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But thoughts are not communicating what is literally out there in reality. They are simply images that the mind creates and they do not literally exist even though they exist as illusory experiences. A great example of this would be to think of santa claus. He is not literally Real - meaning he is not out there - but there still a certain image when you think of him and that experience is real as it is occuring. What is your opinion on this?

I'm not an expert on this topic, but I can share some ideas with you that might help: To learn social skills and potentially Master them, I think you will need: Accurate high quality information into the principles of social skills. To Take lots of action and Explore how the principles connect in Real life and to improve your skills. Being patient and taking into accoount that the BIG results come later on in your pursuit and that the beginning is the most difficult part. Meditation - daily A quality life coach that can help you realize your desire. A POWERFUL vision that is clear and specific (most important) Good luck

I get that thoughts are real. I mean when you have an experience which is a thought, that thought is what is. But I also have realized the thought's content is an illusion meaning that it does not exist in reality as a physical entity. What do you think?

I think getting a journal that you can physically write in helps if you have the journal and a pen near you at all times -maybe in your pocket or something. That way, when an insight does occur, you can immediately write it down and not forget. Insights are like dreams. If you do not write them down right after they have occurred, you will almost always forget

As a person who is on this path toward becoming self actualized, I am aware that there are lots of potential traps on the journey. I have fallen into some of them and will likely find new ones later. But I want to be prepared. And I want to raise awareness regarding these traps because I think people and myself need to be aware of more of them. So what are the traps on the path to self actualization?

I get what you mean. For a period, I was also like that. Just did not feel I was genuine in the way I was presenning my love and other emotions sometimes. It felt off - like a part of me knew that I was bullshitting myself and others started to notice it too in a very subtle way. But as I've begun meditating daily, I have gotten more in touch with my higher more authentic side and I feel like I am more expressive in that light. Not like the little ego who acts it out to serve itself, but the person I was before I developed an ego. It is pretty fucking cool and refreshing in an awesome way. So what is my advice? Meditate every day - at least 20 minutes - and trust that stuff will work out over time if you just stay on the path to self actualization... Good luck

@UtopiaX I think that your impact statement is fine with or without the last part. Because the statement should be approximately 10 words long which both are. And since this is the case, you should listen to your emotions as you are looking at both statements. They will tell you which impact statement has the most meaning to you and that is the one you should choose out of the two available. If you feel that none are really that meaningful, maybe go back and redo the exercise and try to find an impact statement that is. Use that instead.. Good luck

I think it might be important for you to apply awareness in this case. Because when you are aware of the fact that this thought creates an illusion of you being better that someone, you can simply observe the thought like a cloud in the sky - simply notice it. Also, it may help if you watch the video called "grasping the illusory nature of thought" and do the exercise presented called flattening the illusion. Do this exercise with the thought of you being better that others to experience the thought for what it really is

I have encountered the same problems with people finding it crazy that I do personal development. And I can understand that because it goes against the modern lifestyle and it is just different and people cannot really grasp the significance that it has to transform ones life if they just stick to it. But you can still share it with them if they are interested and curious in why you do it. And you probably want to go gentle and not speak out harsh truths that go against their notions of reality like: Relationships do not make you happy Love is not what you think love is. Your version of love is really like a business negotiation You are an illusion - you do not exist. Your religion holds you back (if they are religious) and it is also 100% false - all concepts, all beliefs. And other harsh truths like that. So be kind, respect people and tell them what they are ready to hear if they are open. If not, talk to them about other things and accept that they are not ready.

There are still upsides to them: They influence the subconscious mind greatly which is very POWERFUL as it creates 95% if not more of all results in your life and change your ego (concept of self) maybe not as deeply as awareness but still. They help you take more action and improve your results. they are still useful... Please do not use my reasons above as a justification why not to do them. They are important and I already know that because they can still be used to achieve an outsource. And those results might give you the freedom to no longer be in need to do them anymore.. So it is a Grey area. There are upsides and downsides... This is just my view. I am however still interessted in hearing what you think about them. What have you accomplished by using them?

I study because: I love to understand how things work - it gives me a certain satisfaction I do it to develope my work ethic Because I need study skills to be a life long learner It is a critical life skill that can be Applied in many areas of life especially after school. I want to get good grades and Excel at school :3 Hope that inspired you to get going ? ☺️

Affirmations and visualization are all about thinking and thinking does NOT get you to enlightenment. In fact, it slows you down. Enlightenment is a realization grounded in the present moment that you are nothing and everything. There are degrees to enlightenment so it is not like either you are enlightened or not. To increase your degree of enlighenment, meditate and do self inquiry work consistently for many years. There are no shortcuts here

Get into the present moment. Sit Down in a quite place where you are not getting disturbed. Get in touch with the feelings in your body and the part of your self image you have a hard time accepting about yourself. Try to give that part unconditional love, understanding and acceptance. If you feel resistance while trying this, give the resistance love and let the love go through the resistance and into the self image. Do this prefarably every day for a specfic amount of time (however much you need) until you feel better. Hope this helped

Developing willpower can be done in many ways. But from what I've heard, the best thing is daily meditation. You can also look at your diet. Eating Healthy foods (light protein, fruits, whole grain, veggies, salad, etc.) can also help you. And getting enough sleep. Sleep is also important becuause when you get enough, you have more willpower during the day. Aim for at least 6 hours preferably 8-9 and try to go to bed before midnight. These ideas can all give you what you are searching, but only make one change at a time and be consistent in that effort. Good luck

I think meditation should be praciced at least 20 minutes a day if you are a beginner. I have been meditating for 5 months. The most I was able to meditate was for 2 months straight. It has been great (have seen some tiny results) but I am patient and I know that the amazing results are yet to come if I just stick to it! What about you?

@Kazman I also have autism like your brother and learning social skills and dating is hard. Does not come easy to me and it takes a life long commitment to really get good at relationships and get a girlfriend. A commitment to learn social skills. To learn game and embody the principles. To discover and live out a life purpose. To meditate every day. To self actualize and study oneself carefully..

The thing is that you assume there "is a way" to stop these sexual thoughts. There is not. There is NO-SELF controlling your thoughts. It is not an ability you have or will ever have. But you can gain awareness over these thoughts and stop them from causing stress/sufflering. Meditation daily is great for that... Good luck

After hitting your head against the Wall again and again, there will be a point where enough is enough. Where you realize the only legit solution is emotional labour and the thing you are not interessted in doing. At that point, if you bite the bullet, then you will get better at exerting emotional labour and over time get really good at it if you do it consistently

This is a manipulation tactic from your lower self. it tries to make you not want to meditate - totally normal and should be expected by everyone. The important thing is: Do not give in to the Fear and use it as a sign to break OFF the habit. Notice the fear and continue to meditate every day consistently regardless. Hope this helped you

I think that daily meditation can help you in this case. Because it gives you more awareness. When you have high awareness, you will see the suffering that it causes and simply stop doing it. Hope this helped you

I heard that in one of your videos Leo (don't remember which one specifically) you talked about execution. And you said that you studied how to become a good executer. I think that therefore it would be relevant if you could give us - your audience - some wisdom regarding what it takes to be great at executing as it is directly connected to self actualization...

@Nulik I think that this is a problem a lot of people - even myself - sometimes has dealt with. But how do you overcome it? I think it is about knowing yourself and understanding what inspires you to work on that project and connecting with that on a continual basis is a great strategy. You could also find out new sources of inspiration when you are feeling lazy and the previous inspiration no longer inspires you...

I find that to live a self actualized life and to instill powerful habits like meditation, visualization, positive affirmations and have a strong work ethic, energy is important. And it is very hard to have high energy. Because we live in a culture where we are constantly bombarded with stuff going on around us and are expected to be doing so many things. And I don't really know about you, but for me, it is really demanding on my psyche and has taken away much valuable energy that I want to take back. I was therefore wondering if there are any folks on this forum who generally have a high level of energy in daily life and do not get drained easily. What are the different habits that you have installed that give you a high level of energy? Would be quite beneficial to know cause energy certainly is an important aspect as it relates to focus and results. Thanks in advance guys

I personally think that he has certain characteristics that are great. I mean he is great at motivating people and when you look at videos of the audience in his seminars, they are certainly engaged. And I think there is value to gain there as far as how to influence people because he clearly shows that in the way he verbal and nonverbal communication. He also shares great advice that is highly practical. One example being that you should divorce your story when it no longer serves you. But there still is an underlying problem there and that is that now people use their current level of willpower to do this. And that does not work. Because the awareness level is still the same. Beliefs change as a result of increased awareness over the web of beliefs and subconscious programming. These ideas are not really taught that much by him. It is mostly about superficial problems that he talks about like depression, lack of money, relationships, etc and superficial (but good sounding) solutions. Not deep real ones that actually have a noticeable impact on ones life. So in conclusion: He gives great advice that sounds great, but it does not really work practically. Just my opinion though...

It sounds like you do not like your previous job and that is okay. Now, you have left that job and are on the verge to get a new one. But you are worried that you might hate it like you did with the previous job and are considering the idea that maybe you just dont want to do any work and have lots of free time. Now, assuming that if you decide to have no job at all and that has lots of negative consequences that you do not want to pay, then you should find a new job. That job according to me should be the one you fear that you will hate. But only if you see that it has potential to bring you closer to your ultimate intent and it is the best opportunity for you at the moment