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I agree. thank you Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words. I love the simplicity. It resonates. thank you. Thank you

@F A B Agreed. I realized this after I freaked out about it and panicked, because I could sense her sincerity and truthfulness when she told me nothing happened. Its like that tone of voice someone uses when they have seen a ghost or paranormal thing, and are trying to explain to people who aren't believing them. Almost a sense of frustration in their voice, because of the disbelief.

@Origins A lot to unpack, but I got it. I get what you're talking about. I've also had an insight similar to this (although less nuanced) where I realized that the idea of a "relationship" and all of the boundaries that a relationship entails is completely fabricated by the mind. There is no relationship in reality. There are no boundaries to a relationship in reality. Its just an agreed upon mental construct.

@Roy Thank you so much! So true. I've realized this a few times and it feels so empowering and freeing when I do. Then I forget haha. Thank you

@Shin @aurum Holy shit. The worst part about being deceived is that you never see it coming. You have no control over whether someone deceives you or not. No matter how I feel about it, my girlfriend, and everyone else in my life for that matter, are their own person. They are the masters of their lives. I can help if needed, or offer insight. But when it comes to who they choose to be, what friends and people they choose to have in their lives, what they do, and the decisions they make - is ultimately UP TO THEM. I have no control. I can try to control. But that control is the very lack of love. Love is respecting and knowing the Truth of Reality. That in this moment, they are their own person - fully responsible for everything they decide to do. Now this can be scary, but it actually takes the pressure off - because all I have to do is take care of myself - how I act and how I show up. If they were to do something, that I didn’t like, or that I didn’t approve of, or that hurt me, it would be totally and fully their choice. I have no control. I can’t control my girlfriend into not hurting me, or not cheating on me, or not doing this or that. Surrendering to this reality - and there I find power. Because the one who knows he cannot control others, can never be controlled by others. I feel free.

Damn. I don't know. Can you lend me a helpful insight? Is it not being aligned with Truth, and thats my deepest desire is to know what's True?

@aurum I think its the fear of being deceived. Of being lied to. I would rather her come out and say, I want him and not you. That I could live with. But the notion of being deceived kills me inside. Of being lied to.

@aurum The worst part would be... hmm... let me think for a sec. I feel like the worst part would be the fact that someone I loved would lie to me and go behind my back, all while they said not to worry about it.

@aurum Shadow of not being enough? Shadow of not being chosen?

@dafels Thank you for your input.

@Globalcollective Thank you. I love simple advice. I do trust her. When I know I trust her, all my worries fall away. I know the type of person she is. Thinking about that makes me feel so much better.

@meow_meow thank you for your insight @Seraphim thank you!

@tsuki Exactly what happened to me. Fell down a alpha / beta attraction rabbit hole, fell off track with my LP, and filtered EVERYTHING, and I mean literally fucking EVERYTHING through the lens of "was that alpha or not" And if it wasn't, shaming myself and feeling down because I didn't live up to the standard I set for myself. Fuck that. So much better to just be yourself - because ironically - the true you will display the most "masculinity" or "alphaness" (whatever those two words mean to you)

Thank you, I will. @Origins thank you so much. That answer really really helped me. I'm going to look into that book as well. What do you mean "not worrying enough about your own position in the relationship"? Do you mean I'm just way too focused on her, and none of my energy is going towards myself, what I want, what I need, and loving myself? Is that what you mean? Thank you.

Thank you for your reply Thank you. I feel like the simpler I make it the better I feel in my mind. Thank you. spot on. I am always overthinking the relationship in a negative way. Your reply is filled with a lot of truth and I appreciate that. I'm going to take your advice and visualize positively my relationship. I'm sure that will help me. Thank you.

@Space Thank you. That really helped a lot, sure enough, shortly after righting this I had an insane boost of inspiration and motivation to keep on, must've just been a threshold guardian in my mind

Hey everyone, I was watching @Leo Gura video about how life unfolds in chapters and phases. What was amazing to hear and probably the most relieving thing to hear was that the limbo phase is real, it’s okay, and it’s normal. I’m an extremely ambitious person and waking up with almost no motivation and no purpose and sense of direction has been really hard to handle. My question regards what I should do about being in the limbo phase, Because I have just started a clothing brand around 6 months ago, which was the outcome of my last limbo phase. I have put thousands of dollars and tons of work into The brand and it is just getting to the point to where it may or may not be successful (showing promise but not “successful” yet), but my motivation and passion for it has absolutely evaporated. In the video he says in the limbo stage you develop a new vision, so my question for you guys is if it is possible to have started something during the last chapter and it continue through into the next like a business and just ride out the low motivation until I feel more motivated to do something with the clothing brand, or is it something that even though I put thousands of dollars and hours into it, it’s just not what my next chapter holds? What do you think? Edit for context: maybe it’s because I’ve had this vision before, 4 years ago, and tried starting a clothing brand - so the vision wasn’t really “new”? Maybe it wasn’t a strong enough vision? Or maybe I’m overthinking and my passion for this will come back after I decompress? thanks!

@Serotoninluv thank you for sharing this.

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@habibi87 Interesting points. I'm curious to see how daily life is when this is all over. I think a shift will/has definitely happened though.

@Serotoninluv Thats a very insightful way to put it. Vertigo is nuts

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@Serotoninluv That sounds right. Thanks for your comments

Last night I went to a social party with some friends, I don’t usually go to parties but this was an exception. fast forward to everyone in the same room, music going, and everyone doing their thing It really started to hit me that I was creating the energy of the party. I just noticed that when I would get really excited or happy that most in the room would reflect it and vice versa when I would get a little anxious or nervous most the room would reflect it. It almost gave me the scary feeling of like I’m literally God and I can manipulate this environment even though that’s not what I was trying to do it felt that way and it felt like a huge responsibility sort of speak. Has anyone else had any situations like this? Say a social event or other get together where you feel like you are unintentionally in control of manipulating the vibe and energy of the room even though no one told you it was up to you to do so? Like it all hinges on you? this seems to happen to most social events I go to. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m introverted and I don’t go out a lot and I’m just new so there’s sort of a focus on me, or if this is just some form of ego driven self obsession. But I really am curious and feel like there is something here as far as frequency and people matching energy and social dynamics. any thoughts?