LordFall

I think we're conflating confidence and self-esteem here. Confidence is defined as such : Confidence is a state of trust, assurance, and belief in one's own abilities. It involves feeling secure in your skills and having faith in people or future plans. You can be delusional in your confidence because you are perfect just the way you are but generally I don't see that working well for people. The people that have the best results I've seen both have grounded self-esteem in their faith in their own abilities to accomplish big thing and also the humility to put themselves in the fire time and time again and learn from their mistakes.

For sure. A lot of people who have delusional confidence live in delusions and don't get results or get humbled by smashing face first into reality. Inner game and true confidence come from proven competence.

What you appreciate in reality and what you are open to willingly sacrifice for.

I think it's much more common to have men who settled for mediocre relationships than successful playboys who now have issues with getting into a relationship if they want to. It does happen, that's what the sequel to The game is based on, The Truth by Neil Strauss. I haven't seen it too many times though and I've seen a lot of men get into relationships with mentally ill, boring or women who aren't very attractive because it was easier than finishing their self-improvement.

I used to watch his videos and be a fan until the rape allegations came out. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he talked about working with cam girls that seemed borderline line win-win. Then there is the story of one of the cam girls having a boyfriend and he just forced himself upon her and wouldn't take no for an answer and knowing his personality and character that sounded accurate so I switched from a fan to a harsh critic. Since then he's had like 10+ other rape accusations. Some men are not satisfied with win-win arrangements and want to impose their reality against the will of other beings and the law. I'm thankful to have been shown him and Trump as examples of what power at all costs as an ideology turns an ambitious individual into. There is no shame in changing your opinion on people and idea when you receive new information.

For sure a good friend shared it with me and it's been helpful, hope it can serve you well.

That's why I like the SMART goal setting framework, when you make your goals timebound and try it a few times you realize that most plans are not feasible and you narrow down your focus based on what you want and how much energy it's gonna require If you wanna make $1,000,000 for example then you need to find a high ticket offer and sell it 200 times at $5000 Or you need a $200k year salary with $100k yearly contribution to a high yield portfolio over like 6 years with a 15% average return. Goals stop being this vague nebulous thing and you find a lane and go for it. That removed a lot of existential dread for me instead of weighing 1000 different options that are not feasible or just don't fit my personality type.

Why do you need to promise exclusivity to a woman if you're not ready to settle? Promising sexual exclusivity is the most comfortable route you can take when starting this journey but it will rarely lead to achieving one's potential as it takes a lot of skill to build a high quality relationship and more than likely one will settle into codependence if one does it too early. You can date women as FWB or keep an open relationship and get your cake and do it too. In my experience it's a bit difficult to do that but I've done it for a few months. You can also keep raising your social capital while in a monogamous relationship so both paths do work. Gotta know yourself and what you desire ultimately.

Yeah crypto is tough, some people win big most people lose out. I don't like mentionning Andrew Tate I think he's a dishonest sociopathic rapist. I like more what Tony Huge is doing just living with and dating multiple women and building a cool life together, like a more intentional version of polyamory. I'm not doing it myself at the moment, building up to it. I did regular game back when I lived in Toronto and it was fun but to me at least I ran out of what I could do without a large amount of cashflow and my own systems built. I would just date women and/or FWBs and hangout and that's fun but I wanted more and I felt like I hit a wall in the quality of the women I could attract. Then I started doing photoshoot container events after learning the model from social circle coaches. It's fun but the programs are designed for high income professionals to reinvest their disposable income into their social life to attract more women than they otherwise could. That's not a bad plan but I like the idea of building a business around it and scaling it globally. That's what I'm working on right now. Also with all the models I get I see a common theme where they are down to go to events, photoshoots and shoot content but they have a hard time managing it all by themselves. A lot of modelling agencies are scams and make their money charging the models for expensive shoots. I'm working on my own agency to help them automate a lot of their brand outreach and standardize content production. I think the way Hugh Hefner did it with his setup being buit on top of a media agency is the way to do it to get global reach. It's also quite fun to work with women and "conquer the world" with them so I'll keep going down that path and seeing how it goes. You still need game to optimize it and be in a genuine relationship with the women and not just manipulate them to get what you want. It just structures the relationship in the right way if you come at it from a provider angle after you already have the lover one secured imo. Financial issues are one of the top causes for divorces and even in marriages that stay together a lot of couples are just stressed and barely surviving in life. I think putting the cart before the horse and setting up your business properly is so key to a high level dating life and relationships.

I fear you're gonna get quited bored of programming if you're not particularly into it, it's a very high competition niche now with AI automating a lot of it. If I were you I would probably keep in mind a travel business if that's really your passion. Start it right where you are in California, make videos of the surrounding areas around you and use AI to figure out the highest value travel packages you can sell, I just did one search quickly and it gave me this Napa Valley Wine Tour A lot of times you can call these places and make a deal with them where you become an affiliate for their services and they give you a 20% promo that becomes your margin and then you resell it on their behalf. Or you charge extra for putting a particularly cool tour together. You can also do the opposite and find for a cool tour at the place you want to visit and then make call those places and get the same deal. Now to sell the tours you learn how to take organic b-roll and turn it into engaging organic content. As well as running ads. If it's local you have the adantage of being able to film stuff yourself instead of having to repurpose content that you find online for your own brand. You can also become a tour guide and start a company around that, do like Hollywood tours if you're LA or ideally something more niche and high ticket. Better be high ticket than mass market but doing a lot at the start to learn the industry is fine as well. Buy Alex Hormozi's books and learn what a high quality offer is and how to do lead generation effective. You make money by saving people time or giving them access to something they didn't have before. It's usually done by having an unfair advantage, secret knowledge or just pure willingless to labor so it's easier to do it in something you enjoy doing and thinking about. You can start the pages and the content strategy pretty much this week though a lot of this stuff you can learn how to do on Youtube and it'll be up to you to find a profitabe niche and offer and keep on throwing stuff at the wall until it works and you have something worth repeating. Good luck, you're thinking along the right path. Just study people that have achieved your lifestyle before you and reverse engineer it.

Yeah you are right that building status is harder it takes time. The ceiling is much higher and if you combine it with entrepreneurship then you don't really have a ceiling. I'm still working on my setup daily and it's taking time to actualize to my full vision but everyday closer. It was a dining event we put together last year. How come you don't use Instagram? This Youtube edit is from 2022 and the events I was a part of that year. It kind of shows your point better actually because I have been recreating the access and status I had back then from the ground up since I had access by proxy by being friends with club promoters at that time but now I'm creating it as the sole owner of it and it's harder then I thought but is coming together quite well.

Sure but if we're coming at it from what should men spend their time learning, I think charisma and social skills are important but financial abundance and status are equally if not more important to build and they're usually not talked about as much on here. https://www.instagram.com/p/DI75zcsRAEl/ When you have money you can also buy dating bootcamps, match makers and just pay to host top VIP events so your ease to meet women is much increased.

Are you working on a business now? You can start today and be quite successful in a few years. Every man and woman should work on their own business to become financially independent and be able to share that gift with their friends, family and lovers. I share my own journey on this journal thread here : My philosophy won't work for everyone but it's built on avoiding the mistakes and pitfalls I see others fall into. I don't think I'm self-deceived but feel free to point out some blind spots if you believe they are genuine and not stemming from your own spiritual bypassing.

I mean you can think about it in whatever way you want to. For me I like the harem builder game where I work on my business and date multiple women and subs that live under me and I fund their life and lifestyle while they chill and/or work for me and my business. The problem with not funding their lifestyle is your woman will end up working for another man or a system that probably exploits her and she'll come back home drained and not giving you and your children together her best. I think most women would rather be stay at home moms if their man could afford it but it's become too hard due macroeconomics and thus 90% of men in America can't fund that lifestyle for their partner.

I think it's good to try different stuff from like a test perspective but I wouldn't do it long term, it's more of a gimmick than something that will genuinely raise your value and you'll eventually have to explain that you wear a fake wedding ring to approach women it's a bit cringe. Nofap is good for increasing sexual chemistry, usually when I go out I try to be on 1-2 days of it.