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During dating phase its all perfect as men try to woo, but as soon as they get sex , most of them try to wander off or become jerks. Why do they take women for granted?

You seem to be chid belonging to a family of domestic Violence

@laptophaver sorry I did not understand what you meant

First of all I would say that humans unlike any other species (except Dolphins) have sex for recreation other than also procreation. Well being social animals , should we not have courtesty to at least try to have human connection (instead of treating each other like doormats) ? . The problem is not just with men , most women too have taken "casual sex" too much casually. I can understand that as a young person we all meet people and have casual flings (some lead to sweet memories and some end in bitter ones) . We get to learn a lot from such relationships. And agreed that most men lose interest after sex , but the same interest can be regained if given time. All I meant to say was most people have stopped giving love a chance to just focus on lust. SEX is more like a transaction today. Most readers seem to percieve me as some asexual misandrist because of the thread I started. On the contrary I have always advocated for people to have sex once they attain the maturity level. And on personal level I enjoy a healthy sex life . Sex for me is a basic need and a verey helpful stress buster. A weekend session and a mid week session works wonders for me and keeps me composed.

Very true , we find different kind of people with all kind of nature. However most men seem to act very differently (I have heard it from my mom too) I am not saying that all women are saints and follow the path of righteousness

@Emerald This is a very good explanation Thanks for the inputs

The percentage of "Conscious men" seems to be very feeble

Hi Marinus, First of all, I would suggest you relax and not become anxious. Forget the fact that performance is the prime motive. The fact that your GF is supportive is to your advantage and you should spend more time exploring each others body. I am sure your performance will improve over time. Remember, the idea is not to run a sprint while you have taken part in a marathon. Oh, and if you are trying to imitate the pornstars, you will keep getting disappointed.

@F A B Glad I could make u smile

@CuteCornDog I am sorry if the second part of the sentence hurt you. What I wanted to say was the person may not realize the importance of a positive attitude now but if he develops it by following my words, he will be grateful that he listened to me

@Arkandeus love upholds reality,and it is through love that we create what we want, and love is a co-creation

It all varies from person to person and relationship to relationship. There is no such thing as how much sex people have in a relationship. For a couple who are new to a relationship, they might spend more time between the sheets and make use of every opportunity they get. While for some, a good healthy sex maybe perhaps once or twice a week may and suffice. There are many reasons that may affect the number of times you may want to have sex in a relationship such as responsibilities, work, timings, children,lack of privacy etc.

Well, I see you have been hurt and you are disappointed. Please don't get sad and hateful as not all people are the same. You will find true love if you learn to stop sulking and start living with a joyous heart. A positive attitude will take you a long way. This is preachy but will help you in long run and you will thank me for it.

Relationships become a complicated affair when you and your partner keep grudges and disagree on little things. These eventually pile up and one day the thresh hold level is reached and one of the people in the relationship lets it out and the other person gets blamed. The key to success in a healthy relationship is : to let off any grudges and speak the truth even though if it is hurtful at the moment. Stop hiding secrets from your partner. Be a child you once were and be honest. Offer support in an emotional way. Fight over silly matters and forgive each other by having to make up sex. Live happily with the one life you have got.

I am sorry but am I the only one who thinks I was lost midway as I read this post. In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang lit. "dark-bright") describes how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. So when a man and a woman come together and have penetrative sex, they unite in harmony symbolizing the age-old concept of "opposite attract".

Well one cant catch all the fish in the sea, so there is no point to sulk or keep wondering why the girl you wanted to be with chose another man over you. Maybe he did or said something right that clicked. Being fat or ugly may not have bothered her as she chose him over you.

SEX that is depicted in porn movies is just for fantasies and an escape from reality for a brief period of time. I think I have cracked the code for most of the choreographed sex that is being made in the name of porn. So when we watch porn, all we see is a man who has the perfectly chiseled body and abs, with the perfect jawline and a penis that is a foot long (even when it's in the flaccid state), similarly a girl or woman who is a life-size version of a Barbie doll, having perfect breasts and tush (bigger the better) and a narrow waistline making an hourglass figure (a visual delight for most men around the world). The scenario is that it's a forbidden situation like poolside or with full-length windows with no drapes. The man and women shed their clothes completely and have oral sex, then have sex in all positions vigorously as if they have to complete it within the speculated time of 30 minutes or 1 hour. At the end of the scene, the man ejaculates on the woman. Observations : Pornstars don't sweat and can go on having sex for long durations. Also, their makeup is intact at the end of the session. They seem to be hairless ever and with tattoos all over. All the rich people are the ones having sex. Meaningless wild sex is their motto. The louder the moans and vigorous the pelvic motion/ thrusts, better the sex. Reality : Not all people are groomed and in their best shapes always, they have pot bellies and body hair and droopy breasts. A man having penetrative sex with a man vigorously can't last continuously for a long time. Not all woman scream and moan loud to show that they are orgasming. Conclusion : So you are right porn may not look good for people who know what real sex looks or feels like. That's true and that's a matter of choice.

Hi Emne, If you are getting dejected for not being able to have sex or have a girlfriend, is because of you not having a positive attitude towards life or a positive self-image about yourself. So, to begin with, have a positive image of yourself because if you can't be respecting yourself, forget to earn respect from others. A little tip to boost your self-confidence: Stand naked in front of a full-length mirror. As you stare into your own eyes, see your body, and see into your soul, you will want to take care of that sacred being that you see. The will to do that will change your life and help you to build a positive self image. Trust me when I say this, girls like men who are confident and not sulking/whining babies who complain. So stop complaining and get on your feet and go out to meet people. You might be rejected 9 times but I am sure everyone gets it right the 10th time if you keep looking for what you want to find. As aptly said most people need rewiring of their brain and get to understand that, what is shown on TV and Internet videos about sex and love are rosy pictures to take you away from reality and make you comfortable. Sex is a vague term used to depict emotional love as well as meaningless sex. And with Porn and so-called sex videos being available so easily on the internet. There is a very thin line between sex and love. So get this right first what are you seeking? : 1. Meaningless sex with no emotional baggage where you let out all your animalistic instincts that have been piling up in one go, and move on. 2. Find a human with whom you can connect emotionally and then bond with them and eventually "make love". Clearly, the choice is yours and there is no such thing as the right choice or the wrong one, as you will find people in both the categories.