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@7thLetter "It just seems to me that the people in school who spend hours studying a certain subject such as chemistry or geology, are at such a disadvantage because that's not going to help them grow in any way at all other than finding a good job." I'm simply stating why you are incorrect. That statement above does not say "school helps you develop productivity and learning skills", it says the opposite. If I personally didn't want an opinion, I wouldn't have posted my answer on a forum, where people are encouraged to scrutinize each other, or you could have said specifically that you didn't want an opinion.

Developing the world's societies' social, economic and individual well being, to advance throughout the value structures described in Dr Clare Grave's model, by inventing technology. I intend to do this through working on innovative, projects involving artificial intelligence and electrical devices. @7thLetter @7thLetter school is very applicable to making yourself grow. Personal development is about learning ways to improve your life, and what not a better way to learn than at school? Learning at school teaches you philosophical concepts, team work, leadership skills, and gives you "a job" which gives you even more opportunities to self actualize. Though deciding to make a career out of picking up girls is a very closed minded way to self actualize. relationships is a very narrow part of personal development, not only that but basing your entire career around it will most likely lead you into working on PUA stuff, which actually limits your personal development. At school, they teach you how to think, and teach you how to learn, I'm proud that I am going to school to learn about things that will benefit all of my personal development, not just 1/100th of it

Developing the world's societies' social, economic and individual well being, to advance throughout the value structures described in Dr Clare Grave's model, by inventing technology. I intend to do this through working on innovative, projects involving artificial intelligence and electrical devices. @7thLetter school is very applicable to making yourself grow. Personal development is about learning ways to improve your life, and what not a better way to learn than at school? Learning at school teaches you philosophical concepts, team work, leadership skills, and gives you "a job" which gives you even more opportunities to self actualize. Though deciding to make a career out of picking up girls is a very closed minded way to self actualize. relationships is a very narrow part of personal development, not only that but basing your entire career around it will most likely lead you into working on PUA stuff, which actually limits your personal development. At least at university I will learn techniques that will apply to all of my personal development, not just 1/100 th of it.

lol, anyone here from Australia? From Sydney Aus.

18 turning 19 in 3 months

yes it does, If you keep meditating, you will also be able to shoot fireballs out of your hands too.

2 weeks is nothing lol. +1 I want to know this too

Try and make an affirmation that speaks to you emotionally. Things you have a connection with like your work peers, and your pride, honouring yourself. Something like: "I love speaking to my co-workers" "I appreciate how my <boss, supervisor, etc> <name of boss, supervisor, etc> cares for me" If you don't have anyone you like at work, you can talk about someone's certain characteristics: "<co-worker>'s smile lights me up everyday>" or talk about pride: "I am proud of the work I achieve everyday" These affirmations are designed for improving self esteem. While I am a high school -> university student atm, I have had extremely bad bullying problems, lack of self worth, and serious mental health conditions at school. No psychologist has been able to help me. After Leo made his video about affirmations and visualizations, I made the above affirmations adapted to suit my family who were supportive of me, and I got over my issues largely based on that. So I assure you these work

I've written this before, though not everyone is fortunate to be able to have looks, or natural confidence, humour, edgy personality straight from birth. There is a level of skill and experience involved in developing a good relationship, and while some don't need to work on themselves to get it, through natural talent, some do. While authenticity is important, as others have said, you still need to work on yourself, and develop skills, and adapt yourself to give yourself the most opportunity and success. Women aren't just going to like you for 'being yourself', they are going to like you if you fit the criteria they want(edgy, adventurous, cool, alpha male, etc) and this HAS TO BE LEARNT, and is a SKILL that has to be DEVELOPED, for some people at least. PUA is a perfect way to develop this skill and solve this problem. Once you outgrow PUA, you can try and 'be yourself' and just be 'confident'. Honestly, I think a lot of people on here are very unrealistic, and over optimistic with the use of authenticity. While it is important, and required for happiness, it is also an excuse for not putting in the hard work into learning how to develop a good relationship. It is leaving your attractiveness up to chance, and just hoping that you had an alpha male personality, and good looks from birth. Its just like telling a girl to not wear makeup on a first date which girl wouldn't do that? Someone who isn't looking for a relationship, or a girl who is deeply mature or spiritually enlightened.

Whenever I answer questions to someone, I frequently quote something Leo says for evidence to an answer to a question as if his words are a fundamental truth. Or I will point to one of his videos for evidence. Anyone else doing this and should I try and stop worshipping Leo a little lol? Is this damaging the community?

What sort of features in pictures of males will make girls' eyes glow when they are viewing them? How do I produce really sharp, good looking pictures for Tinder, and other dating apps, which will attract heaps of women? What sort of lighting makes guys look good? What filters? What type of pose? lol. Probably because I am straight, I have nearly no taste/sense when it comes to rating how attractive males are. I have no idea what turns girls on. I've tried out tinder recently, and in 3 days have only obtained 0 matches. The average amount of matches per day for a tinder user is 4-5 matches, so I am clearly really behind in terms of picture quality. I just don't know what clothes to wear, what type of style to brush my hair, or anything really in terms of aesthetics(I'm an engineering student, we don't care about looks ) Anyone got a website I could use to see how attractive my photos are? Thankyou

May I ask what programming language and framework you have used for the server side code of this forum? wild guess, from what you say about bugs I'm going to guess and say its php with the lavarel framework?

@step1 lol Ive only meditated for 4 weeks in a year and I have more arrogance to say I had a qualitative experience. It sounds like a thought triggered a qualitative experience. Like if it was just more thoughts you would be able to describe it, but if you kind of got a sense of umm feeling bigger than what you acutally are, kind of a distancing from your world view, it probably was on a path towards what your looking for

Tao Te Ching is very metaphorical and rhetoric. It can be interpreted in more ways than what even the Quran or Bible can. It puts my English class fears to shame. People are going to interpret the poems very very very very differently based on their personal experience. Its just slightly too ambiguous, and I have to agree with Leo, I love the book, its interesting, it has a lot of common sense wisdom in it, though its more like reading about opinions than practical advice. Besides the effectiveness of the teachings largely depend on the historical, and economic context one lives in. Its teachings, like most social constructions, are neither right or wrong, better or worse, It is a competitor to other philosophical teachings like stoicism, and depending on your innate values, political orientation and general interests, you will be drawn to it more or less compared to your peers

I had a similar experience. Once Leo called science a perspective, and I said to myself, what is a perspective? Its the data(brain impulses) humans use that represents reality. AHAH! science is full of thoughts, and I developed symptoms you described. Since then I got what leo said about science being like religion on a qualitative level. Though ask yourself, while the thought triggered it, was it just more thoughts that occurred? Or was it a qualitative experience? In my case it was a qualitative experience. Make sure that the experience you had was qualitative and not more thoughts. logically speaking(I have to resort to thoughts like philosophy because this is a communicative format) to reach enlightenment it needs to be on a qualitative level. The almighty Leo, king of us all, said specifically that meditation is not philosophy, and told us to avoid thinking. Though if the thoughts trigger qualitative experiences, your on the right track from my limited understanding.

@jip notThere is a subtle, yet profound double meaning occurring in Jeb's words, and it seems very clear to me that you haven't picked it up. Jeb himself didn't intend this double meaning, but its what you get from being enlightened. This park Jeb talks about is fun, rides are fun, they generate lovely experiences, though these experiences of fear, excitement, you get from participating in a ride are generated from a false sense of separation, its YOU who may(irrationally) die because the ride is so scary, its YOU who is getting excited from all the bumps and crashes on the ride. This amusement park is fueled by duality. its an emotion, feeling, qualitative experiences of feelings, being generated by another emotion, feeling, thought<- your ego. Happiness in the amusement park isn't working towards your(who you truly are, awareness, not the ego) favour, in other words, its not free to spout out, because its being locked in other thoughts, feelings, the ego. If you become enlightened though, you will not be in an amusement park anymore, you will not have beautiful experiences generated by duality, you will be living with a detachment of emotion and experiences, or you can exaggeratively describe it as a parking lot, you will be living in a world stripped with meaning. And yet your brain and body will not care, because there is no thought/ego telling you that its bad. You will be liberated, with no meaning and happiness, just satisfaction and fulfillment, because there is suddenly no ego game to play anymore. You have, metaphorically completed the video game. And tell me, you crave happiness, you constantly seek it, and being in a world with no happiness and no meaning seems awfully bleak and unattractive to you, but if I told you in this bleak world, you craved no relief of suffering, you did not crave happiness, because you were fulfilled and satisfied, because now you have no thoughts controlling you, is it also true then that this is really the place you want to be? Even though you get no happiness from it? It must be if your satisfaction makes you want to not leave it. Maybe that's the true definition of happiness: unconditional satisfaction. See you are currently in the ego game, and from that angle living without meaning and happiness seems unbearable. The thoughts that are currently in control of your life(I mean the ego and your world view) cannot survive without happiness and meaning, and so negative emotions spill out from the thought. But if you didn't have thoughts controlling you, trust me, you wouldn't give a damn if you were happy or not, as long as you were satisfied and fulfilled.

Just to be clear here, so aesthetics isn't as important as pics of me having fun and doing interesting stuff? What about the guys who brush their hair, change the contrast of their photos to make them stand out, and wear suits? Or hat backwards? Or shirtless pics of themselves at the beach?. So none of that is important/ as important and I shouldn't worry too much about it? Though the first tinder picture should be a solo picture, any sort of style I need to worry about?

@Kelley White Very eye opening point Kelly. I'm intrigued by it, I kinda get what people are trying to say now. My tribe may actually be out there, after what you said about your clients Funny you mentioned spread sheets, I actually stayed up till 3 o clock last night(been wasting my time on it for the last 4 days) making a masterpiece of a spreadsheet for my personal development. you type in goals, how much you achieved, tolerance for failure of certain characteristics of a procedure(did you meditate for at least 20 minutes, did you stay still, etc), procedure of what to do etc, and what it does is it makes a gantt chart, which a website mixed with VBA macros sends it to a webpage, where my phone can go on the page and see what I have assigned myself for today. It also automatically gives each goal(and procedure) a grade/how satisfied I should be with the progress and completion of the goal based on inputs I put into it(some real heavy formulas were used in that area), and if its too low I can check out where I failed/expectations were too high, etc. I'm proud of it, but a bit like what your article was hinting, I've just realized its a little inflexible But I do have very mad spreadsheets for cooking too lol, hit me up if you want one I may be missing the point a little, so maybe I'm not being holistic enough, and me doing everything perfectly is impossible, and even if I do, I may be focusing on attracting the girl, instead of making me happy? Even if I didn't interpret it right I've got an idea. Thankyou for your time and effort in helping me, I appreciate it.

Very nicely crafted Kelly, would go nicely in a poet's booklet. I get what you are saying, manipulation is unsustainable and is not enjoyable, though what if my tribe isn't out there? There are very little girls in engineering(5-15% statistically talking) As an engineering student, I have been taught to not leave things to chance, if you think something isn't going to work, change it and make something as effective and best as you can to push up those chances to a satisfactory level, I call this manipulation. Maybe my fetish for it is due to my way of thinking. It is easier to be authentic, but rewards come from things that are hard, not easy. It just makes logical sense to me, and I like logic. Its very methodological, how to get girls, apply these steps, that have been backed up by evidence, in this certain way, so processy and logical, just like engineering!! You may not fathom it, but I love it!! I also love personal development, and treating dating and relationships as a skill is like working on yourself, and that is what I'm into. after asking a friend for help, he gave me this article: https://blog.bufferapp.com/best-profile-picture-science-research-psychology and this is close to what I am after. Though I have learnt an important lesson about authenticity, and 'catching' higher conscious/more mature girls from this thread

Leo Gura has advised us in his video How To Find Your Passion to try out different careers, in the same way you try out different food in a buffet, to find your life purpose and interest in life. Though how easy is this to apply to tertiary education, in preparing for a career? What guidelines are there we can take, what process can we follow, that will allows us to choose a degree at university that will target our interests, values and ultimately our life purpose? I am currently struggling to choose a degree at university that will be beneficial for me. I know that in my country we can try 1 unit(or course if you are from the US) as an elective, per semester, and we can choose a unit from any degree. if we like the stuff in the unit, we can transfer from 1 degree to another, though this is impossible after 2 semesters, as the content learnt is too different. This means we only have 1 option in the buffet to try within a semester, before we are locked into our degree for 4 years. This is problematic. Leo's buffet just isn't available in the career setting, and we are left to predict what should our life purpose be. What process should we take to choose a degree, in order for it to value our life purpose?

its really hard to figure it out! you think, for example electrical engineering will put you in the hands of cool microchips, but instead what my friends have found out is that you are actually forced to sit in a cubicle, drawing boring diagrams on the internet

Wow that's a lot of degrees, hey at least you can design the clothes you wear, and handle your business while doing your life coaching. and I actually live in Sydney Australia, not Sydney Florida haha. In Australia unfortunately we don't have as many job prospects for the type of interests I have(technical interests) and therefore its really hard to find workshops for certain things, but I will attend as much workshops at the uni I go to(Sydney uni its called, funny enough) and try them out.

I don't have a lot of experience in the area, but keep in mind relationships are apart of personal development. Growing yourself can really be accelerated by making a relationship work. Leo also suggested to start a relationship, it will "bite your ass" in the future if you hold back

From what I have heard, authenticity is the process of choosing and deciding options in life that align with your values and what you immediately like doing. From Leo's videos and other sources, being authentic is essential for relationships. Though I am a little suspicious of this claim What if you are a very unique person, so unique that all of your values and interests are not shared with anyone of the opposite(or for some same) sex as you? What if being authentic, involves doing things that are a turn off? What if your authentic self was nerdy, awkward, weird, extremely mature, etc Say instead of being authentic, you manipulated and applied PUA techniques, not for evil but for good, for the needs of both individuals. If you did this you would attract many more individuals than if you were being authentic, and therefore a higher chance of finding the most appropriate individual for yourself. If you were to be authentic though, you could be so unique and weird that your authenticity could turn off every potential partner in the area. Advice about being authentic is like the advice my mum use to give to my sister. Don't put on make up, just use your natural beauty to find someone. But hypothetically speaking, what if my sister was extremely ugly? Being authentic seems like choosing to gamble, to hope that the genes that made your personality is good enough for making a relationship I cannot seem to convince myself that being authentic is the way to go, if you disagree I would love for you to try and convince me that I am wrong

It seems like a nice fairy tale story, girls attracted to you were in the medical field, those girls brought out a deeper calling from you, and because of that you became a doctor, though unfortunately it is unlikely. keep in mind a few things: - humans tend to find patterns, where in fact none exist. You may find that girls from all fields are attracted to you, though because you are thinking about the medical industry and your life purpose, you may be focusing on the medical girls in particular. Because of this you THINK that only medical girls like you, but in fact it was because you focussed on them more. - men and women can be attracted to each other through a number of ways. You could have certain values or interests unrelated to the medical field that may be generating the attraction, you 2 could flirt well with each other, you may have alpha male characteristics, flow, and other things. Most couples work in different fields. - The women in the medical field may not have interest in their job, and just doing it because their parents told them to, and hence your interests are unrelated. Though if the woman all really love their work, and you connect with them due to medical related values and interests, such as caring for people, making people happy, then yes it could.