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Yes! Yoga and ayurveda is about the same. Connecting to your soul, where health and balance exist. If you know you are having unbalances on any level, ayurveda is a physical tool you can use, besides also working with the psychology and spirituality. It's not just about food, but about working with your personal nature to regain balance and happiness so yes, try find your vikruti, maybe with an internet test.. or a doctor/guide.

Challenge yourself, jump out in/say yes to the opportunities to do what you are afraid of. And then use/study acceptance to tell yourself that your awkwardness is ok.

Go take some yoga or meditation class to find likeminded people? Also find a local burn community; they often care much about radical authenticity. I share my process with few good friends, even though they're not in it as I am. And then my parents are also interested in my thoughts and development if I really need to talk about it.

This is going to be very victim oriented, because that's pretty much where I am. But also will I be shameful honest. So I just want to tell about my problems, not that I don't have any solutions, Im working on it all Today my biggest problems feels like being my social limitations, my weight and my fails on completing my projects. So when I got in puberty my social anxiety started. I slowly lost my childhood friends while I was dealing with sweating, shaking and heartbeating in social context. I also had some hyperventilation problems a few times. But to explain; it was something about getting up from my seat in the train to get off, that made my heart race. So I didn't really have friends at the time. But a guy, when I was 16years old, from my school (ehm and this is a school for all ages), he kind of liked me. But this got complicated as he too has his own problems; with insecurities but resulting in anger, he wasn't social shy. But I was veeeery shy against him, so it make sense we didn't became close. I guess the thing about being shy is very typical, but the thing that made me loose my weight(loosing 10 kg), making me underweight, was my sacrifice of own needs when I lived in a cabin with this guy. It was a mix of my insecurities and a scratch in my ass that did it. To talk about the scratch: Maybe you know what Im talking about, it hurts so freaking bad to shit with a scratch in your ass.. so I wanted to avoid that, so I controlled my food intake. I did visited the doctor with this, unfortunately they misdiagnosed me, so I lived with the issue for a year. But we had another "problem", the grocery was pretty long away from us, and we were lazy pot-smokers, so when he was talking about hoping to get some of the dinner with him at work next day, I wouldn't take another dish after the first. Im not blaming him anything though, this was my own responsibility, and I was not very old. Anyways. Also I was very in love with him, and we had SOOO bad communication. We had sex and played games and was alone, I loved it. But I was afraid to confront him with being a couple and I just missed intimacy in our communication. So I became more and more miserable because of that. This got me into a mild depression. Im still very much of a people pleaser, and still training to put myself first. But to continue: Time went on till I once got the courage to ask my friend if he wanted anything serious with our relationship. Very awkwardly he answered that he just saw it as a little fun. And I was more relieved of my own courage than disappointed of his answer. But even though this was what I thought would end my depression, to have his answer, my mood didn't change. I didn't stop seeing him, and we continued sex once in a while. Actually we saw each other every day. This was the time where I began searching up about depression, and found the video on why Im I depressed of Leo. Soo, time went on, I was feeling bad, I was watching videos, I began feeling better. This whole time I have been very unmotivated and blunt (also by not eating enough). Everyone knows it takes something to change lifestyle, and I've got used to not eating much. But I got better at telling my friend what's on my mind, and I got lesser and lesser shy in front of him. Im still prioritizing against my authenticity, which is where I am on that aspect. In the social context I have moved a lot, but Im still not outgoing. I have more contacts open even though non is actual my friends (yet). So this is where I am on the social scale and on my weight issue. To conclude on my relationship and on the not-completing-projects issue: Not long ago me and my friend had a conversation where we got completely honest and I was talking about not feeling good enough but used, because he rejected me that time long ago. And his point of view was that we HAD become lovers/partners, that it wasn't something people agreed on, but something just happening. It blowed my mind a little, but I didn't agree, in my mind had we never been a couple, and actually would it also be a very bad idea to even consider it. So even though we are two very dependent persons with issues up over our ears, and I know people would say we should leave each other, and maybe it will happen, I also feel like becoming stronger in saying no to meeting up with him, and talking honestly about my thought (which is inspired from here). Even though I would get so much more out of my development if I made a clear cut now. And this was very nice to write, even though it's probably so obvious how much Im holding myself back. And I guess my motivation to get healthy and finish projects would also improve if I used more energy on my development. So this is where I am and a little of my story taking action over four years. I hope for all the best for you and myself. I got a lot of visions, interests and love for life, even though it sounded sad, but maybe just to my own mind, because I AM that victim who feels bad for myself, so of course do I think it's sad... lol - But that is also great motivation I think.

Positive update I have just got taken blood tests today. I got a "proof" from my doctor so I can take to a professional gynecologist for free. I got an appointment with a therapist sunday. And I might get my first job (which is not about my previously atempt to become a gardenere) this thursday! So things are going pretty smooth today :'D I'm being ambitious about my future and I love to make plans. Right now I'm thinking about buying some land in Sweden and get another dog to be with me in the forests <3 I will use the time in a house(hopefully homemade) where I can study some of the stuff I want. Something about contructing schoolsubjects and more. Aaaand I have signed up for studying dance for half a year at my school in Copenhagen. Dance provide exercise, but it's really a way of expressing my nature and excitement of majesty. Uuuh and the costumes I can make! Oh and I want to do more mental peacework to be even more grounded. And of course I am reading my books and watching Leo's videos, I really love the content!

There is going to be a festival in Copenhagen 27. may - 29. may about authentic relating. A copy of the description: We are very excited to announce the first Danish Authentic Relating Festival! ¯¨'*·~-.¸¸,.-~*' 'THE VISION ¨'*·~-.¸¸,.-~* We dream of a world where people relate to each other in a more authentic way... and we seem to dream not alone: in the recent years an abundance of practices have emerged, which work from a level of vulnerability and honesty, sharing in the present moment what we most deeply are. The vision of Authentic Relating Festival 2016 is to gather and showcase the richness of these fascinating practices that are being taught and practiced in Denmark and to create a space to connect and build a larger community around them. ¯¨'*·~-.¸¸,.-~*' 'THE PROGRAMME ¨'*·~-.¸¸,.-~* You will be able to participate in: ** CIRCLING ** IMPROVISED PARTNER DANCING ** AUTHENTIC RELATING GAMES ** SOCIAL MEDITATION ** NON-VIOLENT COMMUNICATION ** BLINDFOLD DANCE ** NORDIC LARP ** SOCIAL PRESENCING THEATER ** SPEAKING CIRCLES And more! Specifics will be announced as we get closer to the festival... While a central point of the festival is to explore and try out new practices, the festival is also focused on creating space for new and nourishing personal connections. Deep meetings that will change and challenge those who participate. (For time, place and tickets check the link) https://www.facebook.com/events/1714010558845055/

I was looking for some inspirational words. If you were not to get socially afraid surrounded by people who are with their friends. Where you yourself are arriving alone. How would you put your mindset, so you could get most out of the festival? I'm thinking about improving personal growth. Maybe I should make some sort of plan for the week (If I decide to go). It's a private festival about creativity. A little hippieish; I'm sure people are wonderful. Any advice?

@BHL_20 D:

@Endew I think it's about getting your knowledge for the different complications we meet in life. But I would love to know which words he use so I can search them up

At 36:06 - 37:00, with the second pillar, can someone help me on what he is saying? Maybe write it in nice english :-P and maybe just write the words he is saying, I can't hear them (also because I probably don't know them).

Nice with the inspiration from you all. So today, ten of my values are: Wisdom Innocence, being and embracing Honesty, intimacy and trust Caring, may be protecting Solitude, especially in nature: feeling one with earth and space Mastery, creating Comfort, feeling good Openmindedness Sensuality Leadership

Hmm. So today Im skipping school. I got on the bus and when I was supposed to get off, I didn't move. I had some weird pain in my body and I haven't had enough breakfast, I would be dizzy and not focused. But another reason is also my mood, maybe being the cause of the two other reasons. I will tell about my yesterday and some other thoughts. So my friend (the guy from the other story) had invited some of his family home, much because his mother wanted to see me again. So I had told him the day before that I would help with the cleaning of the kitchen in his appartment where there had become very messy (due to both of us). So I start at 13:00, it takes me two hours, and I continue with other cleaning in the appartment. He is stressed when he come home. He chose some complicated food to make and is busy, the guest will arrive at 18:00. Soo he is all over the place complaining, annoyed that he have to use all the things that had just been cleaned, because he will hate to do it again. I help him with the food, he complains as usual, and we get done maybe at 19:00. Sooo yeaah, the guests are talking about my friend's sister's boyfriend, how outgoing he is and how that is nice. Me and my friend heard it from the kitchen, and he comment that I should just talk... I say I don't like to feel pressed and I don't want to live up to others expectations. So it didn't start out good. I never said much, and his mother also commented that I should just interrupt. Well when the guest leaved, my friend was annoyed that I wasn't impressed of the food. I made the half of it, and he chose it. I have some eating problems, and in general do my own family make a little different food which I prefare, so I was honest and said I didn't really care much about it, it tasted fine though. Ahh! Problem. I don't remember how, but in ten minutes it ended out with that I should move my teapot and my menstrual bands(or what it's called). I got in bed early and felt like shit. Normally I can take his bad attitude, but it was too much right here. I felt people don't like me for who I am. I felt not accepted. I felt lonely. I thought about angry adults in my childhood. I thought about my innocence and willpower. I thought about how fake I feel we all are. I thought about how I don't want to be anywhere and maybe just not existing, at least as this person I am now. But also I have been visualizing and fearing too much on how people will kill me. I thought about how I could feel I was victimizing myself, and how I didn't like it. I thought about my whole situation and how everything would be if I stopped seeing him, because I really like some of his friends, and Im afraid that I will have no one. Even though I think I will manage, and I think some of them will see me anyway. I hate how he is annoyed inside and when his family come he seems turning the "trying to" niceguy outwards. It is a problem for me that he has that temper. For some time I have accepted it and roll eyes and ignored his comments. But last night I really saw that I can't deal with it. It takes on me, and I don't think it's worth much anymore. So my plan is to talk(write) with him this afternoon, and just tell him what I think. There is a lot to say. It was funny his family talked about how inmates in prison in U.S get calls from danish girls who want to be their lovers/girlfriends. And they couldn't reason it. "Danish men didn't call the women in prison to hook up with them... hø hø" Until one said that girls have that mother instict where they want to save a guy. And I felt like a fool. My plan today is nothing but development. Im going to continue reading my book Radical Honesty, and I will do some more writing on my feelings and thoughts. I should add eating to that plan. I feel sad and tired, but I feel less attached right now. It's like it have gone too far. It was nice to hear my mothers smiling laugher when I got home this morning :b

Read books on every topic and go to school :-P take it slow and focus on your wellbeing.

My friend(intimate) is also once in a while, when he is hurt, talking about that since I got into personal development everything between us has become worse, then he ask: don't you think so? And I'm like: no, I haven't felt this happy and in control since maybe when I was a child. I'm not so good at coming up with advice. Maybe it's also just to reflect upon and you will find out if your husband, friend and family just has to adjust. But else I would think it's now about getting even deeper in touch with yourself, dealing(feeling) with your emotions and then carry on.

If it's a bad thing, then you can find vegan bread and cheese too. You can find fake meat and make "copies" of all the famous recipes of your country. In that way your meal should be ok heavy. There is also a lot of plant milks so you could make milkshakes/smoothies. Also with a blender you can make various spreads for bread, if you want to eat bread at all.

No I became vegan when I heard it existed when I was 16. Before I was vegetarian and before that I ate meat. My mothers family is always cool when it comes to making something for us vegans/vegetarians (my sister is trying to be vegan and my brother and mother prefer vegetarian food), with my fathers family, it's not that they don't want to do something for us, they are just very unfamiliar with that kind of eating and they are getting older and struggle much even with their own food. So with them we always make something at home and eat it at their house. At the beginning they thought it was stupid but they have come to accept it. So I would say, if the family you are visiting isn't making something for you or don't know how, then just say that you will take care of it, and maybe they would even wanna try what you make for yourself. But I hope it will turn well for you and that you'll enjoy it

As the video I linked also explains: There is some deeper layer of guilt which blocks a person from doing what he know he should be doing.

I also struggle with guilt. This video helped:

Veganism isn't a diet, and I don't claim to be superior. But hey, we are maybe spamming ChristopherW's post :-P

But are you attracted to the unstable emotional level the women are at? I guess you can be stable and feminine on the same time. Feminine people can be peaceful too I guess :-P

I hope, lol. I guess you can choose to be feminine(be yourself) on purpose and consciously.

Hey Simon Yes I kill small beings all the time. Doesn't change I feel sorrow for bigger animals, and that I feel it's wrong to kill them. I don't think I should be careful sitting on my high horse of ethics. I guess it's my own beliefs and feelings. You can hear a big animal cry in pain and fear, you don't feel the same empathy in your body with things you don't even notice that you are killing. What I referred to was killing an animal contra killing a human. I believe it's discrimination to say humans are more important than animals, and therefore it's okay to kill an animal. To start talking about small lifeforms that we have no change to avoid killing is pointless to me. And I don't see animals as cute, I see them as serious (not helpless, but with their own agendas) beings. And I think we should respect that. But that's just my opinion, and if you feel like I got high ethics, that's fine.

Yes. But I would also never do that :-P in my mind; killing is killing.

Heysa Im very often thinking on the same thing. How to achieve it: Get together with your friends and spread the words for everyone you meet. Buy a biiiig landproperty and go crazy: build and be! My own values: I don't wanna live with people who shoot animals But I would build COB houses(clay and straw), natural swimmingpool(plant based cleaning construction. Same goes for the toilet, composting toilet, with plant based cleaning. And our shit should be used for compost along with our green kitchen garbage). And plant based cleaning for the shower water too. So NO shampoo and other bad chemicals. I would make a forestgarden in permaculture style. And stribe to be self-suffiecient at least on food. Also would I build a greenhouse underneath the earth, so it would be warm in the winter. I would find some green energy solution. I would do naked yoga and dance around with my lovedones <3 But also just use the space for studying and making experiments. I actually have a lot of drawings on my future house. Right now my sister and mother is interested in the building project too. And I have one friend who would love to stay and build around, he is also a smith. But I think I will begin it with myself, and hopefully someone could join me over time. I don't think my sister and mother would stay around. I have some animals to enjoy solitude with

Oh that could damage her fertility O: but love the spirit!! :-P