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I found Eckhart tolls books have given me the biggest jump in my peace of mind. His book A New Earth accurately describes the Man child is just a really strong ego that has a negative story behind it. It accurately describes the ego in terms of role-playing versus being... How when we go through life we tend to play different roles in different situations instead of just being.... Hence we are really not being authentic when we do this. Yes, I was a man-child for a very long time. To be able to go through this pain and grow out of it I'm very grateful for having lived this life.

This has always been kind of a thing. Our species is wired so that women are attracted to the dominant males, kind of like hens are attracted to Roosters. Before modern civilization and the advent of religion that gave humans an alpha male (God) and commandments, it was more of a tribal species. If you look at historical breeding ratios, only about 30% of men ever passed on their seed tops, and during some parts of history when the ruling class became particularly powerful, it was much less. Given we are no longer constrained by commandments and religion, and women are no longer basically owned and controlled by or "need" men, they are free to express our true selves more, which for women generally means they are friendly, playful, and promiscuous. They are attracted to novelty, new experiences, and having lots of guy friends, generally speaking. Not all women are like this, but the ones that make the most noise (extroverts) certainly are. https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success Men are more emasculated these days, and generally speaking, women are not turned on by that, at least subconsciously. Leo has gone over this before in numerous videos. https://www.girlschase.com/content/dont-tell-women-your-weaknesses "Women are not cruel by default. But they very often are cruel to men they view as weak. This is an important principle to understand: women are kind to strong men, and cruel to weak men. This is because women adore strong men, and women despise weak men. Even women with good hearts. Even women who do not want to hurt anyone. If you show weakness (not vulnerability, but weakness) to a woman, she is going to feel the emotion of disgust. She may be self-aware enough to resist this emotion, and recognize an injured soul and tell herself to feel compassion for you, but she is still going to be disgusted nevertheless. You must not go around showing or flaunting weaknesses to women." Dating is a numbers game, and some guys just give up too easily. They live in their heads, and expect this fantasy they got through Disney or their upbringing that may or may not exist. They aren't being in the moment, accepting things as they are. They are too needy. Plus, this culture is generally overstimulated, with people glued to screens around the clock... could a woman sit in a room for an hour and meditate? Could a man? Men are more simple creatures I find.. they don't require the same level of novelty generally speaking. Women will get bored with this over time of course, especially the younger they are.

I don't believe it's possible, not for 50-100 years at least. Jordan Peterson kind of explains why at the end of this video... he mentions that evolution happens due to a large "diversity of approach" and the reason the west is so successful is we allow such diversity. Even if there is a 95% failure rate which is typical in evolution, those who succeed, can succeed spectacularly in ways that cause big leaps in our society and culture (or a species), and thus having a centrally planned dictatorship that lacks diversity of approach (he uses China as his example) and forces as one example "world peace" simply cannot compete. Also, I don't believe it's as easy as saying everyone has "choice" and that people should be able to override their animal impulses and behave properly. This is why you need to balance order vs chaos within a society. What about a person with down syndrome? What about a person with autism? What about a born psychopath? Where do you draw the line between someone who does and doesn't have a mental illness, and when does someone become responsible for their actions? Obviously, we need to keep dangerous people out of society, but it's very shortsighted to say everyone should be able to control their impulses and behave better. Quite frankly, that's ridiculous. We are animals, and we have a lot of primitive and strong biological urges within us that are genetic and cultural in nature. We control people through a system of law, rules, and cultural mores. A carrot and stick approach that causes the limbic system to react differently over time... personal development at it's core. How do you have world peace without competition at this point in our evolution? It's simply not possible. This video is not entire 100% on topic but it's so good, as someone into geopolitics and a person who often criticizes the western approach, the western approach is clearly defended in this short video... at least when it comes to "diversity of approach" ... we perhaps will one day achieve world peace, but we have a lot of spiral dynamics stage blue and red cultures to overcome before that day comes, not to mention orange and green. "These monolithic centralists who believe central planning and efficiency will defeat distributed creativity, they're just wrong one after the other." - Peterson

Yes, progressives do sensor when they feel like the science is not compassionate enough for them. I'm surprised we're even seeing articles questioning covid policy in mainstream publications lately. I thought I'd never see that. This article is amazing. It points out so many things that so many of us were telling progressives would happen in the early parts of the pandemic while we got ignored. https://www.newsweek.com/its-time-scientific-community-admit-we-were-wrong-about-coivd-it-cost-lives-opinion-1776630 Bottom line, it's human nature and any group who gets large and influential enough will try to change the narrative to what they want. It's not exactly surprising or shocking that progressives alter the science when the science isn't compassionate enough for them. Conservatives will do that and worse if they get power.

Say want you want about Musk he exposes human nature for all to see. Forget about left vs right vs this group or that group, the predominant group in power will use suppression and censorship to get the masses to try to do what they say, and it's obvious the democrats and the left also do it. It could be called the ends justifying the means, and NO, the ends doesn't justify the means. Just because you think conservatives are evil, doesn't give you the right to do whatever it takes to stop or silence them. If you think this, you are dangerous, period. You are no better than your opposition. Many here are just as brainwashed with leftist dogma as the right are with conservative dogma, and I acknowledge that. Any strong ego position for any position is in effect just programming. The ultimate reality just is, and requires no trying to bully and pressure others into compliance. What I dislike about leftists in the US in politics, they think the ends justify the means. Not all of them of course, these are generalizations... and human nature. If Musk can expose how people censor things to protect their herd, all the better. Yeah, he's a bit of an unusual character, but most social misfits are (aspies, autists, etc)

I consider myself to be fairly moderate. There are plenty of conservative leaning people into personal development. I won't be bullied by the liberals who sometimes appear to have this superiority complex I've noticed. That's to be expected though because stage green is still going to be subject to collectivism. It takes tier 2 thinking to transcend that, and I'm not saying I'm tier 2.. I'd rather not give myself a label because I don't want to develop this inflated spiritual ego. It would be more accurate that I can see a blending of many stages in myself, including blue and some red. Do I see many highly developed conservative commentators? Not many, I'll be honest. There are more on the liberal side, but many (most) liberals still come off as having their own fundamentalist collectivist belief system from my perception... again, just part of being a green. I listen to Mark Belling out of Milwaukee for my conservative commentary, and don't agree with him but find him mostly a straight shooter. I come across more average everyday people in real life that are more developed, people who don't subscribe to politics or try to fit themselves into a box. Genetics, upbringing, luck, culture, so many factors to it. Being 2 hours into Leo's conservative video, he's a straight shooter on the subject. Respect.

There are bad apples in every profession. Often bad cops can push out the good cops. Part of human nature. It's our job to find them, but sometimes we are complacent or the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing. Seems like this is universally true in every country... they are varying degrees of corrupt, of course the lower the spiral dynamics stage of a nation, the more concerned you usually have to be with their populace in general, with a few exceptions.

To me traditional conservatism is about embracing the eudimonic aspect of life, if you watch Leo's older video on the happiness spectrum. When I think of "liberal" I think of rampant hedonism, people who like to experiment with drugs, have wild sex, party, and chase short term dopamine hits over long term goals. They want to be lazy, sit around, get paid to do nothing by the government. The reality is that these are black and white definitions and the truth is somewhere in the middle and more blurred. It takes self discipline to not chase hedonism. I know plenty of "conservatives" (or more accurately said "republicans") that chase hedonism, so my definitions are just a perception, and much like language, imprecise. My father and I are are both very environmentally conscious and go out of our way not to waste food and energy, and we both tend to be more frugal with our money. Most republicans I know are anything but.. they blow all their money, buy fancy carbon emitting toys, live paycheck to paycheck. How do you define a conservative? I know a lot of liberals who are picky eaters and will go to a buffet and throw away half the food on their plate, must have the temperature just so and will pay to keep it that way, among other things. What of the wealthy people flying private jets while they preach about climate change and carbon emissions? I always say talk is cheap. Look at what someone does, not what they say, and then forgive them, because they are only human. Should we be regulating what people can and can't do for their own good? Each "side" (two sides of the same coin) wants to tell people what to do, how to live their lives. Culture is a living, breathing, constantly changing entity. The base argument comes down to order versus chaos. What should people be allowed to do, what shouldn't they be allowed to do? How much power should one person be able to have over another? I'd say the terms "liberal" and "conservative" should not be linked with "democrat" or "republican" because there are plenty of each in both these parties. There are infinite perspectives. I hate being told I must pick only 2 options. I don't want to part of a herd, collectivist mindset. Maybe it's good to keep the sheep thinking they have a choice, but it doesn't work for me. I enjoy consuming Leo's content in Audio form during a relaxing, 45 minute drive each way to Sioux Falls on I-29, so I might just plan an impromptu Costco run just to enjoy his newest content.

When spiritual teachers become too caught up in the trees over the forest is where they lose their way in my opinion. David Hawkins in many of his books such as "healing and recovery" will mention that once you advance enough in your calibrated level of consciousness things that used to affect you no longer will. If you are doing this work correctly, you are not worrying about what color shirt you are wearing, because it's trivial and doesn't matter. You become immune to things that used to affect you, because you see they no longer matter in the way you used to think.

Trump may end up fracturing the republican party because some of his followers simply won't give up and move on. The amusing thing about his most hardline supporters to me is how they are all anti-vaccine conspiracy theorists despite the fact Trump has taken the vaccines and boosters and promoted them as safe. I'd say they need to push a Desantis/Noem ticket as their best chance of winning. I don't care if they win or not though. Like Leo said in part 2 of his video on the left, the republicans would at least present some value if they promoted fiscal conservatism, but most of their base are modern monetary theorists who want to use the central banks to do more QE and keep pumping asset bubbles and overspending. As it stands what do republicans actually bring to the table? They want to ban abortion and pot. Yawn. Trump killed his chances by saying he'd dig up things on Desantis. He's done now. It's time for his base to move on.

Read this thread. It's not mine but good advice. https://www.godlikeproductions.com/forum1/message5280710/pg1 It's perfectly possible to be totally content doing nothing in life with the right perspective and mindset. Jed McKenna mostly lives that type of lifestyle with his small group of followers. That guy strikes me as a guy who would have been an incel had he not reached the void state and come back to talk about it and write books about it. I don't think he actually reached true enlightenment as described by David Hawkins by the way... seems to me his books talk about the path of intellect, which David Hawkins calls "the void." It's also mentioned by Gary Renard.. the state of no mind versus the state of oneness. The line between someone who has "success" and someone who doesn't really isn't that obvious, and much of it is a mind game. A person can be quite rich and quite unhappy. Look at how many wealthy celebrities end up overdosing and dying. Mindset is the first big thing to work on. Habits are the next. Leo has so many videos on this subject... the happiness spectrum is one of the best... you can be happy with hedonism but as you get older will you be able to stay content that you spent your life chasing hedonism over eudimonia? That's the tricky question. Does it really matter what you do? Bottom line, it matters to you.

I use credit cards because in theory debit cards it's easier for a thief to drain your account balances. Credit cards are unsecured debts. In practice you are mostly protected from all forms of fraud, but I have never had a problem of controlling my spending. I've never actually been in debt at the age of 40 besides mortgage debt. I've never had to check my bank account balance to make sure there's enough money in there. I use an ATM only card along with my credit cards. I can use it to draw cash to a daily limit without worrying about the account being emptied by someone. It IS good to build credit when young. Get a credit card, pay it off every month.

I'd say condescending can be good in measured doses. I work with someone where we've both helped each other grow through blunt, honest observation of one another. I have an ego that can be whiny, entitled, and defensive, as does he, and we both poke at each other's egos as a way to try to break them down. People are going to say things you don't want to hear. Discomfort is a part of life. When typical men, the type of men women love to be with, are bullshitting with each other, it's really a form of therapy for the ego. It helps a person learn to not take things so seriously, get butt hurt over little things, lower their defenses, and be relaxed and playful, which is what life should be about... confident playfulness. Most personal development gurus can come off this way to one degree or another. Like Gary Renard's masters said in his original book... they're not there to coddle you... your approval of what they have to say is NOT required. If you are so upset, ask yourself why you are upset... is it your ego defenses? For me the best growth comes when I ditch all the defenses and psychological barriers and just dive head first into an activity and if I screw it up, fuck it... get up and try again.

The humor becomes more subtle because addiction to lower level emotions of Tier 1 living become less prevalent. The bipolar and manic emotional swings that come along with excessive attachment to the mind are replaced with a more balanced peace of mind that comes with present moment awareness and being, generally speaking.

The body's alkalinity is maintained through breathing and carbon dioxide levels in the body. Diet has little to nothing to do with it. I would say follow a balanced diet that isn't extreme and doesn't make you overthink or fuel your ego too much thinking you must overly micromanage your diet which isn't really necessary, and use common sense. There's no one size fits all diet...everyone's body prefers slightly different food groups. I'd say a Mediterranean diet is probably best. The single most important things to do for a healthy body are address stress levels, toxic thinking, and lose weight if you are overweight. Also, coffee is generally good for you, so no need to give it up. Get a V60, burr grinder, a gooseneck kettle, scale, and learn what excellent freshly ground coffee tastes like.

I never used skin products or even washed my face with soap until I discovered retinoids (tretinoin) ... I would argue less is more when it comes to skin care. Just use sunblock and don't go out of your way to tan or burn your face with UV rays. If you don't have any major problems like acne or dry skin, don't introduce genetic cleaners or moisturizers you don't really need. If you must, retinoids combined with a basic moisturizer are by far the most effective.

I wouldn't eat highly processed, charcoal grilled, or heavily smoked meats on a daily basis. I would argue eating beef once a week is perfectly healthy. The main damage from meats come from how they are cooked combined with what they are eaten with. Lots of carbs and fat in the same meal can cause problems long term. Basically use common sense. Everyone reacts optimally to different diets based on genetics and blood type.

Bar none the best thing for facial skin is a combination of tretinoin, moisturizer such as cerave, and a sunscreen in the summer months such as P20 kids cream. You can order genetic tretinoin pretty cheap from online pharmacies. For best value get the .05% or .1% and dilute it with cerave when applying. You don't want to start out with .1% undiluted. Do your DD. You apply once every 2-3 days before bed at first and don't overdo it. You build up gradually over time. See reddit's skincareaddiction subreddit for more details or google. Basically we're talking about retinoids here. Apply sunblock to your face, for life. Tanning and burning age skin more than any other activity. It might make you look good when young but you will suffer the affects of increasing aging as you get older. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/trucker-accumulates-skin-damage-on-left-side-of-his-face-after-28-years-on-the-road/

The main cause of inflation globally is the excessive quantitative easing and subsequent issuance of debt by major governments during the covid pandemic. Basically we temporarily shut down parts of society and paid people to not work. Quantitative easing is where central banks buy government debt to artificially lower interest rates by sucking up excess supply of government bonds. It really only became a thing after 2008 as a way to manage the economy, also known as "modern monetary theory." https://www.yardeni.com/pub/peacockfedecbassets.pdf Combine this with the fact that supply chains were disrupted during the pandemic, and still are thanks to Xi's "covid zero" policy, and it means more money chasing less goods. Any form of shortages such as chip shortages or real estate shortages can drastically drive up prices since in many cases even slight shortages can create major spikes due to supply in-elasticity. The supply chain is quite fragile and even a slight disruption in certain inputs can cause production to cease. More money chases fewer goods, basically. If everyone got wage raises to $20/hour they'd all ratchet up their spending and you'd see inflation in everything. Most people live paycheck to paycheck and spend up to their incomes. I buck the trend here preferring to work less and live a more minimalist life.

I voted republican because I see the democrats having too much power over the institutions that has made them potentially dangerous when combined with their lock step collectivist mentality where none of them are willing to question their own. I see some of their policy choices as quite questionable, from unchecked immigration to minor gender transitioning to lax on crime policies. That said, I congratulate them for their holding their own this election. I'm not particularly emotionally invested in any of the political parties or candidates. I prefer gridlock so little gets done, and I'm fine with everything being so split neither side can accomplish much of anything at the national level. Human nature and our genetic makeup means that this sort of political polarization is likely to be around awhile. We are likely to see more wars, countries rise and fall, new generations want to experiment with new ways of doing things, while the older generations reminisce about the past and resist change, and we will continue to go through growing pains as a species. Same crap, different generation. 20 years flies by, and before you know it a new generation of youngins is taking over society. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, keep positive, and lead by example.

It doesn't matter if there is or not, that's the point. You aren't going to change human nature or evolution so adapt and play the game by the rules you've been given. Complaining, anger, bitterness, are all pointless in the end. Improve you for you, regardless of external circumstances, female nature, or whatever excuse you have. If you have a disadvantage over other men because of looks, deformities, or social skills, tough shit. Life is not fair. Get over yourself and improve. Attitude and mindset are everything. The trap of stage greens is to blame others and externalize one's emotions instead of taking responsibility for your thoughts, attitude, mindset. If only (such and such) happens, (then) I will be happy. Should statements.... a sign one is neurotic.

For me conservatism's best points are encouraging people to be responsible and self sufficient. In general, it promotes hard work, delaying gratification, and pursuing eudimonic endeavors. It encourages having a good attitude, not being a victim, developing skills to excel, being fiscally responsible, not overdoing it on drugs or committing crimes, and punishing offenders properly for crimes so they learn their lesson. When I see lefties I tend to see the "reddit" lefties, the types who frequent subreddits like "antiwork" ... they think that a society that pays people to not work and ensures they have a basic comfortable life without having to contribute would actually work, when it would not. They are pining, depressed, always trying to change things "out there" to fix their lives when the real work occurs internally and mentally. Giving these people handouts won't help them grow. They need to be educated, guided, mentored... Things I like about the left... being environmentally responsible, wanting basic universal healthcare, promoting equality and non-discrimination. In general I support abortion rights and I'm mixed on the war on drugs... drug use destroys cultures. It just does. However, I tend to not want to take away people's rights either. There's a lot to respect in both political parties.. though the republicans would be a better party of they were more fiscally conservative and socially moderate. I don't understand their abortion obsession. I mean I do, but it's an issue they need to drop. The average republican voter doesn't care if abortion is banned or not. I personally don't care what people do with their bodies once they hit 18.

There's no easy fix to eliminate the cravings... you just need to sit there and let them be, without acting on them. Present moment awareness really helps with any craving or sensation.

What are they going to do that is so bad?