Sempiternity

high enough 5-MEO-DMT dose + surrendering to your death.

I'm old-school, and have had much success in my dating/sex life, but I've mostly just been fumbling my way through my dating life. I would like to learn how to properly do 'approach', and to be able to more effectively 'close'. I see lots of people on this Dating section using terms like Sets, leading to a close, seeding the pull, bouncing, and so on. What is this knowledge/teachings from? Where would you suggest I go for learning effective 'game/ approach'?

Yep, I confused the names. Thank you, @The0Self. Thanks for the resources

@NoSelfSelf. Thank you! I'll check these out!

@Raze Thanks for the resources! @NoSelfSelf , @something_else I appreciate the concern and advice, but that's not what I was asking for. I'll go through the resources and pick and choose what I think will better my chances with connections. I'm smart enough to wade through any bullshit, and find gems that can help me better in interactions with women. I'm not going to follow anyone like a cult, I just want some knowledgeable pointers on how to better approach effectively, and to close. Instead of talking with a girl, and it going nowhere because I never learned how to properly close. I've been dating for 30+ years, so I'm no newb. Just wanting to be more of a pro at approach, instead of winging it.

Goals? Being able to effectively approach, and close. To be able to connect deeper with those I'm attracted to. Could be casual hookups, which could maybe lead to more committed relationship if we click and have common lifegoals and the love is deep enough.

@Thought Art Thanks, looking for other teachings, sources. @Federico del pueblo I'm pretty self-confident, self-assured, no trauma, good looking, talented, etc. Just lacking proper education on how to Game effectively. Looks like technical game is what I'm looking for. I looked up Todd V and subscribed. Thanks! Anyone else have good resources to check out?

Excuse my ignorance, but what is the source of these terms you're referring to? Is there a video, book or particular teaching these terms come from?

What I'm talking about is reading body-language, looking for non-verbal cues, or best yet verbal confirmation, to gauge whether your physical advancement (in this case a pretty significant advancement) is wanted and welcomed. The way you make it sound, is you say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", on the very first interaction, without getting any kind of consent whatsoever, or taking into consideration that maybe she might view that as unwanted, or possibly as a sexual assault?

Granted I don't know enough about how US government systems fully work, but wouldn't his be as simple as the President signing an executive order, or passing a Reconciliation bill, that doesn't require Senate majority? Don't they do this kind of thing all the time to raise the budget, extend programs, and avert government shutdowns? So they could just easily dump many billions into the program to shore it up. Where that money comes from is another story, but the US doesn't seem to be worried about transferring billions to this or that on a regular basis it seems.

This is missing a very important key consideration, and that is being able to read body-language and nonverbal cues. I suggest when first approaching a woman on a dancefloor, ask a question, or tell a joke, as an opener, and read her reaction. If she smiles and engages, then you can be more assertive. If she repels, turns away, avoids eye-contact, or otherwise gives you a verbal or nonverbal cue of not receptive to your presence, then that is a "No", and a no is to be respected. To do what Leo is basically saying here, which is to walk to a woman dancing, say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", is going to get you punched, nasty public confrontation, publicly shamed for abhorrent actions, escorted out by security, charged with assault/sexual assault, or all of the above. This is the time of the Me Too movement and Consent culture, you don't just go up and grab a woman, without being sure she wants that, otherwise you are assuredly going to have steep consequences. Best way to be sure is to ask.

I met someone at a festival this summer. We fell in love almost instantly. She's a world traveler. Makes crystal jewelry. Is a very talented musician and does touring around the country. She has a cabin in the woods, and travels in a van conversion. She's witchy, a gypsy, mystical, and highly spiritual. Spiral Dynamics, I'd place her at stage 50% Green, 25% Yellow, 25% Turquoise. She's grounded, loving, unafraid. The 3rd night we met, she wanted to do Ayahuasca together in her van and have sex all night. She's a true Goddess, and sees the God in me. I share this because I see alot of you wanting high value, high spiral dynamics women. 1st) if you concentrate on making yourself high value, you will naturally attract high value women. 2nd) go to love festivals in your area (or travel to them). They are the best place I know of to meet the most amazing women. Good luck to each of you

Yeah I guess it depends on what communities you're getting into. In your area (I'm super close, in WA), I'd maybe try SHAMBHALA and/or BASS COAST, or ELECTRIC LOVE MUSIC FESTIVAL, next year. I know huge number of friends that went to both, and they're the ritual, spiritual, sacred everything type peeps. At these types of events, there will be ravers, but also the spiritual crowd. Just need to seek out and find the peoples you resonate with. Get in with the communities, and you'll most likely naturally connect with someone in the group.

No neediness here, I have abundance. I think what he's talking about is when you're just starting dating, and trying to 'convince' a woman. We're way past that stage. We're deeply in love. When you hit that stage, you go all in, holding nothing back. I've learned long ago how to manage attachments. So I can go all in in a relationship, and don't have attachment to how long it will last, or if it lasts.

She's complete with herself, and doesn't need anyone else. Only if you can add value to her already amazing life, can you share in it with her.

Thanks, Leo, means alot coming from you.

Good point. Deleting. But, yes she'd be okay with that. Being an artist on social media, she shares her photos as much as she can.

Seems latter statement contradicts the former statement. If you were here to learn you would be engaging in conversation around all this advice being handed to you.

Nonduality = This, now, is all that exists. This, what is within consciousness, now, is all that there is. Your parents do not exist now, as they are not within your direct experience, except as a thought. You have choice in what you think of. Problem is, you think your thoughts / memories are truth, instead of what they are which is just a thought that you are creating now, and nothing more. Learn to control your thoughts. If you think your parents never existed, and tell yourself that with no doubt, that will be your Truth, and be just as real to you as that they exist now. The key is not to have it be that the old memory / thought is truth and you are trying to override it, but frame it as truth is only what you tell yourself and a memory /thought you tell yourself is as true a truth as any. If you create a thought / memory that your parents never existed, and believe that truth without a doubt, then that is truth to you and will be your reality.

Here's a way of going about it. Every night you relax and begin to fade away till everything is gone. There is no more "you', or the world, just nothingness. Then the mind (God/You) begins to create anything it wants. In a way this is death. Every night you surrender to death, and you have no issues doing so. So next time you take a substance, and feel like you're "dying", reframe it as you're "falling asleep". Maybe this reframing will make the transition smoother.

Not on topic, but where I live, Seattle, WA, it is legal to be naked in public. I do it all the time. With groups of friends that also like to be naked. At crowded parks. A small percentage of people have issue with it (which is their problem, as naked is our natural state), most love it and admire the freeness and confidence to be naked in pubic. Even the cops smile and wave. Wish you all lived in a place where you could do this. It is an amazingly freeing experience.

Seriously, how is this guy still allowed to post these utterly dumb questions again and again and again. He's had how many posts locked for low quality? At what point do you just ban him, because he is obviously not learning anything at all. Is this what you want this forum to be?

@GreenWoods Seriously, thank you for all the work you do and share here. It is honestly the saving grace of this forum, and the type of intelligent informative discussions I would ideally like to see on a forum dedicated to higher consciousness ideals, instead of the low consciousness stupid shit that is 99.9% of this forum nowadays. Please keep up the amazing work and keep sharing.

I've been 14 years since 2003 which was my first. It was truly life changing. Like literally changed my life. It's not a festival, it's something unexplainable. My advice: Don't stay in your camp. Go out and explore as much as possible. BM is overwhelming. The environment is harsh. You'll want to stay where it's comfortable. Resist that urge. You will run into the most magical things out there, but you have to venture out to collide with them at that exact point in time and space. Try to go out every night till dawn if you can. Always bring a backpack with you at all times, even if you think you will just be gone for a moment, trust me you will get lost for hours. In the pack: Shaded goggles for day, clear goggles for night, sunblock, protein bars, snacks, full water bottle, cup, hydration tabs, mask for dust storms, gifts for others, headlamp with red light (doesn't blind others and yourself at night), toilet paper (the portapotties run out at night), and whatever you need to keep you going such as caffeine, adderall, coke or whatever. During the day, people can succumb to heat exhaustion in less than an hour. The hospital tents are always full of people from severe dehydration and heat exhaustion. Take care of yourself, and keep hydrated. Drugs will effect you differently there, as the environment is so different, so take it slow. Have a good bike. Electric is preferable. You'll have alot of ground to cover every day. Always use your bike lock. people will most definitely take your bike. Take care of your feet. It's 9 sq miles, and you'll be doing alot of walking. Every night before going to sleep, give yourself (or have some else do it) a foot bath in diluted vinegar. Then rub your feet in your favorite moisturizing cream /shea butter. Then put some socks on. You'll feet will be right as rain in the morning, and ready for the day. Go full out, with your heart fully open. This is a chance of a lifetime. Love as fully as you can, and you'll get back that love in ways you can't even imagine till you're there experiencing it. Have a wonderful time!

This is ironic, as I am a masochist. Pain is as pleasurable as an orgasm to me. When at an orgy, I sometimes ask someone to flog or cane me as hard as they can, for as long as they can, till me back is totally bruised, black, blue, and bloody, and I reach the most euphoric state, on par with or maybe even better than an orgasm. Whatever this is Now is perfect. Suffering can't exist Now, as Now is all there is. Suffering comes from comparing to other. There is no other, only Now.