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@StarStruck I think the motivation is not important (whether its girls of social success). Its the same problem regardless. You do need a particular orientation for psychedelics to help you. I have that orientation, and psychedelics work wonders. I have a deep desire for change, and I have a deep desire to accept and love myself and the world. I see the value and importance in that. And I have a very brutal, militant, disciplined stage blue/orange hardcore monk sort of attitude to this work. You need to take large doses, not small or medium doses. Its like ripping off a bandaid. Going slowly is way more painful then fast, and with psychedelics, you need to go so far that you blow your ego up and get to the other side. Just going 3/4 the way is the way to traumatise yourself. Not sure what mindset you have though. You just need to understand that your mind is highly self deceptive and tricky. The fact is, you don't know what you want. You're wrong about what you actually want, yet it seems so believable and true that you do know what you want. Like for example, maybe you want social skills, not to excel at business, but due to the fear of death from being bad at business? And maybe to truly solve your problem, you need to focus on overcoming your fear of death? The problem with trying to fulfill what you think you want (instead of what you actually want) is you'll end up realising, even if you get social skills and stuff, you'll be just as miserable then as you are now, and the social skills you'll develop will be shady and dodgy. It will be like a duck taped broken car instead of a brand new car, because you aren't fixing your root issues. And your root issues is not social skills, its rejection of the self. So I don't know what you need, but that's what comes up when I read your post. In my experience (someone with autism), I didn't work on any social skills, just worked on shadow root issues, and while my social skills sucked (super awkward) because the root issues were gone, there was this newfound attraction that spontaneously occurred. It was like people went from thinking my autism is weird and scary, to being peculiar and interested about how different it is. And that's because I deeply accepted and loved my autistic, socially awkward, weird self, and then people started accepting and loving me because of that. Acceptance and love is spreadable. And no one accepts themselves, so if you accept yourself, you're automatically different and a breath of fresh air even if you are socially retarded a bit. And then solving the social problems just happens naturally, because you just hang out with people more and things are all good. And because you solve the root issues, its not fake, its genuine. Lots of pickup gurus and alphas have a socially conditioned front, a fake front that isn't in their bones but just on the surface. And that can give them a bit of a dodgy, insincere energy, especially when shit goes down. I'd like to see how charming a frat boi is when he's on a sinking titanic, as opposed to an autistic kid who did lots of shadow work. But shadow work is harder for most people then coming up with a fake front. The other advantage of doing shadow work first is its way easier to be humble. Its super easy to be humble when you're socially awkward and aren't better than anyone else. Problem with pickup is its a game of increasing your social score and your status. And that's anti humility in nature. So a lot of the great PUAs have great social skills, but lack humility, and are super scared of loosing their amazing personality, or someone coming along and being better than them. And that's lots of suffering. If you accept yourself, you wont feel like that, because you genuinely wont feel better than anyone else. And most girls are into self centred, non humble guys, but there are a few psychologically healthy women who are into the humble guys more than the self centred ones and those girls are a delight to be with, so it works out better in the long run.

Environmental challenge is one way of seeing it, but it misses the time/evolutionary component. Those optimal distributions change depending on the level of development of the social organism, and there's a good chance that, if you were to look at all those distributions in 1 sweep, they'd optimise each other, or at least compliment each other. Hence why it may be important to see this topic more along the lines of, how do the distributions work together to make each distribution the most superior they can be in different contexts, or in other words, how does the superiority of men in a particular evolutionary stage, help women be superior in another.

I agree. But there are cases where muscular strength is superior to intelligence and knowledge. Intelligence and knowledge are not absolutely superior to muscular strength. Whether intelligence, or strength is better for survival is context dependent too. But the original topic includes a much broader notion than just muscular strength. Its more abstract notions of a masculine vs feminine mindset. Where you could attribute courage, motivation, domineering, etc. To a masculine perspective, and love, compassion, etc to a feminine perspective. And from such frames, the context for where a masculine mindset is superior to a feminine mindset is even broader. The bottom line is, just because masculinity is less evolved than femininity, doesn't mean femininity is absolutely superior in all contexts, or even most contexts.

IQ doesn't do shit for figuring that out, that sort of problem solving is in the EQ domain. And in general, IQ is larger with men than women, and EQ is larger with women then men, so your original analysis supports men.

No you don't. You don't need any friends or social capital to hook up with 3+ girls a week. Although you need to get over your insecurity of not having any social capital to do that. Go take large doses ayahuasca 2wice a week for 6 months to get over that. Yeah and if you join in with that cool club, you need to sacrifice your time, your sense of worth and soul to get there. Deliberately trying to join and be like the herd, is like deliberately trying to be a nazi. Its as low conscious as you can go. Yep and you'll be 1000x more of a stronger man than the alphas by having the balls to do that. You'll be super alpha. Plus you don't have to waste your precious time TRYING to be low conscious. What someone looks like on the outside doesnt correlate to what they look like on the inside. You don't. Becoming social is THE OPPOSITE of pushing. Its letting go. Giving yourself the space to be who you want to be, and flow with your environment in the way that feels right. God, you remind me of my mindset in high school. ... I had this mindset 5 years ago when I was in high school. And so that's where the empathy is coming from. Your entire post is a projection of your insecurities, hatred of yourself, judgement of yourself, feeling isolate, lost, excluded, ashamed, petty, not feel right with who you are and the world you're in. You're desperate to feel loved, accepted, to fit in and to be valued for who you are, rather than what society wants you to be. This post has absolutely nothing to do with figuring out how to be more social. Its a cry to, and a desperate plea for deep self acceptance.

No its not, its depersonalised, you're getting the labels wrong.

someone's too attached to the Gaussian distribution.

@purerogue I'm sure, but I'm pretty sure if you did this exercise thoroughly you'd find UFOs in the US and Brazil more than other countries. I did a research project supporting that inference in high school, and it was pretty thorough.

Yeah i wasn't really implying that. More along the lines of, if it wasn't for the 6 million Jews that died in world war 2, us humans wouldn't be traumatized enough to start looking into the UN and humanitarianism.

yeah but that's because you were hallucinating due to your schizophrenic spiritual talentedness.

ooo that's a great answer. But they need to be careful about being too forceful. It might be the case that the greater good of the entire universe requires us to nuke ourselves.

There is a correlation between UFOs and military equipment. But a more developed life form would have reduced interest in violence as a general rule of thumb (as the more developed a lifeform gets, the more important cooperation is over violence) so have no idea why that would be the case. Fun to speculate though. Like university researchers don't have as much interest in spears as they do the culture and religions and beliefs of indigenous tribes.

and there's 1000x more in the US. Point is, there's a deep correlation between geography and UFO sightings. And if you look further into the paranormal, like alien abductions, you see there's geographical correlations there too. I'm not saying anything about what that means, just that, that's a relative fact.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_reported_UFO_sightings 80+% from the US. Either UFOs like the US particularly, or the US population dream up bullshit moreso than the rest of the world.

why are UFOs only appearing in the US?

The bigger question is, why are you getting your news from sky news?

Why don't you just practice it every day then m8? After vipassana just masturbate and practice squeezing the genital muscles (pelvic?) and holding it in and getting close to the point of no return.

Growth = encountering/getting in contact with your fears + that are preventing you from reaching your highest self + willingly and deliberately/consciously loving/enjoying the moment of encountering those fears. You need all 3 elements for growth. If you don't love the moments of going through your fears, then you are encountering and facing your fears, but not growing and expanding from them. If you don't go through the specific fears that are required to reach your highest self, then you aren't growing in the direction that You want to, and aren't manifesting the life you want. If you don't go through your fears... then that goes without saying.

If you're asking for advice then you aren't awakened

Not entirely sure where the logic for this is coming from. Its definitely something I currently feel uncomfortable doing... going to a club by myself, but I guess if it feels uncomfortable, that's a sign you need to do it When I went to clubs in the past with friends, the bounties always use to not let me in because I always looked too drunk (even though I had half a cup) and so there's some shadow work there for me to overcome. Plus in the clubs I remember the guys in the club being super uncomfortable to be around. Being rude and the likes. On the other side of the coin, if you go to the club with a wingman who you don't know, but has the same goals as you to pick up women, a lot more action and movement can be taken because you've both got the same goals, and will both be supporting each other to improve your game. If you go to the club with muggles or people who are average or below at getting women, and aren't motivated as much as a specific pickup wingman, then things can go really slowly as its highly unfocused. That's what happened to me 4 or so years ago. And yes all of this stuff is awkward. But following your life purpose, doing spirituality, doing pickup is all uncomfortable and awkward. Going against the herd is awkward in itself, and I would go so far as to say you can't self actualise without going through extremely awkward moments.

haha nah I think I'm naturally a lone wolf, suits me way better. When I had friends my life was 1000x worse. I do have people I hang out with who are probably 'friends' but they are psychedelic, hippy people who wouldn't receive the idea of increasing game well.

nah i dont have any friends, best bet is facebook pickup groups.

Well it better work out otherwise you're gonna be single

that's a good example of mental masturbation

How successful you are in your career, relationships and spirituality is how joyful you feel doing them.