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Hey guys... So just when I think things are going good and I am feeling happy and energized with life, reality comes and just knocks me down again.... I got into a pretty bad car accident a few weeks ago.. I was feeling pretty confident and good about my current position, because I know my light was yellow when I entered the intersection, and I have witnesses to say the same.. She had a witness as well, but we were working on discrediting him because he was being very weird at the accident site (kept going to the other lady's car to pull stuff out, you don't just let a stranger go to your car alone and go through it) I work for a great Law Firm and presented my case to them right away and have been just feeling grateful on how things turned out. It could have been way worse and I was thankful my daughter wasn't in the car with me. So we have been waiting for her Insurance company to take responsibility for the crash to just end things quickly and move on with life. They finally called today and said that they won't pay because of her witness statement saying I "ran a red light".... So this means that we will now have to go to court to fight this decision and they told me this process could take a long time.... In the meantime, I am stuck without a car... Bumming rides from mine and my husbands parents and it has just been stressful on them... And now my job is also starting to stress because I have been late a few times because of all of this... I try my best to stay positive and reassured... but hearing those words, "they denied it", just plummeted my spirit way down.... My lawyer seems to be confident... so why am I stressing it? I thought I was doing so well... but now this... I feel like I just want to melt away from all of this shit... it feels like too much... and then knowing that I shouldn't feel this way just makes me feel worse... I don't know what to do right now... I just want to cry.... it just doesn't seem fair.... I don't want to feel this way... but I can't control it....

Very true, but that doesn't mean you have to let it effect you Suffering is part of the human condition, but it's not part of enlightenment. At least the way I understand it right now. I think you become grateful when you are able to look past your suffering and see the "bigger picture" of life. Just think, of all of the places you could have been born and all of the people you could have gotten as parents, you ended up right where you are surrounded by the people there. The universe is infinite so your very existence can be a blessing You could have been born with no arms or legs AND deaf, dumb, and blind, but you didn't. That's something to be grateful for and you can find a million reasons to be happy in that. But I'm a pretty ideological person lol I will admit I don't know much, but you can't be happy if you focus on the suffering. (That one's kind of a no brainier lol)

Hmmm. This topic makes me really think lol I've always been told that you need to stay informed with what is going on. It can be very depressing but I think it's kind of important, right? We can watch it but not let it effect us negatively, just learn from it. "Those who do not learn from History are doomed to repeat it" is what comes to my mind.

@Key Elements Wow :') That is really beautiful. Thank you so much!

I agree. I'm sure there are plenty of programs around you that will allow you to work with the homeless without a degree. You could spend time involved in those and live for yourself a little. I went into college because I was under the impression that it was the ONLY next step after high school. Now I have a degree in something I'm not really all that passionate about and a huge amount of debt. You should travel if you are able this is the only time in your life where you can do almost anything without any hold-ups or too many consequences. Take advantage

Lmao that's the route my husband usually took back in highschool and even now. He thinks himself a very antisocial and awkward person, but when he doesn't care he is a social butterfly lol

I agree. I am a 24 year old mother with a full time 8am-5pm, mon-fri job AND I am deeply involved in my Church on Sundays, Wednesdays and any other days they ask me in. PLUS I'm dealing with a ridiculous court case over a car accident I was in a few weeks ago. Yet I still have time to meditate. It may not be an all day, everyday thing, but 30 mins here and there has got to be better than nothing Just look at your schedule and make time Just remember: Einstein had the same number of hours in the day as you did

LMAO

LMAO yeah we totally went in a different direction As far as this, I think it's just the human superficial nature sometimes My husband was broke when I met him lol so I can't say that I fall under this category, but I do think it's a real thing

@CuteCornDog yeah, I'm sorry Sometimes my mood swings can be a little too intense to handle... @Quanty My husband was saying some stuff like that He pointed out to me how his coworker that is trying to sell their car is going through a very similar situation as us, but they are in a more "worse case scenario". (I am sorry to hear about your brother, I hope your family is okay) "Things are hard but thy could be harder" that's what I'm trying to keep telling myself. No matter what happens, I have to be willing to accept the outcome and just keep living Of course, that's easier said than done lol

lol those were my thoughts That's what I'm saying lol. I don't think EVERY woman in the world is treated this way, but you can't say that it doesn't happen. That's just being intentionally blind to what is already a very well known problem.

@Nahm @Joseph Maynor Thank you. I was able to snap out of it some thanks to my dad PROOF GOD HAS A SICK SENSE OF HUMOR: My dad drove me to work this morning and told me about how he had to do some electrical work on some ladies house. The whole time he is there, he can't shake the feeling that he has seen this woman before. So he talks to her a bit and gets to ask her "so how have you been doing, ma'am?" The woman replies "not too great actually. I got into a car accident a few weeks ago and I'm still sore from it all." That being said, my dad immediately recognized this woman as the woman that I got into the car accident with. He said he got so uncomfortable and just finished his word and got out of there. What a small world we live in. I have no clue why, but hearing this made me just break out into laughter and I feel like I'm seeing a little clearer now My lawyer told me this was a possibility, so I wasn't necessarily shocked by the news. I let the stress of uncontrollable factors get to me. I have a great lawyer, thanks to my amazing job. Although it has been stressful, mine and my husbands parents have been incredibly supportive and have helped us every step of the way. My husband also got news from one of his coworkers that they are willing to work with us on payments for a car they need to get rid of to pay some bills. God is good! and I allowed myself to forget that He is always looking out for me I'm sorry for the bipolar posts

@Rilles @Nahm @CuteCornDog @InfinitePotential Thank you guys.. I'm feeling a little better today... I'm still really worried and stressed... But I will keep trying to see the bigger picture..

@Nahm me too...

People fear what they don't understand!

@The Don no problem I think we are all a little awkward when it comes to being our true selves around others. We care a little too much what the other person will think. But the truth is, they are probably only thinking the same things as you. 'I hope they like me' or 'what if I'm not cool enough' stuff like that. We are scared to be different or out of the "status quo". But the truth is, we are all the same

@Arman best show ever

I usually started by getting the other person to talk about themselves. People love to do that. Through them doing that, I discover things that I can relate to or experiences we have shared. That opens the door for continued conversation. Hope that helps!

@Arkandeus thank you..

@Nahm I won't owe the loan company, that's right. I had GAP Insurance for the car, thank God... but I don't have the money for a new car... We went through our savings because even though I'm not at fault, I had to pay a lot of stuff out of pocket until I'm reimbursed... (car rental, prescription medication, and other fees here and there).... my savings went from 2,500 to now just barely 200....

@Nahm I did have coverage... but I think my Insurance adjuster said that it will go to my loan company because I still owed on the car... The Paralegal I spoke to said the way things look right now, I'm not getting any money... We have to wait to file for the case and some other bullshit... I can't cry right now because I'm actually still at work.... and my position is right up front.... @InfinitePotential thank you... I'll pray for you too..

@blazed I know lol just being silly

@blazed @Robert @Tetcher Cant.... Look.... Away!!! lol You guys are funny <3 <3 <3

@Ether like I said, I don't know much about him I know I would negotiate for my daughter. But like you said: so who knows what he would do lol

https://www.aauw.org/research/the-simple-truth-about-the-gender-pay-gap/ http://www.businessinsider.com/gender-wage-pay-gap-charts-2017-3#cities-show-an-even-bigger-discrepancy-especially-for-people-of-color-2 https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2017/11/pay-equality-men-women-gender-gap-report-2017/ https://www.payscale.com/gender-lifetime-earnings-gap http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2018/04/09/gender-pay-gap-facts/ http://time.com/money/5176517/gender-pay-gap-college-degrees/ https://www.economist.com/international/2017/10/07/the-gender-pay-gap http://www.bbc.com/news/business-43129339 @wavydude @Spiral But I'm just bullshitting so I guess all of these reports are too.