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@Dan Arnautu Well... if your goal is to have sex, lucid dreams give you that minus the problems relationships give you. Ultimately egoic relationships have the same problem as everything else, where it cannot fulfill you. So it's not like one is more of a mature decision to make. It's just that society has bad connotations around people who aren't in relationships. They are perceived as nerdy antisocial and weird. Take that away and lucid dreams are a perfect substitute for someone looking for sex.

@Dan Arnautu careful! You can become easily addicted to a real relationship! But your effort into enlightenment instead. @Jhonny

Is believing in deities and paranormal activity, which there is very little evidence of, really making your life any better? Is believing reality is a dream really making you more happy? Life can be described by logic very very well. It does seem to follow logic rules. If you drop a pen now, there is a 99% chance it will fall. Its not just some 'illusion'. Its a fact that there is a 99% chance it will fall. How is denying that fact, helping anyone?

you're reading out of context here... the actual quote was “If someone doesn't value evidence, what evidence are you going to provide to prove that they should value it? If someone doesn’t value logic, what logical argument could you provide to show the importance of logic?” Logic isn't his religion. But truth and evidence is. Anyway the point of that quote was actually about dogmatism. How will you make someone not dogmatic, if they aren't even going to consider they are wrong? That's the point harris was making. Well of course not. Human beings want flashy cars, big houses and shiny jewelry. They don't want the truth. That's too honest. @Shanmugam I think its a very good book. Very insightful.

back in high school. In the library I was scrolling through scientific books trying to figure out the connection between our theories and reality, and I stumbled upon a study that showed that 'we', our core self, wasn't localized anywhere in the brain. It was scattered so to speak. This led me to studying epistemology, which led me to one of Leo's videos.

the science, history and philosophy section is a good substitute. That's a really good idea blazed. After leaving the forum for a week, it might make them realize how much they have allowed the forum to rule their heads. It might act like a spiritual retreat haha.

@Loreena the reason why a lot of academics say rape culture exists on university campuses is 1 example of how society thinks men are rapists. It's right in front of your eyes.

Yes. Please stop using it to demonize a gender. Thankyou have a nice day.

You said it in one word. You think it's ridiculous that I think a man is stereotyped as being a rapist. Even though you conjectured that If you want to solve the world's problems, you need to stop assuming (as you clearly showed above) that its impossible to be raped by a woman. Not make smart ass comments about who the majority gender is. Why is that smart ass comment above important? Because it shows you clearly care about who the majority of rapes are from, it's just there to stereotype. It doesnt matter who the majority is. Rape is rape no matter who the majority gender is. That just causes division.

I'll call you a dude if I want to lol. Is it disrespectful because men is a name for a dude, and dudes are bad according to you? So you're ok with a woman raping a man, and then the man going to jail for it? Don't think it doesn't happen, it does. And you're the reason why. Women who think that rape doesn't happen both ways. It does. That's why gay men have gone to jail for rape before. You are a feminist if you think falsely sending men to jail for rape is ok, you're just being a wolf in a sheep's clothing.

@Loreena dude you're forgetting this is a male dominant channel. Go onto Teal Swan's channel, and you'll see heaps of male hating threads over there. It's definitely not a social norm to allow men to have problems. Infact men are always considered the bad one in domestic violence, even if the guy didn't do anything. Men are always bullied for breakups, its always because men are assholes who only care about sex. Men are disposable, we are encouraged to sacrifice ourselves for the wellbeing of women, be it going to war, or anything related. Men are the ones who are suppose to be the bread winners. If we don't support a family we are losers. If rape happens its the man's fault, even if the women was the one who raped him. Especially with feminism, its becoming the social norm to attack men, not women. This thread was made here because 90% of people in actualized are men.

What is consistency exactly? Of course you can't answer that question using language, or over thinking about it, but how would you go about discovering that answer? Consistency isn't just some abstract, theoretical word, its the heart of existence. Our life is built upon things being consistent. This has been observed by humans for 1000s of years. Whole paradigms, like the physicality of the universe, and the scientific method are built, in essence, upon consistency.

700 I'm a yogi

ohhhh, things aren't as consistent as what we make them out to be, its our perception that makes it seem consistent. Thanks!

Are you protecting yourself though? You're just doing the good old classic playing hard to get. IF you do that, you will eventually get the guy to do what you want him to do... for a while. But do you really think this strategy is sustainable? You really think you can keep him doing what you want him to do for the rest of his life? If he doesn't want to do it naturally?

If you're with a 'high quality' guy, be warned he isn't going to fall for manipulation tactics. He probably has plenty of friends, other girls, and money to turn to. And if he isn't a guy of high quality, is there really any point in being with him?

@Michael569 the whole point of the book is that, to win people over you need to make their egos feel secure, powerful and proud, while you behind the scenes get what you want. Honestly I found the stuff in the book to be pretty obvious. If you want a real book on manipulation, try out 48 rules of power by Robert Greene

@Beyond Words N,N-DMT != 5-MEO-DMT

you need Jnana yoga too!!

How do you properly tackle your girlfriend when she's jealous of a girl you're talking to? Say you have a really good friend whose a girl, that you talk to and get along with really well. But your girlfriend starts to get jealous of that girl, and starts to believe a secret affair is happening. Or how do you handle a situation where your girlfriend gets worried that you are hitting on girls at a bar or club, because she took you the wrong way one day about that event. You can argue and try and convince her that her beliefs are wrong, but usually the girl doesn't buy it and just acts more suspicious and jealous. How do you calm down that threatened ego, and make it feel safe and secure? What rhetorical techniques would you use, what actions would you take to resolve the situation nicely? Thanks.

@Joseph Maynor look at Leo's quote at the bottom of his posts

no, says the universe. there is no 'me' in your experience. If anything its more accurate to say there are pixels on the screen that you are interpreting meaning from. Stop assuming there is a me. You are talking to god/yourself, definitely not me. Me is a figment of your imagination. There is no outside world out there, with me in it. There's just god and god. Look for yourself, can you see me anywhere? Where am I? I'm sorry to tell you, but it is. Everything is mysterious. Its unexplainable, that's why everyone tells you to stop conceptualizing. how thick are you? Of course it comes through an empirical portal. All you are aware of is a thought appearing out of no where in awareness. I.e. an empirical portal. Again, you're acting like logic's little side kick. Stop looking at logic for answers and start looking at what's around you. It sounds like a religious fundamentalist who keeps bringing up the quote of god making the earth in 7 days. I don't believe in that silly book, and I don't believe in logic rules. here are some to start off with. But with a philosophy degree, you should know them. I have a maths degree, including studies with the philosophy of maths and epistemology classes, and still I wish i put all that effort purely into inquiry. You should be open minded to the possibility that logical fallacies and logical rules don't confer with reality. If you want to understand the truth, otherwise you're no more closed in than a religious fundamentalist. You don't want to let go of argumentation. That is dogma itself. I'm willing to believe there is an I, but I will not assume that "I" am judging something, because if you look close enough, there is nothing judging anything. There are judgments being made, but its not by you. That's a lie that take literally 5 minutes of contemplation to figure out. How do you know you are judging something? Can you literally see your ego produce a judgment and then spit it out into consciousness? Or do you just become aware of a judgment that pops out of no where? The latter is obviously true. You're assuming that just because judgments exists, it was produced by some 'you' as in a you that is discriminant from god. Why? Why can't a judgment just pop out of no where? Like how a colour pops out of a screen? There doesn't need to be any entity present to make Leonardo's face appear in a movie? All you need are pixels. Why does there have to be an entity making judgments occur?

wtf is a judger? Empirically speaking? There is no judger is consciousness in my experience. It doesn't matter how enlightened you think you are, that's just ego. That's a trap. You're right, you are judging yourself Is it? You got any evidence of that? You're confusing logic with reality. The mechanics of logic is different to the mechanics of the universe. Just because it makes sense within logic to say 'you' are coming to that conclusion, doesn't mean it makes sense in reality to say 'you' are coming to that conclusion. Its actually consciousness coming to that conclusion, but that doesn't make sense to you, because you think the mechanics of logic is reality. Also contradictions are possible in reality. Again confusing logic with reality. You need to let go of the assumption that there is a you judging. You don't have any evidence of that. the universe. Yeah, everything. And I guess Leonardo DiCaprio's face doesn't come through an empirical portal called pixels on a screen in titanic either That's just silly!! His face is obviously made by your brain actually seeing him in real life. How could it be any other way?

@onacloudynight if you honestly feel unmotivated, and feel satisfied with your life, why even post this question? Why? Where is that source of motivation to post this question coming from? What is it? What does it desire? You do feel motivated to do stuff, except this time its not the empty, hollow, shallow stuff you've been chasing for however long, its stuff that will actually make a difference to your life. Stuff like being in nature, connecting with the universe/you, being compassionate, and all other things that you can't gather and put in your ego like sex, and getting good with x y or z. Its transcendent to human beings.

@jsh32298 I wish I had such an interesting life. I had a sad life, but no where near as interesting. Always something to look at positively, your story is one of the greatest on this planet.