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@Artimus I agree with @RichardY You need to get away from this.. you aren't insane. You had strong feelings for each other and now the only one with those feelings is you. Your ex is hurt and angry for the wrong reasons. You can't help him. I think you should go to your aunts and just try not to even think about any of this. You can't control what is going to happen so just remove yourself and try to focus on yourself.

@who chit speaking of Hawking's ( I know you said Hawkins lol just love this quote )

Thank you guys. Honestly I've been feeling weird about this. I was thinking some of what you all said and that's why I had to ask I think I got myself addicted to the notion. It made me feel good in the moment. But lately, with everything going on, I've started doubting it..

OMG! YES lol

@Ether what? lol

Wow! What a scary scenario to think about. But I totally understand what you are saying Thank you!

I don't think it's weird Personally, I don't think it would be strange to go alone. I have been caught up in worrying about what others think, but in the end, they weren't thinking about me in the first place. There might be enough people there for you to not even be noticed. Also, I've never been to one, but I can't help but feel that a comedy show will be a nice relaxed environment and you may even be able to just make some quick friends with your neighbors Don't let what you think they will think of you stop you from having fun

Dam. Kinda mad at myself for posting the "its a trap meme" before thinking of this one lol

Oooooh I thought you were just making a joke lol We (no "i") get it now

lol

So inspiring

@Faceless Are you saying that its not about figuring out the root problem and working hard to solve it; it's about just understanding why things are the way they are and accepting that that's how things go? It doesn't matter how much you work for it, if you don't accept and understand, you can't find peace. You will just spend your life trying to fix one problem after another. Something like that?

@Quanty

I found another suspicious text in my husband's phone... So I guess he's still been using Meth behind my back... He said he would quit when I got into my car accident... He was so passionate about it... I fell for it... I don't know what to do... I'm still in a lot of pain.. I have been trying my best to just push through and try to still work on being intimate with my husband but he just kept turning me down... even this past Sunday on our 1 year anniversary... Kept saying he was too tired... I try not to make my pain an issue for him.. but he acts so weird when I mention having to go to my physical therapy... I don't know how to describe it... I feel so fucking pathetic... I have so much I'm trying to keep together... But I feel like I'm barely holding on... I don't know what else I can do... What am I doing wrong.. I just don't know anymore... I'm sorry... I just needed to vent... I feel like the harder I work the deeper I sink... I can't help but feel like such a fucking failure...

I don't know... I'm not totally dependent on it... I take care of everything that needs to be done... it's just been hard to keep up with it lately after my car accident... I'm in physical pain constantly... and I have to go to constant appointments now for therapy and shit... I know it's not his problem... but it's hard to keep up with all of that plus my daughter and all of his problems... I don't know...

Thank you guys.. I spoke to him about all of this.. he said he wasn't able to actually get any and he apologized.. I honestly don't know if I believe him... But I told him he needs to talk to me.. I am going to try and be there for him, as much as I can. I know I have to keep reminding myself that it's not about me. But I also told him that he needs to realize that I am limited right now.. I'm trying so dam hard to keep everything together right now. I told him I need help, and I wouldn't ask for it unless I really needed it.. I'm trying not to be selfish and only consider my feelings in this.. But it's so hard when it feels like he is so wrapped up in his problems, that mine just don't exist...

I personally think not knowing is so much more fun. When I finally came out and realized that I knew NOTHING about the world other than my small encounters with it, I became a little more relaxed about things in my life. It's still tough, but it's all part of the big adventure @Faceless I think routine is maybe one that comes to my mind. As you get older and have kids, a job, and whatever else piles on to your plate, you can easily get stuck in a routine and, sometimes, it feels almost impossible to deviate from it.

I have been with him 10 years... He says he uses it responsibly but I'm almost certain he was on it the last time he hit me... I don't have understand what I'm doing wrong... I've tried to be loving and intimate... But I can only do so much before my back starts to kill me... I've been trying to to make it his problem... But I still can't pick up my daughter for too long and I can't clean to much without being in agonyofter... I feel like I am just making things worse by not being able to do too many things... I know that I need to care for him... But I just don't feel okay right now....

@Barbarian Number 8 yeah, I agree. My cousin got married a few years ago and was/is constantly talking about how she is gonna divorce him in 5-10 years when she's bored with him. They have a kid and are looking to throw an anniversary party, but I can't help but think the whole thing is just a sham to show off to the family. I intend to be married "till death do we part". Whether it stays that way or not is in God's hands. But I fear that my cousin's mentality on marriage is more the norm now. It's really just sad.

If they judge you negatively right off the back, skrew them! If they don't know how to be loving towards others with no judgement, they aren't worth your time or suffering. Think of it as you "dogging a bullet" maybe?

Man that's depressing my wedding was stressful but I felt it was worth the craziness in the end although, I was one of those girls that grew up planning her wedding since young lol

@Barbarian Number 8 lmao okay maybe not everything lol

@John Iverson yeah lol I'm excited to not know where I'm headed can't wait to see where life takes me.

Man. Leo has a video for everything lol that's pretty incredible.

I think you cut them out if/when their negativity is hindering you in some way. Like if you are being directly brought down or if you are spending too much time trying to help and they are seemingly making no attempts to try and be better. It's not your job to fix them, but it's also not your job to be their free therapist that they can dump their issues on for free and then do nothing to actually resolve anything in their lives.