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Best video I've ever seen just about about what makes her obsessed, or at least what they look for, something an autist who likes it blunt rather than all the mysterious bullshit advice you get from most people will be able to digest.

These men are simping and throwing money at internet stars, nobody is putting a gun to their head forcing them to do it. There is a market for this content and these women are filling a demand. There's no good or bad about it, it's just human nature. Men often gamble on sports and lose a lot of money doing it also. Humans do all sorts of things where the math and science don't work out in their favor out of addictive animalistic cravings and desires. Gambling is a big one... unless you're a card counter or extremely good at sports knowledge, gambling statistically the house will always win, and if you win too much they'll just throw you out of the casino. If you win too much you have to pay taxes on it. Those things don't get built by people winning. Gambling is a terrible waste of money. Throwing money at online women thinking you have a shot at a relationship if you simp hard enough is an incredible waste of money also. It won't stop people from doing it. Do we moral judge them and ban everything we think is bad for them? That's ultimately the societal/cultural question. Some nations do, some don't. Ones that do, often you have black markets anyways. Best to accept human nature and let people learn from their mistakes, without rewarding their mistakes with handouts when they do dumb things.

Plenty of small business owners are "unethical" in my woods, even if it's being dishonest with their accounting to avoid paying taxes. Human nature isn't limited to billionaires, and the fact that a person only has a net work of $500K rather than $500M doesn't really give them an excuse to get away with it because they are "small fish" ... many humans will get away with what they can get away with within the system, and those that bend the rules more tend to get away with more. The use of "illegal immigrants" who are paid "off the book" by places like egg farms is such an example, or writing off that pickup truck as a business expense, or taking bribes and laundering money. The examples are numerous.

Don't believe anything bad is going to happen, but have an aluminum "faraday cage" with a few tech items and batteries, chargers, a few months of food, water filter, and of course a few firearms/ammo. I don't really feel the urge to prolong my life as long as possible. We'll all be back with different bodies.

I mean, it's studying Maslow's hierarchy of needs and then acting surprised that people actually need to build their pyramids from the ground up and aren't just enlightened and altruistic by their nature. We are animals. Then you call them retarded because they aren't interested in spirituality. People's behavior is totally expected, and "just is" given their level of genetic, biological, and social development. Maybe these people are atheists and believe in evolution? Maybe they are lonely or had a bad childhood? Maybe they live in a third world or autocratic shithole or an otherwise spiral dynamics stage orange or lower culture? Most people honestly don't stumble into spiritual self help unless there's something about their lives they don't like. Otherwise people are programmed with whatever their society or culture or genetics programs them with. They are drawn towards things their brain chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin draw them into doing through stimulus response. Hedonism can be fun in moderation. People incarnate here to enjoy the "pleasures of the flesh."

Watching the clown show that is geopolitics without being concerned about outcomes truly is fascinating at the very least. Seeing the leaders do their leader things, watching human nature play itself out on the global stage, as the actors play their parts. Human behavior is fascinating, and somewhat predictable.

After being on a bit of a North Korean documentary binge, it's hard because you know these people are suffering and they can't just fix their own countries because of human nature and the collective brainwashing of their peers, who are often armed and there's not enough collective resistance to rise up against the communist dictators, but on the other hand it shouldn't be the rest of the world's job to take in everybody and give them free everything... you can only do that for so long before the parasitic burden on the system becomes too large, plus the crime as you mentioned. It's a tough situation. I catch myself thinking that China should accept the North Korean refugees and at least let them resettle in South Korea, instead of sending them back to their deaths in North Korea. I certainly don't think shooting people on the spot is compassionate, but I can see why some people see it as a solution. Maybe nation building is a good idea, to at least take down autocratic regimes so the people can fix their own countries? At least in the nations that don't have nuclear weapons... seems like we are stuck with North Korea as it is for quite some time. Most immigrants are good, but the 10-20% of bad apples give the rest a bad name, like anything. If we did a better job with law enforcement we could punish people for crimes instead of not punishing them, like the left tends to do. Get people who chronically steal and rob off the streets for good, like they do in China so there is no crime? Then you have an autocratic surveillance state. Maybe just put up with the crime as the price of having "freedom". What thinks you?

Took 6.25 mg last night to see how it would affect sleep. Even with that small amount it worked great. Was trying to go totally drug free in this whole process but need a bit of help with the insomnia after giving up THC.

I've been using it as a way to wean off screens, as my brain wasn't ready for total silence. Music that you are programmed to enjoy can help cultivate the parasympathetic nervous system and ease stress. The problem with personal growth is that we often "try too hard" to change which stresses out the nervous system. It's hard to explain but personal growth really requires relaxation also. Some books that explain it better are Psycho-Cybernetics (which I'm convinced many modern self help authors took from), The Open Focus Brain, Breaking the Habit of being yourself, and Your Survival Instinct is Killing You.

Eating like anything can be a psychological addition as the body craves the dopamine release that the food brings. Also, certain medications such as antidepressants (SSRIs, Seroquel, etc) can increase appetite, as can marijuana. Really it comes down to two types of people... those who let their emotions and impulses control them and those who learn to mindfully observe them while taking different action. All of personal development is about seeing that your thoughts and emotions are not actually "you" and self discipline is about being able to act in spite of the emotional urge to do something else. That "battle" will always be there, due to our genetics. It's easy to not eat when food is scarce, as it was most of our evolution. It's harder to do when food is abundant, and so delicious compared to anything we ever evolved on. The sheer amount of dopamine stimulating hedonism we are exposed to is unlike anything we ever evolved on.

Sigh... same nonsense by both sides. Each side thinks the other cheated. Do yourself a favor and stop watching this sensationalist nonsense. If the video has a sensationalist looking screencap designed to appeal to the "algorithm" be suspect.

I'd rather we simply genetically engineered the species to remove the compulsive desires that were required to get our species to evolve to this point so we can finally, truely be free and go "ahhhh" .. with the shackles of our compulsive negative animal traits gone, we can finally achieve the peace we all desire. Of course many would say these desires and compulsions are what make life worth living, that we incarnate here because the spirit world is boring and these raw animal desires bring spice to an otherwise boring existence. They might have a point. Honestly I'd rather have relations with another man before I'd go and use a computer algorithm... seems like the solution to a lot of men's problems would be each other, if they opened their minds a bit. If they want that affection and the cuddles and are not what you'd call a dominant male that the women tend to get drawn towards, but it is an acquired taste, it doesn't come naturally it comes with time, like forcing yourself to eat a food you don't like until you do like it.

You're better off not consuming politics or social media, which is designed to feed you "dirty laundry" to keep you coming back for more. Normal people, who focus on their normal everyday lives, and cultivating social connections, getting ahead in their careers, going partying and vacationing, are doing it right. Activists tend to end up miserable... they are addicted to the drama and the polarity, finding some "enemy" that needs vanquishing in order to try to pursue what they feel is some idealized version of society that is never going to happen. Politics attracts people interested in power for power's sake often times, or the pursuit of wealth. It attracts people addicted to drama who say they aren't addicted to drama. Too much left/right bullshit on the internet... both cults full of what I would dub as brainwashed people.... people who often think they are superior to the "sheep" when it's actually the opposite. Anyone who is part of a niche group full of like minded individuals who think they have all the answers, should be taken with great skepticism. Most people live their lives in spite of their leadership, not because of it. We are just stuck with them due to our genetic nature. Someone has to be in charge.

Good luck going sober. The earlier you start, the longer you do it, the harder it is to quit, because the more you do something, the more the neural connections in the brain are reinforced. All addiction is basically addiction to the dopamine release from the activity in question, and all withdraw symptoms carry some of the same sorts of side effects. Angry, irritable, bored, anxious, etc. I mean, when people feel like dogshit in life due to their circumstances, genetics, or brain chemistry, an escape feels good.... but it takes more and more to keep that sensation going, and then if you stop, the implosion begins. Being able to cultivate an alpha brainwave state at will through being the "observer" or "open focus" is a better long term solution to the tortures of our evolutionary brain chemistry.

I pondered this very question and came to the conclusion that our true existence, while blissful, is most likely incredibly boring. We may choose to enter into this reality that seems to be set up to cause misery so that when we exit we learn to appreciate the blissfulness again, at least until we get bored again. What will happen when humans master genetic engineering and the true cause of suffering, our primitive animal biology and it's negativity bias which evolved to help our species survive, is no longer there? That will begin the dawn of a new era. Until then, it's going to be much of the same, with increasing technology. It's easy to teach "the secret" to people and tell them to "be positive" or "this is all an illusion" but that doesn't mean shit when a person feels like crap and has long standing negativity programmed into their brain and the illusion feels real to them to the point where their amygdala is literally larger than average because of the years of it they've built like a muscle. I have this intuitive sense that although I dislike the way I feel in this life, that I chose it for a reason, and will be back again. Call it a "feeling." ... I hear these stories from others about how their souls were tricked into coming here and they didn't want to come... those fuckheads better not force this prison on us, or I'll take them out myself. To overthrow the Gods... how sacrilegious. haha. I suppose even the spirit plane needs order, and people in charge.

Humans largely can't control their base behavior if their childhood was fucked up or they have bad genetics though. Seeing how good my intentions have been and how hard it is to force change on the brain has really led me towards a sympathy of the human condition. There's a balance between accountability and sympathy for our nature. That said you can't just let people who's brains are fucked up get away with everything... carrot/stick conditioning is how the brain learns behaviors are bad and society determines what behaviors are unacceptable. It's largely the political left that never want to enforce laws and let crime get out of control in cities. They should do it more like China and actually punish people who steal cars with a few years in prison, then people wouldn't steal cars anymore. Threat of punishment is a great deterrent. Throw juvenile offenders into boot camp instead of simply letting them go. You shouldn't have to worry about things being stolen in a civilized society... people who steal should be removed from said society. https://www.chinajusticeobserver.com/a/what-is-the-punishment-for-stealing-in-china I personally don't think Musk meant anything by it and those on the left who want to over-react to something taken out of context just make their side look that much more silly, though I admit I am shocked by some of Trump's policies since he took office. I don't know what to think, I'm just enjoying watching the show that is human nature.

It's mostly because the people who want to preach about climate change don't actually want to live the lifestyle of someone who produces low carbon emissions... they want to travel to 30 countries via international air travel, have all their luxuries, multiple properties, experience everything, "life their best life," and preach to others about climate change. Plus, you can't reduce carbon emissions unless you reduce consumption, and the central banking system can't really handle a reduction in consumption. You need economic activity and "growth" to be able to sustain the welfare systems people depend on. Reduce consumption and the system collapses or you get major inflation. They are kind of stuck, really. They have no choice but to push more economic activity, hoping that eventually technology will solve the problem for them. So then it becomes easier to push electric vehicles and wind/solar energy (which I fully support, I just wish they pushed nuclear power and fuel cell energy more) because it gives them a reason to spend money. It's the reason they are trying to import mass immigrants for the inexpensive laborforce to keep pushing economic activity at all costs, we have a large baby boomer population now collecting social security. The more people in a society you pay to do nothing, the higher the parasitic burden, the tougher it is to maintain the system. We used to have our elderly parents live with their kids in multi-generational households, now we expect them to have 2 or 3 retirement properties while the kids have a couple properties of their own... not exactly sustainable. First world luxuries for first world problems. https://www.fool.com/retirement/2023/02/25/social-security-baby-problem-trillion-dollar-issue/ Think about all the things we make from plastic, and then think about what plastic actually is... all those masks we wore 4 years ago that would survive trips through the washing machine and end up in the pacific garbage patch. The clothes you wear, the sheets on your bed, the couch or chair you are sitting on, TV you are watching, vehicle you are driving.... https://www.google.com/search?q=is plastic made from oil https://www.the-independent.com/climate-change/news/masks-ocean-covid-plastic-b1893830.html Throw in the large number of tier 1 consciousness stage blue/red/orange nation's who's populations are exploding (India, China, South America, Africa, Middle East) and they're all pumping out more carbon than ever... double the levels of 1980 globally. It's actually amazing we seem to have stabilized somewhat since 2014, but that's still a lot of carbon. The vast majority of the growth in emissions is coming from Asia at the moment, but we have a global marketplace so the point is moot outside of the idea that corporations like to export businesses to nations with cheaper labor and more lax environmental laws. https://ourworldindata.org/co2-emissions

Life goes on. Relax, and hope the price of housing gets more affordable regardless of who's in office. We deal with our own nature regardless of who's in power.

Supply and demand. I don't fault them for it. It's similar to how thin young female waitresses can make more than an engineer with a college degree if they pick the right restaurant. There's a very strong genetic drive within men to breed with young women ... look at Epstein Island, look at Elon Musk, diddy, look at Hollywood and celebrities grooming young actors... those who are able (through power, money, status, looks, personality, or a combination) will breed with a lot of really young women. It's just a genetic drive built through a couple million years of evolution. Our genetics overrule our rational mind in the end. We are software programmed through a process of evolution and natural selection. Next life, have your soul incarnate as a female and hope you aren't born in an autocratic dystopia.

Yeah having faith and all the other bullshit that people will tell you who have never been in this situation isn't going to help at least as a man, where nobody's going to save you and you're not going to find a companion simply by leaving the house like a woman can. Here's the raw advice you need... you gotta cultivate healthy habits and stop making excuses. The things you typically do every day out of habit, stop doing them and replace it with better habits. Do small things each day that make you feel proud of yourself and make you feel like you've grown as a person. Read the book "atomic habits" ... ditch this "it's not real" bullshit because it will feel real to you. These self help types use "it's not real" as escapism to get away from the harsh reality that life on this planet is savage and survival of the fittest. Brush up on your ability to be playful and not take life too seriously and the ability to fail and try again and again like an infant learning to walk. Your mindset is also poor. You are only 21 and you're worried your life is already over because you don't have a girlfriend... first of all, thoughts create your emotions so think better. Ditch the screens and work on building your body... if you are fat, stop fucking eating, get a side gig, take a class, learn a trade, and other things that will build value in your life, no fucking excuses and no sitting around pining "woe as me" which will only reinforce this bad habit in your brain to try to play the victim to get brownie points. That only works with women because men are biologically wired to want to "save" a woman, but nobody will save you except you. Some might say I'm encouraging you to find external validation rather than being at peace with with what is, but the truth is that is extremely hard to do and 95% of people who claim to be "happy" with their life circumstances that are shit are burying subconscious rage and disappointment and deluding themselves. Maslow's hierarchy typically needs to be approached in order. Take each of the "problems" you mentioned in your original post, one at a time try to find a way to fix each one. If you happen to live in an area where the the cost of living is insane as far as housing , you might need to relocate. Life is not easy, and has never been easy. Good luck. If you have a genuine health problem that keeps you from working, my condolences. I have to believe if you can have intercourse, you can find a source of income though. Mindset causes so many health problems in people's lives without them knowing. It's a chicken or the egg thing.. you're never going to get healthy with a shit mindset.

I love you so much my wife, LOL. I feel sorry for her more than anything. Sadly this happens quite a bit to the elderly in the US from charities. This is one of the dozen or so my grandmother was donating too before she passed. Put nice little sob stories on them and it's off to the races. https://www.americaneedsfatima.org/

You can enable Gemini in the phone settings that is Google's version of chat gpt. I find it quite useful with health questions or any sort of questions that are non-political in nature. If you ask the Google assistant how to enable Gemini it should take you to the right setting automatically or did for me.

Then you need fatty cuts of meat get ground beef with at least 20% fat in and eat all the fat if you don't want the protein then you need to get your extra calories from somewhere if you're not going to get them from carbohydrates you need to get them from fat. If you're trying to body build with this diet it's going to just hinder your progress not including carbohydrates however ask anybody who lifts. Rolled oats, smoothies with berries in them, various legumes, and nuts, these are pretty much staple items for any person into fitness. Also wheat bran cereal with a banana in it, things like that. Potatoes are good too. Also almond or cows milk. Adding plant-based Foods and dairy adds potassium to your diet that is otherwise missing because meat tends to be heavily salted to one degree or another. You ideally want a potassium sodium ratio of one to one or greater because that's how we evolved as a species.

A restrictive diet is not really needed unless you have some health problem that necessitates it's use. Especially if you weight lift or exercise, you should be eating carbohydrates. Even paleolithic hunter gatherers ate roots, leaves, nuts, seeds, etc. Do you have a reason for a specialty diet or are you just following social media trends/subreddits? Read this book... it's $3 on kindle: https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG