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Hi all. I am thinking of starting some evening discussion groups at my house covering some topics like the ones found here. Other than a talking stick, is there other tips other people have to make sure the event is effective? Kind regards,

So true @dorg!

I thought happiness was just a state.. and you find your treasures in your unhappiness. So expanding the phrase a little if I may: The point of life includes happiness and unhappiness

Thanks for your reply @B_Naz! I will be doing all that you said. However what I am looking for specifically is some inspiration towards finding team based activities centred around being of benefit. If you or anyone else has some great ideas, I'm all ears!

Hi, I have done a lot of studying, but am still stuck finding meaning in life. I do have: a lot of energy to execute, but the feeling of pointlessness is somewhat exhausting and not leading me towards having a fulfilled life. I have been: Rationally searching for my true authentic self through research, journals, action plans etc without success. A friend of mine suggested that a better way of finding meaning / passion etc is to find something to do once a month to do on the weekends that is: Team driven Has a practical purpose towards society / environment etc. This way I will be pulled into something instead of having to push myself all the time. Could you lovely people suggest some great ideas? Kind regards!

I am 100% responsible for letting people take advantage of me. Unfortunately it happens. Maybe if I scale my work/ambition down, I will in turn be freer to be more trusting.

Hey @tsuki, thanks for that. What you are saying there is that aiming for something always scope for satisfaction and suffering. I feel like most of the time I am working heads down on something that benefits someone and the result is often leading myself into a successful place but in tern surrounding myself with with competition and being taken advantage of. That fits you model.

I guess my struggle is with knowing what I want out of it all. I put down definitions like values, but they all look like labels, not meanings. I don't feel consistent enough to assign these label to "me" I look at all the roles in the company and I don't feel inspired anymore. Maybe because it is process now. Letting go is really difficult because I have invested a lot in the company and I have no clue what I might do if I left. Would I regret the jump? Would I just start again? What would be the point? Starting again is dependent on finding the correct people which is hard to do, so it would be a risky jump and at best would be similar to what I have already. Maybe there is an avenue/purpose I haven't thought of yet. Ok, so to summaries the above: Stop thinking so rationally and put more faith in my intuition. Allow the company to be as is and not worry about my place in it. Instead focus on myself and possibly more precisely my perception. Many thanks everyone.

Yes @tsuki you are correct Thanks! I need to re focus what I am doing it for. I didn't understand what you mean by this though:

I'm with you @mia_lea. I'm a hard worker... but have lost the magic passion. I feel like if I had a platform I truly believed in I could quite easily sacrifice myself to that and feel impactful with purpose again. The trouble is that I have invested massively into something I don't truly believe in and my self definition has faded somewhat. Doing the course presented me with unanswerable questions. I'm starting some coaching next week, I hope that leads me somewhere.

I guess I am doing a lot of self actualising right now outside of my software development role. My company is suffering my lack of attention, while simultaneously my current calling is leaping ahead. It would be way more efficient if I just switched, but I know that at some point I feel I will know what to do and take a big leap. It comes down to patience and short feedback loops.

Hi @Okaythen, nice one for pointing this out to me. I managed to summarise my thoughts to the following: Here I am with a large shareholding of a just about to become successful company I hold little passion for, competing against people who are possibly better than me to do the job I don't know I want. I guess I need to work at what I want. It is hard when my personal definition seems to be fading. With regards to your point on success. I have always been a hard worker for the purpose of being useful. The concept of success wasn't really a focus. Now I find myself being stripped out of the position to be useful. Sitting on the edge holding my shares would only be good if I could find peace with letting go of the ship I have slaved for. I like the idea of being "completely and utterly aware". How do I do that? Ok so control my perspective, not the company.... Thanks!

Hi Nahm, thanks for your positivity! Right at the moment my deflated feeling and general build up of limiting beliefs prevents me from seeing the idea of starting a new company. Not sure how to be joyful without the impact though or how to feel satisfied with not being "the man that can". Got any pointers? Kind regards

When running into self-enquiry they looked like labels that could quite easily be socially constructed nice-to-believes. 1. Purpose 2. Wisdom 3. Excellence 4. Optimism/Positivity/Hope 5. Significance 6. Service/Helping Others 7. Personal Growth/Self-Actualization/Self-Help/Personal Development/Self-Improvement 8. Honesty 9. Friendship 10. Adventure

Hi all. I'm looking for pointers to help me handle the fact that my business is growing beyond my control and the feelings of becoming less suitable for my role and less impactful. I currently believe I am most productive when I have less resources and need to fight for survival, but now my life is run by team processes and little variation. I could let go of my company, but the carrot of success makes the stakes high. It feels like my other option is to handle my emotional response and find happiness in it. However, I'm not happy when I'm not being impactful. Thanks for listening,