Surfingthewave

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  1. @integral Thank you for this, I've been struggling with sleep again this week ? 

    I do suffer with seasonal affective disorder due to lack of light, hadn't thought about the link with melatonin production. 

    I would say I have an excitable nervous system so GABA could be key. As a kid I always struggled with sleep. 

    I also have a stressful job, could be time to quit. Really great dietary tips. 

    Again thank you and get that book published ? 


  2. There is no happiness and sadness. 

    There is just is-ness (to quote Mooji). 

    Happiness and sadness is filtered through the lens of perception, sensations, feelings and thoughts. The lens of the mind. 

    Actuality just is. 

    When I shop for Christmas presents I'm in a good mood, I see the raw poverty on our streets, I'm sad. 

    When I'm sad due to an event at work I'm happy because I have a job. 

    Whatever you feel, flip it. Is -ness is here to stay. Feelings are temporary states, actuality isn't. Actuality is here to stay and is the greatest gift there is. 

    The biggest mistake we make is to think "something" can make us happy. This doesn't exist. Saying yes to the moment is happiness. Is fulfillment. 

    Leave your mind at the door and see what happens. When you experience "no-mind" you are in the direct path of is-ness, of source. That is true happiness. But dear readers, letting go of the mind is the biggest challenge there is. Or is it? 


  3. Insights this week:

    Massive ego back lash experienced. Massive. Huge. Insomnia back on. Thoughts back on. But this was after an amazing self inquiry and yoga session where I connected to source effortlessly, watched my mind, my thoughts go by. The awareness of awareness became a recognised feeling. Quite blissful even.

    Today however its a different story. But that's exactly it, it's a story. Trigger points could have been work but also family dynamics as this is the link to previous trauma. 

    I'm using all the resources I have to let this go, watch this space. That's exactly it, it's space of consciousness, the sky, the screen, nothing more.

    I'm longing more and more for freedom, freedom in my work, freedom in my day to day. I've added this to the dream board. 

     


  4. @seeking_brilliance I suffered with back and shoulder pain / psychological trauma and following a Reiki session I was diagnosed with a blocked throat shakra. Actual functions are self love, creative expression, communicating your needs and speaking your truth. Blockages can be to do with grief, trauma, loss of someone you love, divorce, separation and lack of self love. 

    There are many methods of opening but some I found useful were reiki healing, massage, heart opening yoga positionsand singing. Others include diet, vitamins and superfoods. 


  5. At what point do we realise the obsession we have with the hero's journey can become a distraction from the journey itself? 

    How can you fight the threshold guardians if you use up your energy worrying about them popping up all the time.

    The counter intuitive nature of this work means that we are still consumed by our egos searching for meaning, and this can become a distraction itself. 

    My own experience has been something similar: we may become obsessive about the searching itself which impacts on the journey (you may throw the baby out with the bathwater).

    Enjoy the journey. Miracles happen every day. The sun rises in the morning and the stars appear at night.

    Realise that our psyches will always want an ending. There is no ending to enlightenment or personal development. 


  6. @Strangeloop Letting go of shame is the hardest part of realising your sexuality. Let go of what your family and others have conditioned you to think. This is your life and you have every right to live a life of being gay. Work on these emotional difficulties you have that come up for you, they appear very strong but in reality they are just thoughts and feelings you can let go of. 


  7. Interestingly my sleep has improved. It's not consistent but much better. My mind becomes very active at night I've become aware of this.  My chakras are more balanced ? 

    - I reduced my portion sizes and stick to mainly protein and veggies  for dinner, before bed  (no meat or carbs) 

    - I've introduced more herbal teas, particularly ginger and turmeric. I've also introduced more blueberries, nuts, avocados etc into my diet. 

    - I stick to a script when I wake up in the night, a bit of a mindfulness practice so I don't get into a cycle 

    Sleep is medicine. Let's not underestimate it's value. Someone also posted on here you need less sleep the more spiritual work you do. Not sure about this but I'm sure that when I'm exhausted my ego runs amok. 


  8. @Nak Khid Interesting debate. It depends on your own inner resilience, coping strategies and neurological balances /imbalances when it comes to mental health. Mindfulness can be used to help solve  some emotional difficulties however when it comes to chemical imbalances, in such forms of severe depression or anxiety, medication and or psychological therapies may be needed. I think professional assessment is often seen in a negative light when it actually can enhance or be enhanced by mindfulness. 

    I can relate to the part about traumatised egos looking for a short cut solution in the form of enlightenment or searching for the "no self". You probably should work on the trauma before any seeking begins. 


  9. @Surfingthewave

    Further insights /additions

    - The letting go work I am doing is really enlightenment work. 

    - I often give others advice when I need to give myself the same advice. I can be very hard on myself, as I see in others on this forum. 

    - Wonderland really is in every moment. When you fall down the rabbit hole, the world you see becomes curiouser and curiouser. Quotes from Alice in Wonderland.... Lewis Carroll was a master writer. 

    "Who in the world am I?  Ahh that's the great puzzle." 

    "Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." 

    "It's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then....." 


  10. @ardacigin Fantastic post thank you. It's so important to define these states. For me in the past I have got stuck in the contentment state, this could be due to the practices I follow. I'm currently working on equanimity, the ability to reduce craving and sit with the suffering. I seem to go round in circles with this state. 

    What resources / practices guide our work and how often to you have formal sits? 


  11. @JonasVE12 I've worked in a setting where neurofeedback was used for people with ADHD. Do you struggle with sensory processing also? Touch, light sound etc? It had amazing results. Following investigations, discussion with GP, doctor etc if you think you'd like to try it do it and feedback to this forum. You could always go for a consultation. 


  12. Insights this week:

    Insomnia still prevails, however insights are still appearing late at night. 

    The politics of my country leaves me to dispair but I realise there is something bigger at work, beyond the corruption of our political system, beyond the huge multimedia machine driving and influencing voters and I have faith in that. 

    Energy is key to my motivation. When I'm lacking in energy my soft and hard addictions can consume me. Focusing my energy through exercise, yoga, meditation practice and visualisations will impact my life purpose work and levels of fulfillment. 

    Letting go work has improved my ability to not let things get to me. I almost have an invisible barrier protecting me, or perhaps it's the other way round and reality/actuality is protecting me. 

     


  13. My personal favourite 

    Desiderata by Max Ehrmann 1927

    Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

    Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

    Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

    Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

    Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

    Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

    And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.


  14. Big insight in the middle of the night. Maybe that's why I've been having bouts of insomnia recently because things are massively shifting and I'm trying to consolidate. My ego is trying to adjust (or floundering while trying to retake control!). 

    For many many years I have put other people first, as in I've felt that helping others in need (my current job) is the key to to meaning and fulfillment. Well it ain't just that I'm afraid. It's lead me to many many geat things in my life but it's not my life purpose. I'm on track with my life purpose now but I've been struggling with commitment and discipline to this. I think this is because I've programmed myself when in doubt help others. This also relates to experiences in my childhood. 

    But also maybe because I'm lacking in clarity with my LP? 

    Need more space and time for contemplating. Part of myself feels like I'm obsessing about myself. Sometimes when I watch Leo's vids for example I think wow, he really thinks about himself a lot, does he not just miss having a few beers with his pals? Maybe that's what OSHO was doing with all those Rolls Royces. 

    Sometimes with this work you gotta stop for a bit and go and have some fun! 


  15. @Raptorsin7 Find some ways you can practice self love, what healthy habits or things can you do that make you feel better? Hanging out with pals, long walks, yoga, baths, etc. Yes Leo had some tips in his vid. He also talked about doing a job (your LP) on top of the job you have to make the transition (that's what I'm doing myself). Hard work but brings massive results. 

    You're good at asking questions, finding out about things and working with people. You may find the LP course could be a game changer. 


  16. @Raptorsin7 It's good that you're journalling here, what I find helpful is you can look back at the recurring themes of thoughts and habits. Don't forget self love, you seem to be quite hard on yourself at times. Change your thoughts, change your life. 

    Yes this forum can be a distraction, but it can also bring you massive insights. 

    You seem to be out of alignment with what you really want. Coaching will help with this. You're doing all the right things, just keep doing it, be aware of backsliding and good luck! 


  17. @Thought Art You sound like you're very near a shift in consciousness. Get ready! 

    For me, I stopped ruminating on the backsliding. I just carried on. I also started to do things that made me feel better as I was wasting thought energy on why I was backsliding, so felt drained so I wouldn't do my life purpose, distracted myself etc etc. 

    It's a trap, a strangeloop, a circle. Break the chain you break the backsliding. Don't give it so much attention.