Rustymachine

I have read "not nice" by Aziz Gazipura, and he talk about healty guild and unhealty guilt. healty gult is guild where you indeed do something bad and you might want to do proper action, for eksample say sorry to that person and really mean it. Unhealty guild can accour if you simply think you did something bad but actually its all in your head, because you self image is programmed to always be nice. Remember you are a human like everybody else, and we do mistakes. This kind of guilt goes away when you label is at such, as an illusjion of your programming of your past, maybe a parent told you to be nice countless times, and it simly wont disapper of itself . Dont forget to bereath, you know when its unhealty guild when the egos judges yourself and you hear the voice with no end, or when you feel it in your heart that you need to right a wrong you did. Good luck!

THanks for the answers. I have am currently reading a book that goes under the skinn on the different sides of Ego. its "a new earth" and it said something interesting about being myself. Acutally trying to be myself is a role the ego creaty to attach to an identity. Its an idea and it actually hinders me of just "being". I have been aware of this lately and i have found that not trying to be something else and myself have grounded my behaviour. Eventough its really hard sometimes when i feel a urge to play a certain role to fit inn, and do what "seem" right to get others approval or not cross them in any way. This is when i try to observe my feelings and thoughts and Ego, witch its trying to make me take a social accapteble role and stop me of just "being" at all cost, witch if it succeeds, will undground me from my core. Mvh Rustymachines.

I will check out, feel like i have read deep diving books Thanks for the answers. I will ´check the book out, but i feel like i have read alot of books dipping deep around my problem, just that i have not found the solution. I looks like it its a combination of more deep limiting beliefs and habits and i will keep looking. Also my meditation helps me regulate emotions, and i have become more okay with being alone. Also i feel like my attachments towards distractions like telephone and TV is pretyy much gone too. I am currently become a snowboarder and love poker, so thoes are some of the communities i take part in. The gifts of imperfetcions have also tougt me to forgive my imperfections. So cool to find others Norwegians on this kind of sites. I am pretty much alone on this kind of topics in my big city. Also, Thanks for the additional advice Jhonny Bravo(diggig the cartoon btw). Regards RustyMachine

Hello, I am 22 year old guy from Norway I have been interested in personal development for a few years now and am currently been meditating pretty much every day for 2 years and I am on 50 minutes now. I have also read a few books and listen to a few more on audible. Some of them are Conquest of the mind, Psycho-Cybernetics, Big leap and a few more, whereas I have absorbed most of the content with repetition and writing good notes. After Psycho-cybernetics I have started visualizing my goals, with the focus on becoming a straight-A student. Witch has been going pretty well, so i am not visualizing fixing my problem yet. Maybe that's thats the next step in solving my current challange. that i am not sure of yet. I understand that self-realizing will eventually get rid of tease neurotic behaviors, but my lack of groundedness is damanging my social life with friends and girls. The thing is that i want to be myself and grounded. I want to be more assertive and have more grounded opinions when discussing with outhers. Also i want to break free from wanting to be liked and deatach from the need of apporoval, or feel superior againts others(That is probably the cause of not feeling completly adiquate with my surroundings). I also have a little bit of communication complex whereas i feel a big wave of fear before speaking my mind to a group of people, or a singe person. I think this origins from my need for approval or that i need to feel adequate with the social circumstances. that i need to prove that i am able to speak freely and without being clumsy (right now, when this happends, i may say unfinished sentences and words very silent that appears to be received clumsy by the receiver, and this vorsen my fear and i get alot more awkward). This also gets my voice in my head going. I think this stems from my opinion and views on topics shut down by unhealthy friends from not so distant past. Any helpful viewpoints or opninons will help. I would also appreciate any suggestions on books/audibooks to maybe help me on the road to solve these problems. i have already red Not nice of Aziz angenpura. about boing more assertive, healty selfishness, speaking up, asking for what i want, to not be a peoplepleaser etc, and it have helped a lot. But i still have this communication problem. Sorry for my english and the long post. Regards Rustymachine

Hey, A fun little post here: What meditation position do you prefer? Witch do you feel like is the most effective one? Thanks for all the answers.

Thanks for the answers guys, again Looks like i need to dig a little around in the past. I get the impression that a little digging around is very crucial to unwire a limiting belief. i've red the tips above, and really appreciate them, but just keep the tips flowing More wisdom cant hurt.

Does it exist some kind of exercise to find the root couse of a limiting belief?

Truly Appreciate the answers guys! What did you mean by: " There's no real process busting a belief, but basically you want to question and undermine your belief until you really feel like you've busted it, try to dig into your past here, recall a situation, try to look at it from a different perspective, this really helps". Ty

Hey So i've been doing "i am totally independent of the good or bad opinion of others" affirmation half a year now. I used to do this 5 minutes and almost never skipped a single day. i feel like it have worked in some degree,but should i start with a new sentence,or keep doing the first one? i surely want to improve my confident level with a new affirmation. any thoughts?