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I jerk off only when my sexual pulse is so high that is distracting. Then i masturbate without using any external source like porn or images. Usually this happen in a span of a week without ejaculating. This is a good balance, also it feels like the best fap ever if you do only once in a while. I've tried once to go once 30 days without ejaculating and it's true that your drive increase a lot, but you became much more aggressive and intense. It's a good experiment but not really sustainable for a lifestyle, at least for me.

You're 100% right. Her attachment to me is unhealthy, and she has no self-respect when it comes down to me. It can be ego-pumping at first, but maybe i'm not that attracted to her because of this. I'm sure that i will never find another girl that want me like her. When i think of that it saddens me a little, and i wish i could love her back. But this is not the answer. Yeah, recently i realized that the pain of loss can be stronger than the love itself. It's was kinda scary to me at first, but i learned to not resist pain but to embrace it. I just don't want to cause pain to anyone, but sometimes is impossible.

It has happened before in the past, we are in the same friends group and is she always do the first move on me. I've already told her that i don't have feelings for her. She is like "Uh, that's okay...so at least we can have sex?", so i'm like.."I guess?". But this strategy of course doesn't work because every time she grows attached to me. I was extremely clear every time. She is extremely insistent, so every time i said "no more", in a way or another we ended up having sex. The only strategy can be blocking her on every way she can contact me, AND don't see my shared friends with her. I even tried that, but after a long period things slowly came back to the previous state. Btw I think i could kill her family and she still forgive me. Love is blind i guess.

Honestly I don't ask you personally, but thank you for letting me know that. I see, you're a man of culture as well. Anyway, there is a book or an article that explains the best paring for personalities? I'd like to read a bit of that just for curiosity.

They already "know" each other. Im not in a serious relationship with any of the two, but I want to make a decision. When the first girl came back, i stopped seeing the second one that was in a serious emotional pain, of course. I don't want to be the cause of any pain, but those fucked up feelings are out of my control. Yeah I know this pairing is not the ideal. In a way we complement each other, but i think that the differences can become exacerbated when the 'honeymoon phase' wears off. Anyway i want to dive a little deeper to see some red-flags and then make a more clear-headed decision. Thanks! Maybe you're right, i need a little bit more time to elaborate. I could also sell ticket to the match. Of course, but maybe my heart is dumb. Interesting prespective, i should investigate more on this. Thanks.

I have a problem with 2 girls. The first girl is beautiful, a tiger, and every time we do something we end up having mindblowing sex. The problem is, outside the bed we are not that compatible, i'm more an INTP when she is an extroverted commander, it can work sometimes but honestly i can't figure much a life with her. I love her personality (opposite of mine), but i'm more of an intellectual turtle and she is a race horse. We end up breaking up 2 times, because she went away for studies and work. But now she has returned and passion has exploded again, BUT, i think that deep down she not view me has a lasting boyfriend despite our amazing chemistry. Every time we break up i felt the worst pain ever, she is like cryptonite to me. The second girl is more like myself, our sex is also good and we can talk non-stop with no filters. We know each other for more than 10 years now. She is in love with me, she treat me well, give me gift etc etc. She is a good girl. The thing is, i don't feel the same crazy feeling for her, or the feelings i feel for the first girl. Logically, i should go with the second girl because is a much more stable situation for me, and i can do my thing (work, hobbies) in a much more calm state of mind. The second girl hit me like a truck every time and i'm incapable of doing nothing outside thinking her when she don't respond to my messages. This situation is driving me crazy. Why 'logically' i say to my self to stick to the second girl that loves me, but then i get myself in crazy situation with the first one that i know will not go to anywhere? Im an asshole? What would you do? What should I do? Thank you.

It's true,but also for it's addictive nature. To be fair even real sex is going to satiate you for ever, but is a more rewarding experience. I'm way more prone to find women and try to escalate to sex when I'm not watching porn or jerking off in a while, it's like my brain switch gear and became more action oriented. I use porn deliberately when I don't want to be in high energy mode, or want to limit social interaction when concentrating on something else for a longer period. But I feel like your opinion is that porn is totally harmless and it has absolutely no consequences on brain chemistry or social relationships. In that case I should disagree. But I'm not against it, like I'm not against some recreational drugs or junk food or other supernormal stimulus that man have created for himself, but I'm totally aware of the 'little' consequences that can build momentum I'm my brain and my body if there is no control.

If your objective is to find a real woman, don't use porn. If you are already satiated, why bother to go out and hunt? It's the same principle, porn is an endless source of (pixels that resemble) beautiful women, it's stimulus is so powerful that real woman will feel not worth the struggle and your subconscious will not fight to get one. If you ask me, abstinence from porn turn me in a more energetic extroverted guy, when i binge porn it gradually turn me in a sociopath. But sometimes being a sociopath is what i want, so make your choice and act accordingly.

I think that meditation by itself (without reaching full enlightenment) is a keystone habit that pickup can immensely benefit. Pick-up "techniques" are good to guide you to point A to point B, but meditation can transform your brain very deeply and be more yourself without worrying to much about the process. The fear and anxiety to approach are the biggest obstacles, and meditation can lower those sensation by a ton. Meditation > less fear > you care less about the outcome > more approach > more experience > more success > more confidence > even less fear .

I'm sure that this argument was already discussed, but i can't find it via search so... The first things i noticed during my first period of meditation is that my awkwardness around girl is gone completely, i became smooth as butter and without any effort i could close a girl. This is even before i discovered game and pickup, that came later. When i started applying "game" and more advanced strategy but i didn't meditate the success rate dropped, and I felt way less 'natural' and robotic. So i came to the conclusion that to clear your mind totally is x10 better then consciously applying tactics, that can be useful, but i think is enough to know the basic of sexual tension and leave the minutiae to the great improvisation given by a clear mind fully rooted in the present. So my questions are: You had similar experiences? To what degree can meditation actually improve seduction? You have any further explanation why this happen?

This is funny, i've searched if the podcast were present on Spotify just yesterday morning and when i found it i thought it was present for a long time and just now i realized maybe i was one of the first enjoying it. Maybe i'm developing telepathy Anyway, I think the podcast format suits the content very well, and it makes it more usable in everyday life. Thanks!

Maybe the escapism is itself the problem. Modern media rewire your brain so heavily, so real life doesn't feel so compelling. I've been on the same situation as yours some years ago, everything I was doing is smoking weed, watch movie, video-games etc. I was barely dragging myself, no much motivation to do things. After some serious dopamine detox, and working on myself mentally and physically now i have so much drive towards life, and i'm building a business. You can try. Remove gradually every super-stimulus (Porn, Social media, Internet binging, Netflix, and clean you diet too) and add something similar but beneficial, like reading, working out. For me it worked wonders, and life became so much interesting.

I noticed that nootropics change a bit the way you perceive the world and yourself. For example, Modafinil catapult myself entirely in the stage orange, i became more aggressive, achiever, and want to pursue fame and success. And I firmly believe that i can achieve all that. Ego-mind at peak. But very good for productivity in general, i became a machine. L-Theanine is more stage Green/Turquoise (at high doses) , i connect very well with people, i became very calm and comfortable in my own skin and surroundings, and i don't think there is very much to pursue, total relaxation of body and mind, ego at minimum. Good for creativity, in weekend is the best for me. So there is this "super-achiever" me and" everything is already perfect" me that coexist and i can trigger with those two substance alone. Weird.

Every time i've been on a no-fap streak i've experienced more energy and motivation. It's not easy, sometimes you have the urges and sometimes you're more aggressive, but with time it will stabilize. Simply, your brain is not supposed to work properly with porn-binging every day. I think it's more correlated to your brain neurochemical than the sperm count in you balls by the way. I think also that is more realistic to reduce it drastically that swear to yourself that you don't do it again ever, now im doing it 1/2 times a month. But i still feel super great compared to before, and it helps with the blue balls that can be distracting at times. Sex drive is natural, but porn hack it in a bad way, not to mention normal sex feels 10 times better without it.

Hi guys, I've been wondering the whats the fundamental differences in these 3 practice. So here some question for the "advanced" people that have experience with 2 or 3 of them. There are "strong" and "weak" point in each of these practice? Are these practice interchangeable? It's better to mix those practice, or specialize in one and go in depth for maximum benefit? What's your favorite, and why? I know there are a great variety of meditation, and it would be impossible to make a complete list, for convenience you can talk about the modality you have adopted for each "macro category", or the one you use most of the time and your experience. I've been practicing only with meditation and breathwork, but i'd like to hear your opinion first to see if there is a common ground in confronting those experience. Cheers.