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@Barack osama I would like to consider myself as a positive person usually. I do have days where I shut off from the world from time to time and have 'me time', I get upset and annoyed sometimes but does that then make a non positive person? at times, I guess. It is also how you interpret being a positive person, to me its generally the good vibe and energy that someone makes you feel. A positive person to me is someone that loves life, wants the best from life, tries to make the best out of every situation, loves learning and helping others, someone that inspires me and I love being around them because their energy makes me feel good and influences me to be a better and happier person. I can't stand people who are constantly choosing to be negative or mean to others, it doesn't make me feel good and I don't like the bad energy I get. People have an influence on you weather you know it or not, so I choose to be around people who influence me for the better. As they say, positivity and happiness and contagious, so why not spread it around?

I think one area of my life I am really stuck in and struggle with... Relationships. I don't know why they are so complicated.

If I didn't have a business, I probably wouldn't have a reason to go on social media much. Although, I am on Facebook to stay in touch with friends and family overseas but I don't feel the need to see what everyone is doing on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter every day, takes us too much unnecessary time when I could be working on my business or studying or working on my personal development. Plus I find that social media can cause a lot of problems, especially in relationships. We have turned into a world where everything is becoming social media and we have forgotten how to connect and develop interpersonal relationships.

I wish I found this stuff when I was 15. I was in my late 20's when I took personal development seriously. You are lucky to be so young and have a great start to making your life so incredible.

I think we come back as something else but our souls go to heaven. Depending how we have lived this life affects our next life. I spoke to this (I don't know what you call her) someone who tells you about your past life and helps you live a better life and be a better person in this life. She asked me if I was born with a birthmark anywhere on my body and I replied 'yes' and she said this is a symbol of something that happened in my past life that I did not confront or settle with so I need to deal with it in this life otherwise I will be re-bond again with the same birthmark until I have faced whatever it is. Complicated to explain but I found it interesting.

Leo - Can I request you come to Sydney, Australia when you organise these meetups? hehe

You have come to a really great place for support. even I feel alone sometimes and I was so excited when I got the e-mail from Leo saying he is launching this forum. I don't feel so alone anymore and I am glad to be apart of this to help everyone and support Leo with an amazing job he is doing. It can be a lonely road sometimes but I have learnt it is better to be lonley than in bad company or people who do not genuinely love or support you. plus you have all of us now =)

Hi Krait I have to challenge you when you said you are not motivated to do anything. I think you are motivated and want a change, that is why you are on this amazing forum filled with wonderful people and the amazing Leo all here to help and throw around ideas. I can see a little motivation in you and I know you have it in you to get happy, find peace and clarity. You are doing a great job by meditating and I understand its hard when you live with other people. You can always go to a park or beach and just sit and be still with yourself there? Forget about material things, girls and everything else and focus on you, who are you? who do you want to be? what do you need in order to be the person you want to be? What would my ideal lie look like? if I couldn't fail, what would I do? Reality is what you make it, what you focus on, your thoughts? its hard in this world to stay focused and determined but we all have it in us despite our circumstances. and if you feel so bad about your life, just think there are a lot of other people that would love to be in your position and have what you have. You have opportunity and resources, some people wish for those little things we take for granted. You said you have tried most of Leos suggestion in his videos... heres the secret to Leo's advice? persistence! Don't just try everything he says once, try them a few times and keep persisting and working on it to make you the person you want to be. Don't shut off from your friends and family because it will be an even more lonelier and depressing road without them and that is the last thing you want. I know sometimes you just don't want to deal with people but just don't push them away, you need them as much as they need you. smoking and drinking is not the answer and I know that because I have been there and I have been at the point of ending my life and its not worth it, life gets better and your going to make it amazing with all of our help, we are here. Don't lose faith or hope because its not over until you decide it is.

Whether you know it or not, other people always influence you and challenge the way you think, this in turn makes you the person you choose to be. When it comes to a career, You have to learn from the best in order to be one of the best, no one successful just made success happen on their own without the knowledge and somewhat motivation from others. You may not always take other peoples opinions or advice but it still influences you. My beliefs is always giving back to others, and I'm not saying that because Im a life coach, I believe even the people who hurt me the worse possible way has taught me a great lesson, one that I will always carry with me and has motivated me to be and do better. They showed me the type of person I never want to become or be around. In any career you choose, I believe even you being a nice respectful person can motivate others to want to be like you. You never know who you make an impact on. Its okay to be selfish, just don't forget the people who taught you lessons to help you in any areas of your life, I don't believe anyone can get anywhere far in this life alone and not learning and developing from others. To understand the world is to understand people because we make the world what it is today.

I definitely found who I was due to a broken heart. I lost the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with due to me being hurt from my previous relationship before him. I became paranoid, insecure, jealous, I was a nightmare girlfriend trying to control everything and the day I lost him, I cried for weeks and when I felt like I hit rock bottom, I started to think "who am I? what have I done?Why was I that person to someone I cared and loved so much? I was so afraid to show how much I loved him and cared because I was so scared and so sure he would hurt me like my previous partner. Anyway I started to journal and I told myself, If i ever fall in love again, I will be the best girlfriend ever and I will give 110%. It took a lot of being alone (which was very uncomfortable to me), it took a lot of personal development work on making myself better, mentally and emotionally. Through my work on personal development I started to volunteer and mentor teenagers trying to find their life purpose, then teenage pregnant single mothers; I was then put through a counselling program through work which I completed and became a counsellor as well as my day job at my work. I was introduced to a life coach at a network meeting who I thought she was amazing, I love her energy and her passion for life and to help others and thought.. I want to do what she's doing, so I put myself through a diploma of life coaching and met so many wonderful people and ever since.. I absolutely love being a life coach, I love it that much that I coach people for free sometimes because my passion is there and I couldn't picture doing anything else than to help others. So it was due to that break up that really pushed me to change and be a better person.

I run a life coaching business and I have my own personal development coach, business coach and a health and fitness coach. I was lucky to get introduced to my health and fitness coach who has offered to coach me for free in return I help advertise and recommend her. I am paying a really good business coach because I believe having someone who is experienced and is where I want to be, is they key to my success also (mind you I pay her good money for results), If I didn't see the results I wanted I would of let her go but she has a great reputation. My personal development life coach is someone I met through my coaching college so we sort of bounce ideas of each other and help each other with personal development (but it always a learning experience between the client and the coach). I had a mentor when I going through my law degree who was actually my boss at the time, so I was very fortunate to have someone who took the time and day out for me. Depending what outcomes you are trying to achieve and you can ask around (it never hurts to ask if you look up to someone and ask them to be your mentor) but sometimes it does pay off to hire an expert in the field who has what you want. Lastly, i agree with everyone else, the internet can be your best friend for learning from other people. For me, I don't have all the time in the world to search for answers so having a coach has helped me a lot.

As a life coach myself, I reference everything and every idea just to cover my ass. However by consuming a lot of information, you can still develop your own materials and name it but if you use an idea from someone else work, I would reference it or put the idea into your own words and your own way of interpretation so it sounds like you and not a copied version of Tony Robbins. It is challenging at times because we learn from so many great coaches and leaders and they have excellent information but make it all your own work. I don't know too much about getting insurances to cover yourself legally and copywriting (maybe hire a copywriter or someone to go over your material?). Leo may know more about this

Its all about balance lovely, You can't just consume yourself in one thing despite how much you are in love with it. I was like that in my past relationships where I forgot about friends, took days off work to take care of him, my whole world was all about him. BIG MISTAKE. You need a healthy balance and good time management to be able to do everything you want to do. I studied a 6year criminology and law degree only to realise after all that hard work, my life purpose is personal development life coaching. I am in love with what I do now and I can't picture myself doing anything else. I also work a 8-5job, I am studying another diploma in CBT and I still manage to see my friends, run a side business, have time for my relationship, see family.. you need balance in order to live a healthy lifestyle. It is good for developing a strong mind as well.

I would have a partner who adores me as much as I do him. Someone who is honest, trustworthy and loyal (hard to find here in Sydney) lol. I would do what I am doing now (life coaching) but I would be doing it full time and finally get to leave my 8-5 job. I would be a female version of Leo (lol) out to change the world and make an impact on as many peoples lives for the better as possible.

Hey Daphne, I wish I was i was 24yo again, if i knew what I know now I would of done a lot of things differently and I am proud of you for working so hard on your personal development journey. Let me share this, I am 29yo from Sydney, all of my friends and family are very successful law enforcement agents, lawyers, psychologists, Doctors. They 99% are married with kids, have beautiful homes and drive nice cars. You can imagine how I feel sometimes working a full time job, running my personal development side business, I finished a law degree only to give that up to build my business in personal development (my parents were not to happy about this). I do not drive because I live right in the middle of the city and I'm also still renting which i feel embarrassed about because everyone I know owns their apartment or house and has their shit together. I feel far from that but I am working 7days a week, hard on the life I want and the person I see myself with. So don't feel like you are behind everyone else, you are still so young and have a lot of amazing things ahead of you. The one thing I would highly suggest though is find a balance. I work a 8-5job and when I am not there, I am running my business trying to make a profit so I can buy my own apartment and I am also studying a diploma at the moment. I only catch up with my friends once a month and only see my family on birthdays, christmas and easter. Finding a balance to do all of this isn't easy for me and i am forever exhausted but at the same time I am completely and utterly in love with what I do and where I choose to spend my time. I still have doubts I will ever find 'the one' and get married and have kids (ohh no, my biological clock in running out of time). Yes I am freaking out a little but I am making the best with what I have right now. When it comes to finding your passion, I think Leo has a video on finding your life purpose - watch it. I think you just need to make a list of things that make you happy and start experimenting with different things that ignite your passion (this takes time). It took me till my late 20s to find my passion and before that I completed a 6yr law degree at university only to do nothing with that degree. Things change, you have plenty of time to experiment and find what is right for you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I am addicted to learning and my business allows me to practice everything i have learnt and so does this forum. Balance is the key to everything.

Anything by Tony Robbins - Can't go wrong there. "To model excellence, we have to start with the belief system of excellence" "When someone treats you poorly, create a sense of compassion instead of anger, take charge of your state and behaviour" I also live by the saying "feel the fear and do it anyway" - can't think of who said that off the top of my head.

The way I stopped smoking was two things: 1) As Leo said I developed more consciousness every time I had a cigarette, (I had it programmed in my mind) that it was the only thing that calms me down after a stressful situation or a bad day or just to have an excuse to have a break at work. However, developing consciousness wasn't easy but the more I became aware, I kept asking to myself 'what are you doing to yourself? your ruining your body for what? where is this going to get you Mia? 2) I started to replace smoking with drinking (although I always had my drinking under control) but then I was doing the same with drinking, why am I drinking? what is this doing for me? Every time I was angry, stressed, frustrated, I replaced these bad habits with good ones, I started going for a walk and listening to feel good music and I would walk and listen to music till I was in a better mind frame and state again. I then decided to start a business and I knew nothing about business so I dedicated my life to doing what I love and learning all I can. Because what I do now means everything to me, I don't have time to think about having a ciggie or feeling the need to just drink whenever I get stressed. I usually take short exercise breaks if I get stressed now, I do some squats or some push ups and this usually shifts my mind really quick. So when you are thinking about replacements and distractions, make a list of other ways you can have better replacements and distractions that will serve you. For e.g. every afternoon when I come home from work, I always needed to eat chocolate or a packet of chips to curb my afternoon cravings and now I have replaced that with making healthy smoothies, and did my research on all the different kinds of healthy smoothies i can make and what healthy ingredients I can put in them. Im addicted to making smoothies now for an afternoon snack and I even lost weight from this. I actually had a lot more energy to keep working through the night and studying. Hope this helped a bit.

I don't mind a wine here and there but because of my beliefs and values and what I do for work, it means more to me then getting 'shit faced'. There is always a time when you are young to have fun, drink a lot, learn from your mistakes, then when you grow up, you want to become more responsible, be healthy and fit and strengthen your mind so you can live a long a fulfilling future and you can be an asset to your friends and family by being in good shape and health. I have had a partner who drinks half a case to a case of VB on a daily basis, and sometimes he would act like a dick head towards me and the next day he won't remember it, then when he hears the stories of his behaviour, he thinks its hilarious. Mind you he was a grown man in his 30's who I saw as someone who wasting their life away for temporary fun and what he seems as a solutions to all lifes problems. We were not given this body to destroy it, there are a million other ways to enjoy life and have fun, and you can still have the odd drinks or the odd big nights but if you are serious about personal development, develop other way that you can have an awesome fun time without the alcohol. You may not thing its dominating your life, but my partner saw alcohol as apart of his life, which is really sad to see and it starts to affect those who love you sooner or later. Alcohol is not the answer.

Hi Rosie, I feel your pain as i was in a similar situation. Break ups are never easy and it never does get easier going through repeated break ups. I am so glad you have found the strength to want to work on yourself and Leo is amazing with helping people with their personal development as you can tell. The biggest and hardest lesson I have learnt is accepting someone's decisions to walk away. I always used to think if I put up a fight for them, then they will know how much I care and then they will realise they made a mistake letting me go; instead I just made an ass out of myself (never a good idea). You should know just how incredible you are, and how much amazing things you are capable of. You will see this and gain so much confidence the more personal development work you do for yourself. It is the best thing you can ever do for yourself is to always put yourself, your happiness and health first. It hurts like hell losing the one you love and yes time does heal the pain. I don't think you are a 'needy bitch', everyone loves to feel loved and needed and sometimes after break ups we realise we don't really miss that person (because that person wasn't really fulfilling us in the way we deserve), we do however miss having the company and someone there to share our life with. I personally cannot be friends with someone that I have just broken up with, I would give it some time to find yourself again and love who you are and being in your own company (amazing things happens when you focus on yourself). Maybe after a few months or years you two can be great friends and have no regrets. You will find someone who is genuine about loving you and wants the best for you. Head up girl, things will get better. I promise. -Mia

Hi Rares, This is just my opinion but I do not think anyone, no matter how much you love someone should ever have to 'deal with cheating'. I don't care what the other person's excuse is, once someone cheats, everything that ever meant something goes right out the door, nothing matters after that point. Yes you may still love them and you may be hurt, but the quicker you realise your worth and move on, the better quality of life you will live and will give you the opportunity to find someone worthy of you. People cheat out of greed and selfishness.

I've herd of this book a few times now. I am really keen to read it, as soon as I can find the time, sounds very interesting. Thanks for the reminder.

Interesting topic indeed. I think for me after several failed relationships I became bitter, paranoid, jealous and insecure. Believe it or not I am the biggest advocate for love, I love love and I believe in love. Someone I used to think the world of cheated on me, forgave him, tried to work it out, he did it again and I left; however, after that whole experience, it changed me and how I looked at relationships. I met this incredible guy a few months later and he was so good to me, so unbelievable good to me that I took it for granted. I was bitter from my last relationship and I became a person unbearable to have fun with because I always felt the need to be in control of everything so nothing goes wrong. I tried to control things so much that I lost a really great man and even till this day, I regret the type of person I was when I met him. Ever since him, it has really woken me up and made me want to change for the better and I really worked on myself for a long time to become the type of person I would love and want to be around. I told myself that if I ever find someone so amazing again, that I will be ready, I will be the best girlfriend ever and I will give 110%. Facing my fears of relationships wasn't easy, letting go of jealousy, insecurity and forgiving myself wasn't an easy road. I still struggle with insecurities sometimes but I believe when you do find someone so incredible, they won't make you feel insecure and you will feel love, appreciated, that nothing in this world could matter but the two of you. Some people might disagree with my views but I believe in equality and I believe that if i choose to love and be with someone that they will match my efforts. I don't want another relationship where I give everything and get 10% back from him. If anyone cheats on me again, I know there will be no second chances. Thankfully i feel a lot more stronger and wiser this time around.

Hi Meriem, This is such an unfortunate circumstance and my heart goes out to people who are full of ambition and life but due to their environment, they don't know how to feel or interpret anything else other then what they see around them. I have had clients who were the victim of rape for years and sat in silence and put up with up because they weren't aware that they had options, they lived in fear and didn't know any better but the environment they lived in. To me depression is a huge cry for help but when we are in this state we either do not know know we need help or where to find it or we desperately want someone to save us. What we don't realise is that in any situation we are placed in where we feel stuck, we need to have hope, faith and develop a strength within us to keep fighting through the pain and this is by no means easy or something we are aware of at the time. My client put on a strong happy face for her children, in front of her friends and family, she suffered in silence. I guess I was really lucky to have met her because sometimes it does take someone else to see something in you and show you what is possible. When I suffered from severe depression, I had no one. I saw two psychologist which was great to have someone to tell all my problems too but I didn't get any solutions from them, it was when i was given a personal development book and watched you tube videos from other personal development people that I started to shift my mindset and felt strong enough to make some changes. I guess all we can do is pray for these people and meanwhile try and be the best person we can be in order to help influence other as wells.

Mohammad - Anything is possible. I think the great thing about Leo's videos is, he helps all of with different areas of our lives and no matter what the topic is, it is building our subconscious mind stronger into shifting our mindset into believing that we can be better, we can do anything we set our mind and heart to. There will be challenges along the way, but these challenges us will always make us stronger so long as we persevere. We can all achieve anything we desire in this life, we just need to be patient, put in the time and effort and keep pushing forward until we are there