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Hey Guys, Today i had an greatful insight that really opened my mind. At the moment i’m in a job that don’t make me happy. I could not express myself fully because i thought people would judge me because i have other values and was not really aligned with the purpose of the company. So this week i got the message that my contract would not be extended. For me, it was no surprise. I knew throughout self-help that this was not in line with my life purpose. So i was already looking forward and applying to new paths/careers which would fit better. So it came as a relieve. Finally i was able to show my real colors, to express myself fully to my collegues which i did not because my fear of being rejected for my own thoughts and believes. It came as a surprise that people did not judge me as bad as i thought they did. They really went emotional when i told this stuff. All the time they did not see me. I had a lot of conversations but they were so involved with their own problems. Once i opened myself up i finally felt that connection which i missed all the time. And i finally became to realise this is what they wanted from me to show. Im really working on myself to become better to understand someone else his motives (stage yellow) and try to apply them in my own life. I see myself as someone who is more aligned with green and the company im in was a lot about orange values. So today came my greatest insight. Self help isnt only about working on your inside world changing your view. It is also about the outside. Since we assume that everything is one. (I am not to that point yet) speaking yourself out to the world is also self-help/self-actualisation. Because the outer world IS ourself, despite the name self suggests that it means only you.. your identity. Wow... Leo might be true after all.

Hey guys, I'm currently working on my life-purpose. I've bought the Life Purpose Course from Leo and i've already accomplished to know my top 5 values and strenghts. But i'm really struggling with getting my life purpose specific. One of my top 5 strenghts are curiosity and interest in the world and appreciation of beauty and excellence. This means i'm curious about everything and appreciate life on all its aspects. The fact that i am curious about everything and appreciate the beauty in so many things makes it hard for me to really know what my life purpose is. For example. I know my life purpose has to be something like this: "Making people aware of their own self-biases and helping them improve" But when executing this i'm also thinking of the many other possible life-purposes. My statements are really vague in comparison with other people. It would be so much easier if i can just write one specific sentence like "my purpose is to make. the best donuts in the world' . How can i make my life purpose less vague when i have so many things i would like to do? My top Values and strenghts are as following: Values Counting 1. Honesty 2. Independence & Self-Expression 3. Truth & Spirituality 4. Equality/Fairness 5. Personal Growth 6. Nature 7. Contribution/Impact 8. Consciousness/Awareness 9. Creativity/Ingenuity 10. Wisdom (Knowledge/Learning/Understanding) Strengths 1. Fairness, equality, justice 2. Judgement, critical thinking and open-mindedness 3. Appreciation of beauty and Excellence 4. Curiosity and interest in the world 5. Modesty and humility

Maybe we are using a lot of energy that we don't need. If we invest on quality instead of quantity and our economic system is not based on growth we don't need nuclear energy at all. Then we can use durable energy to maintain our (low) basic needs.

That is exactly how they react on Greta. Most farmers i'm talking about are hard-working and don't make a lot of profits. Don't get me wrong. I'm planning to quit this job because it is not aligned with my green and yellow values. So i'm not trying to defend the way that they live and think about money. But people from green perspective should understand that things aren't so easily solved as they think it can be. Making radical change requires a lot more consciousnes of the way we are living right now.

Well not all parts of the netherlands are below sea-level. Most of the (intensive) livestock farming is located on the higher parts (east). The problem is more complex than our human minds can't handle these complex problems. For example, the farm industry has a very high quality here. But because our gouvernment is asking so many (expensive) compensations a lot of small farmers need to stop. What happens if it they quit? We import meat from other countries where the quality, rules and society isn't that well developed. As leo told in one of his video's, we should support more small businesses. A lot of the money and wealth are in the big companies. With those measures you will strenghten it. I think the core can be found in our mental state. That's actually where al the polution and greed begins.

It saddens me that she gets so much negativity. You can clearly see the stage orange and stage green friction in this discussion. Green wants to change things now, yellow counteracts. Currently i'm working as a consultant for agricultural companies here in the netherlands. Small farmers already made so many investments to reduce emissions and help the environment. The people i work with have a strong resistance against people like Greta Thunberg. As a green-yellowish thinker its really hard to work in this environment even if i understand their frustation. This problem is not only a matter of climate change. I think it's more of a mental change. The whole current mental state is only based on external growth. People think with gaining more they will be happier. In nortern european countries as well as some american states we have reached the end of the orange spectrum. I'm pretty curious how this would go further the next couple of years.

Hey, great example man! Thanks for sharing. You are right, i think it's important to give yourself some space in achieving your goals. It's finding that balance between action and 'lazyness'. I remember leo said in one of his video's is that, when your doing self-actualizing/personal development-work you need to prepare for some negotiation with your mind. Just bulking through will exhaust you and make you quit easier. For me it's about finding that sweet balance. My Personal-Development plan will be a blueprint, a direction in which i want to go. I allow myself to sometimes go of that path but in basics i want to reach some goals At the moment i'm just wandering around on different subjects on psychology. I have no goals so i'm reading and listening passively. All the information i forget easy so i need some goals to really embrace, experience and act on the things i want to change. The problem is I really don't know where to start or where to go. I'm overwhelmed by information. Setting goals for your mind + emotions is really hard because i have no idea where to start and how long/how hard some things are to accomplish.

Hey guys, I'm making my Personal Development plan for my self-actualization-project. I'm listening and reading into self-development and self-actualization for a year now and i notice most of the time i'm passive so i committed myself to make some real work and discover some aspects by myself. Last month i journal a lot of things i want to achieve. So i made a list of some 'vague' long-term and short-term goals i want to achieve. I basicly divide it into some category's/aspects of life (for instance: health, career/business, finances, relationships, etc.). I am making these goals more concrete. I know the mind tricks us when those goals are written down wrong so i'd like to make my goals as clear and specific possible. I'm using the SMART-method (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound). In addition i make sure they are in line with the 5 elements of setting goals by Locke and Latham (Clarity, challenge, commitment, feedback, complexity). I'm adding some 'why do i want this goal?' questions to make sure those are somehow authentic to my needs. Finally i'm going to make a massive action-plan for 2019. For most of the aspects of life it's easy to write them down. For example: (Health: 1. I will get into nature every Sunday for at least 1 hour and watch it consciously without distractions). (Finances: 3. I am going to save 10% of my monthly net income for my business/career by the end of the year) I'm really stuck at the mind + emotion-category. I listened to a lot of seminars on psychology and leo. I'm overwhelmed with information and things i'd like to learn/read/do in my self-discovery. I find it really hard to set 'mind + emotion'- goals that fit the SMART-method. Many aspects in our psychology are related to another and finding the roots of some problems is really hard. I'd like to work on my self-esteem, authentic self and stop caring what other people think on you. For example, one of my long-term 5/10 year goal is: - Finding my authentic self (5-10 year goals) - Stop caring about other peoples opinions (1 - 5 year goal) - Understanding self-esteem and fixing my self esteem (5-year goal) - Meditate every day for 30 minutes (1-year goal for installing the habit) - Journal my thoughts + emotions -Reading at least 10-self-help books before 2020 that support my other mind+emotion goals. Now most of these are goals i'd like to make SMART. But when i try i'm constantly adding some sub-category. For example: Finding my authentic self contains: Finding my weaknesses Finding my strenghts Finding my greatest fears Finding my bad habits/addictions Finding my life purpose I want to know and do so much things to know myself better and improve my mental state that i find it hard to start. So i have 2 questions for you. 1. Do you have a PDP, and how did you set proper (SMART) goals for your mind + emotions 2. How do you deal with this information-overload.

Hey Guys, There's something i've been struggling with since i'm on a path of self-actualisation. I hope you can help me. First i'd like to show you a short summary of my journey so far to give you some backgrounds. Then i'll get to the point. You can skip the first part if you want :)! (P.s. i'm dutch so i hope you don't mind the bad grammar/word-use) It started like 2/3 years ago. I had just graduated from University and i was working at my first ever fulltime job (Built environment) . Although my career was going well (i earned above average), i felt really depressed mainly because i was going bald and never had a girlfriend before. I was still very young and in the western culture balding at that age isn't very fun while people judge you on your physical appearence a lot. I had some deep neurotic problems. Beside the bald head one other mayor reason of my depression was the fact that i had nothing to live for. All my life i've been in school, studying for that one paper to finally get to 'work', earn my money and pay my debts and bills. My life was 'hollow' and i didn't know where to go next, my 'mind' was toxic and neurotic. Somehow your deepest valley will give you the brightest light... So....2nd half of 2017/begin 2018 i decided to improve myself. I shaved my head bald and committed myself to work on my inner psychology. I got into therapy, read some books and watched some video's on youtube. Around one year ago i discovered leo's channel which really opened my mind. I was always interested in personal development, psychology, philosophy and spirituality and his channel fitted well. More and more i'm changing my rituals and i'm asking myself questions i've never asked before. Nowadays i meditate, journal, try to find my life-purpose, set goals for my relationships, career/business, health/fitness, etc. All this progress i made the last 1,5 year is giving me so much joy and satisfaction. I eventually found a girlfriend, something where i was struggling with my whole life. I just love the progress i'm making, i love the journey and it excites me what i can achieve next. I love to see all my old paradigms shift. I love to see that everything is internal and the concept that when you change your mind everything else changes. I love the simplicity of life, and i enjoy being just by myself with no distractions. It seems like i'm slowly waking up where other people are still running nowhere. On the other hand. Sometimes i think i'm losing my mind. It makes me questioning everything, literally everything. Here are some examples: Society & Economy: This one is huge. I see so much bullshit. It's like people lack self-critisism. People are running nowhere. I feel like things are made way more difficult than they are supposed to be. I love the simplicity of life but society doesn't. People are hunting external pleasure, low-conscious and short-term solutions. A lot of people are depressed, have a burn-out ,do work they don't like, blame others. People are thinking way to rational. Everything is based on material growth and personal success (very individual). Money rules. It's like Society, the Economy are on a self-destructive path. What can i believe is true nowadays? How do i fit in with this (western)-society where my pace and thoughts are radical different from the country i live in? Is it my ego that is making this distinction? Am i to negative about society? Am i focussing too much on the negative aspects of society? Work/Career/School: I'm questioning my current job a lot. I don't like it. There is so much bureaucracy and inefficiency. I'm way more practical and irrational. The school system is way too conservative. I'm questioning my own study. The contrast between work and school is too big. Reality and Actualized.org: Almost all things Leo talks about nowadays. I must admit that i'm not as far as he is and there for i'm questioning his latest conclusions. For example: he said that nothing is 'good' nor 'bad' but somehow he tells us that working on 'enlightenment' and 'self-actualization' is somehow better than just being lazy. I can make an endless list of those note's/questions. A lot of them are contradictory and are making me paranoia. It's like i'm too open-minded to every possibility. "The opposite of 'dogma''. It's like an information-overload. I am aware that this 'overthinking' might be a mechanism of the mind to avoid taking action or doing the things i should be doing. Long story short, i want to know from you: -Did/do you experience the same questioning.paranoia during your self-actualizing/personal development process? and so: - How did you deal with this?

Update: She is my girlfriend now! It's a long-distance relationship (2 hours drive) but we made the decision to try it! In real life we are on fire, but on whatsapp its sometimes silent. I want to text her but don't want to be 'needy' or telling stuff that is going nowhere. Most of the time i don't know what to say on whatsapp. I hope i can handle these silences...

I stopped fapping and suddenly i lost virginity, how the fuck :)!

Well its getting better but it's still up and down. I guess i have to be okay with it and don't mess up my own thoughts. We skyped 2 days in a row and i felt so much more comfortable. Although its still hard because sometimes we run out of things to say and i can't "touch" her. Kinda awkward but i try to embrace he silence! I'm really looking forward to our new meeting (2 weekends in a row). The only thing that helps is that we are building up some tension untill the days we see each other :)!

Hey guys, i need your advice! So i met a girl on a vacation one month ago and we fell in love. It was coming from both sides and we had a really good time. We decided to meet each other afterwards and last weekend i drove to meet her (she lives a long distance away). That two days were amazing, nothing to worry about and real love. Also glad to say that i'm finally not virgin anymore. We had sex and she said i was the only bed partner who made her orgasm. (my first time, if its honest thank you leo for your videos ;)) So i was on top, skyrocketing and my confidence was raising. We will meet again in about 2 weeks. I'm into self-development for 8 months now and i'm getting better and better at all aspects of life. We have still contact through texting but its not the same as in real life. Its all short, dull and it makes me confused on how she is feeling. I hate it and when we talk through skype its all soo much easier. In the whole proces of meeting each other in real life was not needy at all. I liked to play 'the game'. But once we start texting i don't really know what to do. I want to talk and have good conversations but its all shabby and leads to nothing. In someway it makes me feel insecure and needy what is the opposite of being attractive. So for me it's like skating on thin ice and its getting worse every day. The only thing i'm holding on to is that we both start conversations but in fact it feels like i'm the one who needs to lead. Its going up and down. (after the day we met we had long conversations and she send me an overload of messages) How can i get past this phase? And why is she acting so weird.

Help me!! I just started a Nofap journey 2 months ago. I do it because i think my subconscious mind is somehow binded to porn since i was a teenager. I've read the benefits of nofap. Somehow i think its better because one reason: I have to put in the work to get some girls in bed. So i started Nofap like 2 months ago and since then i relapse every time around the 7th day. Its way better than before where i watched it like 5 times a week. During this journey I more and more realise what i am doing to myself when i watch porn. I'm not saying that i am addicted but hey, doesn't every addict say he isn't addicted to some kind of distraction? I'm on a 10th day now and i'm really messed up. My monkey mind really wants it. I'm resisting it and try to put my time into meditation instead of watching porn. I get aroused every time i see a girl. Even older co-workers are making me crazy. I realise more and more how lazy i am because of masturbation. And more and more i came to the realisation that it's a stress reliever after work/school/busy days. The easy way is to NOT take action with girls and just release the tension during masturbation. Its one of the key reasons why i'm single my whole life and didn't do risky moves. Well... i admit... i'm addicted. But how can i move on.. I mean.. it's just the 10th day. Many people here are months further. How do i pass this stage and move on... Does it get better or worse?

Hey Guys, want to talk about something that happened to me today which freaked me out. So today i meditated, and after that i had an amazing shower where i felt my whole body. I was totally out of my head and enjoyed every minute. When i got out of the shower and toweled myself up i watched the mirror and stared at my eyes. I kept focused for like 10 minutes and after a while my face began to blur. I watched my eyes and everything around it was moving. It scared me but somehow i stayed focused. After some time i could see some glimpses of infinity. I saw eyes in my eyes in my eyes in my eyes...... (and so on).. Anxiety kept raising and at some point i pushed myself out. I didn't know what i've just had witnessed. I think it was some kind of hallucination rather than true enlightenment but after that i can relate a lot to the things that leo says in his 'what is reality?' videos. I researched the internet and it showed me that it's called the Troxler effect. I'm not religious but really believe there is something greater than this reality we are living in. I also agree with the fact that a lot of religion is pointing at the same direction (God, Infinity, True Reality etc) I'm just not sure yet what it is and i'd like to figure out. So my question is: did you ever experience this phenomenon and do you think it has to do something with spirituality/enlightenment/meditation?