Onecirrus

I feel like the only real daily concern of the entire populace is better meeting your own survival needs. Everyday, whether through labor or education or spending money, I inch myself closer and closer toward a better position. With everyone else also doing this, competition for resources and opportunities is fierce, and anyone who manages to get into a better position will fight relentlessly to maintain that position, and are willing to disempower others to do so. In this human jungle, those with less power and leverage are obedient and subservient to those with more. There are chains of authority that stretch from a kindergartener getting scolded by a teacher, all the way to an autocratic ordering millions of men to invade a neighboring country. We’ve been at this game for 500,000 years. Is society really just an artificial human jungle where we fight to preserve and promote ourselves and our loved ones? Is that really all that’s actually going on?

I think my parents are the only people that are actually invested in my survival and well-being. Are your “friends” really there for you? Do they actually care that much about you? I think I’m just a fleeting amusement to my friends and vice versa. Whenever I really needed help, none ever really offered any, except for platitudes and empty promises. And how many people do you actually care about? And how many people do you honestly put emotional labor and support into? How many people on earth are you really willing to bleed for?

@NoSelfSelf Look, I’m not looking for unconditional love here, I am fine with a mutual back scratching dynamic. All the development in the world isn’t gonna help me dig my car out the snow though, but some new friends might. Life is easier with a tribe. I can get my hands on rare and invaluable psychedelic substances because I made the right connection with someone. People can offer professional, financial, and romantic opportunities you wouldn’t otherwise have access to. Maybe enough development makes you not care as much about survival, but survival is my religion if I’m honest.

@UnbornTao No. But the survival of my mother and father and sister and her children are a pretty high priority for me. @NoSelfSelfReally? No gf? No family? I think I would have a mental breakdown if the number of people who cared about me was literally zero

Literally no one has really answered my question. How many people do you guys think are actually invested in your survival and wellbeing?

I have money but it doesn’t buy deep loyalty or real emotional investment. Maybe I could work on Charisma more, I wanted to move to Vegas and learn pickup and social skills just to get more people in my corner.

My life has been very hard. Honestly, I just wish I had more pairs of hands to help me with stuff, and maybe offer financial support. If I was enlightened, I would still like to have people to help me get my car out of the snow, I had to do that on my own.

@Candle You seem like a good person, but if you are everyone’s friend, you are really no one’s friend. A friend is someone you put above all others.

Survival. The more people who care about you, the easier your survival is.

I remember Leo shared on his blog an autistic teenager who is currently teaching quantum physics in university. This is proof nature is more than capable of creating a human brain and mind that is orders of magnitude better at understanding and learning, even before finishing puberty. We have seen similarly gifted individuals when it comes to spirituality and self actualization, Peter Ralston for example. But my question is why does nature seemingly limit our spiritual and psychological capacities? Why is Ralston and this teenager the exception and not the rule? And why doesn’t society acknowledge this as even being a problem? America spends more money on alcohol than genetic research every year, this alone highlights our idiocy.

I’m curious why humans are attracted to/repelled by each other. What sort of people do you like/hate? What values or behaviors attract or repel you? I don’t like people that remind me of my father. He’s always been a hardass and is prone to anger and yelling. He also does not possess any form of intellectual or philosophical curiosity. I generally like African Americans, they seem far more friendly, authentic, and Charismatic than other races, but maybe that’s because I am one as well.

I don’t understand how people give thousands of dollars to strangers on the internet they have never met. I saw one video where a woman gave like 100k away to a Nigerian scammer but claims she’s never given her own husband a dime. What is the psychology behind this?

@Leo Gura My unconsciousness feels like an omnipresent miasma, it’s heavy and all consuming, sustained by the functions of my own mind, which I hopelessly try to understand and change. There have been periods when it’s lifted, but survival as a human always drags me back into it. Maya’s palace is my own self, and it feels so much stronger than me.

@Juns The question was inspired by what feels like a glass ceiling I’ve run into in my development. It’s liked I’ve maxed out my maturity and consciousness, attempting to get more has lead to great frustration.

I’m curious what percent of men are actually “winning” in this dating game. All of my married friends are miserable and tell me it was the biggest mistake of their lives and they feel like they can’t get out, my other friends spend all their time playing Magic: the gathering and vidya and seem to have completely given up on dating entirely, and I have one friend who fucks lots of girls and commits to none of them. Out of like 8 men I know, the last one is the only remotely successful one. We’re all under 30 btw. What percent of men do you think is actually getting the results they want in this dating market?

@Princess Arabia Do you really think most men are romantically satisfied? What about all the incel manosphere shit? What about the divorce rate? What about 66% of men under 30 being single? What about the rising rates of virginity? I don’t think it’s just my relative perspective. Me and people around me aren’t racist, but most of the world is still virulently racist.

@Princess Arabia You said single men were rare, I was just saying otherwise.

@Emerald I think you are like the third person to make this personally about me, but I’ll answer your question. I want someone who is emotional invested in my survival and well-being. Do I believe I can get that? Not really. I am curious about the macro dynamics of dating though, since none of my friends excluding one is happy with their results in romance. If this was an economic discussion, no one would be trying to pry into my psyche, it’s kinda annoying.

@Princess Arabia In the original post, I specified what percent of men get the results they want from dating. Generally, men either want sexual abundance or a fulfilling relationship. Possessing either of these seems very rare for men. As for rarely meeting a single man, something like 66% of men under 30 are single.

@Princess Arabia I think if you polled American men, most would say they are unhappy with their results, even the married men.

@RendHeaven We’ll never have an accurate estimation, but certainly most are miserably unfulfilled. I find it puzzling why this isn’t discussed and any attempt to discuss it is dismissed as incel ideology or something.

@Princess Arabia The most promiscuous men seem to also be the least responsible and mature so makes sense

@Princess Arabia Okay, so it’s a hygiene thing, I understand. I thought it was some kind of reverse slut shaming

@Princess Arabia I consider him a success because he gets the results he actually wants, can’t say the same for those other men I know. I also don’t understand how promiscuous men disgust you but a working girl doesn’t, why the double standard?

@NoSelfSelf Not positive results, cheated on, etc. But even my married friends have talked to me about this.