CreamCat

Just have sex.

The title should be "DRACULA does a pick-up".

Take responsibility for your life. Running away from your life is irresponsible. I have no friends, and I don't have a girl friend. I still want to live a million years. Find something else you can focus on. Watch leo's videos about attracting girls.

A forum user is a self-serving role unlike a cop. This forum doesn't seem to lead anywhere. This is a dead-end. Whatever impact it has, it is a noise. This forum seems to be a mere downstream implication of the larger upstream big picture. The downstream just follows changes from the upstream like technological development. If you are not a leader, then you are a follower. Resisting is also a form of following. We can be good followers, but are we going anywhere as followers? Who or what are we following other than Leo's personality? We are not good at being forum users either although other forums can suck more. We have choices. Become a better follower. Follow better things. You can suck at following and end up going nowhere. Recognize that you are at a cul de sac. You can perfectly serve in the role of a person stuck at a cul de sac. But, that's not useful. Get yourself out of a dead-end. Move upstream, and become a leader of some form. If the best you can do is being stuck at a cul de sac, you should re-evaluate your life. Perhaps, you are stuck because you are not developed enough to change the world without making it worse. Serving in the role of a weakly developed person is not useful to anyone.

Ego Death

I suggest that bernie sanders, donald trump, andrew yang, and barrack obama are all a lot more developed than everyone on this thread is. We are basically useless while those people actually have some effects on the world. Reaching yellow doesn't matter much if one is weakly developed. Elon Musk is better than a lazy Yellow arm-chair philosopher who is weakly developed. One's actual development can be measured by the lowest stage one has a strong foundation on.

When I don't try to be something other than myself, my flaws can be seen more clearly. I'm made more aware as a result.

Yellow or not, I like his policies.

I recommend creating a new thread for that. Oh, I think it would be off-topic for actualized.org forum. You better find an appropriate place for questions.

When I read a comment written in poor english grammar, it's hard for me to take it seriously. It's also painful to read. If your english is not good enough, your english grammar deteriorates quickly when you are tired, deprived of sleep, or triggered. It's painful to read a comment written by someone who is deprived of sleep or excessively tired or excessively distracted or deeply triggered. A deep sleep deprivation kills a native english speaker's writing ability, too. Quick solution // Get some rest. Write when you are in a good shape. How can I take you seriously if you are not in a good shape?

I once pulled beard in my early teenage years. It was not good for my skin. Just shave your beard. You are not going to expose your armpit or your penis in public places, are you? You don't have to shave your armpit or your pubic hair or your legs. I recommend double-edged(DE) safety razor because DE razor blades are cheap and DE razors provide you with close shaves with minimal efforts. Cartridge razors are expensive. Straight razors are difficult to learn.

Both are valid. My gripe was with sentences that are very difficult to read. I'm ok with sentences that are not difficult to understand. At first, I thought fine tune was not a verb. Dictionary says fine-tune is a verb. So, I'd write I think "fine tune" is a little bit weird. "fine-tune" is a better choice. It seems I just fine-tuned your sentence. I'd advise that you focus on punctuation and hyphens in compound words. It's going to improve readability. Another example // I'd rewrite as The absence of comma between "Looking back" and "I" can confuse anyone who is not already good at english. Don't try to boast your english writing skill. It's going to confuse ESL people. Focus on readability.

That's a fine tuning. I was talking about not making it difficult for others to read one's english writing. When people who are not good at english try to write a fancy comment, they mess up. When those people are not in a good shape, they mess up. Just sticking to basic english grammar and not trying to write anything fancy that is beyond one's english level can improve readability a lot. You can see that I am not trying to be clever with my english writing. I use basic words. Clever english writing is the realm of elite english speakers who know more than 35,000 english words and have mastered fine details of english over decades as native english speakers. It's better to write orderly english than to write clever english for most people most of the time.

It's difficult to extract sentiment when it's written very poorly. I have to read again and again. It can be annoying. Readers expect the most bang for a small amount of reading. Good novels succeed partly because they deliver a lot of bang for a small amount of effort. Living creatures like to conserve energy. By the way, english is a second language to me, too. Nobody speaks english in my region. I'm not going to lash out on poor english grammar, but it's usually difficult to take a poorly written comment seriously.

I like writing bigly.

Is enlightenment like being always on LSD? This is Leo Gura on LSD. Does enlightenment provide different experiences from the ones provided by 5-MeO-DMT and LSD? Weirdly, after having a lucid dream and learning some theories, Leo's enlightenment experience sounds logical.

Is enlightenment like realizing the nature of the movie projected onto the screen? When my sleeping dream became lucid, it felt like enlightenment because the screen enlightened.

You cannot explain orgasm in words to someone who hasn't experienced orgasm.

A properly developed Blue person is worth a lot more than a weakly developed Orange, Green, or Yellow person. A weakly developed Orange person is basically a bum. A weakly developed Green person is just a dirty little whiner. A weakly developed Yellow person is a chronically lazy thinker. A Blue super hero like captain america is worth ten of properly developed Yellow people. He takes responsibility instead of demonizing others. He saves others instead of making demands from others. If you think you are Green but keep making demands from others, don't claim that you are better than captain america just because you are at a higher stage in Spiral Dynamics. Building strong foundation is more important than making progress into higher stages as quickly as possible. If you build yourself upon a flimsy foundation, it's going to collapse.

I think captain america is what Blue could have been without dogmas. He has a strong foundation of Blue even if he may not be Blue. He is so blue that his outfit is blue, too. Captain america: the good parts from Blue

What is lent?

I think I'm transcending it. It's a useful model, though. I just presented a better model for personal development. Responsibility. Industriousness. Hero vs Villain. Etc, etc, ...

It is what it is. If you hate it, it becomes more difficult to escape wage slavery. Love wage slavery, and you will find it easier to escape it. Life is a love simulator. When you love, things become easier. Cultivate your life no matter what happens around you.

I used mild profanity on a forum. A forum moderator says this forum is a framily-friendly forum. He says repeated offence will result in permanant ban. He is not aware that displaying the threat of ostracization with very little tolerance is actually more mentally harmful to children and family than mild profanity like shit and damn. Kids who wanted to say shit and damn may be scared by the moderator and his followers. When an improperly developed Blue person tries to be family-friendly, he or she is not family-friendly. This example shows that Blue people who lack proper personal development may quickly resort to demonization. Green is more hesitant about demonization in general. A properly developed Blue person would be captain america. He takes responsibilities instead of demonizing others. If you are not properly developed at any stage, you should develop lower stages first. Don't say you are Yellow or Green when you are weakly developed. I know that you are weakly developed when I see you quickly resort to demonization and anger and anxiety despite the fact that you said you were Green or Yellow.

@Markus This is what a good mix of apathy and empathy looks like. Actually, empathy is forced upon the man who eats burger. He gains full consciousness of what he did by being pressured into eating what he kills. Also, personal development boils down to "You are prefect, but you can do better". Having empathy doesn't mean you don't remind other people of what they can be.