's unjustifiable even to the people committing it so the vast majority of rapists refuse to believe they're rapists. Criminological and psychological studies estimate that approximately 50% to 60% of convicted sex offenders (including rapists) minimize, justify, or deny core elements of their offense, with 15% to 25% remaining in full categorical denial (claiming they did not commit the act or that it never occurred). Research indicates that only 5% to 15% of convicted rapists fully acknowledge both their actions and explicit intent without using cognitive rationalizations or self-justifications. Brings me back to Leo's point that if most people that commit evil acts really had the full consciousness of what they're doing a lot of them would commit suicide in shame and guilt. It brings a lot of of credibility to the point of feminists saying to teach men not to rape. Enthusiastic consent is an important concept to understand if you're gonna have casual sex with strangers. Some of the advice that I see from men online and even on this forum seems to land them in a murky grey area and you should definitely air on the side of caution when it comes to these things.

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I mean I see this line of argumentation used all the time on this forum. People claiming that life is not real and things don't exist. I have to then bring it back to direct experience and ask them to stop using a laptop to reply to me and use instead the power of universal consciousness to communicate instead of Internet and silicon chips. Phenomenology is a hard topic and the difference between a profound point and something that's easily proven to be very stupid is quite thin lol.

You might enjoy this song and this artist as a whole. He's a very well thought rapper that touches on other people using lower consciousness needs met and rightfully critiques that approach He's also a man who had a lot of pain and learned to transmute it into higher forms of creation and accrue a lot of value for himself in the process. He's a good inspiration for your path specifically brother.

Yes, you deserve it. Being an angry butthurt dude and using violence to achieve your goals is a somewhat productive strategy that yields some form of results for sure. That is why some men that haven't thought it through use that strategy. Becoming a thief or a bandit instead of getting a job works a little bit for some amount of time and some people have become very wealthy through it. Compared to win-win solutions that enhances all party's lives; it's a trash strategy that deserves to be shutdown in every way imaginable. Also transmutation is a thing. Raw energy is useless it burns everything it touches. Try standing on the sun. Well channeled, it becomes one of the most useful, appreciated and powerful forces in the universe. Same with raw masculinity.