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make your day job your purpose. I go to university, and I also run a startup. I spend 30 hours a week on studying, and round 32 hours a week on my startup. In society we have this belief that we can't be a full time student, and a full time worker, this is utterly false. I'm proof of it alone, and so are many others out there. In Sweden they only work 6 hours a week, and it was proven scientifically that its actually more productive because you aren't burning yourself out. The trick to running your business while studying, is to spend the first 6 hours of your day working on your business, and the other 6 on studying. Because the first 6 hours of your day you feel refreshed. I wake up at 3am every morning to accomplish this. This isn't being complacent, and this isn't wreckless. I strongly suggest you do this, you only have 1 opportunity to build your foundation.

So when dating, from talking to other people, and from xp, in general 80% of women (and men) believe that men should pay for taking girls on a date. I have several problems with this, and (unfortunately) being someone who is overly emotionally invested in political affairs, I feel extremely uncomfortable with this sort of arrangement. My main reasons are: - I feel like in 2017, women should have the opportunity to be independent, and pay for themselves at least occasionally. It symbolises a sense of freedom, that when they enter a relationship, instead of being restricted to what the man can afford, she can do her own thing to an extent. - I'm already not a big fan of feminism, and for society to claim that women should have equal rights, while still shaming men for not being able to/wanting to pay 100% for a date, feels extremely unfair to me. A classical article, for which I strongly oppose, is this one How do I tell someone I want to date, that I am truely attracted to them, but at the same time do expect financial support in a relationship to go both ways and not just 1 way, when paying for dates, without coming across as stingy or a cheap ass, or possibly turning them off in any way.

I'm reading a book by Osho called the secret of secrets and in this book there is the following except: Just see the contradiction: emptiness and life. Life is male, emptiness is female. Life and emptiness – both are two aspects of the inner God. When you have not chosen either in pre-ference to the other, when you have not chosen at all – you have been just a watcher – you become that God whose one aspect is life and whose other aspect is death, whose one aspect is perfection and whose other aspect is nothingness. THEREFORE WHEN THE LIGHT CIRCULATES, THE ENERGIES OF THE WHOLE BODY APPEAR BEFORE ITS THRONE... And when the light moves inwards and circulates inside your being, because there is no outlet left.... That’s what meditation is. That’s what Buddha is doing under the Bodhi Tree. You sit silently, you close all the doors, and the light circulates within. Then for the first time you become aware of the body and all that the body contains – all its mysteries. This small body contains all the mysteries of the universe. It is a miniature cosmos. I don't understand the bolded part. What is Osho trying to tell us to do in his book? Not get attached to either emptiness or phenomena in our meditation practices? "because there is no outer left" does that mean when there is no attachment left thoughts just circulate aimlessly around and that's good for some reason? A little confused... thanks!

yeah and if you don't appreciate this version of your opinion: I repeat, She does not have to pay. but if She doesn't make the effort, it tells me She is cheap or considers paying for a meal a big thing. its not. It is just a meal, something you consume 3 times a day. Then you are being sexist. Plain and simple. That's Shin's point. But social norms in general are pretty stupid, and they vary drastically between countries. So its just something you need to put up with.

Really?? I think your looking at things too black and white, and simplistic. You need to be nice and mean if you want to be successful. People are egoistical, and if you be nice 24/7, you will get taken advantaged of, simple. That's exactly what happened to the founders of mcdonalds, they trusted, and were too nice to their marketing manager, and he took advantage of them and now owns the entire business. If this dude doesn't fight for his grades, he will potentially get lower grades, and miss out on good job opportunities. In order to be successful in life, you need ethos(a good reputation) and cooperation. ethos requires you to fight for your grades, and to make sure that people don't take credit for your works, and other things you need to fight for on an individual level, and cooperation is working with others. You can't be an extremist either way.

Yes its an ego thing. Its the feelings generated by feeling insecure about not getting the grades you want. But yes its also the only way. You must not forget that your teachers are also egoic, and don't give a flying shit about you or your grades. If you don't fight for what is rightly yours (and the only way you will find out is if you do the actions you are doing now) you will never know. The teachers wont put the effort in to make sure that you get the correct grade. Of course though, what has been proven effective in the past is that surprisingly cooperation beats conflict. This means instead of sending complaints 24/7, go up to their offices and ask them nicely if you could review their grades, because making their egos feel threatened isn't always the best approach. Sometimes it is, regardless of what the nice spiritual people on this forum tell you, but 80% of the time its not. This approach will also make you feel better. But again if the teachers are lazy, sometimes they need a good kick up the ass!

Im from Australia actually, and australia is like germany. The US is extremely conservative, they love their gender roles. When you go on the bus, its interesting to realize the public actually get pissed off with you if you dont offer a seat to a woman on the bus. That shocked me when i went there. Im not sure what cultures these responders are from, but Australia is much more dutch than most of the countries on here. I paid for the girl i was dating on the first date, and she was suprised and expected to pay for herself...

Sure, but sometimes, even revealing the truth to someone can make them more callous, and potentially lead to a more dangerous situation. A lot of people who become enlightened, actually loose their empathy (like Rali). If you want to change the world in a way that makes people more empathetic, the enlightenment path probably isn't the best option. The best option would be to indoctrinate people with the love of Jesus, or maybe try and turn everyone into hippies(which my country is currently doing in primary schools).

Yeah and I also believe that when i die in gta 5, singly player, the screen goes black, but I know, i truely know that no other characters in gta 5 will die as well. They are out there somewhere, its just that my screen has turned off and i cannot see them. I dont have any proof of this, but I definitely know its true.

I looked at the traits of a psychopath today, and most of the traits happen to be traits I've heard enlightened people have, and they are actually traits I'm trying to posses. Most notably: Enlightened and psychopathic people both don't have any empathy Enlightened and psychopathic people both don't care about what others think ( a trait I'm actually trying to posses) Enlightened and psychopathic people both seem calm, and don't have anxiety, and have a lack of fear (a trait im trying to posses). I just looked at the psychopath quiz, and I think that 10 out of the 12 questions could apply to enlightened people just as much as a psychopath http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/psychopathy.htm Are psychopaths and enlightened people more similar to each other than the general public?

@Snick not according to Rali, Mooji and Adyshanti. See 2:47 of this video No... saying enlightened people have empathy is completely baseless, see 2:47 of video at the top

Thanks guys for your responses, I appreicate your feedback, but I have decided to just take girls out on cheaper dates, and ask them to help pay for themselves after the 3rd date. Due to (oppressive and stupid notherless) social norms currently in our society. And also STC's brilliant response

For about 2 months now, embarresingly, ive developed a fear for the dark. Ive also developed an intense constant sense of fear/anxiety. Though Ive had general anxiety all my life, and this sort of anxiety is nothing like that, its more of a sort of fear for my life, hypothetically speaking, it would be similar to someone who is afraid of being assasinated. This fear, im fairly certain, has developed from my daily meditation. The fear got so strong, that I stopped meditating for an entire week, and distracted myself into my career, and social life, which effectively reduced the anxiety. Though i decided to start meditating again, and unsuprisingly the fear has come back. I don't know what to do, I want to keep meditating of course, but the deep contemplation of existence has gotten to the point, where its starting to feel very scary(the world is very unknown), and its making me feel very lonely. This is obviously one symptom of the dark sides of meditation, but i cant shake this fear, and this fear is super terrifying. Any suggestions lol? tl;dr: have developed a deep, constant existential fear due to meditation. How to resolve it?

@Martin123

I actually developed hallucinations about 2 months ago from meditation. BUT this is as Leo would say 'par of the course'. Every teacher I know seems to talk about hallucinations, regardless of how shit hot their ego is. EDIT: I just watched Rali's new videos, I now see where you get your perspective from. He has completely changed his channel.

are you Rali's brother lol? That's interesting that you listen to Rali, because I'm pretty sure he discounts healing all together as nonsense. "all you need is enlightenment"

I don't quite agree, in fact many teachers I have talked to actually believe you should get enlightened THEN do personal development. The reason is, if you have very low awareness about yourself, because you aren't pursuing enlightenment, then you Don't actually know what needs to be fixed in the first place. You don't even realize that your ego looks like glue, with holes in it. Enlightenment is like a lighthouse, it reveals all of the problems your ego has. When you try and do personal development first, its like you are trying to find treasure without a clear map on where the treasure actually is. Your in a way, just guessing what has to be fixed and what doesn't. I see pursing personal development, without any enlightened perspective, like trying to stab in the dark. In my opinion, this is what integrating the enlightenment experience is all about, using an enlightened perspective to help you fix your neurosis.

I've read a few articles that state that meditation can actually train your body to live on very little sleep(3 hours a day) without developing any of the short term; lack of concentration, dizzyness etc, and long term; obesity, effects. For example, Sadghuru apparently lives off 3 hours a sleep a night. If any of you have any experience in using meditation to train yourself to sleep less, can you please share your techniques/ what you did to achieve it? I currently would like to sleep less because my schedule demands it.

sure but then you have to ask the question, who made the aliens/ how were they born? And also a simulation is a man made apparatus, produced in line with this world's set of rules, and laws of physics. The cool thing about my spiritual experiences, especially the deep ones, is that its almost as if you can't ask any more questions. You can't ask god, what is he made of? Where did he come from? Because he is infinite. It stops.

funny video I found about enlightenment. It reminds me of Rali for some reason:

I have never seen a video made by TrippAdvice, Alpha A, or <german dude forgot the name of> EVER make a video that teaches people to be disingenuous and predatory. But even the abusive forms of pickup -> mystery are very useful. I've been to clubs where women will literally shout 'FUCK OFF' without you even talking to her or getting in her group. There are women out there who are snobby or very judgmental, and dealing with those situations can be difficult. Negs, for example, are perfect for dealing with these situations, and when you learn how to use them, you can grow yourself a lot. Negs work for me every time, and its not psychological abuse to use them.

"Up on next week's episode of the real housewives of actualized.org: Leo storms out of his apartment, after his followers gossip about his best friend Ra, and his book."

@Debbie B Thanks Debbie, please post this to every single person on planet earth.

Putting clubs and bars aside, how/where can you approach girls that you could potentially date without coming off as creepy or desperate? I find that, whenever I'm actively looking for a girl to date in say a shopping mall, events, venues, etc. its like I'm wearing female repellent spray, and the amount of times girls have freaked out from me coming off as creepy is crazy. BUT whenever I'm not particularly focused on relationships, and i go to an event for career networking opportunities, all of a sudden there are heaps of girls i can talk to and potentially date. It reminds me of that say that goes something like this: if you've lost something; a toy, object, etc. You will only find it, when you are looking for something else. To make the connection, you will only find a potential partner, when you aren't looking for one. But this is where it gets tricky, at the same time, if you don't look for a potential partner, you're not going to get a date either, because you need to put effort into showing that someone that you are interested. So how do you strike that balance? Overall my questions are: What specific places have heaps of girls you can potentially meet without coming off as creepy; if you go to the shops purely looking for a girl... that's creepy as fuck. Where can you go that's a little less creepy? Sure you can go to pubs and clubs, but you can't go to pubs and clubs every weekend. Firstly, you need to go with friends who are into relationships to go(which there is a scarce number of) and secondly it fucks up your sleeping patterns waay too much. How do you approach girls in lets say 'innapropriate' places like shopping centres, church, etc without coming off as desperate. If you are soley going to these places to find a partner, it can feel kind of pathetic and it can feel like you have 1 goal in mind, and that automatically makes you seem desperate. How do you change that? How do you strike that balance between putting in enough effort to find girls and tell them that you're interested in them, but at the same time not coming off as desperate and creepy? thanks guys

@Motus sure but you cannot ever avoid unwholesome behaviour. if you choose to eat and drink to keep the body alive, its unwholesome. the only way to seclude from EVERYTHING is to kill the body.