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@Mitch First and foremost if you have to question if you love others, most likely you don't. Love isn't a word people should throw around easily and to anyone; however everyones perception of love can be different and who is to who is right or wrong. It is simply how you see love and weather you are comfortable with the word and the meaning behind it. There are different types of love, love between parents and children is unconditional (think of it this way, if your parents died tomorrow would you regret not telling them you love them). The love between intimate partners is different to the love you have for your friends. I believe when someone elses happiness means more to you than your own then its love. That is not to say you forget about what your wants and needs are and constantly please other people - not at all. It is simply being okay with putting other people first and helping them grow. Love in intimate relationships isn't shared with everyone because it usually two people in a relationship. The love between friends can be unconditional depending if you pick your friends wisely and how you would define the term friend. Some people have people they know for the sake of not being lonley - this is not a friend, others like me have friends who help me grow, want the best for me, make me laugh, we always just have the best fun together and I know that there is nothing I wouldn't do for them because they would do the same for me and I love them because of this. Love shouldn't ever be a question - but your perceptions on love is your reality. If you feel nothing towards the word then maybe you just havent experienced love as you perceive it, but that doesn't mean you won't ever. You may end up telling your girlfriend you love her and mean it because you know with all your heart, you can't picture your life without her.

@Phoe99 Of course you feel something. Being bored can be a feeling. Ask yourself: why don't you enjoy life? why don't you want to achieve anything? Why aren't you allowing yourself to feel anything? Sure these things are the way life goes ( having a career, getting married, buying a house) but to have all these things is hard work and an achievement. Not many people have what it takes to achieve happiness and success because they simply don't care too much about life or anything and they lack self-love. You don't need to be depressed in order to be bored, you just need something worth living for, something that gives you life meaning and purpose and then you will start to feel again. Life is so short despite hours and days going by of you being bored and before you know it, you can die at any time. Wouldn't you want to achieve something? stand for something? made the most of your time while your here? made a difference to someone elses life? make people and yourself proud? don't you want to own that nice car, nice house and be set for life? Too many people want things and they are not willing to put in the work and then they wonder, why they are bored and life seems shit and meaningless. If you want to start feeling something - you got to really want it. Not like 'oh it would nice I guess to have it'. You have to really want to feel something and go out there and make it happen. Every day turns out the way it does because you make it that way, your decisions, your mindset, your values and beliefs, your outlook on life.... You need to really address what needs to change in order for things to change for you.

@Alex4 As long as your not procrastinating too much and taking action on the things you ponder about for too long then you will see amazing results for you life. Remember EXECUTION is they key to any success.

@Mitch Hi Mitch, I am a life coach in Sydney Australia, also NLP & Matrix therapy practitioner with a degree in counselling and Psychology and I can honestly say becoming a life coach has changed my life and it is awesome. I wrote a blog post on why I became a life coach but will be posting a video on my you tube channel tomorrow night about becoming a life coach, what I do and how I decided this was for me http://www.miarivel.com/what-is-life-coaching-and-why-did-i-choose-it/ Leo is right, you definitely need a business mindset in order to have a successful coaching business, most people want to become coaches and expect a lot of people to find them and all of a sudden their rich. It actually takes a lot of hard work and dedication and a lot of time. So if you are up for that then give it a go. I studied Advanced Diploma of life coaching through The Life Coaching College here in Sydney, Australia and I am pretty sure they take international students as well (this may mean you have to pay more though for the qualification). Even if you wanted to do a life coaching course for you own personal development and not to start a business, it is well worth the money. For me it was life changing and my life became so much better in ways I can't even begin to describe.

@Christian God is whoever or whatever you want it to be. Who is to say my ideas are of God are right and your is wrong vice versa? Everyone has their own interpretation and whatever we all choose to believe is right in our own individual eyes.

@DimmedBulb I must say 9 hours of sleep seems like a luxury to me. I have 4-5 hours of sleep and I am usually feeling okay, refreshed and energised every morning. Apart from all the million things I want to achieve in life that keeps me working hard to all hours of the night and early mornings, health and fitness is a HUGE factor into how you are feeling and your moods. I know you have probably heard it a lot but waking up each morning with a glass of cold lemon water, followed by quick exercises, even if its just a jog around the block, eating right through the day and cutting out sugar is what my secret it to doing a lot more with my time and being okay with 4-5 hours sleep. I've been fitting exercising into my schedule which is so important for energy levels too and if you are consistent with this, you will notice a huge change the way you feel and will sleep less and get more done with your time.

@Marks199 Forget the past, its in the past. If you are really wanting to work on your confidence, I suggest to get clear with your goals and track your progress. Have a focus on something you love to do and this will build up your confidence and when you are confident you tend to forget about the silly little things that have happened in the past. Focus on what is ahead of you not what you left behind.

@electroBeam Meditation helps. So does relaxing and turning off all electronic devises and just being wherever you are in the moment. Massages help too. Also, when I am on holiday sometimes I get so busy trying to do a lot of activities, it is important you take some time for just doing nothing but relaxing (weather on a beach with a book) make sure you make time just for yourself. Make sure you are always eating the right foods and drinking plenty of water because this will help with your energy levels and moods.

@Kvath The meaning of life is however you interpret it. Everyone has different interpretations and who it to say who is right or wrong? The definition of happiness varies between people as well. For one person alcohol is their happiness and because they love it so much, to them it is the meaning of why life is so great. For me, happiness is important and what brings meaning to my life; and my happiness is the people in my life who make all the difference in the world and that make life worth living and loving.

@Ryan_047 How important are these habits you wish you have? If they are important to you, you will find a way to make them happen. If they aren't so important then you tend to drift off from some habits. You need to change your state and the way you internally represent things. I would start listening to motivational podcasts or clips every single morning so you start your day off right and get you in the mood to smash these habits and keep to your goals. Every day! Instead of thinking of these habits as a chore, start to think of the benefits and constantly remind yourself why you are doing this.

@Varun M K Throughout our life we will usually change what we are passionate about and what we love to do several times. I am 30 and a life coach and I haven't always known that this is what I wanted to do. I started off doing fashion design and graphic design in school and I loved this more than anything. Than I didn't like the fashion industry too much and decided I wanted to do something more challenging that will earn me a great stead income so I decided to study Law and become a lawyer. I did this for a few years and realized I wanted more, I wasn't connected with what I was doing. So I decided to do some volunteer work mentoring youth in foster care and from there I was put in councelling training to help people who had depression and were suicidal. This changed me and how I looked at life and my own life and I knew from then forward I wanted to help as many people as I can. So I did psychology at university and I finished a life coaching diploma and now I really feel like for the first time in my life, there is nothing I want more than to help others and hopefully make a difference to someone else's life. So as you see our passions and purposes change throughout different stages of our life and sometimes we have to go through these changes to grow and really figure out who we are and what we really want to do.

@Callum Milner If university is really what you want to do then this is the risk we all take. I have had my life coaching business for a while and I am still not at the place I want to be financially in my business. However, I am still studying at university and working a full time 8-5 job to be able to support myself. I am doing what I need to do to be where I want to be for my future. Don't let having a closed mindset get you in your own way of what is important to you. As a lot of successful people will tell you, if this is what you really want then you will find a way to make it all happen and it all starts with planning, goal setting and execution. Start in small steps. You can research other ways you can make money while at university e.g. get a part time job, look in the local paper for small jobs like mowing the lawn for people or cleaning, there are people out there looking for other people to test their products and their willing to pay you for it. Budget incoming finances so you have enough to live and x amount to pay off debts etc. There are plenty of ways to make money to pay off for your course, however you will need to put in the time and effort and work the debt off. This doesn't all happen in one hit (unless you win the lottery) wouldn't we all love that.

@Frogfucius I have a friend who loves hard mattresses. He goes for this option rather than the floor because he likes to be elevated off the ground. Some people prefer comfort over what is really good for them and their body.

@Frogfucius As someone mentioned before it is a tool. For me social media is a business tool and it works for me. If I didn't have my own business, I probably wouldn't be bothered with it, as I see it as a waste of time. All well and good to see what everyone else is up to every now and then and its a great way to stay in touch with others from overseas (if you have friends or family overseas). Another reason I would use it is because I like photography so seeing beautiful pictures is inspiring to me. I think many people do not know how to spend their time, they have no structure or goals with what they want out of life, hence why they go on social media to kill time and see what everyone else is doing. You will notice how most people like to project their life and usually, it is not all what you see on social media. People like to project an image of themselves and their life - that makes them feel good. Each to their own I guess. It all depends if it serves a purpose for you or not and there is no need to feel like the odd one out if you do not use social media. Just because everyone is doing it and everyone says your weird for not being on it, you can tell them you have other important things to do then waste time on social media.

@gian HI Gian, I can't tell you how many times I have felt like this throughout my life and it took me a very long time to figure out exactly what it is I want to do for the rest of my life. One of my key successes was hiring a life coach and now I myself am a life coach and I love what I do. Another key success is having clear goals, having eveything written down and having a deadline for when I wanted to achieve certain things. This gives me purpose and also following a daily routine. Sometimes we feel stuck because we have so much we want to achieve but we don't know where to start and instead of starting somewhere we tend to procrastinate and start no where. Then we are stuck wondering why we never get anywhere. I would pick out the goal that really stands out to you, number them from importance or which you want to do first and then make a plan and start executing. Hope this helps a little.

@Orange The truth is how you interpret it at the time. Sort of like what you fall in in love and that person cheats on you. At the time you believe its love then when its over you think it was never love it was all a lie etc. Whatever you believe at the time that things are happening is your truth. If you see no truth in anything then you have no hope and life just seems a waste. Why would you want to waste away this precious gift. We all need something to believe in. So when a little child believe in the Santa or the tooth fairy, that is their truth because children do not know any better or yet able to understand and comprehend what is true and what isn't. We as adults don't judge and think little children are stupid because that is what they want to believe. Same with adults, I could believe my partner is loyal to me and he loves me and that is my truth, where as a friend can be like ' her partner doesn't love her because he treats her bad and she is too stupid to realise how much of a liar he is', that is her truth, her reality. Just because people have different opinions, doesn't make their or our opinion any more truthful. Life is what you make it and you are the only one who interprets it. So if you believe there is no truth, well that is your truth .. that there simply is no truth.

@Muhammad AT the end of the day you have to do what is best for you. However, whenever I start something I've made a vow to myself to always finish something I start. I started a Law degree 5 years ago and I have one more year to go. Since 5 years ago I have decided to take a different route for my life (which doesn't involve becoming a lawyer any more). I have thought about quitting but I have one year to go so I have decided to have my law degree as a back up in case everything else falls apart. We never do what is in store for us up ahead and nothing in life is ever guaranteed or a sure thing. Do what is best for you and what makes you happy, weigh up the pros and cons if you must but whatever you decide, just know it is the right decision for you at the time and have no regrets.

@Paan If you start a business, you need to have passion and authenticity. I have my own life coaching business and sure there are a million of coaches out there doing what I do and vice versa but I do not copy any other coaches program. The beauty of owning your own business and it being your own creation if that you get to design it the way you want, develop your own health a fitness program for your clients (assuming you go down this path), write your owns or start a blog or you tube. Read a lot on business and learn from the best in the industry and network with people who are already doing what you want to do. First you need to get clear on what it is that you want. I do not always know what to do next in my business or what to create next to get a profit but I spend time planning now, and I will plan everything to last detail and give myself a time frame for when I want to complete certain tasks. Ask yourself if you were to teach other people how to lose weight and make changes in their life, what would make you different to everyone else out there doing this? what do you have to offer? don't focus so much on trying to sell your products, focus on answering what consumers who want to lose weight want. Learn how to be the best in your field (if not better), it is a very competitive market but with hard work and persistence you will be in business before you know it.

@Raphael I think you have just answered that question yourself. There is no point wasting time on something that doesn't benefit you or help you. As a life coach myself who also has a business coach, health and fitness coach and my very own life coach as well, I'd say hiring a coach is the best thing I have ever done for myself. Instead of coucellors and psychologists who focus more on your past and reasons for this and that, a life coach can prides themselves on helping you to move forward so you get the results as quickly as possibly. For me, I finally had direction and purpose in my life again and in less than a year I was running my own life coaching business and my life has changed. Or you could always try another psychologist if you wanted to explore more about your feelings and perceptions of things. Sometimes we need to try a few different professionals in order to find one that suits us.

There is nothing wrong with being good at solving problems. Wouldn't you rather a solution than to have an ongoing problem. If you can create something better in order to solve problems then you can do whatever works best for you.

@nightlight Sydney, Australia

@DizIzMikey There is nothing wrong to wanting to be better. why not just be better than the person you were yesterday instead of trying to compete with others. There will always be someone out there in this world who will do, speak, say, have something better than you. Your fighting a losing battle that way. Be better for yourself not anyone. The only competition you have is you.

@Orange The truth is how you interpret the truth? what is truth to you? how do you know it is the truth? however you look at it is how you perceive what is true to you

@Frogfucius I would do more research on heroin if that what your thinking of your next hobby. It is common sense that this drug has more negatives than it ever will a positive one.

@LifeLife Charity work is the best to boost your communication skills and expand your social network gaining confidence and self worth.