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This could be the issue here lol You don't truly know someone till you live with them. You are discovering things about him that were usually kept behind closed doors, and the same for him in you. How long have you been living together exactly? You may just need time to adjust to each others living habits. Also, I think it is totally natural for you to worry No one wants to feel like they have wasted their own or someone else's time, especially in long-term relationships. I think the most important thing for you and your boyfriend to do right now is just be totally open and honest with each other about your concerns and don't discredit each other, even if the concerns seem completely out of left field. You both are still learning how to be together and how to love each other. It's a never ending lesson because we all change and evolve over time, so we need to allow our love to do the same Try to take some pressure off of yourself and enjoy your journey of rediscovering each other

Yeah I'll admit, I'm sure I am still very much driven by my ego, but it's all a process. It won't happen over night. I think the first and most important step (for me anyways) was admitting that I don't know SQUAT about the world, God, or myself, outside of what I was being convinced to believe about them. Once I accepted that, I feel like it allowed me to start over with a clean slate. I truly believe you can't make any sort of progress until you are willing to believe and accept that

I'd like to believe I would be at least content with my search for the Truth. Proud that I didn't waste my life on just the day to day routine with no thirst for exploration, if that makes sense There are plenty people out there that have no drive to search for anything. They're born, the work, they die. I don't want that to be my life story. I do believe God gave us so many clues and peeks into His amazing plan and to not seek them out is just a waste. If I get to the end to discover that there is nothing and we just die and that's it, I'll be okay with how I chose to live But it can be fun that way. I don't know anything either lol I'm only 24 and I am still learning how discover myself and the world. But me not knowing feels exciting, the world is open to anything when you don't know. Once you "know" the search is over and there's no more fun

AMEN!

The constant internal battle! lol I personally don't think there is a way for us to TRULY and ABSOLUTELY know until we die. We all have beliefs that we follow, and because we all have different experiences in life, we put our own spin on them, whether knowingly or not. God isn't going to come down, look you in the face and tell you what the "truth" is. We have to try and discover it on our own. I think this is where the meditation and Self actualizing comes in and this is where we choose to have Faith in what we are learning, or not. It's scary to just blindly follow any one belief, but we have to believe in something even if what we believe is there is nothing.

Have you seen Life of Pi? I swear it sounds silly, but this movie is really what got me into thinking that it's okay to take practices from other beliefs and to use them to strengthen your own, without sacrificing your beliefs in any way Such a beautiful thing to learn, in my opinion

Strengths: Open-minded, eager learner Top Values: My Faith, Family, Love, Honesty, and Tolerance/Acceptance In 10 Years: I'd like to become more confident in my abilities and knowledge. I hope to post videos of me singing and maybe get somewhere with it in 10 years lol Activities of Expression: My main one would be singing. But I also draw and love to create things off of Pinterest lol

I agree, but some of us are not as far along this journey as others. I don't think putting them down for their current beliefs is helping anything. We are all here to figure it out. If some of us don't get it yet, we shouldn't be discouraged by people coming out and saying "fuck your beliefs". To someone that is still learning, you could shut the door on their journey by not giving real advice but by basically saying "shut up, you're stupid". Just be careful on how you say things. They do have an effect on people. Yeah, that sure does happen a lot lol just stay open to anything As long as it's not a direct defiance against God, I think using meditation and other practices to discover yourself and your purpose in Him can be very helpful Please don't be so quick to generalize all Christians like this. Not ALL Christians are misinterpreting His messages. No, Jesus was not a Christian, He was a Jew, all Christians know that and I've never met one who said otherwise. His message was plain and simple, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. And Love your neighbor as yourself" There's nothing to misinterpret there. Phew, sorry for the long post lol had to catch up

@Salvijus i really don't think that's necessary people have all kinds of beliefs. Even self actualization is a belief. You can be tolerant of them all and not try to shut someone out by being rude...

@egoless From one Christian to another, hello I was raised in Church since I was 3 years old. I hold very strong to the believe that Jesus is the Son of God and the Way, the Truth, and the Life. But I don't think there is anything wrong with using practices from other belief systems to strengthen ours. I feel silly for saying this, but Life of Pi is kind of what made me think of this (great movie, you should watch, if you haven't) Of all of the religions in the world though, Christianity is not the one best known for the followers being extremely dedicated and devoted to their beliefs. We are seen pretty closed minded and unwilling to evolve from what we are told, but that isn't true in all cases. If other religions/beliefs have a way of connecting to their god/self or whatever they are looking for, I don't think incorporating their practices to seek our God is wrong

@Star Net its no biggy I'm a better person for it all now lol

I've been feeling better each day just taking it all in day by day (or at least trying to)

I agree nothing like a tangible board that will require constant attendance and updating, depending on how life changes for you. No better way to truly personalize it either

http://www.thriveloungedc.com/blog/2017/4/19/4-things-to-do-before-you-make-a-vision-board Just some helpful stuff to keep in mind before you start https://www.makeavisionboard.com/vision-board-apps/?cn-reloaded=1 And then I found this. Hope it helps!

@Santiago Coming from a girl who used to be just like that, go with your friends. She isn't your wife, she isn't your baby-mamma or anything like that so she has no authority to tell you what you can and cannot do on your own time. You told her how you were from the beginning. She has a problem with that? then she can find a guy that wants to waste his life away on the couch everyday with her. You aren't doing her or yourself any favors by encouraging this behavior. She will have to grow up some day, and you can either help her do that by not being her "yes man", or wait till reality is ready to smack her right in the face (this is what happened with me, not fun).

@beatlemantis How "young" are you? Relationships can be really scary. Especially when we allow our mind to run crazy with insecurities and doubt. There is a possibility that "this is all in your mind", but there could be something wrong. You are truly the only one who will be able to discover the answer, because you know every detail there is to know about the relationship. From what I am reading, it sounds to me like you two do care each other, but maybe you are scared of how serious things have been getting. Maybe you need to explain to your boyfriend that the "you" you talk about when you ask him "are you annoyed/falling out of love with me?" Is genuinely a different person from when you first met, and you are worried that the new you may not be what he wants. It's a scary thing to try and deal with, I know, but we have to put ourselves out there to find out what our path is and if we are following it, or just standing still for fear of the outcome. I hope you are able to discover the answer! We are here for you until then

@Nathan Have you traveled any? I personally haven't had the chance to do it just yet, but I think in order to really "live life to the fullest" and to really "appreciate" every aspect of it, you need to expose yourself to new things. The world is such a big place. No one has seen every inch of it. It's not a fix all solution, but I truly think the exposure to new things, people and cultures can really allow someone to appreciate life more especially if you do some sort of Mission work or International Relief (Peace Corps), where you are exposed, daily, to a lifestyle of suffering and poverty. But even with that going on, these people are still able to smile and praise God. for what they do have, despite all the basic things they are without. A lot to learn and discover about yourself by looking through their eyes

Just take things moment by moment and breath it all in. You are not alone in feeling this way! Life is hard and unfair sometimes, we can't control what others chose to do, even if they chose to hurt us. But we can chose to let it effect us. Every second of our day is a choice. We can choose to let every thing get to us, and shut ourselves down from the world and just let ourselves go deeper and deeper into the hole we've dug for ourselves, OR we can choose to just take it day-by-day, moment-by-moment. Choose to be whatever it is you want, and in those moments that you fail, take it in, learn from it, and let it go. That moment only continues to exist and effect your life if you choose to let it. It won't be easy, but nothing worth fighting for is. You can do this!

@Sparkist anytime

@aurum lol no arguments here lol

@pluto wow That was absolutely beautiful.. made me cry like a baby ? So perfect for me right now. Thank you so much, seriously, from the bottom of my heart ???

@DharmaKris Welcome I hope you are able to really connect with us here. There are some amazing people on here and, if you stick with it, you will learn so much Have fun with it!

I take it a possible threesome is what you seek? lol

lol I'd love another one but I think I need to make sure things are a little more stable at home first I want a boy next lol Oh yeah, A moment I was able to be really proud of you guys: So my husband texted earlier today out of the blue, "Hey, are you and Evey ok?" You have to understand that normally, I am a pretty defensive person, especially when it comes to my husband asking me stupid questions like this. My normal response would have been "What do you care?" or something equally as shitty with maybe a few more curse words lol But I took a deep breath and told myself 'if you want things to get better, fighting won't help' and only replied a simple "yes, we are here whenever you want to come home." I swear that took everything in me to not be a bitch about it! But he replied "maybe I'll stop by for dinner" I'm trying to not get my hopes up over it, but I was pretty proud of how I chose to handle it this time. One step at a time, right guys? lol

when they sleep lol JK JK They are pretty awesome sometimes My daughter was with me for a little yesterday and she kept asking me if I was okay, she is so thoughtful lol but after the 10th "yes, I'm fine" it can get a little old