Surfingthewave
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@Bill W Yes I did you've summarised very nicely, I think I meant Hawkins. Yes very similar but I haven't read much of Hawkins so I will be in the future.
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@Bill W I'm a big fan of his writing - he cuts through the BS. Very inspirational, particularly when writing about addiction. Seemingly he's been key for your path to recovery too. He's got a new book out about his mentors, one being a spiritual guru.
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I revisted some of Leo's vids recently. Mainly the keys to self actualisation, techniques for living the good life.
1) Self experimentation
2) Radical open mindedness
3) Experience
Sometimes there are too many facets to this path, I don't stick to anything. The above three points to self actualisation are key for me. I can often be too close minded and not self experiment enough on difficulties areas such as finances, freedom and life purpose. I often still get too wrapped upin how I want an experience to be rather than how it actually is, in actuality.
What are we here to do? To have the best quality of experience (through skills such as mindful meditation) To have a range of experiences. To drop illusions and fantasy. Something @Bill Wposted recently resonated with me, based on Alan Watt's Letting Go.
Be humbled by experience, discover the power of experience. Although you may think you are the one experiencing, it is more powerful than you, so let go of perceptions of experience. Suffering comes from our own versions of experience. Joy comes from realising we are perfect, and the experience is enough just as it is.
Key insights from Rusell Brand
I've always been a fan of Brand. He is clearly on the path to enlightenment and a bit of a modern day Jesus type, both in looks and personality in some ways. Brand talks about realising this perfection he has come to realise through recovery and years of inner work means he now sees life for what it truly is. Not something we need to take from to make ourselves feel better but as something we can give back to, as gratitude for being here, for experiencing.
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Sorry I'm not a fan. But plenty of other people to follow.
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@aklacor727 My first mystical experience. The first experience of not being the "I". This changed everything for me- career, sexuality, who I was, what I was on this earth for.
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8 hours ago, Dingo said:don't most women find life satisfaction in accompanying and supporting a strong and determined man
No, no and no.
Stop reading out of date books which have nothing to do with sex and relationships.
You need some serious life lessons about femininity (as a lot of men do on this forum) and the only way to do this from women themselves! Go and meet some women, talk to them, read some modern books on feminism and go from there. You have very bizarre opinions on women and independence, is this a cultural thing or a family thing? You need some good female role models. Keep asking questions but let go of all your assumptions because my dear seeker, as a woman I'm telling you these assumptions are wrong.
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@Alyosha Thank you for opening up here.
You seem like you are going through a lot, physically, mentally and emotionally. You seem to be chasing pleasure (as we all do) but for the wrong reasons, perhaps. As you are self actualising you may find you backslide a lot before you go forwards so maybe this pleasure you seek in sex and drugs is giving you quick relief from the difficult inner work you are doing (but I'm no expert).
I think you're right to obstain while you continue to do this work. What I also suggest is giving yourself pleasure in more healthy ways such as going for therapy massages and/or reiki healing as it sounds like you have a lot of blocked energy. I would also say how do you express yourself creatively, as you go through this work you may find strong emotions or feelings arise so it's how you channel this in more healthier way. Music, art, walking in nature to get back in touch with who you are.
You also mention digestive problems. You may have blocked chakras so you could look into this. If you suffer with a lot of fear and anxiety this could be linked. Your body may be purging all the negative stuff. Suffering from erectile dysfunction can impact on all aspects of your life, so here is where you may need some more expert help. It's important to give yourself self love during this time. Remember this suffering you are going through will be temporary, this will pass. Keep doing the meditation and healing.
My other suggestion is do talk about it. When we keep problems in our heads the power it can have over us is immense. When you talk to those you trust it releases the power and blocked emotions.
Good luck on your journey ?
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Ghosts of the Christmas Past
The chains of the past I've been dragging around I've let go. I'm not that person anymore. Reflecting on this year I've made small steps but also giant leaps. I made some bold moves in my relationships and in my work.
Ghosts of the Christmas Present
This is all we have so why spook ourselves out with our incessant thoughts in the present? I continue to surrender to what is, let the now become my guide. Future ghosts or clinging, longing and goal obsessions takes me away from the present, from what is.
Ghosts of the Christmas Future
This is about what's real. Not from video, screens or thoughts but reality. More gurus, more experiences, more feeling, it's time to take my work to the next level. It's also time to make that giant leap in my life purpose and begin the transition out of wage slavery and into my dreams.
@Raptorsin7 I can relate to this. I feel like you are on the verge of some mystical experiences very soon and this will guide you to where you need to be. That magic you talk about that lifted you out of depression is still within you, your energy has just got a bit blocked, perhaps?
The inner work I continue to practice is to reconnect with the now, to let go of thoughts/ the mind and to live from a place of conscious awareness. Thoughts don't guide the work. It's about surrendering and in doing so, living the dream.
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@Raptorsin7 I have practiced shadow work, yes. My meditation practice brought up deep trauma / emotional abuse I suffered in my childhood which was something I needed to work through.
It sounds like you may be going through something similar? I was very resistant to facing this. Instead I was angry, suffered with low self esteem, chasing the wrong things such as success etc and couldn't assert myself.
I had tried counselling but tended to walk out as soon as I was beginning to get to the heart of the trauma. This is why meditation really helped me. Journalling was also really key.
No I haven't done Leo's LP course. I have a good idea of my life purpose is already.
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@Alyosha There are several things that stand out in your post. Why you feel the urge to take drugs when they don't make you feel good, your difficulties coming to terms with your sexuality and your sense of shame that this brings you.
When we bring suffering on ourselves there are many reasons for this. Journalling your feelings may help you to pick this apart if you don't feel like talking to someone. Is confidence something you struggle with? Why do you think the thoughts you have of being gay leave you feeling uneasy?
You describe having bumps in the road of your self actualisation journey, why do you think you are having these?
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@Raptorsin7 Yes. You're getting to the root of spirituality.
When you sit and feel what arises in you, and face it, you become it. After lots of practice, you transcend it.
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So the festive season will always play havoc with my meditation practice and enlightenment work. However I let this go and just enjoyed the hedonism and chaos. No resistance, no fight. I saw it as a bit of a break from the routine. Also old habits return, over eating, drinking and spending, but this will be only for a short time.
Lots of anger / strong feelings however raised at work, mainly due to not feeling freedom. Will reflect on this later.
Sleep routine still up and down. My thoughts go wild at night but I know why. Did a yoga Nidra one night which helped, my intention was "self expression".
Something amazing happened visiting the family. I wasn't triggered at all! Couldn't believe it. Massive progress. I've been doing this work for several years now and going back to my family has always pulled me back into old thought stories and deep emotions throwing me off the path. This time it was magical. I was able to observe what was going on with a smile.
It's also about being kind to yourself and giving yourself a break in hard times. I realise how lucky I am in some ways. My cousin has been given 5-7 yrs to live due to a cancer diagnosis. This has put a rocket on my work.......
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Looking at a lot of posts on this forum and also the difficulties my friends face as well as I, the above seems to be the things we struggle with over and over.
(The holiday season brings a time of reflection, contemplation but also triggers).
Why do we need support with decisions when there is no "wrong" decision? Why do we struggle with persistence and perseverance when the going gets tough?
Some thoughts:
- Not being in touch with the source, inner power, gut feelings, higher power etc so we seek others advice.
- Distraction is a stronger force than perseverance
- In order to persist, we have to struggle. To struggle is to go against the grade, societal pressures, societal norms, unfollow the herd. It's also a difficult thing to do and in our comfortable bubbles we live in (netflix, takeaways, instant culture) we don't like things that are difficult or take time.
Thoughts from you enlightened folk would be good.
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@Bestversionofme You raise some important questions about sexuality and gender. You will find your tribe. There are two difficulties you are grappling with: how your sexual fluidity impacts your masculinity and your sense of isolation in this.
Sexuality is a spectrum, we are all somewhere in the middle although social constructs make us feel we should be gay or straight. Stand up for who you are, let go of shame and keep talking / blogging about it. Social constructs are illusions of the mind. Be proud of who you are. Continue to reach out and you can break some of those constructs. Believe me you will feel a whole lot happier.
Masculinity is forever evolving, be part of the modernisation of this so called gender identity which is seeped in so much pressure to conform to rules. There are no rules, just you living your life. The now is all we have, be part of the evolution of gender and sexual identity. Be the best version of you.
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@VeganAwake When you are asking these questions you realise you are asking yourself. Seeking and being burnt out are concepts of the mind.
Just celebrate the now, return to source. Everything else is a distraction.
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@Raptorsin7 What if there is no desert, and no water.
It's the seeking for something which is the resistance, the resistance to what is. There is no right and wrong way.
You'll experience happiness in what's around you when you go directly to source, to what is. This can be achieved in many ways, meditation is a good route.
You appear to be seeking for answers. You will only get these answers from deep within you when you are ready.
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What is power?
The power of Now
The power of Positive Thinking
Personal power
Powerful quotes
Powerful leaders
Power is a term used a lot in personal development.
Power moves us in ways our experience shifts, and is never the same again.
Power can be great but also can be toxic.
What if we were to let go of all assumptions of power.
There is power in humbleness, consistency, perseverance, patience.
There is power in actuality. In experience, in what's around us.
What is powerful to you?
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@Derek White What is it then, in your opinion?
@Raptorsin7 Just be aware of how we can trick ourselves into quick fixes. Changing habits are tricky but as you build momentum you'll get there. Constant never ending improvement is key (thank you Mr Robbins) but for some of us, it's the "constant" part which is the hardest part.
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@Tom T Your business will always be in demand, however competition will be something to consider. Technology is any businesses gold mine so as you can use Skype etc you'll be fine (although there's nothing quite like a counselling session directly with the person).
The brexit fiasco is a worry for us all but go forth my friend, forget about those corrupt politicians and good luck!
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@Raptorsin7 Happiness is a concept in our minds. Meditation will help you to reach a no mind state, which yes can make us feel better. You have already started with this so well done.
You have talked about depression before. It could be a chemical imbalance so I would get your mood checked, in case.
Other techniques can make you feel better such as visualisations, affirmations, diet and exercise. If you bring up those natural endorphins every day through exercise you'll feel much better, guaranteed.
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@VeganAwake Haha yes, you're preaching to the converted! ☺
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@ivankiss Stirring up the non duality pot again I see. Good for you, how's tricks? ?
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This made be really really laugh. Like a full on cosmic giggle.
I should say, to Leo's no BS response. Interesting point @thetrut11.
in Life Purpose, Career, Entrepreneurship, Finance
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@DivineSoda
Fear appears to be holding you back.
What out of all those options brings you the biggest joy, makes your heart sing, you could be happy doing only that?
Meditate on this, a lot.
You have done a lot of work to get to this point so well done. Now is the fun part......