LordFall

You can do pickup from any stage from purple to turquoise. If you do it from stage orange that's on you. Do not project your lack of success unto others, it's the furthest thing from the truth my friend.

A lot of pickup teachers have unhealed emotional issues, in that situation it's quite hard to find fulfilment but it's not too far away. A bridge that's 80% built is 100% useless but it's not that far off from working as intended. Introspection on true desires and not societal expectations pushed on us is mandatory but once you do that I'd say for most guys getting some cool women into their life is gonna take care of a lot of their issues. Especially in the format that I've outlined above. I have worked with clients to help them build this out for themselves in different cities across Canada. I don't do it widely yet but this is when I met Mystery in Toronto through one of my clients that hired him as well.

I'm sorry you had an unfulfilling time with your dating journey. My best advice would be to combine it with your overall life purpose as well as social circle. When you have women that help you reach your goals and you help them reach theirs instead of just prowling the streets for a vagina to fuck; the game changes completely. Women are your comrades in reality and they are also looking for great adventures to embark on and have to face the difficulties of the marketplace and business world. If you're the man to solve that for them I guarantee you that fulfillment will be the least of your worries.

I think it's extremely rare for someone to have truly mastered dating and intimacy and to have built a phenomenal dating life. It happens but it's easily less than 10% of people. It's a shame because it's one of if not the the sweetest aspects of reality.

I disagree I think you're generalizing and projecting but if it works for you then more power to you. Thanks you yeah the last few years I have been going hard on social circle events and it's starting to scale and go the way I want it; it's been a good time. No need to resent women, I love them. The more of them you have in your life the happier you'll be.

I think you have to be careful with sweeping generalizations. Some women operate in scarcity and just give two handed compliments and live in competition. Some others are happy for their friends doing well and just want to support other women and perhaps humans in general. I don't think it's healthy to be jaded about human nature. It doesn't make you a loser to believe in the goodness in people. Quite the opposite as long as it's not blind naivety.

There are millions of beautiful women in this world. I can't experience them all but a hundred should be a good start into really diving into the feminine. Most men experience not even 5% of what women have to offer. I thank God I learned seduction and social skills to the point where I can mingle with women in a way that my teenage self would only have dreamed of.

I said the box point because you seem to have these ideas and apply them universally. I've simply shared what makes sense to me and what makes me happy. Self-awareness is all I'm preaching, if you know yourself and what works for you as well then more power to you. Well it's the path I've put myself on and it's worked out well so far so I'll keep on it was my only point. It could end up being 200 women or a bit less than 100, it's not a hard goal number. More a path towards more sensuality and adventure.

Depends on how heavily on the spectrum but light autism can definitely become phenomenal at seduction with a lot of exposure and good coaching. If you just hammer out hundreds of approaches with no thought behind it like you said you did then of course you're not gonna make much progress but with the right strategy you can have a dreamlike dating life for sure. You don't think being in shape and having a good financial situation is important for a high quality dating life?

Did you read the post? He literally said he's on the spectrum and doesn't know how to approach women. Working on your business and fitness is phenomenal overall advice but in that specific case I think progressive desensitization is the correct recommendation. Also where did I say to approach meh women? If he's in a big city he can easily find multiple attractive women a day to talk to, just probably not his personal perfect 10 each day but for sure overall social exposure will help with that as well.

Perhaps you're projecting your own lack of self-esteem here by thinking you're not worthy of talking to women. Women love being chatted up as long as you're pleasant about it. You don't always have to go super direct you can just comment on something happening in the environment or give them a genuine compliment. I recommend especially following approach challenge for OP since he has some autism and it'll help it be more natural.

I think you could totally form relationships from clubs and bars but the main issue is that a lot of the people there are looking more for fun than growth and shared journey but that's not universally the case. The relationships I've had usually form from social circle. I had one girlfriend I found from volunteering at a comic expo. I think having mutual goals with your partners is a great start so anything related to your career and business is a good move. I run creative groups and a lot of women in there have similar goals to me. If you're into business then business/crypto/finance events have a lot of attractive women aged 25-35 and the single ones would be better partners than club girls I assume. One big unlock in terms of the hobby groups is to host them yourself instead of just going to other peoples. Then you learn community building and are more attractive as the group leader. Don't be a creepy guy just looking to get laid in that instance but if it's a meaningful hobby that anyway you're gonna spend years partaking in then it makes a lot of sense.

The answer is to regularly approach and it becomes more natural. You could've indeed just said hey I had to say you're really attractive, hows the day? You don't really have to overthink the context at the start of your game journey, if you try to go along with the jacket story or offering her your milkshake that's more likely to be more awkward than anything else. If you're autistic I would follow a straight progression curve like a newbie challenge and progressively desensitize yourself and you'll likely pick it up quite quickly with pattern recognition. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/newbie-assignment.34/ IMO the most important thing is to do a lot of approaches and get a lot of experience because if you try to only approach the girls you really like once in a while you'll probably fumble the bag but when you have momentum you build charisma quite reliably.

For me it felt like I had incredible times with these women and we weren't compatible enough aspects to decide to stay together long term. Doesn't mean that they weren't incredible women and I'm glad I met them and through that temporary love that we shared it fuelled me to want to explore sexuality and dating even more. I think that a lot of people that date just one or a few people never really experience the opposite sex, just a little slice of it through that person or not even that person since unless you really introspect and master your psychology you're just mostly operating on your shadow and subconscious. Not to say that some low partner count monogamous couple aren't fulfilled but one I haven't met many if any and two a lot of the relationships I see and hear about clearly show just pathology and scarcity played out in real time. To pedestalize that as the epitome of human romantic fulfillment is silly to me. I know myself quite well at this point in life. I've been dating and learning about human relationships for 12 years now. My life journey has barely started since my business is starting to take off and I plan on being a digital nomad and travelling the world for the next few years and having incredible experiences with women from countries all over the world. I could for sure meet the most amazing woman I've ever met next week in a festival in Montreal before I ever embark on this journey but I will just ask her to join me and if she's the love of my life she'll be bisexual and we can meet even more incredible women together. It seems that you've put yourself in a box my friend and trying to apply this box to myself and dating as a whole. The world is literally infinite and so are the romantic and sexual experiences that you can have. I'd encourage you to go on Reddit and read through the polyamory subreddits and read people's journey in that world and you'll hopefully see that your current perspective is limited and not backed up by any data or research.

@Sugarcoat Seems quite profound to me. It talks about the inherent blindspots we have towards our ego, insecurities, addictions and weaknesses that can paradoxically seem obvious to others. It's definitely not a normie thing to be highly skilled at introspection.