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Hi Taurian, you're a very coordinated and organized person. Respect! I tend to avoid using the word "busy" in my dictionary, because if I use it, in my opinion, it means I don't know what I'm doing. Even if I have a full day of schedule, I don't describe it as busy, it's simply working on my priorities (or errands), and fixing problems. When you say you feel buys, do you mean you want to be more "balanced"? What aspects of your life do you feel like you should have more of? It sounds to me that you've covered the most important aspects, such as work, health, and relationship. But maybe there's something missing?

Isn't wanting to die a desire in itself? Sitting around in silence is also doing something, isn't it? You don't feel connected to family or friends, but you do have family and friends. It means there is life inside of you, seeking to express itself (as the teachings of Abraham Hicks says it). Have you taken any actions to try and connect with people around you? From what you've tried, what exactly about it that doesn't work and doesn't build a connection?

Hi Angelo, to answer the title of this topic, I would say: YES, family can understand us. Our family members are human beings too, and communicating with them is the same as communicating with any other person. Perhaps the difference is in the length of the relationship and expectations each party has about that relationship. (In your case, maybe the expectation is that your father expects you to follow his standards, while you expect your father to support your decisions) Personal development doesn't have to appeal to the majority of people* for you and your father to understand each other. Being religious is a form of personal development, and so is moving to a new area to pursue what you want. What can you understand about your father that can help in your communication with him? *I would argue, personal development does appeal to the majority.

Isn't every industry orange at the core? I'm a part-time songwriter, and the way I made money was doing sound engineering at a studio making music for TV commercials. In my opinion, the most realistic path to make money as a musician is to accept orders from what the market needs, e.g playing in wedding bands. Right now, I'm writing a song for teen pop music, very market oriented. But I try to put some of my idealism in the lyrics, I am not attached to the genre because I believe any genre can deliver an optimistic and uplifting message.

A simple method would be to simply keep writing. I've written a journal for more than ten years, and I found that there are times when I write a lot and deeply, and there are other times where I write short and briefly. I'm not attached to having to write deeply all the time; I know that will come naturally, so I enjoy the short and brief moments. You could write about what happened and how it made you feel. Or keep your journal close at all times and when you have an inspiring or provocative thought or emotion, write it down immediately. In my case, I often forget what I wanted to write if I wait until the end of the week to write it

You've already answered your question: all of us are bound by rules. We are bound by the rules of nature that we can't violate (though some rules aren't what we thought in the first place). But man-made rules can be broken all the time, and perhaps should be broken to see what new discoveries we can make. If you feel you need instructions all the time, it might be good to test out some rule-breaking in a controlled environment where there are no heavy consequences if you make a mistake. What kind of self-thinking do you have in mind? You asking about this topic already proves you are thinking for yourself, in my opinion.

Can you incorporate elements of what you love about spiritual aspects into programming? I mean, the spiritual aspects you plan to incorporate into jazz, can you incorporate them to programming too?

One of them is substitution bias, from "Thinking Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attribute_substitution More or less, "instead of finding the correct answer, our brain finds the nearest, available answer." Similar to the "because" experiment that discovered people will allow behavior if there is a reason for it, even though there is no correlation between the reason and the behavior. "Can I go first? Because I need to copy my paper," says the woman waiting in line at the photocopy machine. It causes errors in thinking.

Maybe the refusal to let go of other options is because you're still not sure about any of them? If you were clear on an obvious benefit, then you would make a choice without a doubt, and do the others in your spare time. Which one of your options has the most obvious benefit?

I agree. When you are expressing your passion, 100 hours a week doesn't burn you out. If you're building a business you don't love, only to make money, then it's not a good idea. When you are doing what you love, you don't get exhausted. You still need to rest, but the excitement gives you energy to keep going.

According to Simon Sinek, passion is WHY you do what you do, not WHAT you do. Passion isn't an emotion you feel, but a cause that drives you to take action. Traveling isn't a passion, it's something you do. What is the cause that makes you travel? How did you feel when you arrived at another country, saw the sights, met the people? Maybe you're not clear yet on what your passion is, you focus on the emotion, and that's why it can fade easily.

Hi Samantha, obviously there are examples of successful people who started at a similar age as you. Louise Hay started Hay House Publishing when she was 60 years old. I wouldn't worry about a timeline, I would give the goal everything I have, make it a priority, spend time understanding it, and work on it. Building a community, you will start with one person, and then more people. Whatever the number you end up with, it may not be as big as you envisioned, but you will affect people's lives anyway, and in my opinion, that is what's important.

I've been writing a journal since 2005. I usually write once a week, at the end of the week, for a review. There were times when I wrote in my journal more than once a week. Right now, I'm writing in it once a month. I think the effective way to write a journal is simply to write it. When you have something to write, then write; if you don't, then don't. I don't think we should feel pushed to fill a "quota" to write in our journal. Even if we only write once a year, then that's enough.

Text communication is problematic because we can't see the facial expression and body language of other people. That is the downside of texting. I agree, I would apologize for the misunderstanding and consequent conflict. In the future, when someone has a negative response, I would hold from responding immediately, especially if I feel emotional about it. That is the upside of texting, we can reply much later. Regarding the condition at work, it may resolve or it may not. It's up to you to stay or find another job. It sounds like the chef does have problems, and maybe he will remain having problems for as long as you work there. Is that a trade off you're willing to accept?

Put it in the bank, slowly allocate small portions of it into assets with potential, and into a small business. Put aside a certain percentage for charity, do it first.

Yes, maintain your habits as much as you can in your temporary or new environment. On top of that, I don't think habits stop that easily. If you are practicing a new habit, and you have a change of environment, it's OK to pause it until you find the right rhythm to continue practicing it. Pausing won't make you lose the habit as if it becomes permanently inaccessible.

Yes, it sounds like you are misunderstanding your life purpose as a materialistic item, like Leo says. A true life purpose can't be abandoned or given up on, because it is tied to the core of your being. Your life purpose ought to be an action, not a destination to reach. Therefore, it's an action you can do anytime.

Very short answer: I read Start With Why, by Simon Sinek

I don't think we need to save psych energy. In terms of work, if the work is aligned with your vision and expresses your passion, then the energy will be "infinite," aka work feels like play. In that regards, the way to "save energy" would be to align your activities with your vision in life, so that every thing you do is in the same direction heading to a grand design, and nothing goes to waste. Maybe we feel drained of energy when we do activities that contradict our vision.

Hmm, my approach to being effective is simply have one goal in mind, and do whatever it takes to get there. Sometimes, it might mean getting up at 03.00 in the morning and working (which I've done). Other times it might mean working for half a day and taking the rest of the day off (which I've also done). I learn that progress isn't measured by distance, but by understanding. We don't need to fulfill a certain "quota" of work each day, if we are clear about how to reach the goal. On the other hand, it could take years before we succeed, or only months. But how long it takes doesn't matter, what matters is we get there. For example: would it matter if it took you five more years to become a millionaire than anticipated? Would it frustrate you or disappoint you, if it did? Probably not, at least it wouldn't in my case. As long as I reach the goal, it doesn't matter how much work I do (or don't do).

Hi Shir, I wonder why do you feel anxious when you think about getting married and having kids? Maybe there's some past trauma related to relationships that affect how you perceive and value future relationships? How are your other relationships right now? You're right that it's unhealthy to build a relationship if you're still "hurt." It usually makes the relationship become full of conflict, or at least it will be troubled by conflict. A relationship is healthy when both people are emotionally healthy and can share happiness and support each other (instead of asking and demanding attention). I think if you can understand why you get anxious about marriage and children, you can begin to dissolve that anxiety.

Hi Viking, I spent three years working in my local music industry. I was in a band that performed once in a while, and my "day job" was a studio operator (sound engineer) for music for television commercials. I also got a few songwriting/music arrangement gigs from clients, but rarely. IMO, you don't have to learn music from a young age to be successful. It depends on how you define "success" as a musician. If you want to be a rock star (like the artists you mention), musical skill helps but doesn't guarantee it either. I think it's more feasible if you pursue a "modest" path, such as being an engineer or a session player or a music arranger. These skills can be learned at whatever age. If you want to spread a message through music, then you don't have to do it full time. You can write the music when you have the time. As long as you spare time, you can produce quite an amount of music, probably more than you initially think. What makes producing music lengthy and expensive is if you go back and forth changing things and want the best sounding sounds. Especially with today's technology, you can get 80-90% of the maximum quality at a very affordable price.

Hey Nick, I think there's no legal problem to offer consultation, but it would be best to give a disclaimer that you're not a licensed mental health professional and that the information on your videos are for educational purposes only and not for treatment.

Yep, I found this some time ago, great point of view. Interest is saying we would do something, committed is actually doing it. There's a lot of difference between what we say, and what we do.

Hello Mircan, in what area do you want to be more courageous? In my opinion, being courageous isn't the goal. The goal is a result, and courage is a step that gets between us and that result. If we can get the result we want without having to be courageous, then I think that is more simple (less steps involved). That's why I ask why do you want to be courageous. Maybe you don't have to be, at all. If courage is defined as doing an action that frightens us, we can try to dissolve the fear instead. No courage necessary.